Modernizer:


Yeah

See u can go ahead o let it no be that we put sand in her garri, besides you both need to discuss it

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

Is like you want a royal rumble ring as a home!
She vex break TV, You go show she no get craze reach break your car windscreen!
"I am Sorry!" ...This 3 words have save more marriage than any court can break, but if none of you will say it first... You don't have a marriage yet.

Ayotemide:
In this day and age, that is your only reason for being married?

real justifiable family pressure.

SenecaTheYonger:


It depends. If you look physically threatening and act like a dominant male, her temper will only be for the children. But if reverse is the case, she could boss the hell outta your life.

You could try living with her for a few months and also test her temperament.

.....ok. thanks

Still not the reason to commit to someone forever. Does [b]Forever[/b]not scare you that you chose pressure to be the reason you will go on with it?

Modernizer:


real justifiable family pressure.

Ayotemide:
Still not the reason to commit to someone forever. Does [b]Forever[/b]not scare you that you chose pressure to be the reason you will go on with it?

True talk sha. But with parental death in the picture and need for family preservation at issue, I lack the counter arguments to my people

AutoChick4U:
See u can go ahead o let it no be that we put sand in her garri, besides you both need to discuss it

Not so nah...I'm here because I genuinely need to make a good decision. If it turns out that it's unwise, I have to forget it

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

keep going on till that black female baboon of yours pour hot water on you or cut your pennnis during sleep

It depends. If you look physically threatening and act like a dominant male, her temper will only be for the children. But if reverse is the case, she could boss the hell outta your life.

You could try living with her for a few months and also test her temperament. [/quote]

So ask yourself this question are 2 dominant people compatible in a long term relationship?Even Samson in the Bible was physically the strongest man and he was still conquered by a woman. You don’t want a hot tempered woman to raise your kids. When you start being real with yourself you won’t feel the need to be having this conversation cuz you know what works for you.

Bro. This is simple . it will be a disaster if you attempt it.

Abort mission now!

You suppose ask us how to get married to your fears nah. If God wan add to your fears, make she be Saphiere or Kobojunkie. Na then you go understand what is meant by 'Daylight witchcraft'.

Anyways, from your post, you sef seem to be a 'daylight wizard',,, forget the choleric/cholera tag.

Oops! I think I just learnt a new word today.

Choleric


Thank you OP.


PS: When it comes to marriage you can never play smart/wise. You can only be lucky or Unlucky.

The most compatible might turn out to be the most toxic.

Op is about to marry someone exactly like him and it scares him.

Rotfl.

Is it possible to pair fire with fire and not have destruction? The answer is no. Mr oga what you need to do is pair fire with water. The two will balance each other

You two should discuss how you will resolve issues.



In Nigerian's dictionary, hot temperedness = abusive.

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Modernizer:



well, i really need to settle down, and im really not the type that eadily gets into relationships. so im wondering how long it would take me to reach this extent again with a new person

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

Bros, RUN
Do not bother discussing anything, bro, just RUN.
As Kobicove said above "abort mission, NOW!"

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

No matter what be a man
The challenge is sweet
Just remember that what ever decision you taking you have to be a man

How about we can make a balance

AlmonDeLemon:
Imagine a fight between Chelsea and ManCity... The outcome is not predictable. How about ManCity and Norwich? U know we'll all go for a City win. 2 Captains can't stare a ship. Unless she'll so love u to swallow her ego or you'll so love her to be the errand man.

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

Please take this advise, don't marry on assumption that things will change. The fact that you know about temperaments gives me the feelings that you likely know about zodiac signs and what it means to marry someone who's temperament/sign doesn't complement yours or who is the same as you. DON'T ignore your feelings. In fact you are far ahead of many people from whom you are asking for solution/suggestions. You already know what to do, so be practical, leave sentiment aside.
You may be wondering why I am this straight to the point, that is because I saw the signs, I knew what they means, in fact, I advise people just like I am advise you now but I ignored my own instinct when I shouldn't. I hope you get me?
Success

Confrontation is good and can be done in a healthy way. It's does have to do with redefining priorities via getting a better understanding of two parties involved in a relationship.

When you study the act of stepping down your ego for the sake of redefining the relationship in an event of confrontation, you end up appreciating the human psychology.

Human relationship is all about psychology and it's evolution along with environmental factors that induces it.

Modernizer:
well, i really need to settle down, and im really not the type that eadily gets into relationships. so im wondering how long it would take me to reach this extent again with a new person

So how have you been doing “oil change” since

Bleep her first with condom...
Then Bleep her next without condom...
Ask her which one sweet her pass...
If she say without condom....
Don't marry her...
E get why.

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

All of una wey dey advise make him no marry the girl are evil o, so you want make him go marry a gentle and cool headed lady and begin to dey give problem abi... Bros abeg go ahead and marry her please, both of una go survive. No joke, I used to have a couple like that from my previous workplace and they are still together till now. In the end, one of them go still calm down when e realise say the other one na inborn dangbana choko.

AlmonDeLemon:
Imagine a fight between Chelsea and ManCity... The outcome is not predictable. How about ManCity and Norwich? U know we'll all go for a City win. 2 Captains can't stare a ship. Unless she'll so love u to swallow her ego or you'll so love her to be the errand man.

In marriage, love fades away. A lot more has to be in place to sustain the marriage. If she subdues her ego because of love, what happens when the love is not there anymore?

Modernizer:


Wahala. Everyone seems to be saying the same thing...is it that big a deal?

Quit that relationship already bro..

It might look all rosy and lovely initially, but as time goes by, you two might not be able to tolerate each other anymore....and you know the rest of the story

Mind you, this marriage thing doesn’t benefit we men except for the purpose of having a child.
Women are the ones who benefits more... It’s even a bragging thing for them.

They can do anything for you to marry them... And then when the whole marriage process is sealed... Na their you go come know their true color..

Don’t say you was not warned!!!!!

Who no get girl friend get rest of mind.

If you go ahead, your home is going to be hot and may be toxic for your future children.

Choleric abi Cholera, go to pharmacy let them give u the medication for ur illness

You may marry but only the best man will win. There can't be two captains in a ship!

Run for your life broo broo