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NPTJ:
Yes I'm hopeful and looking forward to get something doing inorder to contribute and get her a phone

But sincerely, the man is responsible for all these

He's using a smart phone and his wife is using nothing. Not even a touch light phone

NPTJ:
Yes I'm hopeful and looking forward to get something doing inorder to contribute and get her a phone

But sincerely, the man is responsible for all these

He's using a smart phone and his wife is using nothing. Not even a touch light phone

medriano:
That man is an idiot. You guys seem cool in your family. This man deserves to be dealt with seriously.

joinnow:
your 50k brother can root out 10k from his Oct salary and your brother that is older than your sister should pay her visit and also get her a small phone.
Trip cost from imo to pH 5k to and fro
Then small 4k phone and 1k things for her children.

NPTJ:
We are not cool bro. My dad isn't a cool man. You know the worth of a man is known by his pocket. He needs money to move with any other people he's inviting

The man is a bad man that i know

NPTJ:
My elder brother is the third born sir. We live in Lagos not imo state. Imo was the man state of origin

My brother was the one financing the house for now which makes it somewhat difficult raising funds

bigtt76:
You need reset your sister head small ooo

medriano:
I get you. Like I said, God will intervene soon. I’m sis by the way�

Iyaebe:
That man is diabolical, he has hypnotized your sister to make up for his wasted years.Look for Christ embassy church around you for true deliverance for your sister.shalom

TheGoodJoe:
Your sister is a grown-up woman. Let her live her life the way she wants. Move on.

Iyaebe:
That man is diabolical, he has hypnotized your sister to make up for his wasted years.Look for Christ embassy church around you for true deliverance for your sister.shalom

Magnoliaa:
Wow. Emotional and psychological abuse comes to mind.

joinnow:
Do you have her address
Some Nairalander who lives in pH can delegate to visit her and may possibly get her small phone you never can tell

NPTJ:
Good morning house

The only sister i and my other siblings had met a Man around 2008. He's from Imo state, a deportee from Germany who was in his late 40s when they met. My sister was just out of high school then and struggling to secure admission into any of the tertiary institutions. Luckily, she got admission to study law at Unilag after her second attempt. Sadly, there was no money to process the admission, she lost it. She was the first and only daughter of our parents. My parents were incapacitated financially to support her dream

My father never wanted her to work then, for guys not to take advantage of her or something. Having lost the admission, she insisted to work inorder to raise money for her studies. My dad got no option than to obliged

She met this man barely a year she started working. She was in her early 20s and full of dreams. Lest I forget, she was staying with our grand mother due to distance. This man got my sister pregnant and we got to hear about it. My dad got the man arrested and beat the hell out of my sister. He wept bitterly claiming this isn't the life he envisioned for his only daughter

He beseeched her and talk sense into her but she insisted, claiming she loved the man. This man was deported after spending almost half of his productive years outside the shores of Nigeria. He came back home with nothing and the next thing he could do was to got my sister pregnant claiming he loves her beyond words

My sister moved in with him and they started living together. We lost our grand parents (paternal and maternal) Yet, this man and my sister never stepped their foot in our house to commesorate. I lost my eldest brother, same thing happened. They never showed up. I was the 4th child of five children. Though, only four left now. She hardly call our parents nor we her siblings. To cap it all, my sister had stopped using phone ever since she moved to pourtharcourt with this man

This same man always attend his family function and very much into his family but isolated my sister away from her family. My sister never called throughout my days in the university just to know how I'm fairing, despite knowing our family condition. A very close friend of mine noticed this while in school and i did explained everything to him. He felt so bittered. He asserted the man might be diabolic, he's from the same town with the man in imo state

My parents are in their early/late 60s respectively and aging gradually. They couldn't felt the presence of their only daughter. Interestingly, family members got suspicious and they kept asking after her but my parents are bent on covering up, claiming she's fine. Yet, they goes to their closets to cry bitterly for the life of their daughter. I asked my dad why covering up, he claimed to have known his family pretty well, that they would do nothing

I'm just a young graduate, still job haunting. While my elder brother is gainfully employed with 50k as his monthly take home. He's being supportive with day to day running of the house and that of our last born studies. A friend suggested myself and elder brother with any of our uncle should go and treat the man's fvckup for eloping with someone's daughter without paying her bride price nor any other marital rite. I told him that isn't feasible for now due to our poor finances.

Nonetheless, we can't continue folding our hands and watch this man get away with this. She is the only daughter of our parents. Her presence is highly needed in their life, especially my mother

Please what can we do to make things work for my family back? I can't imagine having a sister who's more like a living dead

Any help, input or suggestions from anyone!

Drella:
Don't worry.
A man too will elope with your daughter without marrying her and make her to do wifely roles for him.And you will never set your eyes again nor will you hear from her till thy kingdom come.

Acidosis:
She moved in with the love of her life because your dad handled the issue carelessly.

You can't order the maltreatment of your sister's 40 year old man and expect her to respect or remember y'all. Remember that your sister now has children. She's a grown woman now and a mother with family responsibilities.

You guys have to locate that family and make amends. Your parents must have done terrible things to that man beyond what you mentioned here.

TheGoodJoe:
Your sister is a grown-up woman. Let her live her life the way she wants. Move on.

Drella:
In love and in sincerity, your signature makes no sense.

Spherical77:
Are you normal at all. With what Op put up there this was the rubbish you got to say. No let me swear for you o

SonofGod231:
Same thing I've been asking yet op won't open up totally.
This whole scenario sounds like my neighbors in ph.Last I heard,he smashed her android phone because I doesn't want her browsing and chatting online. He personally took her to a phone shop to pick any phone that doesn't browse, unfortunately for her the small Nokia phone she picked has GPRS and does mini Facebook only for the man to discover one day that the phone can Facebook.Na that day he almost burnt the woman and the children alive.
We for area don know say the man na certified mad man so anytime him start to display him madness with the woman we go just dial him papa and mama number.na only dem dey fit cum calm the man down.
I dey always pity the poor woman .
This one was also deported from Germany but has a nice house though.

TheGoodJoe:

Why do you people derive joy in cursing? No man can curse. Get over the childish act.

This girl is not a teenager. I believe in her twenties. She has decided to settle down with the man. Probably in love with him. Maybe no finances.

It is just that they don't have funds for the marriage but the lady has made her choice.

Unless they want the lady to come back to the house with the baby and leave the father of the baby. I don't think this is the case.

I won't bring myself to your level of exchanging curses but in this case, she has chosen to settle down with him.

The only solution is to reunite the family, accept the man. It is difficult for a lady in that condition to leave with the baby and look for a man to marry her.

So think if it is worth cursing people.

Acidosis:
Before you visit mountain of fire, please tell go and beat your sister's 40 year old boyfriend / husband.

chatinent:
Ok.

Allow experience teach her about life. She will understand that the first mistake was having premarital sex, then moving in with the man.

Focus on your life bro. Make your parents happy.

TheGoodJoe:
Your sister is a grown-up woman. Let her live her life the way she wants. Move on.

Drella:
What I typed is exactly what is happening to OP's father right now.Since you see nothing wrong in it,then it shouldn't be a curse to you.


No responsible father can leave his daughter daughter just like that.The man made her family not able to contact her.Which family will accept that?
They don't know the girl's condition whether dead or alive.
Only the bolded is valid.The rest don't hold water.

NPTJ:
Good morning house

The only sister i and my other siblings had met a Man around 2008. He's from Imo state, a deportee from Germany who was in his late 40s when they met. My sister was just out of high school then and struggling to secure admission into any of the tertiary institutions. Luckily, she got admission to study law at Unilag after her second attempt. Sadly, there was no money to process the admission, she lost it. She was the first and only daughter of our parents. My parents were incapacitated financially to support her dream

My father never wanted her to work then, for guys not to take advantage of her or something. Having lost the admission, she insisted to work inorder to raise money for her studies. My dad got no option than to obliged

She met this man barely a year she started working. She was in her early 20s and full of dreams. Lest I forget, she was staying with our grand mother due to distance. This man got my sister pregnant and we got to hear about it. My dad got the man arrested and beat the hell out of my sister. He wept bitterly claiming this isn't the life he envisioned for his only daughter

He beseeched her and talk sense into her but she insisted, claiming she loved the man. This man was deported after spending almost half of his productive years outside the shores of Nigeria. He came back home with nothing and the next thing he could do was to got my sister pregnant claiming he loves her beyond words

My sister moved in with him and they started living together. We lost our grand parents (paternal and maternal) Yet, this man and my sister never stepped their foot in our house to commesorate. I lost my eldest brother, same thing happened. They never showed up. I was the 4th child of five children. Though, only four left now. She hardly call our parents nor we her siblings. To cap it all, my sister had stopped using phone ever since she moved to pourtharcourt with this man

This same man always attend his family function and very much into his family but isolated my sister away from her family. My sister never called throughout my days in the university just to know how I'm fairing, despite knowing our family condition. A very close friend of mine noticed this while in school and i did explained everything to him. He felt so bittered. He asserted the man might be diabolic, he's from the same town with the man in imo state

My parents are in their early/late 60s respectively and aging gradually. They couldn't felt the presence of their only daughter. Interestingly, family members got suspicious and they kept asking after her but my parents are bent on covering up, claiming she's fine. Yet, they goes to their closets to cry bitterly for the life of their daughter. I asked my dad why covering up, he claimed to have known his family pretty well, that they would do nothing

I'm just a young graduate, still job haunting. While my elder brother is gainfully employed with 50k as his monthly take home. He's being supportive with day to day running of the house and that of our last born studies. A friend suggested myself and elder brother with any of our uncle should go and treat the man's fvckup for eloping with someone's daughter without paying her bride price nor any other marital rite. I told him that isn't feasible for now due to our poor finances.

Nonetheless, we can't continue folding our hands and watch this man get away with this. She is the only daughter of our parents. Her presence is highly needed in their life, especially my mother

Please what can we do to make things work for my family back? I can't imagine having a sister who's more like a living dead

Any help, input or suggestions from anyone!

Ever8090:
you guys can talk rubbish especially when you are not the one that is affected..did you even read the post or you were rushing to showcaseyourmumuism?

NPTJ:
He doesn't have parents. His parents are late