Obviously, you did not train him to obey you. No respect or hobour for the 2 parents. You need to take it more serious before she start sleeping with your husband too.

wisemum:
I am bringing this topic here to see if I can get any good advise from youths of the same generation.

My son returned from schooling abroad two years ago and after completing his NYSC, has been trying to get a job. None has been forthcoming but he tries to keep occupied, trying his hands on different projects. He still lives at home but says that once he is financially stable, he will get his own apartment and move out.

He is generally a calm, law abiding , likeable gentleman until when he recently started bringing home this girl who dresses like a prostitute and who I discovered stays overnight in his room with him. His dad and I have fought him over this subject to no avail. I confronted the girl to tell her I do not feel comfortable with her sleeping overnight in my house especially since I do not know her family and will be held responsible if anything happens to her. She apologized to me and promised not to come to sleep over again. However, I noticed that after that, he started sneaking her in at late hours of the night when he thinks we have gone to bed, sometimes when it is past midnight. He hasn't introduced the girl to us as anything to him even though I have asked him several times what his intentions with this girl is but he will just say she is a friend that makes him happy- that's all.

He told his uncle that he likes the girl. I don't even know what else to do. I have tried talking to him, reasoning with him, but it all falls on his deaf ears. I do not like this girl at all. She comes across to me as a street girl- even though she is generally polite when she meets me at home anytime she comes during the day. I investigated and found out her work place is not far from our house. What I do not like about her is that she dresses, exposing delicate parts of her body and is a chain smoker.

Furthermore, to me, a girl who sleeps out in a mans' parent house, continually disregarding how his parents feel about it, cannot be good news. Once, I caught her almost naked in the night walking along the corridor leading to my sons room. She ran inside his room when she saw me. I was so embarrassed and wondered what if my husband had been the one who ran into her? What kind of thing is this? Only her pant on, breasts bare. It was the following day I traced her to her work place and gently but sharply and firmly told her I do not permit her to sleep over in my house again. His dad also spoke with him. I also spoke to him. Everything has been to no avail.

He still sneaks her in. Or did she jazz him?, Please advise me. Thanks.

Emmy3:
All I can see is a very good working-class girl in love with a jobless guy.
*Despite your son; not working, she choosed to stay with him.
*Risking the evil of late hours to come be with your son shows loyalty to your son.
*Being available all night tells she's not hoeing or maybe hoeing responsibly.
*She can choose to tear apart your family if she gives your son the condition of never visiting anymore until he move away from the family house. This will make your son to do ANYTHING (good/bad) so as to raise money and get his own apartment.
*If you keep on chasing this girl; and someway, somehow, your son end up marrying her; you'll then be the wicked witch mother-in-law her pastor will be preaching about.
As a mother; be wise.
Show him how, nor make your son commit sucide because of your selfish desires.
More so, allowing the girl free entry into your house give you the opportunity to know her more and teach her to be a better wife to your son.
#myOpinion

You watch too many Nigerian movies

All these indulging parents....

larryking540:

my guy don't talk like that ,if calamity befall this young man ,am sure u will still be the one saying he was not rasied properly

My gee, u know say konji na bastard.

wisemum:
I am bringing this topic here to see if I can get any good advise from youths of the same generation.

My son returned from schooling abroad two years ago and after completing his NYSC, has been trying to get a job. None has been forthcoming but he tries to keep occupied, trying his hands on different projects. He still lives at home but says that once he is financially stable, he will get his own apartment and move out.

He is generally a calm, law abiding , likeable gentleman until when he recently started bringing home this girl who dresses like a prostitute and who I discovered stays overnight in his room with him. His dad and I have fought him over this subject to no avail. I confronted the girl to tell her I do not feel comfortable with her sleeping overnight in my house especially since I do not know her family and will be held responsible if anything happens to her. She apologized to me and promised not to come to sleep over again. However, I noticed that after that, he started sneaking her in at late hours of the night when he thinks we have gone to bed, sometimes when it is past midnight. He hasn't introduced the girl to us as anything to him even though I have asked him several times what his intentions with this girl is but he will just say she is a friend that makes him happy- that's all.

He told his uncle that he likes the girl. I don't even know what else to do. I have tried talking to him, reasoning with him, but it all falls on his deaf ears. I do not like this girl at all. She comes across to me as a street girl- even though she is generally polite when she meets me at home anytime she comes during the day. I investigated and found out her work place is not far from our house. What I do not like about her is that she dresses, exposing delicate parts of her body and is a chain smoker.

Furthermore, to me, a girl who sleeps out in a mans' parent house, continually disregarding how his parents feel about it, cannot be good news. Once, I caught her almost naked in the night walking along the corridor leading to my sons room. She ran inside his room when she saw me. I was so embarrassed and wondered what if my husband had been the one who ran into her? What kind of thing is this? Only her pant on, breasts bare. It was the following day I traced her to her work place and gently but sharply and firmly told her I do not permit her to sleep over in my house again. His dad also spoke with him. I also spoke to him. Everything has been to no avail.

He still sneaks her in. Or did she jazz him?, Please advise me. Thanks.

How do people train their children sef?

You cant try this with my parents, them no born you well, the girl visiting is an issue talk more of staying till 6pm?
Sleeping over can NEVER work, when you have not officially introduced her as your soon to be wife, even at that i doubt they will permit.

Solution: Make an entry, invite the police when next she comes, the rest will be history.

quote author=Bewiseedet post=106630824]Mind your business. Your son is matured enough to chose who to love. Isn't it better you try to know the lady better than just portray her as a prostitute?[/quote]


Do you lack comprehension or something ?

You mean all the detail she explained there happening in HER HOUSE doesn't make sense to you ?

Bewiseedet:
Mind your business. Your son is matured enough to chose who to love. Isn't it better you try to know the lady better than just portray her as a prostitute?

Then he should move the hell out of his Mama's house.

I can't understand how people want to enjoy life without the accompanying responsibilities that go with it.

Bewiseedet:
Mind your business. Your son is matured enough to chose who to love. Isn't it better you try to know the lady better than just portray her as a prostitute?

You will grown someday, and understand her plight.
Omo ale

grandstar:


True words. You're right

But again, what if he starts meeting the girl outside? That's why a lot of the time, a hard stance backfires. It just drives it underground.
That's where the real horror tends to be.

It's best you talk sense into the boy by use of questions and the parents own experiences when they were young. He'd tealise they too were young like him

from the description wisemum gave,it's obvious the boy is only familiar with UK system and doesn't understand that UK methodologies and lifestyle cannot work in Nigeria.if she's made to sign an undertaking that she will never go to wisemums house again, that includes signing an undertaking not to be with ANY OF HER FAMILY MEMBERS or she will be arrested.na she go dey run away or avoid the boy.

There are sometimes you need to be soft and sweet as a non and there are some other times you need to hard and make draconian moves otherwise everything go fall back on your head and you will be made to look like a bad/careless mother who cannot put her son in his place and manage him

While at it the woman should help him in searching for a job far away in another state where it will be difficult for the girl to reach.the boy needs a reality check and needs to get busy

wisemum:
I am bringing this topic here to see if I can get any good advise from youths of the same generation.

My son returned from schooling abroad two years ago and after completing his NYSC, has been trying to get a job. None has been forthcoming but he tries to keep occupied, trying his hands on different projects. He still lives at home but says that once he is financially stable, he will get his own apartment and move out.

He is generally a calm, law abiding , likeable gentleman until when he recently started bringing home this girl who dresses like a prostitute and who I discovered stays overnight in his room with him. His dad and I have fought him over this subject to no avail. I confronted the girl to tell her I do not feel comfortable with her sleeping overnight in my house especially since I do not know her family and will be held responsible if anything happens to her. She apologized to me and promised not to come to sleep over again. However, I noticed that after that, he started sneaking her in at late hours of the night when he thinks we have gone to bed, sometimes when it is past midnight. He hasn't introduced the girl to us as anything to him even though I have asked him several times what his intentions with this girl is but he will just say she is a friend that makes him happy- that's all.

He told his uncle that he likes the girl. I don't even know what else to do. I have tried talking to him, reasoning with him, but it all falls on his deaf ears. I do not like this girl at all. She comes across to me as a street girl- even though she is generally polite when she meets me at home anytime she comes during the day. I investigated and found out her work place is not far from our house. What I do not like about her is that she dresses, exposing delicate parts of her body and is a chain smoker.

Furthermore, to me, a girl who sleeps out in a mans' parent house, continually disregarding how his parents feel about it, cannot be good news. Once, I caught her almost naked in the night walking along the corridor leading to my sons room. She ran inside his room when she saw me. I was so embarrassed and wondered what if my husband had been the one who ran into her? What kind of thing is this? Only her pant on, breasts bare. It was the following day I traced her to her work place and gently but sharply and firmly told her I do not permit her to sleep over in my house again. His dad also spoke with him. I also spoke to him. Everything has been to no avail.

He still sneaks her in. Or did she jazz him?, Please advise me. Thanks.

Sorry to say this, but you have failed as parents.

Unruly7:
How you portray the girl evil without saying anything bad about your son lol

If the girl is a chain smoker it means your son is a chronic smoker

If the girl is a prostitute it means your son is one

If the girl is not responsible for sleeping in a man house, your son is irresponsible for sneaking in a girl in his father's house VERY DISRESPECTFUL

Atleast the girl is working your son isn't working

The problem here is your son maybe you help him get a job and his own apartment

Since he has decided to be useless let him continue



Before you quote me remember The girl won't come to the house if the boy didn't invite her

Wisemum kindly ignore this naive comment

bukatyne:


The son and the girl are the same.

What son has the guts to bring his girlfriend home daily?

What girl has the guts to keep sleeping in the guy's house after the mom has sternly warned her not to?

It is well.

I believe over pampering played a crucial part in this mess.

The OP is still not seeing that her son is a major problem in this fiasco.

I agree with you.na all this flogging my child is domestic violence.you will traumatize him.now the boy don grow up,he no come get sense.its a 2 way thing,it's either she gets the girl to sign an undertaking at the police station that she will never come to her house or see any member of her family or wash her hands of his matter and tell him anything that happens to you,deal with it yourself, don't call me or involve me.

Because at the end of the day her decision will determine whether she will have a peaceful life as an elderly woman or she will become police station customer because of her son

Rent a self contain for him and pay for a year. Tell him that when the rent expires, he will be the one to pay. Your son should be in his mid or late twenties.

I have done that for my younger brother before and today, he is married with thesame lady and got a job. Doing well now

wisemum:
I am bringing this topic here to see if I can get any good advise from youths of the same generation.

My son returned from schooling abroad two years ago and after completing his NYSC, has been trying to get a job. None has been forthcoming but he tries to keep occupied, trying his hands on different projects. He still lives at home but says that once he is financially stable, he will get his own apartment and move out.

He is generally a calm, law abiding , likeable gentleman until when he recently started bringing home this girl who dresses like a prostitute and who I discovered stays overnight in his room with him. His dad and I have fought him over this subject to no avail. I confronted the girl to tell her I do not feel comfortable with her sleeping overnight in my house especially since I do not know her family and will be held responsible if anything happens to her. She apologized to me and promised not to come to sleep over again. However, I noticed that after that, he started sneaking her in at late hours of the night when he thinks we have gone to bed, sometimes when it is past midnight. He hasn't introduced the girl to us as anything to him even though I have asked him several times what his intentions with this girl is but he will just say she is a friend that makes him happy- that's all.

He told his uncle that he likes the girl. I don't even know what else to do. I have tried talking to him, reasoning with him, but it all falls on his deaf ears. I do not like this girl at all. She comes across to me as a street girl- even though she is generally polite when she meets me at home anytime she comes during the day. I investigated and found out her work place is not far from our house. What I do not like about her is that she dresses, exposing delicate parts of her body and is a chain smoker.

Furthermore, to me, a girl who sleeps out in a mans' parent house, continually disregarding how his parents feel about it, cannot be good news. Once, I caught her almost naked in the night walking along the corridor leading to my sons room. She ran inside his room when she saw me. I was so embarrassed and wondered what if my husband had been the one who ran into her? What kind of thing is this? Only her pant on, breasts bare. It was the following day I traced her to her work place and gently but sharply and firmly told her I do not permit her to sleep over in my house again. His dad also spoke with him. I also spoke to him. Everything has been to no avail.

He still sneaks her in. Or did she jazz him?, Please advise me. Thanks.

Take the matter to God.
This is addiction and it comes with a spirit. You need to be in prayer.
Mere talking to your son and his lover wouldn't change anything.
You son have been entangled, you need to break the chain as quickly as possible if not disaster await.
If you are not spiritual minded person. See a man of God that will aid u in prayer. Like Dr. DANIEL OLUKOYA FOLLOW HIM ON FACEBOOK.
I Pray God breaks every yoke the enemy(devil) and his agents have planted in your in house Jesus Christ name of Nazareth. Amen

wisemum:
I am bringing this topic here to see if I can get any good advise from youths of the same generation.
He still sneaks her in. Or did she jazz him?, Please advise me. Thanks.

Hmmmmm....Ma,honestly I don't think there is anything you can do at this point other than pray.keep praying for him.I pray this girl doesn't get pregnant before God decides to answer your prayer sha
What God cannot do does not exist,and keep reminding him that you love him and that at the end of the day only him will leave with the consequences of his actions or inaction

elonmuskbaby:
from the description wisemum gave,it's obvious the boy is only familiar with UK system and doesn't understand that UK methodologies and lifestyle cannot work in Nigeria.if she's made to sign an undertaking that she will never go to wisemums house again, that includes signing an undertaking not to be with ANY OF HER FAMILY MEMBERS or she will be arrested.na she go dey run away or avoid the boy.

There are sometimes you need to be soft and sweet as a non and there are some other times you need to hard and make draconian moves otherwise everything go fall back on your head and you will be made to look like a bad/careless mother who cannot put her son in his place and manage him

While at it the woman should help him in searching for a job far away in another state where it will be difficult for the girl to reach.the boy needs a reality check and needs to get busy

I'm not sure this a smart move,if she should involve the police,the guy might get the girl pregnant to spite the parent.It's what I would have done

I am sorry that you are going through this.

But the hard truth is that your son is the problem here.

Yes it is your house you can tell the girl not to come to your house again and that when next you see her you will invite the police. It is your house you have the right to do without any physical confrontation (in that way you show her who the boss is. Don't exchange words with her don't even say more than that) with her.

However, calling the girl all sort of names is uncalled for because for one if your son is as responsible and properly raised like you said he would never have brought her home to sleep over without your consent.

As for your son, it is simple give him the same warning that the next time you see the girl at home that you will get her arrested and that you will kick him out of the house. It is a tough choice. Truth be told you have given him good education you don't own him jack.

You can kick him out he is an adult, afterall why did he come back from the UK when he hasnt secured a job in Nigeria?

Afterall his age mate that hustled and paid their way to the UK did all manner of jobs after graduation while searching for job both in the UK and in Naija and at the same time taking care of their parents.

Madam you had better read your son the riot act before he wakes up one day and kill you and your husband to take over you guys property and money.

This is still morning you can still fix this shit.

drimzsmoke:


I'm not sure this a smart move,if she should involve the police,the guy might get the girl pregnant to spite the parent.It's what I would have done

Then the parents will kick him out of the house. You no get house you no get work you wan Bleep woman under another man roof.

Train up a child in the way he should go...
U didnt

wisemum:
I am bringing this topic here to see if I can get any good advise from youths of the same generation.

My son returned from schooling abroad two years ago and after completing his NYSC, has been trying to get a job. None has been forthcoming but he tries to keep occupied, trying his hands on different projects. He still lives at home but says that once he is financially stable, he will get his own apartment and move out.

He is generally a calm, law abiding , likeable gentleman until when he recently started bringing home this girl who dresses like a prostitute and who I discovered stays overnight in his room with him. His dad and I have fought him over this subject to no avail. I confronted the girl to tell her I do not feel comfortable with her sleeping overnight in my house especially since I do not know her family and will be held responsible if anything happens to her. She apologized to me and promised not to come to sleep over again. However, I noticed that after that, he started sneaking her in at late hours of the night when he thinks we have gone to bed, sometimes when it is past midnight. He hasn't introduced the girl to us as anything to him even though I have asked him several times what his intentions with this girl is but he will just say she is a friend that makes him happy- that's all.

He told his uncle that he likes the girl. I don't even know what else to do. I have tried talking to him, reasoning with him, but it all falls on his deaf ears. I do not like this girl at all. She comes across to me as a street girl- even though she is generally polite when she meets me at home anytime she comes during the day. I investigated and found out her work place is not far from our house. What I do not like about her is that she dresses, exposing delicate parts of her body and is a chain smoker.

Furthermore, to me, a girl who sleeps out in a mans' parent house, continually disregarding how his parents feel about it, cannot be good news. Once, I caught her almost naked in the night walking along the corridor leading to my sons room. She ran inside his room when she saw me. I was so embarrassed and wondered what if my husband had been the one who ran into her? What kind of thing is this? Only her pant on, breasts bare. It was the following day I traced her to her work place and gently but sharply and firmly told her I do not permit her to sleep over in my house again. His dad also spoke with him. I also spoke to him. Everything has been to no avail.

He still sneaks her in. Or did she jazz him?, Please advise me. Thanks.

Your roof, your rules. Simple

The problem here is not the girl but your disrespectful son who has no regards for his parents.

A responsible son won't bring a girl To his parents home repeatedly to sleep overnight after his parents has warned him to stop it. That's a disobedient child and if your husband and you are too weak to do something about it then be prepared for the worst.

Wisemum I really appreciate your efforts and courage. You need to up your game.

Call your husband to take the matter serious make a whole of issue out it. [/b]Tell him that he is not helping you in solving the matter as regards your son's wellbeing and future. Cry and let him know the danger you are sensing from the unholy relationship between your son and that girl.

As for your son talk him, let him realised that he lacks emotional intelligence. How can he thinks everything ends with getting sexual satisfaction? Let him know that life partners goes beyond unreasonable sexual escapades.
Ask him what kind of mother does he want for his children? Cry and let him know is a disappoinment. Beg him and warned him to put a stop to that unholy relationship. Tell him, you respect him to much, but he had disappointed you.

[b]Apply distractive strategy, engaged him with things and circles you want him to belong to.

As for the lady always keep a tab on her move even when she stays away from your son. Such ladies will not leave easily.

Pray to God about it.

You are indeed a good and great mother.

Shut the door on your son. And she won't sleep in your house again

dettolgel:


Then the parents will kick him out of the house. You no get house you no get work you wan Bleep woman under another man roof.

....A lot of things have gone wrong already but that's not what this thread is about and the way I see this issue,nothing can work again,absolutely nothing.It's only a divine intervention that will work.

If you keep treating this issue with a kid globe one day it will definitly land into an unexpected problem. Its either you talk to your son in the language she will understand or you prepair to go and pay her bride price for your son.

All had been said but i just want to add that work on your son , there many ladies outside and if your son did not bring her she will not enter your house , pls advise your son to start small business if he could not get a job, be a godly person and live a good life he is old enough to decide even if he wants to marry but he must be serious and have a good serious wife

wisemum:
I am bringing this topic here to see if I can get any good advise from youths of the same generation.

My son returned from schooling abroad two years ago and after completing his NYSC, has been trying to get a job. None has been forthcoming but he tries to keep occupied, trying his hands on different projects. He still lives at home but says that once he is financially stable, he will get his own apartment and move out.

He is generally a calm, law abiding , likeable gentleman until when he recently started bringing home this girl who dresses like a prostitute and who I discovered stays overnight in his room with him. His dad and I have fought him over this subject to no avail. I confronted the girl to tell her I do not feel comfortable with her sleeping overnight in my house especially since I do not know her family and will be held responsible if anything happens to her. She apologized to me and promised not to come to sleep over again. However, I noticed that after that, he started sneaking her in at late hours of the night when he thinks we have gone to bed, sometimes when it is past midnight. He hasn't introduced the girl to us as anything to him even though I have asked him several times what his intentions with this girl is but he will just say she is a friend that makes him happy- that's all.

He told his uncle that he likes the girl. I don't even know what else to do. I have tried talking to him, reasoning with him, but it all falls on his deaf ears. I do not like this girl at all. She comes across to me as a street girl- even though she is generally polite when she meets me at home anytime she comes during the day. I investigated and found out her work place is not far from our house. What I do not like about her is that she dresses, exposing delicate parts of her body and is a chain smoker.

Furthermore, to me, a girl who sleeps out in a mans' parent house, continually disregarding how his parents feel about it, cannot be good news. Once, I caught her almost naked in the night walking along the corridor leading to my sons room. She ran inside his room when she saw me. I was so embarrassed and wondered what if my husband had been the one who ran into her? What kind of thing is this? Only her pant on, breasts bare. It was the following day I traced her to her work place and gently but sharply and firmly told her I do not permit her to sleep over in my house again. His dad also spoke with him. I also spoke to him. Everything has been to no avail.

He still sneaks her in. Or did she jazz him?, Please advise me. Thanks.

I hope your son is not into narcotics. Because it smells like he and his babe does.

1Sharon:



Look at them. It's not her house too seriously?

So the wife is a stranger, not his family?



Pls don't get married.

Aunty, it is her house too. The argument here is her having the POWER/RIGHT TO THROW THE YOUNG MAN OUT, she doesn't have such power/right, only her husband does. Unless she bought the land herself and built the house or unless she is the one paying the rent if they are living in a rented house.

shantti:


Aunty, it is her house too. The argument here is the POWER TO THROW THE YOUNG MAN OUT, she doesn't have that power, only her husband does.

If it's her house too why doesn't she have the power aswell?

wisemum:
I am bringing this topic here to see if I can get any good advise from youths of the same generation.

My son returned from schooling abroad two years ago and after completing his NYSC, has been trying to get a job. None has been forthcoming but he tries to keep occupied, trying his hands on different projects. He still lives at home but says that once he is financially stable, he will get his own apartment and move out.

He is generally a calm, law abiding , likeable gentleman until when he recently started bringing home this girl who dresses like a prostitute and who I discovered stays overnight in his room with him. His dad and I have fought him over this subject to no avail. I confronted the girl to tell her I do not feel comfortable with her sleeping overnight in my house especially since I do not know her family and will be held responsible if anything happens to her. She apologized to me and promised not to come to sleep over again. However, I noticed that after that, he started sneaking her in at late hours of the night when he thinks we have gone to bed, sometimes when it is past midnight. He hasn't introduced the girl to us as anything to him even though I have asked him several times what his intentions with this girl is but he will just say she is a friend that makes him happy- that's all.

He told his uncle that he likes the girl. I don't even know what else to do. I have tried talking to him, reasoning with him, but it all falls on his deaf ears. I do not like this girl at all. She comes across to me as a street girl- even though she is generally polite when she meets me at home anytime she comes during the day. I investigated and found out her work place is not far from our house. What I do not like about her is that she dresses, exposing delicate parts of her body and is a chain smoker.

Furthermore, to me, a girl who sleeps out in a mans' parent house, continually disregarding how his parents feel about it, cannot be good news. Once, I caught her almost naked in the night walking along the corridor leading to my sons room. She ran inside his room when she saw me. I was so embarrassed and wondered what if my husband had been the one who ran into her? What kind of thing is this? Only her pant on, breasts bare. It was the following day I traced her to her work place and gently but sharply and firmly told her I do not permit her to sleep over in my house again. His dad also spoke with him. I also spoke to him. Everything has been to no avail.

He still sneaks her in. Or did she jazz him?, Please advise me. Thanks.

The problem here is your son not the girl

He is the one arranging her coming and he doesn't care how you guys feel about her

You have warned her severally but your son keep bringing her inn

I think your son likes crazy girls

At this stage, you can relocate him back abroad or you leave them

One day it will clear in your son's eye

Moreover, if you have a lady in mind that you will want to introduce to your son, now is the time to start packaging her

Her presence in your son's room will threaten the other lady

Once she becomes pregnant, every thing will seal up

icecool12:
As long as they’re not disturbing u with ringtone at night, let them be..

Let them be ? in their own house? let the young man move out , get his own place and do as he wants. That doesn't mean that the parents would still be concerned about their own.

wisemum:
I am bringing this topic here to see if I can get any good advise from youths of the same generation.

My son returned from schooling abroad two years ago and after completing his NYSC, has been trying to get a job. None has been forthcoming but he tries to keep occupied, trying his hands on different projects. He still lives at home but says that once he is financially stable, he will get his own apartment and move out.

He is generally a calm, law abiding , likeable gentleman until when he recently started bringing home this girl who dresses like a prostitute and who I discovered stays overnight in his room with him. His dad and I have fought him over this subject to no avail. I confronted the girl to tell her I do not feel comfortable with her sleeping overnight in my house especially since I do not know her family and will be held responsible if anything happens to her. She apologized to me and promised not to come to sleep over again. However, I noticed that after that, he started sneaking her in at late hours of the night when he thinks we have gone to bed, sometimes when it is past midnight. He hasn't introduced the girl to us as anything to him even though I have asked him several times what his intentions with this girl is but he will just say she is a friend that makes him happy- that's all.

He told his uncle that he likes the girl. I don't even know what else to do. I have tried talking to him, reasoning with him, but it all falls on his deaf ears. I do not like this girl at all. She comes across to me as a street girl- even though she is generally polite when she meets me at home anytime she comes during the day. I investigated and found out her work place is not far from our house. What I do not like about her is that she dresses, exposing delicate parts of her body and is a chain smoker.

Furthermore, to me, a girl who sleeps out in a mans' parent house, continually disregarding how his parents feel about it, cannot be good news. Once, I caught her almost naked in the night walking along the corridor leading to my sons room. She ran inside his room when she saw me. I was so embarrassed and wondered what if my husband had been the one who ran into her? What kind of thing is this? Only her pant on, breasts bare. It was the following day I traced her to her work place and gently but sharply and firmly told her I do not permit her to sleep over in my house again. His dad also spoke with him. I also spoke to him. Everything has been to no avail.

He still sneaks her in. Or did she jazz him?, Please advise me. Thanks.

Why