virginprincess:
it doesn't work that way, even if you kill him it changes nothing, I'm sure with prayers and advise he would change, talking from experience.

Do know how long they must have prayed and advised his? Mind you we ain't talking about a kid or an adolescent here, we're talking about a 34-year-old man

Mybrotheralso:

Thank you dear for your enormous support

You're welcome

helinues:


You know, my dad taught me one big lesson in life...

Never listen to one side story and act

Its a cool thing your dad thought u but looks like u didn't learn so well as this is not a case of a dispute bw two people like husband and wife.

Mybrotheralso:

Its not about me, he's the only one that stays with our parents and he's giving them troubles that even an adolescent can't give .

Then ignore. They are his parents too. They won’t throw him away. There is nothing you can do short of removing your parents from that house. And they’d probably not agree to leave.

Just ignore

virginprincess:
Then maybe your parent should ask him to go on his own, let him experience the other side of life, that is taking responsibility for himself, maybe that would work.

Exactly what I have suggested for my dad, let him be on his own without his parents .

Mybrotheralso:

Its a cool thing your dad thought u but looks like u didn't learn so well as this is not a case of a dispute bw two people like husband and wife.

People's perceptions about things might the different from the way the subject is seeing things....

Smart people want any liabilities

Bitter truth

AfroKnight:


Then ignore. They are his parents too. They won’t throw him away. There is nothing you can do short of removing your parents from that house. And they’d probably not agree to leave.

Just ignore

Lol, i can't ignore as my mom just complained to me, we're family and they're all my business, thank you for your contribution as I see my opinions

BeeBeeOoh:
Do know how long they must have prayed and advised his? Mind you we ain't talking about a kid or an adolescent here, we're talking about a 34-year-old man

Then maybe his parent should send him away to live on his own, maybe when he experience the other side of life he would change.

daddytime:
When they say life isn't balanced, it ain't just some slang.

No human has it all 100% something has got to give.

You won't understand what you are deficient in unless you got told or complained about as you are doing right now. This is exactly how your brother feels too.

Every human being get him own for body.
The least thing we owe each other as humans should be " Tolerating" each other rather that being "judgemental and condemning".

This is far from been deficient as a human being in some qualities , my brother's case is not one of such.He obviously has a problem which him recognises and the rest of the family have been trying to find a solution. Thank you for contributing

AfroKnight:
Just move out. Ignore him and work on your own success. If you dwell on thoughts about him you won’t have time to move forward.

I dont stay with them, my parents are my concern

Mybrotheralso:

Exactly what I have suggested for my dad, let him be on his own without his parents .

That would be a good idea, you guys should try that.

virginprincess:
That would be a good idea, you guys should try that.

Thank you

virginprincess:
Then maybe his parent should send him away to live on his own, maybe when he experience the other side of life he would change.

I can bet my two balls that he will not listen to them

helinues:


People's perceptions about things might the different from the way the subject is seeing things....

Smart people want any liabilities

Bitter truth

You're far from understanding what I'm talking about ,nevertheless, thank you for contributing

BeeBeeOoh:
I can bet my two balls that he will not listen to them

He will listen at that burning moment and after a brief period he will still go back to his old ways

Mybrotheralso:

You're far from understanding what I'm talking about ,nevertheless, thank for contributing

There are always other side of the story..

The bitter truth is if you guys are doing fantastically well( those complaining), then your brothers shouldn't be worries except .....

BeeBeeOoh:
I can bet my two balls that he will not listen to them

He would listen if they throw him out, seriously he really needs to learn the hard way

helinues:


There are always other side of the story..

The bitter truth is if you guys are doing fantastically well( those complaining), then your brothers shouldn't be worries except .....

You don't understand the issue here at all,once again, thanks for contributing

Mybrotheralso:

Well this is a faceless forum and I just have to express myself here

your brother is a narcisist.
You can make out the rest.

KiNg0G:


Are you a male or female?

If you be guy and you dey bad-mouth your brother like so for public.
It no make sense.

You not be guy man at all.

Mtchew who be this one like this, na this Kind people Dey support Jonathan and Buhari together
Call a spade a spade e say na badmouth mtchew

You cant throw him away, keep encouraging him. If possible arrange for him to travel out. so he can see the world differently.

KiNg0G:


Are you a male or female?

If you be guy and you dey bad-mouth your brother like so for public.
It no make sense.

You not be guy man at all.

Abeg park one side... So make him dey sugar coat am because him too na man abi?

Immediately, u said he is the 1st born, i became weak. 1st borns rarely make headway in life, yes. Na only God go help am.

Life hasn’t dealt him the required knocks.

I pray it’s not too late for him to realize his mumu-ness.

virginprincess:
You guys should sit him down and talk some sense into him, invite someone you know he respect so much it may be friends, relative,or anybody, again you people shouldn't despise him instead show him more love, sometimes also tell him how hurt you guys are with his behavior, lastly don't forget to always pray for him, remember him in your prayers, I'm sure with God and advise he would change.

For a 35 year old P.h.d student,all this is in one ear and out the other. He needs to be booted out so he can go live his life elsewhere.

Life needs to take a go at teaching him lessons which he has been denied of up til now.

He is a useless son

Mybrotheralso:
He's the first born out of 5 children .

Honestly this brother of mine has never brought joy to my parents and siblings.

I wonder why God gave us this kind of brother, he has been like this since we all knew something and hasn't changed for good.
He has been sat down and talked to severally yet he will repent and still go back to his old ways .

So pathetic!

The question I want to ask is not really coming out. But, if it were to come out promise me that you would not be angry.

Me I was thinking out loud, but I have not said anything yet oh. Please, reason with me. .

This bro of yours seems to be the only outlier in terms of moral and familiar fidelity.

I want to ask... Are you sure that this your brother is really your brother.

Is not that am accusing your mom of infidelity, am asking, to verify whether he was adopted.

You know an orange tree is still an orange tree even if it were to be planted in a garden filled with apple tress.

Mybrotheralso:
He's the first born out of 5 children .He's doing his PHD and has his own business. He still lives with our parents. So he does not pay for house , food or water.But can you imagine this brother of mine who makes money from his business doesn't contribute to the house for the same food he eats, when he makes money he goes to hotels and sleep over with women and prefers to train and help outsiders than bring something to the family.Recently, he had the effontry to reject my mummy's food on the ground that it was served late. I simply asked my mom to stop putting food for him.

Honestly this brother of mine has never brought joy to my parents and siblings. He has had several accidents driving carelessly, yet my mom still takes care of it all and she has even stayed over in the hospital when he had the last accident and became unconscious.

They're just the kind of brother one will have and you wished you never had a brother , my brother is exactly that kind of brother anyone will wish not to have. Not to talk of his dubious nature, you can't do simple business with him without him cheating on you. I once was rearing one animal and had to send him money for feeds but can you believe he was billing me in excess. We also contributed money to renovate our father's house and he emphatically told us he bought something which he didn't actually buy.

I wonder why God gave us this kind of brother, he has been like this since we all knew something and hasn't changed for good.
He has been sat down and talked to severally yet he will repent and still go back to his old ways .

So pathetic!

Is very unfortunate for him to be behaving like a prodigal son at that over ripe age

You guys must learn from his mistakes and move on with out him being am obstacles to you his siblings

Don't give him the time and attention he needs from you people, because he will capitalize on seniority for you guys

Just move on but be prepared for the trouble he may pose for you people as he grows old unless he is married then, his wife may be the one to correct his madness

As for your mum, no woman can leave her child just like that,even if the child is tied to a stake for police shooting she will still love that child, unless not a biological mother

Don't be surprise, that his Animalistic behavior has already affected your mum emotionally

Just don't give him the opportunity to intimidate or harras any one of you, you guys must team up against him when that time comes

Lastly, put away your family landed properties documents hope you know why ?