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Re: Bored In Marriage by ashawopikin(m): 11:52am On Oct 16, 2021
Op your thread is so hot it made front page twice

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Re: Bored In Marriage by macjireh: 11:53am On Oct 16, 2021
shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice
get ur wife 2 kids first,, den u can have ur freedom... u can't afford to abandon ur wife at D's early stage....wen she has @ least 2 kids to take care of,,d pressure of always staying with her will drop....D key is Kids first
Re: Bored In Marriage by bluefilm: 11:54am On Oct 16, 2021
shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice

Look at this young man o!

My friend, what exactly are you bored with in your marriage?

You are bored with your wife's pussy or what?

Nonsense. angry angry angry
Re: Bored In Marriage by Nobody: 11:57am On Oct 16, 2021
shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice
breast milk still dey smell for your mouth, after you don enter river you dey shout say cold they Cash you
Re: Bored In Marriage by ipswitch: 11:58am On Oct 16, 2021
But what you did is what older men cant do successfully. Sit back and reorganise yourself. Lots of places you can go with wifey.
Re: Bored In Marriage by AlhajaChinyere: 11:58am On Oct 16, 2021
redcliff:
29 years old too young to marry? I give it to our fathers, they were the real men not the men of these days. If I may ask, what is it your single friends do? Even if you were 35 or 39 you would still feel this way. You are in, act like a married man, roll with the same circle of friends within your social status, you are no longer single or a kid!

Nonsense, our fathers suffered and were conditioned by custom and lack of resources. Most of them were resentful of their dependant wives.

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Re: Bored In Marriage by TemmyT002(m): 11:59am On Oct 16, 2021
Find things that interest you. Play video games. Play games with your wife. Do things that bring you both together.
I am pretty sure you are the boring one.
If not, seek therapy

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Re: Bored In Marriage by AlhajaChinyere: 12:01pm On Oct 16, 2021
SonofGod231:
You were not prepared for marriage...you can't be married and still be living like a bachelor. Children go soon cum into the picture too.. Begin to groom yourself for it now.
BTW I will also be getting married before the end of this year...The pressure from my gf is getting too much, She's 29 and doesn't want to remain husbandless at 30.

Hmmmmmm! sad
Re: Bored In Marriage by torqque7(m): 12:01pm On Oct 16, 2021
shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice

Trust me its normal,u just miss the freedom of hitting random pu.s.si,es like u did as a single man..if u have a good woman as a wife,then value her and trash the idea of divorce bro,cos good women are almost impossible to get these days..
Re: Bored In Marriage by Nobody: 12:01pm On Oct 16, 2021
shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice
How old is your wife?
Re: Bored In Marriage by Vinnie2000(m): 12:03pm On Oct 16, 2021
When you tell Young Guys NOT TO rush into Marriage, pple would be attacking you Upandan! sad

Apart from Money and maturity, A Guy who wants to get married has to be Psychologically Ready for it!
I.e. You must see yourself as Man or father, ready to make parental or Husbandly sacrifices!!

When I see 27,28 yr old guys rushing to get married, I just Laff!
Same with Young ladies, Instagram, Snapchat addicts of 23,24 getting married..

Rushing into marriage because you want to be the First among others! undecided
Almost like the 'First to comment' Sh*t in Nairaland! cheesy

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Re: Bored In Marriage by Nobody: 12:03pm On Oct 16, 2021
CAPTIVATOR:

Great.
Although I will say You are in Nigeria, the only thing people see as readiness for marriage is the financial aspect, forget mental , Spirituality and emotional aspects. Most of My country people no dey check that one. Lol
Re: Bored In Marriage by seyz91(m): 12:03pm On Oct 16, 2021
cheesy
Michael662:
Happy weekend..not married..dont intend to. Gat no say in this.. Benin people fit come for me but I'm ready
Re: Bored In Marriage by seyz91(m): 12:05pm On Oct 16, 2021
you said it all and

got it right

nothing to add or remove
MrrGary:
cheesy

Not your fault son. .
You see that marriage crap is not for we men ohh. . because apart from having a child, it doesn’t benefit us.

Women benefits more that is why they can do anything to settle down with even someone they don’t have deep feelings..
Some of them even uses it as a bragging thing amongst themselves lool

undecided

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Re: Bored In Marriage by AlhajaChinyere: 12:06pm On Oct 16, 2021
moneyissweet:
Your feelings is spiritual..seek for spiritual help Asap.

At 29, this is the only time you can enjoy your wife and marriage to the fullest.

Something is definitely wrong with you, is either you married your wife by mistake or your wife is too urgly.

Marriage wey dey sweet like agege bread.

Have you had any children? Have you started paying school fees?
That agege bread may soon turn to spicy akara!
Re: Bored In Marriage by seyz91(m): 12:06pm On Oct 16, 2021
cheesy
Mybrotheralso:
29 is not young though .oyibo them the marry around 21 because they're economically viable. It has now been accepted to marry late in Africa due to poverty
Re: Bored In Marriage by seyz91(m): 12:06pm On Oct 16, 2021
i tell you
YungTemy:
Marriage is a big scam.

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Re: Bored In Marriage by Asour: 12:07pm On Oct 16, 2021
Poopypants:
I’m just 28, I have been with a woman I love for more than 2years now and it’s never a bored moment , we do our things and still spend time together whenever we get the chance , we host, gossip and play , these things keep us together and connects us more , ismts never a dull moment , we gave all our neighbors nick names that we call them by when we gossip .. make your wife your best friend and gossip mate and you’ll never be bored in your marriage ..

Gossiping is not a good thing.

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Re: Bored In Marriage by Czario: 12:07pm On Oct 16, 2021
shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice

Lol ! You're still better off than some ppl including myself. At least you married your spec of woman. She's gets u and you get her just try to incorporate her into your fun outside at least till the children come.

After that another phase of disillusionment begins.
In my own case, I don't even remember I have a libido until I step out.
Once I return home the libido disappears again. It's very important to to marry your spec and you seem to have done that.

Just try to make her your partner in every crime. You'll be ok

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Re: Bored In Marriage by Jaisman26(m): 12:07pm On Oct 16, 2021
shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice
My brother, i appreciate the fact that you said your wife is sexy, beautiful and you love her. What you are passing through is a normal stage in marriage as you just started the journey. I also disagree to believe that you married young at 29, mark my word today, you will live to appreciate your decision to marry on time since you are doing well financially. Lastly, learn to believe that you are now a married man and find a better way to bond intimately with your wife. And start to let her know that you are business minded person so you don't be with her 24/7
Re: Bored In Marriage by AlhajaChinyere: 12:08pm On Oct 16, 2021
olaniyilukman:
My bro, pls take ur time before you finally settle down with your girl, marriage is not an easy institution at all as some people portrayed it, sometimes you will feel like going the single way throughout your entire life... I felt the guy pains because I am in his shoe right now.

Don’t mind him….!!!

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Re: Bored In Marriage by DaveChapelle: 12:08pm On Oct 16, 2021
Just wait till you have a Baby, that is 100x more stress. You have entered 1chance.Best start trying to get over the feeling.

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Re: Bored In Marriage by Nnatuu: 12:10pm On Oct 16, 2021
It is normal to feel that way early in marriage.

Just turn a blind eye and live each day as it comes. In the end, even the bachelor life go still tire you. Earlier you settle into marriage better for you potentially.

I’m married and still dealing with the challenges of carrying someone along in everything I do.

But I deeply prefer marriage than the directionless bachelor life. I wasted millions of naira living as a bachelor that would’ve been useful for me.

The best you can do is to send your family abroad since you’re okay financially that way you can get small space BUT not the space to chase women around as that will complicate your mental health further.

As for me, bachelor life can miss me for now and forever.

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Re: Bored In Marriage by AlhajaChinyere: 12:13pm On Oct 16, 2021
OhiOfIhima:
Just be always grateful to your God that he has favoured you alot. Many are praying for this blessings but not fruitful yet. Try to navigate ur mind from bachelorhood n see urself as someone with responsibilities. Explore anything explorable with your wife, I swear down, those ur single guys will in turn envy you. I am 31 and I wish to get marry now but no formidable work yet.

You are living in fantasy land. Can you handle marital responsibilities?
Re: Bored In Marriage by AlhajaChinyere: 12:14pm On Oct 16, 2021
Angrymode:
From one married man to another, na dog life de hungry you @OP. Grow up or get a divorce before you destroy the life of your wife emotionally, mentally and physically.

Women destroy themselves with their unrealistic ignorant expectations.
Re: Bored In Marriage by gstream: 12:14pm On Oct 16, 2021
The truth is, apartment from the fact that you are not ready for marriage,. YOU DON'T LOVE YOUR WIFE.
shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice

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Re: Bored In Marriage by Nobody: 12:17pm On Oct 16, 2021
pakirisuitesphc:
Only few people will understand your nature, try to take more out of town business or sending your wife abroad, it will not adversely affect the marriage but if you continue leaving like this, the marriage may not last.
that's my fear

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Re: Bored In Marriage by AlhajaChinyere: 12:18pm On Oct 16, 2021
macjireh:

get ur wife 2 kids first,, den u can have ur freedom... u can't afford to abandon ur wife at D's early stage....wen she has @ least 2 kids to take care of,,d pressure of always staying with her will drop....D key is Kids first

What about the future of those kids? Why do you think Africa is hell on earth? You have children for selfish reasons without considering their future. Useless Fkg people!!!

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Re: Bored In Marriage by FiverrTutor(m): 12:18pm On Oct 16, 2021
Joromi1:
"Just 29" is not too young. I know a guy who's marrying next month; he's just 25. So maturity of the mind and readiness count first, not age.

And so what?? I personally married at 23(I have two children aged 13 and 8 years old) I later got bored with the marriage when I clocked 32... Presently I'm divorced living in a big house with my 2 daughters and I'm so so happy and contented!!!!
Re: Bored In Marriage by malvisguy212: 12:20pm On Oct 16, 2021
shedybaba44 i dont believe this story, you created a thread in April seeking for a serious relationship, but here you said you have been married since March. how is this possible ? fake story

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Re: Bored In Marriage by FiverrTutor(m): 12:20pm On Oct 16, 2021
AmericanDad:


I felt like that when I married at 28. It was shocking and miss singlehood. I divorced and have my single hood back and it feels awesome. But parents dey pressure me to settle down again..now I'm 33. I no wan settle abeg..I'm busy having fun and exploring new pussiess cheesy wink

Same here my brother. I personally married at 23(I have two children aged 13 and 8 years old)... Presently I'm 36 divorced living in a big house with my 2 daughters and I'm so so happy and contented!!!!

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