I have meticulously observed the reason why many people have avoidable heartbreaks and strong feeling of disappointment in human relationships and I have come to this unsavoury conclusion.

That the only viable panacea to any form of heartbreak and disappointment is to love genuinely without having any expectation of equal reciprocation.

This will make you psychology prepared for any possible outcome whether good or bad.

You will be able to give without bothering your head if the person latter leaves you and no matter the sacrifice you make, you are ready to see it thrown back at your face and if the person eventually leaves, you will smile and just walk away rather than sulk, beg or worse still do something terrible to yourself.

It is not a difficult thing to do, it's all about the mindset.

My opinion.

You can't love your partner and don't expect to be loved back. We're all selfish.

How I handled my first official break up was so funny

So I called the lady at night trying to check up on her, then she started acting up, whats the problem, she said she was with her boyfriend that she couldn't talk to me, Oh boy Lava no hot cos the temperature wey dey boil for my body heh.

At night, I couldn't sleep cos I didn't see the breaking up coming up, though na me get larger share of the blame.

The next morning, I decided to step outside the house just not to think about it , the friend I was supposed to meet wasn't available so I took a bike to my sisters shop and explain my predicament, she asked what next now, I just told her to give me some money that I need to quickly change my location cos I might do silly things.

Immediately she handled me the money, went straight to house, poured the rice and stew I cooked night before the drama cos I knew i would be out of state for weeks if not months.

I called my friends in other state that I would be coming, they didn't have an idea how urgent my coming was. On getting to my destination, the first thing my friends asked was how is my GF, people know us together back then, I was like I just talked to her before alighting from the bus.

That night, I faked calling my girlfriend so that my friends wont know that it was break up that brought me around. The 4th day, my friends became suspicious and asked if everything is alright between me and my girl cos we always talk on phone.

The first thing i asked them was, why did you think I made this urgent trip? Na to relief myself, we broke up. They couldn't believe it cos I did not think about it, emotionally disturbed or frown about it . I only took it as reality . And that was it. There were like you get mind oo

In life, as you are counting your blessings, don't also forget to count your losses. Life is so beautiful than to get stuck cos of heart break

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MHBNeiman:
You can't love your partner and don't expect to be loved back. We're all selfish.

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SimplyFacts:
Easier said than done.

It can be done, as i wrote, it is about the mind-set but i think one also needs some level of emotional maturity to do it.

This is why you see all these immature guys crying when a lady leaves them cos they feel they have spent too much for the lady and the same reason you see some men taking back gifts they bought a lady after a break up...does ot mean they were expecting a forever after cos they gave them gifts?

Even Jesus that died for the entire world made it clear that salvation is not a must for everyone and only those who appreciate his sacrifice will be saved but he still loves us genuinely so much that he died for us.

With this mind-set you will do whatever you feel you want to do for your significant other without bothering if she walks away latter but these days, people are so careful to help the person in their lives just because they ''Don't want to lose at the end'' and we even tend to destroy things the more.

Just count your loss and move on

To prevent a heart break, go into a relationship with all your senses active.

Keep your eyes open for obvious red flags, breakups don't happen overnight, it's a gradual process, if she stops reciprocating your gestures, like missed calls, messages, missing dates with no reasonable explanation, unnecessary quarrells and nagging over nothing, being so clingy to her phone and acting funny whenever it rings, hardly appreciative of your effors...etc, then prepare your heart for the worse cos someone is obviously taking a larger chunk of her attention.

I've never been heartbroken. I do the leaving. I kept leaving until I got to the one. Don't ask me how I did it. My sixth sense was on a steep, really high frequency.

There is nothing to read again. Except you want me to start writing sermon.

Toks2008:


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MHBNeiman:
There is nothing to read again. Except you want me to start writing sermon.

OK then.

The only way to avoid a heart break is to avoid falling in love. Avoid anything relationship

Lol....how will you love and not expect back in return

When no be say blood no dey run for your vein

Abeg , I gave out a natural solution to men's one minutes problem in the bedroom

It will help them overcome quick ejaculation

Yes, one must love genuinely/selflessly; that, however, isn't enough. As someone who has never being a victim of a relationship heartbreak, or being used, despite being around for too long and always given everything in principle, the working formula has always been loving genuinely and hating nonsense with all might; in other words, being altruistic and conscientious in general.

You can always give everything without losing anything; in other words, you can always walk the walk without being hurt and without being the direct reason someone might get hurt.

Meanwhile, you neither necessarily need to subject yourself to reading books or articles on a relationship nor identify with any social/ideological movement to get it right. Self-mastery and self-conquest with a sound personal philosophy will always do the magic.

Only women and children are loved unconditionally, a man is loved for what he's worth.

- Chiwetalu Agụ 1921

Toks2008:
I have meticulously observed the reason why many people have avoidable heartbreaks and strong feeling of disappointment in human relationships...

It is not a difficult thing to do, it's all about the mindset.

My opinion.

Thanks for sharing your opinion

Just curious: do you think it's EASY to have this mindset?

Easier said than done.

When betar heartbreak hit u...my gee you go forget Redpill for 5mins

After my Msc course in Ubunja Miseducation lecture series here in NL.... Dem still break am.

Na first time dey pain

The easiest to avoid heartbreak is being real with yourself. The girl is not yours, it just your turn. Men bin dey handle before you, and men go still handle after you.

The problem is the you guys have been sold the concepts of soulmates.

It's good to be in love, but just enjoy the moment and stop thinking to love long term.

Don't let your life revolve around your girl. Let your be your girl, don't try to make your girl your best friend, your therapist and shit.

It will be harder for you to recover from heartbreak if you do everything with the same person. It doesn't mean you must cheat on your girl. But don't disconnect with your friends, family, hobbies and passion because of your girl.

And people have stop the delusion that dating will must lead to marriage. All your ex boyfriends you didn't marry them, why do you think it's this one that will marry you?

And finally, love doesn't exist, it was just a concept that seems good on paper, but does not apply in reality.

Relationship is just an exchange to utility, nothing special it's like contract but people act as if it's different.

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What makes heartbreak painful is when you felt used all along. You gave your all, and in spite of your genuine goodness, your beloved press the red button. It is not a happenstance why after heartbreak, you hear things like "after all I've done for you". That's a statement of debt, unrequited reciprocity, and feeling used.

Doesn't matter ,you go still chop breakfast.

Don't forget that love is an emotion ,infact one of the strongest emotion. There is no way you love someone without being emotionally attached . Now ,imagine separating that bond without pain. It is absolutely impossible ,once you become emotionally attached ,you are prone to heartbreak.

Don't deceive yourself !

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You can't prevent heartbreak, unless you don't want to love genuinely. To love is to be vulnerable, and vulnerability is not weakness, its strength. Vulnerability is believing in your internal strength to lead you out of whichever predicament love brings to you. It's how a bird depends on its wing to fly, if the tree branches breaks off. Its strength is in its wings, not the branches.

People will always disappoint you, but you can minimise the impact. Love with your head and your heart, not your heart or head only. If your beloved is not reciprocating, quit it. Self care is the knowledge that you also deserve the same love you're giving out. Or else it will be a place of pain.