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Toks2008:
It is heartbreak when you so much trust and believe it wont happen but when you are psychologically prepared for it i bet you will just shake your head and walk away. That is the point.

Even in marriage, still prepare yourself without letting it affect the way you express your love. As i wrote, it is about the mind-set but it may be a hard nut to crack for many people.

Despite the psychological preparations, I still find it difficult to believe this your hypothesis o...Even approaching it pragmatically, It is still a hard nut to crack bro.


Yes we expect the worst, but having that mindset can automatically mess up the relationship or marriage before it starts.
Again, it portrays one as not being genuine with feelings.I don't know for other men o, but someone like me, If I don't love a babe, I am not bleeping her...And If I love, I trust...Now imagine me keeping someone's daughter and not genuinely loving or trusting her because i dey fear break up?..lol it is not feasible.

chatinent:
Nwanne, ife a adiro easy o

Mgbe oge ya ruru, even if you no wear jersey, you go play...

Unless you have chosen to be a bachelor for life and celibate till eternity..

Munzy14:
Mgbe oge ya ruru, even if you no wear jersey, you go play...

Unless you have chosen to be a bachelor for life and celibate till eternity..

Lol. I can't be a bachelor for life. Aga m alụrụ nwunye but no bi say I go come kill myself now. Lol

chatinent:
Lol. I can't be a bachelor for life. Aga m alụrụ nwunye but no bi say I go come kill myself now. Lol

When you are ready don't forget to share pre wedding photos..lol

And venue..O di mkpa!

Munzy14:


When you are ready don't forget to share pre wedding photos..lol

And venue..O di mkpa!

Gbamsolutely

Toks2008:
Another illiterate on the loose. You don't call an opinion stupid cos it is not a fact hence not binding in anyway...even a presumably mad person can give an opinion. You simply give a contrary one. I hope you learn.

Go teach your parents, they need the lesson more than I do.
Or deh
Ọmọ iran kiran

SpiritLifeNG:
I'm 90% sure the one you're with is not the "one". The same way you idealised and left the previous ones, you will leave this one after love bombing and idealising him. You are not contempted, this is why you have never been heart broken. You get bored easily with your men and you toss them afterwards.

After how many shudren? Some of us here are not 16 year olds.

walkingshadow911:
it way easy for a woman to move on cos you contribute little or nothing in relationship. more so, you have a number of admirer in ur dm on queue already.

when a house is burning, the party that has more properties in the house get pained most.

Hmmn! You could be right though.

PrimadonnaO:
That's not what he's saying.

Of course you'd love to be loved back.

But express your love because your heart wants to...

Because you care about the person...

Because making them happy makes you happy...

Because the things you do with them makes you happy....


And not because you want your actions to condition their behaviour towards you...

Not because you expect that they'll stay forever.

If you're able to do this, if they eventually leave, yes you'll be hurt to see them go... but not broken.

More wisdom bro.

I'm freaking tired of how hard people find it to comprehend a clear message.

Gosh!

Decryptor:
People like you are the real heartbreakers men should be wary about. Sixth sense ko eighty seventh sense ni?

The same "sense" that still make women take very wrong decisions based on emotions and not reality.

Tell us something else.

No wrong decisions. The man I am with now idolises me. It's mutual I am into him too.
You know this thing is like a business that you do that's lucrative. You won't want to settle for less when you can make more money. The same way I kept moving when I know I can have it better.

placeofallure:
After how many shudren? Some of us here are not 16 year olds.

Marriage will not stop you. ask yourself why you really got married and what you actually want .
There's no actual "one". Give it 7-25yrs. I've heard stories of the discard, you will get bored .

Munzy14:
Despite the psychological preparations, I still find it difficult to believe this your hypothesis o...Even approaching it pragmatically, It is still a hard nut to crack bro.


Yes we expect the worst, but having that mindset can automatically mess up the relationship or marriage before it starts.
Again, it portrays one as not being genuine with feelings.I don't know for other men o, but someone like me, If I don't love a babe, I am not bleeping her...And If I love, I trust...Now imagine me keeping someone's daughter and not genuinely loving or trusting her because i dey fear break up?..lol it is not feasible.

As I wrote, it takes a level of psycological maturity to pull it off.

SpiritLifeNG:
Marriage will not stop you. ask yourself why you really got married and what you actually want .
There's no actual "one". Give it 7-25yrs. I've heard stories of the discard, you will get bored .

Naaaaaaa!

SpiritLifeNG:
Marriage will not stop you. ask yourself why you really got married and what you actually want .
There's no actual "one". Give it 7-25yrs. I've heard stories of the discard, you will get bored .

Naaaaaaa! This one is sticking like butter and bread.

placeofallure:
Naaaaaaa! This one is sticking like butter and bread.

I LOVE the way you put it. "this one is sticking..." ,Not you who is gonna stick , but him . He seems like an actual simp. This is why you will leave.

SpiritLifeNG:
I LOVE the way you put it. "this one is sticking..." ,Not you who is gonna stick , but him . He seems like an actual simp. This is why you will leave.

Now, don't get me angry!

placeofallure:
Hmmn! You could be right though.

Not could, i am damn right cos it's reality

I miss you like crazy, tell me when you comin back home...

Love is a beautiful thing no matter what happen

Toks2008:
As I wrote, it takes a level of psycological maturity to pull it off.

Bro leave talk, you can't pull this without faking it.

The genuineness of the whole thing gives rise to one's vulnerability which is strength.

walkingshadow911:
Not could, i am damn right cos it's reality

You are right but not in its entirety. I do contribute in the relationship. That's where you got it wrong. I work and make my own money. I also believe in rendering help , financially, when necessary. I'm not your typical girl about town

placeofallure:
You are right but not in its entirety. I do contribute in the relationship. That's where you got it wrong. I work and make my own money. I also believe in rendering help , financially, when necessary. I'm not your typical girl about town

but your man money dey sweet you more na.
he invested more joor. make i rest

helinues:


How I handled my first official break up was so funny

So I called the lady at night trying to check up on her, then she started acting up, whats the problem, she said she was with her boyfriend that she couldn't talk to me, Oh boy Lava no hot cos the temperature wey dey boil for my body heh.

At night, I couldn't sleep cos I didn't see the breaking up coming up, though na me get larger share of the blame.

The next morning, I decided to step outside the house just not to think about it , the friend I was supposed to meet wasn't available so I took a bike to my sisters shop and explain my predicament, she asked what next now, I just told her to give me some money that I need to quickly change my location cos I might do silly things.

Immediately she handled me the money, went straight to house, poured the rice and stew I cooked night before the drama cos I knew i would be out of state for weeks if not months.

I called my friends in other state that I would be coming, they didn't have an idea how urgent my coming was. On getting to my destination, the first thing my friends asked was how is my GF, people know us together back then, I was like I just talked to her before alighting from the bus.

That night, I faked calling my girlfriend so that my friends wont know that it was break up that brought me around. The 4th day, my friends became suspicious and asked if everything is alright between me and my girl cos we always talk on phone.

The first thing i asked them was, why did you think I made this urgent trip? Na to relief myself, we broke up. They couldn't believe it cos I did not think about it, emotionally disturbed or frown about it . I only took it as reality . And that was it. There were like you get mind oo

In life, as you are counting your blessings, don't also forget to count your losses. Life is so beautiful than to get stuck cos of heart break

Very similar to mine man..