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Came close to marriage twice but ended it cos they cheated. If it was the other lady they like they won't be planning to marry you then. Its her wedding they'll be planning not yours. Mind you I'm not justifying their actions but you're regretting some of your actions too now

osuofia2:
Red pillers how far. See food

I believe you must be relieved now. I really appreciate your courage in voicing out which I believe would lessen the burden your mind was carrying. The doctor gave you a good advise. Go the Linda ikeji way sister. The lord is your strength

Kobojunkie:
So what do you intend to do now?

She will be double but still drops eggs

God1000:
Easy ma'am.

I mean how somebody just woke up to identify as a woman beats me

Anyahuruagu:
I actually discussed this with my folks the other time.

The single lifestyle of our generation affects the female gender more than the male gender.

When you age you will understand that the most important aspect of marriage is actually companionship, sex is while you are younger but as you age.

You need a confidant, a partner no matter how hard it is you need someone.

To our single women out there, please use the opportunity now.

I have met plenty aged single women, i must confess that 85% of them aren't happy with their life.

raw fact. Thumbs up Man

did you say Damn Parents?! You're not single because of the advice they gave you as your situation is not uncommon. Keep hope alive and live decently. I can see you're not a muslim so i can't say more(my solution is islamic).

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BabbanBura:
em don scatter ya table abi? Kpele woo

What table sir, because it seems you eat off bare soil? I mean, how would you know about my table?
Write in full sentences sir, your data wouldn’t finish.
Happy Sunday

mysticgal:
I mean how somebody just woke up to identify as a woman beats me

Where have you been? It's easy nowadays. In the US right now you can just wake up and say you now identify as a man, woman or binary

duyox2004:
I hate it. I’m 41, never married, no kids.

I’ve been close…twice. But ended both relationships when they were caught cheating.

I’ve dated several men since then, most older than me, and they seemed to be in no hurry to even be in a committed relationship. Which is crazy to me that these men are mid-40s and still trying to hangout with the guys and party. I met a whole guy group of friends in Houston 2 years ago…all single, all 36–45 years old. They were throwing house parties during the quarantine…parties!! ��

When I was in grade school, I was told to get a degree, don’t get pregnant, just enjoy being single, make friends, keep dating, and the right man will find you.

Now that I have two degrees, traveled the world, developed hobbies, and avoided pregnancy…my doctors are telling me to just be a single mom because I’m running out of eggs as I type this message. �

I beat teenage pregnancy to be considering single motherhood at 41. �

Damn you, parents, counselors, pastors, and everyone who gave me that advice. I can’t get that time (or my eggs) back. I hate being single at this age!! ��

Send me a message op

Kajaard:
Where have you been? It's easy nowadays. In the US right now you can just wake up and say you now identify as a man, woman or binary

I know but this same man from his digital prints detests the lgbtq community so how he switched and picked up a quora post is surprising

duyox2004:
I hate it. I’m 41, never married, no kids.

I’ve been close…twice. But ended both relationships when they were caught cheating.

I’ve dated several men since then, most older than me, and they seemed to be in no hurry to even be in a committed relationship. Which is crazy to me that these men are mid-40s and still trying to hangout with the guys and party. I met a whole guy group of friends in Houston 2 years ago…all single, all 36–45 years old. They were throwing house parties during the quarantine…parties!! ��

When I was in grade school, I was told to get a degree, don’t get pregnant, just enjoy being single, make friends, keep dating, and the right man will find you.

Now that I have two degrees, traveled the world, developed hobbies, and avoided pregnancy…my doctors are telling me to just be a single mom because I’m running out of eggs as I type this message. �

I beat teenage pregnancy to be considering single motherhood at 41. �

Damn you, parents, counselors, pastors, and everyone who gave me that advice. I can’t get that time (or my eggs) back. I hate being single at this age!! ��

Damnnn, I posted shiiit like this some weeks ago.

Lower your religious way and check your self.

duyox2004:
I hate it. I’m 41, never married, no kids.

I’ve been close…twice. But ended both relationships when they were caught cheating.

I’ve dated several men since then, most older than me, and they seemed to be in no hurry to even be in a committed relationship. Which is crazy to me that these men are mid-40s and still trying to hangout with the guys and party. I met a whole guy group of friends in Houston 2 years ago…all single, all 36–45 years old. They were throwing house parties during the quarantine…parties!! ��

When I was in grade school, I was told to get a degree, don’t get pregnant, just enjoy being single, make friends, keep dating, and the right man will find you.

Now that I have two degrees, traveled the world, developed hobbies, and avoided pregnancy…my doctors are telling me to just be a single mom because I’m running out of eggs as I type this message. �

I beat teenage pregnancy to be considering single motherhood at 41. �

Damn you, parents, counselors, pastors, and everyone who gave me that advice. I can’t get that time (or my eggs) back. I hate being single at this age!! ��

i am available. Single also. U can send me email lets start from somewhere. Na twins u go born oo. Carry am for mind

duyox2004:
I hate it. I’m 41, never married, no kids.

I’ve been close…twice. But ended both relationships when they were caught cheating.

I’ve dated several men since then, most older than me, and they seemed to be in no hurry to even be in a committed relationship. Which is crazy to me that these men are mid-40s and still trying to hangout with the guys and party. I met a whole guy group of friends in Houston 2 years ago…all single, all 36–45 years old. They were throwing house parties during the quarantine…parties!! ��

When I was in grade school, I was told to get a degree, don’t get pregnant, just enjoy being single, make friends, keep dating, and the right man will find you.

Now that I have two degrees, traveled the world, developed hobbies, and avoided pregnancy…my doctors are telling me to just be a single mom because I’m running out of eggs as I type this message. �

I beat teenage pregnancy to be considering single motherhood at 41. �

Damn you, parents, counselors, pastors, and everyone who gave me that advice. I can’t get that time (or my eggs) back. I hate being single at this age!! ��

it is not the end of the world.

you have to decide on what you want to do at this stage of life, right?

duyox2004:
I hate it. I’m 41, never married, no kids.

I’ve been close…twice. But ended both relationships when they were caught cheating.

I’ve dated several men since then, most older than me, and they seemed to be in no hurry to even be in a committed relationship. Which is crazy to me that these men are mid-40s and still trying to hangout with the guys and party. I met a whole guy group of friends in Houston 2 years ago…all single, all 36–45 years old. They were throwing house parties during the quarantine…parties!! ��

When I was in grade school, I was told to get a degree, don’t get pregnant, just enjoy being single, make friends, keep dating, and the right man will find you.

Now that I have two degrees, traveled the world, developed hobbies, and avoided pregnancy…my doctors are telling me to just be a single mom because I’m running out of eggs as I type this message. �

I beat teenage pregnancy to be considering single motherhood at 41. �

Damn you, parents, counselors, pastors, and everyone who gave me that advice. I can’t get that time (or my eggs) back. I hate being single at this age!! ��

If you hate being single then you should get a man. But the cheating part, animals are instinctively polygamous, the fact that we're more intelligent than most doesn't mean we're not animals still. If you can find a man or a woman who wouldn't cheat then the person has made a truly huge sacrifice for you suppressing that instinct, or the person, just like you (if I assume you don't "cheat" was forced to suppress it from adolescence. So there is no perfect man ... or woman. Find who you can live with and pretend not to notice the polygamous side (if na the only problem be that)

Good morning dear , I will like to know you better and be your partner for life. You can add me on Whatsapp 08090903490, 08082479718. I love u

mysticgal:
It’s so sad that a lot of people are going to fall into this thread advising and trolling women in a demeaning way, due to your story.

It’s pathetic you are doing Mr Peter Ade…., Most likely from ifetedo, oyo state or ekiti state, whichever of this profile is banked on the internet. I mean with your most likely failed blogging career…..

Going through your profile, you are man assuming to be a woman in order to stir the workings of all these sore woman haters, churning out vile and ugly comments. First off, you are not a woman, you are male COWard, a coward at that with no balls.

2. if you are a woman and you are single at over 30, own that shitt, Life continues, adopt kids. They are humans, find love in your place of religion, supermarket, dating sites and live the life out of your life.


You are pathetic op and go find a job or something, trolling even makes you more distasteful


*spits*

I noticed too. Good job you did. He's an imposter, with his ill motives.

duyox2004:
I hate it. I’m 41, never married, no kids.

I’ve been close…twice. But ended both relationships when they were caught cheating.

I’ve dated several men since then, most older than me, and they seemed to be in no hurry to even be in a committed relationship. Which is crazy to me that these men are mid-40s and still trying to hangout with the guys and party. I met a whole guy group of friends in Houston 2 years ago…all single, all 36–45 years old. They were throwing house parties during the quarantine…parties!! ��

When I was in grade school, I was told to get a degree, don’t get pregnant, just enjoy being single, make friends, keep dating, and the right man will find you.

Now that I have two degrees, traveled the world, developed hobbies, and avoided pregnancy…my doctors are telling me to just be a single mom because I’m running out of eggs as I type this message. �

I beat teenage pregnancy to be considering single motherhood at 41. �

Damn you, parents, counselors, pastors, and everyone who gave me that advice. I can’t get that time (or my eggs) back. I hate being single at this age!! ��

If you are ready, I am willing to give you 2boys before your menopause

mysticgal:
It’s so sad that a lot of people are going to fall into this thread advising and trolling women in a demeaning way, due to your story.

It’s pathetic you are doing Mr Peter Ade…., Most likely from ifetedo, oyo state or ekiti state, whichever of this profile is banked on the internet. I mean with your most likely failed blogging career…..

Going through your profile, you are man assuming to be a woman in order to stir the workings of all these sore woman haters, churning out vile and ugly comments. First off, you are not a woman, you are male COWard, a coward at that with no balls.

2. if you are a woman and you are single at over 30, own that shitt, Life continues, adopt kids. They are humans, find love in your place of religion, supermarket, dating sites and live the life out of your life.


You are pathetic op and go find a job or something, trolling even makes you more distasteful


*spits*

Chai!! U dey vex o!!!

Kobojunkie:
How can they be happy when they were raised by parents like yours to believe they need to have a man in their lives to complete them in some way?

Jesus Christ taught us that God Almighty made created some - male and female alike - Eunuchs from birth, some become Eunuchs in life and others chose to become Eunuchs for the sake of the Kingdom of God - Matthew 19 vs 5 - 15

Sadly, some of those who were created Eunuchs are indoctrinated by ignorant parents into believing they are meant to marry and reproduce, setting their life into confusion from their very beginning. It is not mandatory to marry or have companions. This choice ought to be left to individuals to make on their own and in their own time.

God made marital companionship a choice.... no one needs it to be happy,not even in old age. Those who don't have it can still be happy if they desire to be. And those who have it and are not happy can also choose to be happy regardless.

You left the message and attack the messenger.
Except you want to deny it, there are single parent (female folks most especially) who need companionship and father figure for their children but their ego & wokeness will never let them submit to their husband. Although, some men are sad excuses to be called men.
I've met quite a few but i won't broach that topic here.
All the friends spurring them on ( telling them to express themselves, live your life, go on social media and vent at men) would eventually get busy with their lives (family, career, businesses & their walk with God) and won't have the time to check up on their single parent friends, that is when the reality would dawn on these folks.
Loneliness is not good for one's health. I can point out many research that validates my claim.

duyox2004:
I hate it. I’m 41, never married, no kids.

I’ve been close…twice. But ended both relationships when they were caught cheating.

I’ve dated several men since then, most older than me, and they seemed to be in no hurry to even be in a committed relationship. Which is crazy to me that these men are mid-40s and still trying to hangout with the guys and party. I met a whole guy group of friends in Houston 2 years ago…all single, all 36–45 years old. They were throwing house parties during the quarantine…parties!! ��

When I was in grade school, I was told to get a degree, don’t get pregnant, just enjoy being single, make friends, keep dating, and the right man will find you.

Now that I have two degrees, traveled the world, developed hobbies, and avoided pregnancy…my doctors are telling me to just be a single mom because I’m running out of eggs as I type this message. �

I beat teenage pregnancy to be considering single motherhood at 41. �

Damn you, parents, counselors, pastors, and everyone who gave me that advice. I can’t get that time (or my eggs) back. I hate being single at this age!! ��

mind if we start up something serious?

This is from Quora. The OP lifted everything without including the source.

mysticgal:
What table sir, because it seems you eat off bare soil? I mean, how would you know about my table?
Write in full sentences sir, your data wouldn’t finish.
Happy Sunday

Ekpele! We dey here dey wait ya own wail when eggs dem near finish!

HenryDion:
Two degrees?

Time you should have used and settled down, you went for another degree?

At what age did you get your first degree?

You sound like one of these ladies with an over-bloated ego due to their achievements, hence unable to humble themselves and respect men with far less achievement.

Perhaps you were waiting for a man who has three degrees... Now instead of blaming yourself, you're blaming everyone around you.

Indeed, wisdom is rare.

You've seen where it landed you. Your only option now is to adapt and be a single mother. You sound financially okay, so that shouldn't be a problem.

Not the best time for bashing her…all she needs is support and hope….Theirs somebody definitely loving you but I guess you’re just not paying attention..If I say marry someone who will be faithful, with probably a degree, struggling financially. You probably prefer someone still single with a PhD and a millionaire..

If you are woman here and unmarried and childless in your 40s, get pregnant ASAP.
Else you will have a boring life from 50s upwards. No man. No child. No obligation. Loneliness will be your best friend.

izzou:
[color=royalblue]You are the first lady I'm seeing that's blaming everyone around her for her predicament, except herself.

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How she the first?? That's the factory setting of every girl! It is always the guys fault. When flavour, psquare and the likes sing, you see them admitting they messed up and want their woman back. But have you seen tiwa, yemi alade and Co ever admit in their songs that they messed up? Mba! They don't. They're always faultless in their relationship.

Hey there!

First of all... Stop blaming others for your predicament.

The advice was a great one.

Likely reasons were that you set an unrealistic standards of the kind of man you want.

Secondly, could be your character. Are you toxic? Do you blame others for your mistakes? Are you judgemental?

Thirdly, there was a tiny reason why those two guys cheated on you. Don't get me wrong, it was bad of them to cheat on you.

I thought Beyonce was going to walk away when he caught Jay Z cheating on her, but for some reason, she decided to make it work.

Perhaps if you made it work with one of those to whom you came very close marry, maybe who knows, you'd have a beautiful and happy family now.

Anyways, I guess you should go out there, while you're being careful of STDs, fxck and get pregnant. But be ready to take care of your child.

The baby daddy may end up proposing to you if he constantly gets peace from you.

Cheers!

duyox2004:
I hate it. I’m 41, never married, no kids.

I’ve been close…twice. But ended both relationships when they were caught cheating.

I’ve dated several men since then, most older than me, and they seemed to be in no hurry to even be in a committed relationship. Which is crazy to me that these men are mid-40s and still trying to hangout with the guys and party. I met a whole guy group of friends in Houston 2 years ago…all single, all 36–45 years old. They were throwing house parties during the quarantine…parties!! ��

When I was in grade school, I was told to get a degree, don’t get pregnant, just enjoy being single, make friends, keep dating, and the right man will find you.

Now that I have two degrees, traveled the world, developed hobbies, and avoided pregnancy…my doctors are telling me to just be a single mom because I’m running out of eggs as I type this message. �

I beat teenage pregnancy to be considering single motherhood at 41. �

Damn you, parents, counselors, pastors, and everyone who gave me that advice. I can’t get that time (or my eggs) back. I hate being single at this age!! ��

You copied and pasted this write up from Quora . Written an an American lady ..Your intention is to post it here to batch women Nigerian .Shame on you .

SARSCoV2:
Regrets!

You will be alone!

Trust me, it ends in regrets



You just be on social media forming artificial happiness

I asked my wife to inform her sister to go get pregnant because her time was ticking fast, 45 now,she said God forbid, she's waiting for a proper marriage. Though marriage came her way much later but she's finding it hard to conceive, now she wishes she had gotten a child to console her than the husband, because the man only came for the money and do not bothered about their childlessness, he's so useless that he's never work from the inception of the marriage.

Most men that marry single ladies in their forties are only in the marriage for some benefits sort of

My sister, you are the one who got it all wrong. Fine you were told to avoid teenage pregnancy which is true. But when it was right for you to get married most especially after your first degree, you believed in the saying that men are cheat, deceptive, wife beaters and most especially they can’t be trusted. All these insinuations are false about men except he has mental disorder.
For a matured lady to be happy and fulfilled, the following must be taking into consideration
1. Learn to forgive and let go off your past
2. Avoid listening to discouraging judgment and beliefs from people
3. Be contented and believe in yourself
4. Don’t put too much expectations on people and money
5. Don’t be sentimental wherever you find yourself