pinkygurl:

You are lucky to have a few eggs left.l know someone with a medical condition who hit early menopause in her early thirties!.
Just one advice for you ma'am. HARVEST AND FREEZE YOUR EGGS QUICKLY!!!!

Consult a fertility doctor quickly to preserve your eggs while they still can.Even if your eggs are totally lost & maybe u are MENOPAUSAL ALREADY,

I'd advise you to consider adopting or if in the upper middle class, buy eggs from egg bank.

Also bear in mind that with ivf, egg boosters exist medically & a post menopausal woman in her sixties in the usa gave birth.

Do not dispair.Give relationships another try, pray, plan , There is hope!
Do not give up on love.your soul mate might just be close!

We4all:


Attractive offer but it has to be through insemination and the pregnancy should be carried by another woman.

duyox2004:
I hate it. I’m 41, never married, no kids.

I’ve been close…twice. But ended both relationships when they were caught cheating.

I’ve dated several men since then, most older than me, and they seemed to be in no hurry to even be in a committed relationship. Which is crazy to me that these men are mid-40s and still trying to hangout with the guys and party. I met a whole guy group of friends in Houston 2 years ago…all single, all 36–45 years old. They were throwing house parties during the quarantine…parties!! ��

When I was in grade school, I was told to get a degree, don’t get pregnant, just enjoy being single, make friends, keep dating, and the right man will find you.

Now that I have two degrees, traveled the world, developed hobbies, and avoided pregnancy…my doctors are telling me to just be a single mom because I’m running out of eggs as I type this message. �

I beat teenage pregnancy to be considering single motherhood at 41. �

Damn you, parents, counselors, pastors, and everyone who gave me that advice. I can’t get that time (or my eggs) back. I hate being single at this age!! ��

Walkee:
oga he's a guy living in Oyo state. Check his old threads

Help2020:

She is pouring out her frustration so others can learn from it..This days our girls are not in a hurry to get married. They want to acquire all the degrees,and before you know they start running out of time.We have read countless numbers of time here on nairaland about some girls that told their guys how they want to finish school before marriage. And they do this in hope of finding a better partner in the university..

Kobojunkie:
How can they be happy when they were raised by parents like yours to believe they need to have a man in their lives to complete them in some way?

Jesus Christ taught us that God Almighty made created some - male and female alike - Eunuchs from birth, some become Eunuchs in life and others chose to become Eunuchs for the sake of the Kingdom of God - Matthew 19 vs 5 - 15

Sadly, some of those who were created Eunuchs are indoctrinated by ignorant parents into believing they are meant to marry and reproduce, setting their life into confusion from their very beginning. It is not mandatory to marry or have companions. This choice ought to be left to individuals to make on their own and in their own time.

God made marital companionship a choice.... no one needs it to be happy,not even in old age. Those who don't have it can still be happy if they desire to be. And those who have it and are not happy can also choose to be happy regardless.

mysticgal:
It’s so sad that a lot of people are going to fall into this thread advising and trolling women in a demeaning way, due to your story.

It’s pathetic you are doing Mr Peter Ade…., Most likely from ifetedo, oyo state or ekiti state, whichever of this profile is banked on the internet. I mean with your most likely failed blogging career…..

Going through your profile, you are man assuming to be a woman in order to stir the workings of all these sore woman haters, churning out vile and ugly comments. First off, you are not a woman, you are male COWard, a coward at that with no balls.

2. if you are a woman and you are single at over 30, own that shitt, Life continues, adopt kids. They are humans, find love in your place of religion, supermarket, dating sites and live the life out of your life.


You are pathetic op and go find a job or something, trolling even makes you more distasteful


*spits*

pocohantas:


Isn’t that the standard? Blame everyone but yourself?

That is why I will continue to commend Linda Ikeji for having that boy. She did what a right thinking woman should do. Not taking postinor 2 at 38.

If you want a child and you can cater for that child, by all means have that child. Even small girls of 21 are having their babies. Then a grown financially independent woman in her late 30s is somewhere asking “hope you didn’t cum inside”.

People must talk. When they are done talking, they will move on. With time they’ll appreciate the decision you took years ago.



I am 43. Not me.




No need for that. Menopause came early.

koning:




Most realistic, sensible and practical comment. If you are woman, 35yrs and above and financially stable, i really do not see why you would not allow a man you CHOSE to sleep with not to cum inside. That might be your last and only chance. Any man you choose to open your legs for is good enough for you and a potential baby daddy.

pocohantas:


Isn’t that the standard? Blame everyone but yourself?

That is why I will continue to commend Linda Ikeji for having that boy. She did what a right thinking woman should do. Not taking postinor 2 at 38.

If you want a child and you can cater for that child, by all means have that child. Even small girls of 21 are having their babies. Then a grown financially independent woman in her late 30s is somewhere asking “hope you didn’t cum inside”.

People must talk. When they are done talking, they will move on. With time they’ll appreciate the decision you took years ago.



I am 43. Not me.




No need for that. Menopause came early.

duyox2004:
I hate it. I’m 41, never married, no kids.

I’ve been close…twice. But ended both relationships when they were caught cheating.

I’ve dated several men since then, most older than me, and they seemed to be in no hurry to even be in a committed relationship. Which is crazy to me that these men are mid-40s and still trying to hangout with the guys and party. I met a whole guy group of friends in Houston 2 years ago…all single, all 36–45 years old. They were throwing house parties during the quarantine…parties!! ��

When I was in grade school, I was told to get a degree, don’t get pregnant, just enjoy being single, make friends, keep dating, and the right man will find you.

Now that I have two degrees, traveled the world, developed hobbies, and avoided pregnancy…my doctors are telling me to just be a single mom because I’m running out of eggs as I type this message. �

I beat teenage pregnancy to be considering single motherhood at 41. �

Damn you, parents, counselors, pastors, and everyone who gave me that advice. I can’t get that time (or my eggs) back. I hate being single at this age!! ��

Kobojunkie:
How can they be happy when they were raised by parents like yours to believe they need to have a man in their lives to complete them in some way?

Jesus Christ taught us that God Almighty made created some - male and female alike - Eunuchs from birth, some become Eunuchs in life and others chose to become Eunuchs for the sake of the Kingdom of God - Matthew 19 vs 5 - 15

Sadly, some of those who were created Eunuchs are indoctrinated by ignorant parents into believing they are meant to marry and reproduce, setting their life into confusion from their very beginning. It is not mandatory to marry or have companions. This choice ought to be left to individuals to make on their own and in their own time.

God made marital companionship a choice.... no one needs it to be happy,not even in old age. Those who don't have it can still be happy if they desire to be. And those who have it and are not happy can also choose to be happy regardless.

DeeMain:


How did it pan out for you?

duyox2004:
I hate it. I’m 41, never married, no kids.

I’ve been close…twice. But ended both relationships when they were caught cheating.

I’ve dated several men since then, most older than me, and they seemed to be in no hurry to even be in a committed relationship. Which is crazy to me that these men are mid-40s and still trying to hangout with the guys and party. I met a whole guy group of friends in Houston 2 years ago…all single, all 36–45 years old. They were throwing house parties during the quarantine…parties!! ��

When I was in grade school, I was told to get a degree, don’t get pregnant, just enjoy being single, make friends, keep dating, and the right man will find you.

Now that I have two degrees, traveled the world, developed hobbies, and avoided pregnancy…my doctors are telling me to just be a single mom because I’m running out of eggs as I type this message. �

I beat teenage pregnancy to be considering single motherhood at 41. �

Damn you, parents, counselors, pastors, and everyone who gave me that advice. I can’t get that time (or my eggs) back. I hate being single at this age!! ��

Anyahuruagu:
I actually discussed this with my folks the other time.

The single lifestyle of our generation affects the female gender more than the male gender.

When you age you will understand that the most important aspect of marriage is actually companionship, sex is while you are younger but as you age.

You need a confidant, a partner no matter how hard it is you need someone.

To our single women out there, please use the opportunity now.

I have met plenty aged single women, i must confess that 85% of them aren't happy with their life.

duyox2004:
I hate it. I’m 41, never married, no kids.


Damn you, parents, counselors, pastors, and everyone who gave me that advice. I can’t get that time (or my eggs) back. I hate being single at this age!! ��

mysticgal:

I could boil some for you, you know?

OLDESTWARRIBOY:
Those Men throwing parties. Talk to one of 'em so they can give you a kid. Are you not In Yankee...you might not even do the do, Artificial insemination. But if you want to do, no problem

Too much sense no go kill me??

pinkygurl:

You are lucky to have a few eggs left.l know someone with a medical condition who hit early menopause in her early thirties!.
Just one advice for you ma'am. HARVEST AND FREEZE YOUR EGGS QUICKLY!!!!
Consult a fertility doctor quickly to preserve your eggs while they still can.Even if your eggs are totally lost & maybe u are MENOPAUSAL ALREADY,
I'd advise you to consider adopting or if in the upper middle class, buy eggs from egg bank.
Also bear in mind that with ivf, egg boosters exist medically & a post menopausal woman in her sixties in the usa gave birth.
Do not dispair.Give relationships another try, pray, plan , There is hope!
Do not give up on love.your soul mate might just be close!

icecool12:
Standards, parents expectations.

There’s nothing wrong in being a single mother, so I’d suggest it. I know an aunt who never got married. When she hit 4th floor, my grandma advised her to have one or two children but she refused. Today she’s about 76, lonely, ashamed, miserable and hardly visits home. So please, have a child or two.

justscorchone:


Make I no lie, I would still smash you given the chance.

MALIGNANTGuest:

MEN are tired of being demeaned by these New Generation of Empowered Ladies.
Enough of all the insults.
They should get mannequins or vibrators.

smartasuen:
Sister, truth be told, it's either a physical or spiritual problem. Physical in the sense that your attitude towards people (men especially) may not have been appealing. Spiritual, being that it may be a Spiritual husband issue or some other family background issue robbing you of your marriage.

Nonetheless, the good news is; You have a God who reforms, repairs and revolutionizes. Work on your character, maintain an excellent hygiene, keep an inviting countenance (be of good cheers always).
Take some time to fast and pray! Deliverance either comes directly from above or through an instrument. Allow God lead you to a genuine ministry where you can become free indeed.

God bless you and I hope your next post will be the testimony of a fruitful marriage.