MrPresent:
This is a true life story.

The lady in question is so confused on what to do.

Please advise her responsibly:

(Matured Minds Only)

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Good morning, I am married into a very wealthy home, my husband is the eldest child, they are four, 3 male and a female.

Last two years I got a nanny, she's 32 years, my husband is in charge of his father company, his father has houses everywhere around the world but he's leaving with us, because of loneliness, he lost his wife 12yrs ago and since then he refused to marry again, he's 65years old but still young, I have a supermarket, so my nanny cook and takes care of the home while I'm away, my nanny has been sleeping with my father in-law but I didn't know, March this year we found out she's pregnant and she said it was papa that was responsible, when I ask her how long she has been sleeping with him she said since last year.

I was shouting at her when my husband shut me up that I shouldn't talk to her like that, that she's not a child, my own house help! When my husband talk to his father about it, he said the girl, that is my nanny has been his companion that he wants to marry her, mogbe I said over my dead body, my own maid, instead of my husband to be on my side he said if marrying the girl will make his father Happy that he has his support, the house we are living is build by my father in-law, it's a duplex, Mummy as am writing you my husband and his brothers followed my father in-law to pay my nanny dowry, they came back yesterday.

I didn't go with the children because I can't Believe my father in-law stoop so low to marry my maid when there are other women out there, last night I was talking to my husband and he told me to stop referring her as my nanny that she's now Married to his father therefore I should be calling her "Aunty mi", and my kids who usually call her Aunty should start calling her "Mummy", and I asked him what will she be calling me, he said anything she likes.

I am just here crying, someone I brought into my home has now turned madam over me, what should I do, and I can't tell my husband to rent another apartment when he has a duplex, papa can't leave either because he want to be close to his son, how long can I take this, please I need advice. Thanks. Married for 10years.

What a Life!

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the who story shows that you are a wicked soul, you said over your dead body you see you good thing coming to your nanny and the deal is done already and it's time for you to die. Wicked woman

Biglittlelois:
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How will you feel if your mother gets pregnant for your driver and end up marrying him

As long as the driver genuinely love her and makes her happy... I'll support them. Drivers are humans..some are even more educated and enlightened than those working in the office. It's just lack of opportunity.

Madam writer, You are the problem in this context, not the so called "nanny".... Is she not a woman like you, w@'s your problem? If your father-in-law finds her desirable and even have the willingness to pay her bride price, you should be happy for her, but as expected, you won't, because ur bad belle is too much.
You came to nairaland to cry foul, to gain ghost sympathy, pele o! Sisi...
When you start treating/accepting your former "maid" a 32 year old full blown responsible adult as a "woman" being, your mind would be totally@ rest....
Lemme ask, what's the reason for the unnecessary anger towards the woman?
We women are the cause of our problems, the earlier you admit you are the problem, the better for you....[color=#770077][/color]

Live to cope with it.
This one happened in one of my neighbors home in Onitsha, a home that have 5 male servants and two female house help.
One of the male servants took a shine for one of the female servants, who was maltreated much by the madam of the home.
He promised her if our master settled me, I will marry you and so it happened.
The male servants came from his master village, and the female servant came from another village
That means the woman was now married into the master's, village where the her former madam was married into.
In one of the so called August meeting there was an uproar.
Her former madam insisted that it was beneath her dignity for her former servant to share in the dance of Egwu Umunwanyi Ndi Agbala.
The women leader shouted her down. Live to cope with, She is married and so it stays so, and now she is one of us, hooha.
if not you will dance Surugede Egwu ndimuo.

Biglittlelois:
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How will you feel if your mother gets pregnant for your driver and end up marrying him

The same men who lament women sleeping with drivers are suddenly in support of it.

People are so insincere. Suddenly everyone is going to accept such an incident and cheer it on.

Why haven't more wealthy people married the street sweepers, the vulcanizers? Aren't they humans, too?

Same forum that a man said he couldn't marry a girl because she didn't go to the university, and other men (and even women) came to support his decision to marry someone more educated/in his class? The same people who are against class mixing?? Same story repeats itself daily and this is suddenly their reaction.

Lol.

Ur write up shows the kind of person u are. O cos she was brought in as a maid, so she is not human, what makes u so special?
Remember you are doing madam under ur father-in-law's roof, what happens if he dies and wills everything to the other kids and u guys are left with nothing, where do u start from or continue to boast about. Babe go learn to live in love with ur new stepmother in-law.

This is what they call super story

The woman should calm down
Pray for divine direction

It is well

Biglittlelois:
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How will you feel if your mother gets pregnant for your driver and end up marrying him

How do the two issues you are comparing correlate in any way, abeg?

Just avoid clashes with her, I think she's (nanny) sensible enough not to interfer with your family.

Be the nanny to your own family avoid employing another one before you lose your husband.

crackhaus:

This woman don't have sense. She will just die for nothing..

I wonder what makes her think she's more special or on a higher level than a maid.

Abi is it not the same vagina both of them are carrying, or does her own taste like strawberry and smell like fresh roses?

Wonderful!!

I've said it before and it's a fact that women look down on other women than men looking down on women.

...and if we look a little further we will discover she was also brought into the marriage from the village or at best very basic background. She's suffering from reverse-inferiority complex

She's even more stupid than expected... aif she applied wisdom, she should have been in the forefront of organizing the maid for Baba...had she done that, the maid would have been eternally grateful and she would still have a hold on her... now she will be severely dealt with, all the molestation on the nanny will be avenged

I dived into this thread thinking she was involved with her husband. Madam let me be frank with you..SUCH IS LIFE..if your father in-law decides to love n marry your nanny it is his choice n u can never change that. I will advice you to accept her n try to be close to her even if u treated her bad as your nanny. Call her n make peace with her tell her to forget everything in the past that's when u will have peace within yourself. Remember she's above u now and any wrong step u make she can have u thrown out or make life uncomfortable for you in your husband's house. Swallow the pride n make peace with her if u value your marriage. Thank you.

Live with her like a sister Love her and you won't see any trouble .

MrPresent:
This is a true life story.

The lady in question is so confused on what to do.

Please advise her responsibly:

(Matured Minds Only)

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Good morning, I am married into a very wealthy home, my husband is the eldest child, they are four, 3 male and a female.

Last two years I got a nanny, she's 32 years, my husband is in charge of his father company, his father has houses everywhere around the world but he's leaving with us, because of loneliness, he lost his wife 12yrs ago and since then he refused to marry again, he's 65years old but still young, I have a supermarket, so my nanny cook and takes care of the home while I'm away, my nanny has been sleeping with my father in-law but I didn't know, March this year we found out she's pregnant and she said it was papa that was responsible, when I ask her how long she has been sleeping with him she said since last year.

I was shouting at her when my husband shut me up that I shouldn't talk to her like that, that she's not a child, my own house help! When my husband talk to his father about it, he said the girl, that is my nanny has been his companion that he wants to marry her, mogbe I said over my dead body, my own maid, instead of my husband to be on my side he said if marrying the girl will make his father Happy that he has his support, the house we are living is build by my father in-law, it's a duplex, Mummy as am writing you my husband and his brothers followed my father in-law to pay my nanny dowry, they came back yesterday.

I didn't go with the children because I can't Believe my father in-law stoop so low to marry my maid when there are other women out there, last night I was talking to my husband and he told me to stop referring her as my nanny that she's now Married to his father therefore I should be calling her "Aunty mi", and my kids who usually call her Aunty should start calling her "Mummy", and I asked him what will she be calling me, he said anything she likes.

I am just here crying, someone I brought into my home has now turned madam over me, what should I do, and I can't tell my husband to rent another apartment when he has a duplex, papa can't leave either because he want to be close to his son, how long can I take this, please I need advice. Thanks. Married for 10years.

What a Life!

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Biglittlelois:
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How will you feel if your mother gets pregnant for your driver and end up marrying him

If my mother is a widow, wishes to remarry, I will be happy for her. You people are so immature. You care about your own image at the detriment of the happiness of the people in question

I will be happy for my mother, stop being a sadist.

Biglittlelois:
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How will you feel if your mother gets pregnant for your driver and end up marrying him

Biglittlelois:
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How will you feel if your mother gets pregnant for your driver and end up marrying him

Biglittlelois:

I'm not asking of your mum's decisions, I'm asking of your outward emotions and reaction to what she did,

The wife the Op talked about expressed her feelings on what her father in law did, which in her right she is justified, no one will be happy of such a scenario except we want to deceive ourselves, and I for one do not like to deceive myself.

If your mother gets pregnant for your driver, you will not be happy about it, but you just have to accept her decision to marry him.

Sister, naturally it is painful. And then, they said the woman should be kneeling down, etc. Lol.

Well, the truth is that the father has his life to live, and can choose anywhere. The right thing is that the woman and the man leave the house for the father and the nanny. And the right thing is that the woman shouldnt have objected to it. She should have played along. The thing is that the nanny herself will respect herself too. But I assume that since she showed she is against it, the nanny will show her pepper. And mind you, she has the right to the property of the man even before her husband. Lol. This is the truth.

So, I think the woman is proud and also depending on the wealth of the father inlaw. If she wants peace, let her move out and let the new wife take over the affair of the man. After all, most women dont want to live with the inlaw. But cos the man is super rich, she doesn't mind, and knowing her husband is the eldest and willl take over the property. She was married into the house too. Lol.

So, this is life. If she is the friend of the woman, they can even control the affairs even more than the children of the inlaw. But she has allowed pride to set in. See eh...she is better to even make the nanny her friend and accept her as equal. Now that she is proud, she is relegated. It's with friendliness and jokes she willl do it na. Even she will tell the old man that she is still the wife oooo...and if she messes up, she will deal with the nanny cos she is still her girl despite mummy now. She will use style attach herself to the girl more and that is how the man will even like her more. See eh...the kind properties the man will will to her sef, she will not believe it. The man willl review the will instantly. And the way the nanny will be attaching herself to her and not do anytning without hearing from her will be super...thereby still in charge. But some people are daft. Na to be proud.

It is painful, but she has lost her chance. She better make the lady her friend, and pack pit of the house fast to have self dignity and not lose her respect futher. If her children calls the nanny- mummy, what's wrong in that? So what? Its pride worrying her.

Painful, but she can easily adjust. Before she knows it, they will blend like sisters. Is she not supposed to be a sister? Poverty is a b.astard. See eh! Get rich ooo. The way the inlaw would have been ridiculed if he wasn't rich....mehn! This woman would have told the husband to throw him out. But the man is super rich, look at how the glutton has relegated herself. The next is that she will start using juju. See eh...she will injure herself if she tries to harm that lady.

MrPresent:
This is a true life story.

The lady in question is so confused on what to do.

Please advise her responsibly:

(Matured Minds Only)

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Good morning, I am married into a very wealthy home, my husband is the eldest child, they are four, 3 male and a female.

Last two years I got a nanny, she's 32 years, my husband is in charge of his father company, his father has houses everywhere around the world but he's leaving with us, because of loneliness, he lost his wife 12yrs ago and since then he refused to marry again, he's 65years old but still young, I have a supermarket, so my nanny cook and takes care of the home while I'm away, my nanny has been sleeping with my father in-law but I didn't know, March this year we found out she's pregnant and she said it was papa that was responsible, when I ask her how long she has been sleeping with him she said since last year.

I was shouting at her when my husband shut me up that I shouldn't talk to her like that, that she's not a child, my own house help! When my husband talk to his father about it, he said the girl, that is my nanny has been his companion that he wants to marry her, mogbe I said over my dead body, my own maid, instead of my husband to be on my side he said if marrying the girl will make his father Happy that he has his support, the house we are living is build by my father in-law, it's a duplex, Mummy as am writing you my husband and his brothers followed my father in-law to pay my nanny dowry, they came back yesterday.

I didn't go with the children because I can't Believe my father in-law stoop so low to marry my maid when there are other women out there, last night I was talking to my husband and he told me to stop referring her as my nanny that she's now Married to his father therefore I should be calling her "Aunty mi", and my kids who usually call her Aunty should start calling her "Mummy", and I asked him what will she be calling me, he said anything she likes.

I am just here crying, someone I brought into my home has now turned madam over me, what should I do, and I can't tell my husband to rent another apartment when he has a duplex, papa can't leave either because he want to be close to his son, how long can I take this, please I need advice. Thanks. Married for 10years.

What a Life!

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Just saw the highlighted part. Well, the said person should forgive me for the harsh way I responded. But I dont want to edit it. If I had known she would be reading, I would have been merciful.

Anyway, the point is that:

1. She should humble herself. I know its painful, but she has to do it.

2. She should leave the house fast. If not, the kind of disgrace she will get. And then, the husband will be brutal to her cos the man will not want to offend her dad. Na person wey get money dey talk oooo.

3. She should go and make peace with the inlaw and promise him that she will be supporting the new wife and that she is still her big sister. If the nanny is older, she will know how to say it and still supervise her. Simple.

4. She should make the lady her friend and push her up. Let her upgrade the lady. Take her out to shop where she can get quality like what she is wearing. Order from abroad for her too. Let her be a befitting wife for the inlaw.

5. Let her still be visiting and supervising the lady. This is what she should do.

6. Make the woman respect her more, and close her eyes to the properties of the man. Let her just be a friend of the woman.

7. For her own peace, if the said woman starts misbehaving, she shouldnt interfere. Her children and her husband is her priority. Let her just not worry about financial God from.the man. Her husband should be her focus.

8. If she practises the above, either the nanny will later make her the real mummy of the family, or the whole family makes her the mummy cos the any messes up. Either will happen. And she should see the nanny as the wife of the man. Shw deserves all respect. She doesnt have to be kneel for her or calls her aunty. Nope. Let her go and ask yoruba people in Lagos. They know how to use funny names. Lol. Funny names that will be respectful and will not relegate her. The nanny will be the one full of respect.

The ball is in her court. There is no one God cannot promote. Let her remember the story of Esther in the Bible. There were many outstanding women there before here, but God lifted her. Let her not block the way for the girl, and let her not make herself the enemy here. The only say out is to accept her and be humble. And then she should play her game well.

Biglittlelois:



Do you know the difference between feeling and decision?

So the said Nanny and the father in-law should be more concern about your own feelings rather than theirs? Oh chim

This woman willingly gave her food to dogs...why?

1.She employed matured lady as nanny

2.She left the care of the house to this said lady

3.She failed to monitor her viginalnometer from over speeding untop of Dickson's highway

4. She already lost the support of her husband and his relatives....


It won't be a surprise if this woman is kicked out in the nearest future.


To all our ladies,buy and use sense to build your home,don't allow laziness kill you.

Approach your ex nanny to settle you some shares before she gets bolder for bringing her to limelight then rest ur mind. E don occur already

You are even Lucky it's not your Husband that the nanny kolobi and you are here lamenting. "you cant Imagine your father In-law stoop so low". mumu talk maybe you are even from a very poor and wretched family before you married into that family and you're here calling Nanny low. Na god catch you

crackhaus:

This woman don't have sense. She will just die for nothing..

I wonder what makes her think she's more special or on a higher level than a maid.

Abi is it not the same vagina both of them are carrying, or does her own taste like strawberry and smell like fresh roses?

Wonderful!!

I've said it before and it's a fact that women look down on other women than men looking down on women.

Just look at the dehumanizing tone of the story. A single elderly adult wants to settle down with a single 30 something year old woman. What's the problem here?

Abi is the writer worried about reaping the result of her treatment of the former "housemaid"?

Women generally hate themselves. I need to ask you a question madam op. The nanny is a woman with flesh and blood running in her veins also. She's of age to marry 32 as you have said. She's making your husband dad happy with good sex styles and cooking. Why not embrace her and talk to her one on one. Let her know you mean good for her as well that's why you brought her to work their and since things has turned the other way around you are happy instead of being cold towards her. Bring bitter about her will not guarantee your own 100% stay in that duplex since your own husband supported his dad. It seems you must be a wicked wife. You are married and happy and doesn't want your human being like you to be married and happy also

Why are you tormenting yourself. Did she snatch your husband from you?.. No..
Move out with your husband or let your father in-law move out with his new wife because you are having two confirmed married family in the same apartment now. .

MrPresent:
This is a true life story.

The lady in question is so confused on what to do.

Please advise her responsibly:

(Matured Minds Only)

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Good morning, I am married into a very wealthy home, my husband is the eldest child, they are four, 3 male and a female.

Last two years I got a nanny, she's 32 years, my husband is in charge of his father company, his father has houses everywhere around the world but he's leaving with us, because of loneliness, he lost his wife 12yrs ago and since then he refused to marry again, he's 65years old but still young, I have a supermarket, so my nanny cook and takes care of the home while I'm away, my nanny has been sleeping with my father in-law but I didn't know, March this year we found out she's pregnant and she said it was papa that was responsible, when I ask her how long she has been sleeping with him she said since last year.

I was shouting at her when my husband shut me up that I shouldn't talk to her like that, that she's not a child, my own house help! When my husband talk to his father about it, he said the girl, that is my nanny has been his companion that he wants to marry her, mogbe I said over my dead body, my own maid, instead of my husband to be on my side he said if marrying the girl will make his father Happy that he has his support, the house we are living is build by my father in-law, it's a duplex, Mummy as am writing you my husband and his brothers followed my father in-law to pay my nanny dowry, they came back yesterday.

I didn't go with the children because I can't Believe my father in-law stoop so low to marry my maid when there are other women out there, last night I was talking to my husband and he told me to stop referring her as my nanny that she's now Married to his father therefore I should be calling her "Aunty mi", and my kids who usually call her Aunty should start calling her "Mummy", and I asked him what will she be calling me, he said anything she likes.

I am just here crying, someone I brought into my home has now turned madam over me, what should I do, and I can't tell my husband to rent another apartment when he has a duplex, papa can't leave either because he want to be close to his son, how long can I take this, please I need advice. Thanks. Married for 10years.

What a Life!

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Nothing wrong in your nanny marrying to our father in law. Get another maid and put her In her God giving new status.

Lucretia the domina of the house don't want her slave to marry the pater familias and supercede her level.

Biglittlelois:



When it involves family? Very funny.

What is very funny is your immature reasoning... the best you can do in such situations is to accept it and be happy for them...else you can only sulk...

MrPresent:
This is a true life story.

The lady in question is so confused on what to do.

Please advise her responsibly:

(Matured Minds Only)

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Good morning, I am married into a very wealthy home, my husband is the eldest child, they are four, 3 male and a female.

Last two years I got a nanny, she's 32 years, my husband is in charge of his father company, his father has houses everywhere around the world but he's leaving with us, because of loneliness, he lost his wife 12yrs ago and since then he refused to marry again, he's 65years old but still young, I have a supermarket, so my nanny cook and takes care of the home while I'm away, my nanny has been sleeping with my father in-law but I didn't know, March this year we found out she's pregnant and she said it was papa that was responsible, when I ask her how long she has been sleeping with him she said since last year.

I was shouting at her when my husband shut me up that I shouldn't talk to her like that, that she's not a child, my own house help! When my husband talk to his father about it, he said the girl, that is my nanny has been his companion that he wants to marry her, mogbe I said over my dead body, my own maid, instead of my husband to be on my side he said if marrying the girl will make his father Happy that he has his support, the house we are living is build by my father in-law, it's a duplex, Mummy as am writing you my husband and his brothers followed my father in-law to pay my nanny dowry, they came back yesterday.

I didn't go with the children because I can't Believe my father in-law stoop so low to marry my maid when there are other women out there, last night I was talking to my husband and he told me to stop referring her as my nanny that she's now Married to his father therefore I should be calling her "Aunty mi", and my kids who usually call her Aunty should start calling her "Mummy", and I asked him what will she be calling me, he said anything she likes.

I am just here crying, someone I brought into my home has now turned madam over me, what should I do, and I can't tell my husband to rent another apartment when he has a duplex, papa can't leave either because he want to be close to his son, how long can I take this, please I need advice. Thanks. Married for 10years.

What a Life!

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The problem of this woman is pride !
No where in this story did she accuse the maid of being rude or nasty to her (though she's a fornicator!). The only problem is that she doesn't want to accept that the maid's status has been elevated.. which boils down to pride and envy..

Biglittlelois:



A logical response, and @bolded, I'm glad you see my point that selfish traits has nothing to do with a particular gender but humans generally, no man or woman will be happy seeing his father getting married to their maid, no man or woman will be happy seeing his/her mother get pregnant and marry their driver,

All these idiots coming online, opening their dirty mouth/typing with their hands, making it seem as if being unconformable or going against what is not the norm is a woman thing of hating each other, are fools I have to say, fools too stupid and ignorant to accept reality to know that it is okay to hate what you hate.

Exactly

Reason the duplex didn't belong to ur husband rather your husband's papa house.... Papa have the full right in his house.......

So, chill madam.....

What has happened has happen................

sonofElElyon:


The problem of this woman is pride !
No where in this story did she accuse the maid of being rude or nasty to her (though she's a fornicator!). The only problem is that she doesn't want to accept that the maid's status has been elevated.. which boils down to pride and envy..

Is it easy? Is it easy to accept? As a landlord if economy forces you to sell house to tenant of 5 years, is it easy to call him your landlord?

spinna:
Why not be happy for the girl and accept her and await your own change of levels..this story is a parable against pride

so,to u,32yr old is a girl?nawa for u!