Biglittlelois:
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How will you feel if your mother gets pregnant for your driver and end up marrying him

I really do think it’s different from that of OP. Women practice hypergamy way more than men. If you check very well, the said woman might have entered that same home as a nobody or wasn’t up to there social status. It is a common eyesight all over, where we see women get married to someone who is way more higher than them in the social class.

The woman is not wise, how? She's still the madam of the house as far as she's married to the senior son because very soon papa will die and the senior son takes over making you the most senior wife and immediately after papa dies the wife might as well leave the house for you guys. She should just calm down and be patient.

MrPresent:
This is a true life story.

The lady in question is so confused on what to do.

Please advise her responsibly:

(Matured Minds Only)

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Good morning, I am married into a very wealthy home, my husband is the eldest child, they are four, 3 male and a female.

Last two years I got a nanny, she's 32 years, my husband is in charge of his father company, his father has houses everywhere around the world but he's leaving with us, because of loneliness, he lost his wife 12yrs ago and since then he refused to marry again, he's 65years old but still young, I have a supermarket, so my nanny cook and takes care of the home while I'm away, my nanny has been sleeping with my father in-law but I didn't know, March this year we found out she's pregnant and she said it was papa that was responsible, when I ask her how long she has been sleeping with him she said since last year.

I was shouting at her when my husband shut me up that I shouldn't talk to her like that, that she's not a child, my own house help! When my husband talk to his father about it, he said the girl, that is my nanny has been his companion that he wants to marry her, mogbe I said over my dead body, my own maid, instead of my husband to be on my side he said if marrying the girl will make his father Happy that he has his support, the house we are living is build by my father in-law, it's a duplex, Mummy as am writing you my husband and his brothers followed my father in-law to pay my nanny dowry, they came back yesterday.

I didn't go with the children because I can't Believe my father in-law stoop so low to marry my maid when there are other women out there, last night I was talking to my husband and he told me to stop referring her as my nanny that she's now Married to his father therefore I should be calling her "Aunty mi", and my kids who usually call her Aunty should start calling her "Mummy", and I asked him what will she be calling me, he said anything she likes.

I am just here crying, someone I brought into my home has now turned madam over me, what should I do, and I can't tell my husband to rent another apartment when he has a duplex, papa can't leave either because he want to be close to his son, how long can I take this, please I need advice. Thanks. Married for 10years.

What a Life!

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What Are Your Thoughts?

She would be in the comment section reading.

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Who the hell does this woman think she is? She keeps shouting my househelp, my maid upandan as if she owns the woman's life or she gave her life?

What right or justification does she have to say Baba cannot marry a 32 year old, he is happy with, simply because Baba's choice is her maid?

I understand you will be reading comments, so know that you are all shades of wrong with your attitude and stance on this. Now that they are married what do you plan to do? Poison your maid because you think she is not good enough?

Your attitude stinks to the high heavens and back, and I am really restraining myself from saying more because we were asked to advise you responsibly. What you did was wrong, you don't cry foul simply because the woman was your maid.

Is a maid not a decent enough human being like you? Who is worthy of the good things in life and worthy of a wealthy spouse too? You think because of her station. Put urself in the madams shoes to talk is cheap.

If you examine this lady cry blood, she is a gold digger. She don see big and wealthy family and she thought all that glitters is gold. Now she can't comprehend that someone could use the same tool she used. If she were from a wealthy home her husband wouldn't be talking to her like that. He knows she aren't going no where.

Biglittlelois:



I'm not asking of your mum's decisions, I'm asking of your outward emotions and reaction to what she did,

The wife the Op talked about expressed her feelings on what her father in law did, which in her right she is justified, no one will be happy of such a scenario except we want to deceive ourselves, and I for one do not like to deceive myself.

If your mother gets pregnant for your driver, you will not be happy about it, but you just have to accept her decision to marry him.

I am sure the woman’s husband and his brothers are not exactly joyful at their father’s actions and decisions but they have to accept it for peace sake.

Biglittlelois:



I'm not asking of your mum's decisions, I'm asking of your outward emotions and reaction to what she did,

The wife the Op talked about expressed her feelings on what her father in law did, which in her right she is justified, no one will be happy of such a scenario except we want to deceive ourselves, and I for one do not like to deceive myself.

If your mother gets pregnant for your driver, you will not be happy about it, but you just have to accept her decision to marry him.

If my widowed mother fallsin love with my driver, U would respect it, as would a lot of men. They are adults, and I have little say un how they should live their lives

Styluss:
would she have gotten pregnant if the old man was poor?

Would the wife had married the son if the family was poor? Whatever you answer applies to the maid

Madam park well...

The nanny has done nothing wrong. Did she snatch your husband. Did she interfere in your marital affairs. Did she stop respecting you. Doesn't your father in-law deserve to be happy? What I see here is envy and someone like you can poison her nanny or housemaid simply because she's living happily. Ladies like you believes that nannies have to be maltreated because they are third class citizens. If am your husband, I will divorce you because your heart is wicked towards your fellow woman. You want happiness in your marriage but don't want others to be happy. A 32 year old nanny is no longer a child and your father in-law deserves to be happy and feel loved again after losing his wife for too long.
Let me remind you that no condition is permanent. Joseph was once a houseboy in Portiphas' house just like your nanny was before God remembered him and placed him high after going through prison experience.

She was once your nanny but not any more. Do you expect your husband to support you. Your father in-law has been so lonely and he needed a companion. Now he has found one irrespective of how it happened. You have to respect that. I'd advise you to tell your husband if y'all can move out or if you can convince your husband to tell his father to look for somewhere else to stay since he has multiple houses. If he oblige to do that, it's fine. If he refused. Then you just have to live with that. From your reaction I believe the nanny isn't such a rude freak to you. Don't be scared. He's not going to snatch your hubby or maybe I think you're scared of some of the inheritance your hubby will loose access to since your father in-law now has a new wife and an unborn baby

Nisiw365:
Would the wife have married the husband if he was poor?

Our tots are the same

Madam, truth is that the reality of life is dawn on you. Move on. I guessed that the maid has met her destiny helper, she is a human as well.
Life could be painful sometimes, I feel your pain; take heart.

MrPresent:
This is a true life story.

The lady in question is so confused on what to do.

Please advise her responsibly:

(Matured Minds Only)

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Good morning, I am married into a very wealthy home, my husband is the eldest child, they are four, 3 male and a female.

Last two years I got a nanny, she's 32 years, my husband is in charge of his father company, his father has houses everywhere around the world but he's leaving with us, because of loneliness, he lost his wife 12yrs ago and since then he refused to marry again, he's 65years old but still young, I have a supermarket, so my nanny cook and takes care of the home while I'm away, my nanny has been sleeping with my father in-law but I didn't know, March this year we found out she's pregnant and she said it was papa that was responsible, when I ask her how long she has been sleeping with him she said since last year.

I was shouting at her when my husband shut me up that I shouldn't talk to her like that, that she's not a child, my own house help! When my husband talk to his father about it, he said the girl, that is my nanny has been his companion that he wants to marry her, mogbe I said over my dead body, my own maid, instead of my husband to be on my side he said if marrying the girl will make his father Happy that he has his support, the house we are living is build by my father in-law, it's a duplex, Mummy as am writing you my husband and his brothers followed my father in-law to pay my nanny dowry, they came back yesterday.

I didn't go with the children because I can't Believe my father in-law stoop so low to marry my maid when there are other women out there, last night I was talking to my husband and he told me to stop referring her as my nanny that she's now Married to his father therefore I should be calling her "Aunty mi", and my kids who usually call her Aunty should start calling her "Mummy", and I asked him what will she be calling me, he said anything she likes.

I am just here crying, someone I brought into my home has now turned madam over me, what should I do, and I can't tell my husband to rent another apartment when he has a duplex, papa can't leave either because he want to be close to his son, how long can I take this, please I need advice. Thanks. Married for 10years.

What a Life!

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What Are Your Thoughts?

She would be in the comment section reading.

All i see here is destiny playing out for the nanny, they say destiny can be delayed but not denial. The so called Madam shuld just let things be as be now for her own good cuz u cant fight against destiny. My 2 cent.

What if it is your husband that impregnated her??

Biglittlelois:
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How will you feel if your mother gets pregnant for your driver and end up marrying him

if that's wat makes my mother happy. She has her life to live

You are not the first to have this kind of experience...my mother's house help was also pregnanted and married by my grand father whom his wife was even still alive then....so face your own home and try to convince your husband for you people to move out to a separate apartment/location...
Good luck...

Daboomb:


Its her Life, her vagina and her problem.
I might feel unhappy initially, l am human but then, as long as my Driver and my Mother can provide for their own space and let me also control my own space, the Sky is big enough for all Birds to fly.

But the story is a bit different from your analogy.
In this case, the father of her husband has lost his wife, so he has a right to re-marry and be happy (not that he is cheating on anyone).
Secondly, Women generally need to understand that it is their responsibility to their Home and Husband, that makes them a Wife, not Sex as most Women think.
If you shirk you responsibility to your Husband and Home and allow a Nanny to do it, the affection of the beneficiaries, including your Children, will shift to the Nanny who provides those Services and before long, you will be wailing "Over my dead body".
Nnaa, die naa, Life will continue. This is the reality of Life

Finally, Nannies, HouseMaids, House Boys, Drivers, Cleaners, Cooks, etc are all Humanbeings too though, of lower Social Standing but if by your own actions or in-actions, you elevate them above their Social Standing, they can and will compete with you or even out-compete you with your Spouse.

As a Husband, l wont let my Driver or even my "best Friend" dolt over my Wife, in the name of "helping Mummy" or do certain things a Husband should do to his Wife, because l know the long term implications.
E get as e be.

BTW: Wife's Father in-law and his new wife should not live together with his son and wife.
Father in-law is no longer lonely, his Son should go and buy another House and live with his "over my dead body" wife.
Too much familiarity breeds Contempt. Each Wife shoudl respect the other.

, Wife that uses 32 years woman as maid and both living together in his husband’s house, nobi mumu be that. She is lazy to play a wife role and smart maid seized the opportunity to climb the ladder with father in-law. The world is a survival of the fittest.

Why are some woman so greedy ,there's love in sharing something god is not for one person..by the way how many you too don share your toto with before marrying the man abeg packwell joor

Biglittlelois:



A logical response, and @bolded, I'm glad you see my point that selfish traits has nothing to do with a particular gender but humans generally, no man or woman will be happy seeing his father getting married to their maid, no man or woman will be happy seeing his/her mother get pregnant and marry their driver,

All these idiots coming online, opening their dirty mouth/typing with their hands, making it seem as if being unconformable or going against what is not the norm is a woman thing of hating each other, are fools I have to say, fools too stupid and ignorant to accept reality to know that it is okay to hate what you hate.

The son sees no wrong in it, he supports the union. The woman has no say in such decision. But I kind of understand where she’s coming from. Inherently, it’s going to feel weird adjusting to the whole scenerio.

OyekuMeji:
What are the lessons to be learnt here. When you decide to hire a nanny, do not hire an adult nanny with black bush, big bakassi & big, succulent boobs.

You see, the Preek & Toto are designed ELECTROMAGNETICALLY to transmit surface waves that communicate even without the consent & awareness of the owners.

Now, let us use a mathematical example to explain the variables.

If the ratio of two variables (x and y) is equal to a constant ( Temptation = Preek / Toto), then the variable in the numerator of the ratio (y) can be product of the other variable and the constant ( Preek = Temptation + Toto ).

In this case Toto is said to be directly proportional to Preek with proportionality constant K (which is Temptation).

Now, if you do not understand the equation about and need a demonstration, I need 3 female volunteers from the major tribes: Hausa, Yoruba & Igbo - with bakassi & black bushes.

Eya!!. Naso femi adesina take start

well, all those commenting this and dat .what if u uarself is the one in this madam shoes, stop talking about this madam. talk n advise urself . i think many here are even more selfish than this madam with her nanny. people can just come out and be talking anyhow Hypocrites everywhere.

Let us assume she has been treating the nanny well and they are even friends, it is disrespectful for the husband to tell her to start calling the nanny aunty. That is nonsense!

Anyway, there can not be two captains of a ship. The right thing for the husband to do is to get a new apartment for he and and his family and let his father stay with his wife. If he is concerned about being close to his father, the apartment need not be far from their present house.

Remember, LEAVE AND CLEAVE. simple sturve

I guess you humilited her so much while she was your nanny. Quickly make friends with her now that she has become your mother inlaw.

So that she will be by your side in some decision making in the family.

Animal story.
Bull and cockerel

Biglittlelois:



I'm not asking of your mum's decisions, I'm asking of your outward emotions and reaction to what she did,

The wife the Op talked about expressed her feelings on what her father in law did, which in her right she is justified, no one will be happy of such a scenario except we want to deceive ourselves, and I for one do not like to deceive myself.

If your mother gets pregnant for your driver, you will not be happy about it, but you just have to accept her decision to marry him.

Of a truth no one in that situation would be happy,but my dear there is little or nothing she can do in this case as she cannot make decisions for her father-in-law.What you cannot change,you must simply endure.

This woman is funny sha, so selfish, you married the man bcoz of money, the owner of the money who made your husband is finding happiness in someone and you are complaining, when you see average struggling man you won't marry such now you want to eat your cake and still have it...best advice is to be matured and accept the nanny quickly as your new wife bfor you poor ego embarrass you, you brought 32yrs woman as nanny, lonely female adult vs lonely male adult must give busy children!

paskal16:
lol so the nanny does not deserve a better life
Or do you think the low class in the society don’t have dreams and aspirations aswell?
She should deal with it, it’s fate

No doubt the nanny deserves a better life, but you should also consider the writers point of view.
Moreover, some women are known to be devilish schemers.
I know of a maid and kitchen cook years ago that the Madan found out had started sleeping with her first born and only son. A very prominent family oh. The mother believed and knew it was jazz. This maid did not agree despite all the woman did. She took in. 1,2,3 child.
Till date this mother has refused to meet with the grandkids now in their late 20ies.
I also know if a neighbor that after his wife's death started with his maid. The man later had an accident and got disabled. He died later, his maid sold the 2 houses (including where the young teen kids lived). Gave the 3 boys according to what I heard a million each and bailed. Inshort bleeped up their inheritance, schooling etc.

[quote author=MrPresent post=107400223]This is a true life story.

The lady in question is so confused on what to do.

Please advise her responsibly:

(Matured Minds Only)

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Good morning, I am married into a very wealthy home, my husband is the eldest child, they are four, 3 male and a female.

Last two years I got a nanny, she's 32 years, my husband is in charge of his father company, his father has houses everywhere around the world but he's leaving with us, because of loneliness, he lost his wife 12yrs ago and since then he refused to marry again, he's 65years old but still young, I have a supermarket, so my nanny cook and takes care of the home while I'm away, my nanny has been sleeping with my father in-law but I didn't know, March this year we found out she's pregnant and she said it was papa that was responsible, when I ask her how long . How can you give goat yarm to keep for you? it has happen take cover so that your husband will not do his own

When we tell you women are the real oppressors and bullies, you think we are exaggerating.

Just look at the condescension in the OP

Women (not men) are the chief oppressors of women.

You should be happy that your father in-law got her impregnated and married her, what if reverse is the case for you madam? I mean, what if it is your husband that got her impregnated nkọ? What will you do? You will definitely pack out of the house please, accept it like that, be happy and live together as one big family but if you can't take it anymore, tell your husband to rent your own apartment for you but, whatever comes after that, know fully that you're responsible for it.
#Peace

You have to be careful and prayerful. She's a gold digger and would go to any length to get what she wants.

Greedy fellows everywhere, instead of being happy that you have contributed your own quota in helping one of the helpless society.

You should have just reprimand her for sleeping with your father in-law under your nose, then give her some advice afterwards, life goes on.

You're even lucky it was not your husband she was sleeping with