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Timekeeper:
Advice Needed. I Have An Issue Bothering My Soul And Life..

I am based on the mainland and I recently came back from akwa Ibom where I did my youth service... I stay with my brother on mainland hoping to get a job and move out..

By God grace, there is possibility of me getting a Job on the island even though it is not yet concluded... Meanwhile the job will be on probation as I am currently being trained on it.

I have a lady Frnd Dt I met since last year, no sexual stuff btw us. We have just been friends. She stays on the island (ajah) and her rent is expired, though she didn't plan to continue living in That house. Our plan is Dt she is moving out and I will pay but recently she had some financial issues and wunt be able to move out again. So she suggested that we should pay another 1 year rent.

My concerns:
1. She is not really troublesome but sumtyms she is very stubborn. Anyway she is a Good lady sha.

2. Possibility Dt her sis will stay with us. I don't know much abt her sis and I don't want trouble.

3. a. The house is located in a ghetto like area in Ajah where the bathroom has no door and even the next person bathroom and people outside will know u r the one bathing. (bathroom fence not tall and no roof)

3.b. The toilet fence are so short that the next person can see u and u can see him/her while pooing . I love privacy and this kind life is not what I wished for..

4. The environment is notin to write about but I can cope...
.

What should I do? I don't intend rejecting this job due to lack of a good place to stay and I can't stay In mainland to be working in island which of course is still a probatory stuff.

Nairaland family, I am so confused right now......

If you move in with her the risk is
1. You will have no privacy
2. you will have no say in the house
3. she may not explain why and where she goes to you
4. You may loose dignity as a man if the above happens.
5. Peradventure you impregnate her hope u will be ready to marry her or will you start seeing other posh lekki girls when your money starts rolling in.

Your choice, your life.

use that same money to get yoursef your own place.....

wahala go come i repeat wahala go come

Timekeeper:
Advice Needed. I Have An Issue Bothering My Soul And Life..

I am based on the mainland and I recently came back from akwa Ibom where I did my youth service... I stay with my brother on mainland hoping to get a job and move out..

By God grace, there is possibility of me getting a Job on the island even though it is not yet concluded... Meanwhile the job will be on probation as I am currently being trained on it.

I have a lady Frnd Dt I met since last year, no sexual stuff btw us. We have just been friends. She stays on the island (ajah) and her rent is expired, though she didn't plan to continue living in That house. Our plan is Dt she is moving out and I will pay but recently she had some financial issues and wunt be able to move out again. So she suggested that we should pay another 1 year rent.

My concerns:
1. She is not really troublesome but sumtyms she is very stubborn. Anyway she is a Good lady sha.

2. Possibility Dt her sis will stay with us. I don't know much abt her sis and I don't want trouble.

3. a. The house is located in a ghetto like area in Ajah where the bathroom has no door and even the next person bathroom and people outside will know u r the one bathing. (bathroom fence not tall and no roof)

3.b. The toilet fence are so short that the next person can see u and u can see him/her while pooing . I love privacy and this kind life is not what I wished for..

4. The environment is notin to write about but I can cope...
.

What should I do? I don't intend rejecting this job due to lack of a good place to stay and I can't stay In mainland to be working in island which of course is still a probatory stuff.

Nairaland family, I am so confused right now......

Timekeeper:
Advice Needed. I Have An Issue Bothering My Soul And Life..

I am based on the mainland and I recently came back from akwa Ibom where I did my youth service... I stay with my brother on mainland hoping to get a job and move out..

By God grace, there is possibility of me getting a Job on the island even though it is not yet concluded... Meanwhile the job will be on probation as I am currently being trained on it.

I have a lady Frnd Dt I met since last year, no sexual stuff btw us. We have just been friends. She stays on the island (ajah) and her rent is expired, though she didn't plan to continue living in That house. Our plan is Dt she is moving out and I will pay but recently she had some financial issues and wunt be able to move out again. So she suggested that we should pay another 1 year rent.

My concerns:
1. She is not really troublesome but sumtyms she is very stubborn. Anyway she is a Good lady sha.

2. Possibility Dt her sis will stay with us. I don't know much abt her sis and I don't want trouble.

3. a. The house is located in a ghetto like area in Ajah where the bathroom has no door and even the next person bathroom and people outside will know u r the one bathing. (bathroom fence not tall and no roof)

3.b. The toilet fence are so short that the next person can see u and u can see him/her while pooing . I love privacy and this kind life is not what I wished for..

4. The environment is notin to write about but I can cope...
.

What should I do? I don't intend rejecting this job due to lack of a good place to stay and I can't stay In mainland to be working in island which of course is still a probatory stuff.

Nairaland family, I am so confused right now......

I can see your preparing to get married.

Time keeper don't do it oooo, women mata hard ND she will change cus I knew someone who did it ND he The one feeding everyone dere ND some issue he facing too

staga:
These modern day men (simps) need to go back to the mental toughness of our dads and granddads.

How can a man be contemplating such an arrangement with a woman he is not married to?

ogbeni shut ur gutter

With all I've read so far dear op, you have already made up your mind on what choice to make and I wonder why you still seek opinion from NL when you've decided it already.

InTheCloudySky:
Can you find another place or is this your only option? It's obvious it won't be a suitable living condition for you and you will be miserable there. Start looking for another place asap.

It's my only option dear..

Just move in. Just limit your time in the house.

Timekeeper:
Thanks.. Mainland is a no no coz of the cost

so why come here to bug people when you have your mind made up


abi you think you will get sympathy from a stranger here who lives on the Island


Abeg getaaat

logic102:
Do not think of staying with her, she can leave you stranded halfway. Let me share with you a little experience of mine.
I was posted to ifo local govt in Ogun state for nysc, I didn't bring anything along except for my clothes and shoes. At the school I was posted to, I met a female corper and I explained my situation to her, she opted that we contributed together to buy food and gas( she bought gas cylinder, plates, and spoons from home) I took it as a kind gesture, we did everything together.

Getting to the third week, she came to me that we cannot cook together for no reason, she knows I was broke during that period. Till month-end, I was drinking garri because I had no money to buy gas cylinder..

Moral story: Never trust a woman

Wetin you sef do to her? You dey Follow do house chores small?

Timekeeper:
It's my only option dear..

I'm sorry about that

Timekeeper:
Advice Needed. I Have An Issue Bothering My Soul And Life..

I am based on the mainland and I recently came back from akwa Ibom where I did my youth service... I stay with my brother on mainland hoping to get a job and move out..

By God grace, there is possibility of me getting a Job on the island even though it is not yet concluded... Meanwhile the job will be on probation as I am currently being trained on it.

I have a lady Frnd Dt I met since last year, no sexual stuff btw us. We have just been friends. She stays on the island (ajah) and her rent is expired, though she didn't plan to continue living in That house. Our plan is Dt she is moving out and I will pay but recently she had some financial issues and wunt be able to move out again. So she suggested that we should pay another 1 year rent.

My concerns:
1. She is not really troublesome but sumtyms she is very stubborn. Anyway she is a Good lady sha.

2. Possibility Dt her sis will stay with us. I don't know much abt her sis and I don't want trouble.

3. a. The house is located in a ghetto like area in Ajah where the bathroom has no door and even the next person bathroom and people outside will know u r the one bathing. (bathroom fence not tall and no roof)

3.b. The toilet fence are so short that the next person can see u and u can see him/her while pooing . I love privacy and this kind life is not what I wished for..

4. The environment is notin to write about but I can cope...
.

What should I do? I don't intend rejecting this job due to lack of a good place to stay and I can't stay In mainland to be working in island which of course is still a probatory stuff.

Nairaland family, I am so confused right now......

Just come home to sleep and move out next morning.

I remember when something similar happened to me in abj...I got free food and pvssy as bonus

jaxxy:
How much is the rent for this ghetto fabulous ure talking about? And since Ure both combining money why not look for a much better place with privacy so everybody is happy than this huge inconvenience?

Even if u must rent, it wunt cost less than 150k for all. I dnt av such funds.. I am just getting a job

Minjim:
This is Lagos


I've lived in a house with the worst bathroom and toilet I've never seen b4. Now I'm living in a three bedroom with my own toilet.

Moral...go manage it.

I have no problem with the toilet.. I am jut scared of how ladies may misbehave

Timekeeper:
Advice Needed. I Have An Issue Bothering My Soul And Life..

I am based on the mainland and I recently came back from akwa Ibom where I did my youth service... I stay with my brother on mainland hoping to get a job and move out..

By God grace, there is possibility of me getting a Job on the island even though it is not yet concluded... Meanwhile the job will be on probation as I am currently being trained on it.

I have a lady Frnd Dt I met since last year, no sexual stuff btw us. We have just been friends. She stays on the island (ajah) and her rent is expired, though she didn't plan to continue living in That house. Our plan is Dt she is moving out and I will pay but recently she had some financial issues and wunt be able to move out again. So she suggested that we should pay another 1 year rent.

My concerns:
1. She is not really troublesome but sumtyms she is very stubborn. Anyway she is a Good lady sha.

2. Possibility Dt her sis will stay with us. I don't know much abt her sis and I don't want trouble.

3. a. The house is located in a ghetto like area in Ajah where the bathroom has no door and even the next person bathroom and people outside will know u r the one bathing. (bathroom fence not tall and no roof)

3.b. The toilet fence are so short that the next person can see u and u can see him/her while pooing . I love privacy and this kind life is not what I wished for..

4. The environment is notin to write about but I can cope...
.

What should I do? I don't intend rejecting this job due to lack of a good place to stay and I can't stay In mainland to be working in island which of course is still a probatory stuff.

Nairaland family, I am so confused right now......

crazy deal... Seek alternatives

thunderandfire47:
This op sef. Reading through ur comments ,I can deduce few things. You are covetous, crafty and lazy. You have been given an honest advice here. Stay away from that lady and keep your respect. God bless you

U don't know me.. I wunt give u a reply....

Peace

That thing na trap. A big one. From your description, it doesn't worth it. Living with a girl under the same room is different from being just friends. Yes, it looks sweet, but don't try it. E get why...Most of these ladies are good at manipulation. Unless she's your wife/the real madam, never house any babe out of pity...She comes, spend one or two days and leave. Don't tell me the salary is not even upto 300k.

Hmmmmm...... guy the girl in question is not ur relative right??
Just know that human beings most especially girls are unpredictable.... dont do something that cause you premuim tears tomorrow

kollysnut:
use that same money to get yoursef your own place.....

wahala go come i repeat wahala go come

30k to get a place? Not a chance... I even suggested we pay 6 months.. Dts just 15k each...

Styluss:
crazy deal... Seek alternatives

How and where..money creates alternatives..

When there is no money, no much alternatives

Guy no let the woman make you want to go live in a ghetto area in the island just to belong.
Make you think wel .no be say police will come there one day looking for bad guys and take you along

She is not ya family member of she come die one day in the house after a sex rump somewhere they wil hold u responsible.so try think like a man . forget the offer even the way you narate the toilet area make someone want to throwup.

*Spits *

MJBOLT:

Timekeeper,I use god beg you,don't move in with a woman,you will regret it.
Look for a male friend and squat with till you can afford your own place.

I dey try but I never see. Bro

I will possible pay for 6 months with her if i were you, but if you are paying for a year, you should volunteer some of the money you would have used for agency and commission fees to fix some of the issues in the house and make it a little comfortable for you while you are there until you find a better place.

Life is about calculations and making daily progressive choices.
You life just started bro!

All the best!

Is that the only house in that ghetto, find somewhere else if u are not comfortable with it.

Timekeeper:
Advice Needed. I Have An Issue Bothering My Soul And Life..

I am based on the mainland and I recently came back from akwa Ibom where I did my youth service... I stay with my brother on mainland hoping to get a job and move out..

By God grace, there is possibility of me getting a Job on the island even though it is not yet concluded... Meanwhile the job will be on probation as I am currently being trained on it.

I have a lady Frnd Dt I met since last year, no sexual stuff btw us. We have just been friends. She stays on the island (ajah) and her rent is expired, though she didn't plan to continue living in That house. Our plan is Dt she is moving out and I will pay but recently she had some financial issues and wunt be able to move out again. So she suggested that we should pay another 1 year rent.

My concerns:
1. She is not really troublesome but sumtyms she is very stubborn. Anyway she is a Good lady sha.

2. Possibility Dt her sis will stay with us. I don't know much abt her sis and I don't want trouble.

3. a. The house is located in a ghetto like area in Ajah where the bathroom has no door and even the next person bathroom and people outside will know u r the one bathing. (bathroom fence not tall and no roof)

3.b. The toilet fence are so short that the next person can see u and u can see him/her while pooing . I love privacy and this kind life is not what I wished for..

4. The environment is notin to write about but I can cope...
.

What should I do? I don't intend rejecting this job due to lack of a good place to stay and I can't stay In mainland to be working in island which of course is still a probatory stuff.

Nairaland family, I am so confused right now......

Make i hear say una no quarrel

Timekeeper:
Even if u must rent, it wunt cost less than 150k for all. I dnt av such funds.. I am just getting a job

I do understand u perfectly bt I’m thinking there might be a better place within same range in these ghettos. If not then I don’t know what to advise. It depends on what u both can tolerate and handle.

What’s the worst that cud happen with this inconvenience? Think about that and If u can manage any scenario that can play out go ahead.

See as them open ajah people nyansh .lol..

On a more serious note.
Get a decent place on the mainland rather than live in that kind of house. Better still, go to sangotedo, there are nice houses there. Newly erected structures that the interior looks like a five star suite.

You can get a single room selfcon.

MHBNeiman:
That thing na trap. A big one. From your description, it doesn't worth it. Living with a girl under the same room is different from being just friends. Yes, it looks sweet, but don't try it. E get why...Most of these ladies are good at manipulation. Unless she's your wife/the real madam, never house any babe out of pity...She comes, spend one or two days and leave. Don't tell me the salary is not even upto 300k.

300k for where.. Far far below bro

Stylishdebby:
Is that the only house in that ghetto, find somewhere else if u are not comfortable with it.

Getting a place is money. I am just getting a job.. Miss