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Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by tbambam: 8:02pm On Nov 25, 2021 |
Godoverevery: Nice piece, I would have loved if you do not trivialize the fact that boy child get raped too, the worst of it is that they get raped not only by aunties, maid, neigbour etc, they get raped by men too. And this is very common up north, they introduce kids into sodomy through rape. One wonder why we have rapist and gay in the community, vast majority of them had faced one form of abuse from childhood either from men or women. With no one to hear them out or believe them, they grow to believe its the way of life until they are caught in the act as rape.. 7 out of ten men if interviewed will tell you tales of sexual abuse as a boy child. The worst is that average boychild isn't exposed to sexual abuse alone, domestic abuse, child trafficking, hard Labour and terrorism are included. Yet if the complain or want to speak up, they will say you are a man now, why are you acting like a female.. We men need to speak out.. 2 Likes |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by Olivyabrown: 8:28pm On Nov 25, 2021 |
RightToReject: I am Igbo. It took the intervention of relatives and family friends for my father to support my brother's university education. My brother spent three years after his secondary school education learning trade despite having excellent grades in WASSCE. For me, he was ready to send me abroad to study but couldn't due to some financial difficulties. You see, my dad believed that a man needs money while a woman needs education in order to attract the right suitors. So his comments are factual. Today, my brother is gainfully employed and he is the one carrying the financial burden of family He still hates my father for that decision. 1 Like |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by RightToReject(m): 8:38pm On Nov 25, 2021 |
Olivyabrown: Anybody can lay claim of being Igbo, especially on a forum like this, and whether you're Igbo or not, your father/family isn't a standard for the bona fide Igbos. 3 Likes |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by Aiel123: 8:41pm On Nov 25, 2021 |
Datboredberry:I have heard of it. My question is who propounded it .I hope it was no media speculation. Anyway, your defence for girls is solid (exception of cruel words) but sometimes you have to type with caution. Girls as well as boys are victimized. The world is full of wickedness not because of the wicked,but because of people who remain in silence. Comment wisely, comment friendly. |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by laiperi: 8:58pm On Nov 25, 2021 |
I read the first and the last page and my fear was realized when some of you went ethnic. This problem raised by Op is beyond gender and ethnicity. We have abusive communities that abuse both boys and girls. Children period. The selective abuse we see differ from one community to the next making some females or males the subjects of abuse. Someone complained that girls were educated instead of boys, it is exact opposite in other communities. Fight for children, it will make us a better society. Terrorists, 419s, drug pushers and abusers were once children coming from individual families. |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by babasolution: 9:11pm On Nov 25, 2021 |
Datboredberry: Nobody fought for anything, even boys were prevented from going to school by ignorant parents at a time,afterward boys were reluctantly allowed to go to school,girls soon followed afterwards, women have been going to school in Africa as early as boys,many not at the same rate but they caught up from the 80s,how come there are so many uneducated men if all men were going to school,different circumstances prevented people from going to school not jus simply because they were male or female 1 Like |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by King44(m): 9:44pm On Nov 25, 2021 |
Datboredberry:Domestic abuse Forced labour Molestation Sexual Abuse Street begging No education Etc I think the world is against the male gender. I was raped when I was around 6 to 7 by one aunty Molested many times Faced a lot of domestic abuse Almost escaped being educated Abeg who I go tell as a man, all they keep saying is these things would make you stronger. The society is getting what they sow in us, we men it starts with the boy child. So abeg shove that your opinion up your ass. Ask other men to tell their stories you would be surprised. 1 Like |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by King44(m): 9:51pm On Nov 25, 2021 |
Datboredberry:victim of men, women and society |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by ivolt: 9:56pm On Nov 25, 2021 |
cornelman:Aside celebrities, nobody really comes out as far as Nigeria is concerned. The rape cases we hear about are mostly reported to the police and not the public. Society have always frowned against rape at least where women are concerned but that doesn't mean the victims are seen as a kind of hero. There is significant stigma attached to be known as victim of rape which cause many to leave it to god. Can you point me to one local awareness campaign encouraging girl rape victims to "come out"? Also, where is the source of your research? I reiterate again, nobody except immediate family members owes anyone anything. Is their a normal person who would stop a random woman or upon meeting them first time start asking them about past rape? Girls don't talk at least not in public. Even few cases that make it out are scrutinized by angry "truthers" who tell us how they or their friends have been framed before by liars seeking attention. Do you even outrightly believe stories of rape from women? The world you are describing doesn't exist yet. No one is speaking for any particular person safe in very rare cases of public interest. Most rape victims only "speak" via reporting the culprit and if they are minor, their parents or guardian doing the reporting. What have you personally done to solve the problem and did you encourage all those your guys with stories to come out and tell it? Finally, why can't anyone make a point without turning it into competition for attention or victimhood contest? 1 Like |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by Olivyabrown: 10:25pm On Nov 25, 2021 |
RightToReject: Believe what you want. The dude was right. You can also be a Kenyan claiming bona-fide Igbo. |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by engrajoo1(m): 11:07pm On Nov 25, 2021 |
In response to the neglect of the make child,some group of childhood friends team up together to form a mentorship organization tagged Man in The Mirror Foundation... Solely dedicated to mentoring the male child to becoming a responsible man in the society. You can check their website www.mitmfoundation.org You can also check their social media platforms on Facebook, linkedin and Instagram. You can equally register as a mentee on their website as stated earlier 1 Like |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by superCleanworks(m): 7:19am On Nov 26, 2021 |
Godoverevery: This post is in my personal TOP TEN Nairaland topics of 2021 |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by CHoccolaTE: 8:07am On Nov 26, 2021 |
Datboredberry: Just look at the rubbish blackmail the OP of this thread is using to pass his message across. Telling women that they should advocate the right of males if not they will continue being bitter towards women. Did we create the anti woman laws that made life difficult for men in the first place? Are females the ones ruling Nigeria and putting policies in place that make life for them ? These clowns will always find ways to blame women for everything. 1 Like |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by Nobody: 8:22am On Nov 26, 2021 |
CHoccolaTE:These grown ass men expect women to not only fight for our rights, but for their rights as well... They created a system that's not always favourable, they can't deal with the consequences... Tell a man to accept equality, and his ego would stop him from doing so... Yet, they complain that the world conspires against them... Majority of those in political offices... Those with influence in the society... Are mostly men so I wonder how they are unfortunate victims when they can clearly sway things to their favour...and they even do! These men here would stand under the sun or under the rain to protest against young boys being trafficked and used as manual labourer... because the perpetrators of human trafficking are most men! So they refuse to fight themselves... And also, they are extremely lazy malicious beings who would rather hate in women actively fighting for girls than for them to get up and be useful... Unless it's to be internet fraudsters... Or scam white women with false promises of love... These are the only thing the consider worth doing... I'm not going to devote my all, fighting for boys...or feel guilty that I prioritise the rights of young girls... I expect men to do the former...it's their obligation as fathers and uncles to educate these children and be decent role models... If they don't care, I won't carry the burden of changing the world alone... 1 Like |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by CHoccolaTE: 8:40am On Nov 26, 2021 |
Datboredberry: These men have serious mental problems They want to be superior leaders but want women to fight for them @bold, you sef your own is even good. You don't want to devote ALL your fighting for boys. Me I will not devote one single fight for them. If OP and his fellow gay misogynists like they can continue hating women. E no concern me. 3 Likes |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by Nobody: 8:49am On Nov 26, 2021 |
CHoccolaTE:And there's absolutely nothing wrong... They fight for women is exhausting, and most women have even lost their lives... Men should fight for boys... They can't be liabilities, doing nothing to change the society positively... But I doubt they ever would... Unless it's an argument against feminism... These men don't care sh** for social justice... 2 Likes |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by Invitationn: 9:04am On Nov 26, 2021 |
Datboredberry:Essentially, it's payback classic for you. That's the problem I have with you people. You abhor patriarchy and want it abolished for obvious reasons, however, you are so obsessed about replacing it with matriarchy. Look at the laws, do you bloody care that a man risks potential jail term for not paying his 'girlfriend' some ridiculous maintenance fee? Or a wife threatening her husband with the police for the slightest reason, or evicting him from his house because of little arguments? |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by Invitationn: 9:13am On Nov 26, 2021 |
Datboredberry:The OP is only pointing out your hypocrisy. Crying foul only when the girl child is involved and keeping mum when it's boys. Movements for the boy child rights and protection is always seen as a rival movement by your likes. Worse still, it's seen as a movement to downplay or undermine the girl child campaign. Pathetic! |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by Nobody: 9:18am On Nov 26, 2021 |
Invitationn:Are you stupid? I'm making a point that men don't campaign for the rights of young boys yet they criticize feminists for not doing so... When these women are greatly busy fighting for young girls... I organised a seminar with an international organisation to create awareness on child labour... For boys and girls... I'm eighteen... What have you done? What positive step have you taken? |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by Nobody: 9:29am On Nov 26, 2021 |
Invitationn:These issues you highlighted... Compare them to Domestic abuse... Sexual molestation... Trafficking... Child marriages... Female genitalịa mutilation... Unequal wages... Etc... You hate matriarchy so much.. I don't support it, it's not even possible.. but do you realise that patriarchy had been here for since the beginning? The way matriarchy repulses you, patriarchy makes us women sick... You can't even bear to think of a fictional society that favours women...yet your content with this reality that's puts us down and favours you... Bloody hypocrite... |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by Mftivi: 1:39pm On Nov 26, 2021 |
Datboredberry:I don't have time for people that should rather be left in yaba left, youu should find your uniform and do the needful. |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by Ajibade123(m): 11:35pm On Nov 26, 2021 |
Boogyman557:can you just stop commenting this on every post it an eye sore and really annoying |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by Angela62: 8:00pm On Nov 27, 2021 |
Pataricatering: No, women in Nigeria are not denied rights to jobs, education, sexual agency property etc. I live in the real world, and here, women have access to those things you mentioned. I'm a woman and never being denied access to any of those things you mentioned. True, men occupy most political post, but again, men occupy most shitty jobs as well. It is unreasonable to point the juicy positions without pointing the non juicy ones. 1 Like |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by Angela62: 8:11pm On Nov 27, 2021 |
ivolt: When my kids were in school, more attention were giving to the girls and of course, severe punishment compared to the girls. Assumed to be the aggressor if they are were the only boys in the vicinity. Even if they are innocent, the burden of proving themselves innocence lies on them, while the girls were assumed to be innocent by default. They (boys) were mostly treated like defective girls, and physical games boys engage in like rough and tumble, or any kind of boys games that are competitive in nature is frowned upon, and the more docile and agreeable the boys are, the more normal and well-behaved they were assumes to be. Also, its tough on them when it's only female that are mostly their teacher right from kindergarten to high school. The lack of constant presence of men to look up to is missing. There are many more, but this I can remember. |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by Invitationn: 10:34pm On Nov 27, 2021 |
Datboredberry:How predictable ; Have a good night 1 Like |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by Tomek09(m): 6:28am On Feb 23, 2022 |
Emperor88:Swear say you no enjoy am |
Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by Acidosis(m): 8:04am On Feb 23, 2022 |
Pataricatering: The question should be how many women apply for these so called loans? The average bank today is more likely to give loan to a female entrepreneur than a male counterpart (because they know from research that women are less likely to default). That's the reality everywhere but unfortunately, not many women show interest. If you visit the average LAPO (or any other microfinance institution), you're more likely to see older female traders taking advantage of these outfits. Women have never been disadvantaged when it comes to access to finance in the 21st century. More often than not, these institutions and government agencies even come out to announce special offers and grants for women yet many of you (especially the younger generation of women) do not show interest. Note, men do not get such (special) offers. Compare the population of women contributing to investment/business/politics sections to men. Did Seun also prevent the female gender from contributing to certain sections? The opportunity is there. Interest is the problem and that's not the fault of anybody.
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Re: Neglect Of The Boy Child: We Need To Speak Up by Emperor88(m): 9:06am On Feb 23, 2022 |
Tomek09: I did same way a lot of this underage girls do but we still term it rape. Psychologically it affected me greatly thereafter. 1 Like |
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