Wow

Fear women.. I fear those who don't fear women, that gender can disgrace you

Husband and wife no dey keep that kind secret

VARgina people strike again

dawnomike:
Just keep your cool... The tension will die down with time.

it might take years for tension like this to die down because some man are just idiot ,if I were the brother I will surely understand ,its my sister. If something happened to me tomorrow, my wife might marry another man and move on but my sister will always be my sister.

PS: some parents don't raise kids with love among themselves,

Sorry to say this your brother is so stupid while that woman is such a bad woman.. why such exchange? Wld sparing that N500 stop her from getting her stuff bought? Even of you suggested such, why must she take it after you had told her your predicament? God forbid.. SHE IS JEZEBEL PERSONIFIED..

If you like no go find help elsewhere .. Keep going to that house till she poisons you.. There are people you ought not to ask for help. Your brother's wife is one and your own brother another

Just send a message to your brother, explaining what happened exactly to your him. In fact, tell him about the agreement you had with his wife not to tell you; let him understand you don't intend to keep secret from him, but for him not to feel bad. Finish with this: "However, I apologize for the way it all happened, I promise never to repeat such again. I am so sorry Brother, please forgive me."

I am sure he would reason with you and all be fine again. But after that, make sure you distance yourself as much as possible from that lady. Never have anything to do with her again. She can destroy your relationship with your brother, which may affect your family.

Foodqueen:
U shouldn't av asked for the exchange.

It would av been better if u took it out and sold to an outsider completely.

Little things betrays family trust.

The wife is simply a wizard, they had an agreement, she took advantage of the young man to spoil things. This was never an issue but bcs the wizard wife wanted to prove point to the simp husband

You carry yourself go school for a city because your bro dey live there. Lol. Make I reserved my comment.

Anyways, call your brother later and explain things to him. You may think his wife mouthed you out while she might have used your actions to spite him during argument leading to your brother's reaction.

Yes! Some women can be that evil.

Ure just getting matured, tough times don't last, only tough people do.

Give yourself a break and just relax, your brother will call you someday. Don't call him at all again.

Or do the nigga stuff

Call him and ask him for money and tell him you're starving Ooooo. Abi make you go commit suicide?

Limitlessss:
I need frank and candid advice guys.

I'll be as brief as possible.

I am a student in my 400l nw, things aren't so Rosey nor easy especially financially for me now.

Something happened this past weekend, i returned back from lectures with no dime on me, I left very early because I needed to read more, (exam things) my Elder bros travelled which I had no idea of, I live close by, (actually choose this institution because of his presence in the state) Truth is I am the type that usually keep hard times to myself, I only open up when I am choked, i hardly check on him because of negative energies i receive from his wife so I prefer communicating with him via phone, i keep my distance as possible as appropriate.

So I went to his house to check on him, i was totally broke and hungry, learnt from his wife that he traveled, asked her if she had anything, she said no money o, what she had, she wants to use it to go to the market to buy some stuff, I saw her writing a list and with some money, she was about going to market, I saw small Eva rubber red oil #900.

It hit me, I had just a little above the quantity of red oil she needed, and I hardly cook.

So I told her that instead of buying #900 in d market that I will bring the exact quantity she needs, but I just need 5h, that I am broke, I reasoned with her and pleaded that she do not see this wrongly that I am selling it to her, that its just an exchange, she said no p, I also pleaded with her not to tell my bros her husband which she also agreed.

We made the exchange, I got the #500 and gave her d oil she would have bought #900.

I just received a call from my elder bros yesterday, and he was very pissed? That y should I sell d oil to his wife?

I tried to explain but he won't listen, has even refused seeing me, honestly I am not happy right now, why will she disclose it to him? We had a pack?

so you can't call your brother on phone to send 2k to you? You don't have any market woman who can sell stuff for you on credit base on trust you will pay back. Am once a student and I understand how you felt. You should have keep good relationship with market woman and people around for issue like this might happen one day.

Tye other gender hardly keep secrets except it involves their own infidelity. Know this and know peace.

If your brother can't listen to you, then he should gettat.

Elder brother my foot.

Limitlessss:
I need frank and candid advice guys.

I'll be as brief as possible.

I am a student in my 400l nw, things aren't so Rosey nor easy especially financially for me now.

Something happened this past weekend, i returned back from lectures with no dime on me, I left very early because I needed to read more, (exam things) my Elder bros travelled which I had no idea of, I live close by, (actually choose this institution because of his presence in the state) Truth is I am the type that usually keep hard times to myself, I only open up when I am choked, i hardly check on him because of negative energies i receive from his wife so I prefer communicating with him via phone, i keep my distance as possible as appropriate.

So I went to his house to check on him, i was totally broke and hungry, learnt from his wife that he traveled, asked her if she had anything, she said no money o, what she had, she wants to use it to go to the market to buy some stuff, I saw her writing a list and with some money, she was about going to market, I saw small Eva rubber red oil #900.

It hit me, I had just a little above the quantity of red oil she needed, and I hardly cook.

So I told her that instead of buying #900 in d market that I will bring the exact quantity she needs, but I just need 5h, that I am broke, I reasoned with her and pleaded that she do not see this wrongly that I am selling it to her, that its just an exchange, she said no p, I also pleaded with her not to tell my bros her husband which she also agreed.

We made the exchange, I got the #500 and gave her d oil she would have bought #900.

I just received a call from my elder bros yesterday, and he was very pissed? That y should I sell d oil to his wife?

I tried to explain but he won't listen, has even refused seeing me, honestly I am not happy right now, why will she disclose it to him? We had a pack?

wicked woman how much is 500 that she cannot over look my brother please work hard vain is the help of man the people that I thought had my back sent me out and I had to start looking for how I will survive all will be history someday, I can imagine how much it pained you that you had to write it, with time you will even help people with the money 5that looks big now. God will make a way for you and you will graduate in flying colours.

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Limitlessss:
I need frank and candid advice guys.

I'll be as brief as possible.

I am a student in my 400l nw, things aren't so Rosey nor easy especially financially for me now.

Something happened this past weekend, i returned back from lectures with no dime on me, I left very early because I needed to read more, (exam things) my Elder bros travelled which I had no idea of, I live close by, (actually choose this institution because of his presence in the state) Truth is I am the type that usually keep hard times to myself, I only open up when I am choked, i hardly check on him because of negative energies i receive from his wife so I prefer communicating with him via phone, i keep my distance as possible as appropriate.

So I went to his house to check on him, i was totally broke and hungry, learnt from his wife that he traveled, asked her if she had anything, she said no money o, what she had, she wants to use it to go to the market to buy some stuff, I saw her writing a list and with some money, she was about going to market, I saw small Eva rubber red oil #900.

It hit me, I had just a little above the quantity of red oil she needed, and I hardly cook.

So I told her that instead of buying #900 in d market that I will bring the exact quantity she needs, but I just need 5h, that I am broke, I reasoned with her and pleaded that she do not see this wrongly that I am selling it to her, that its just an exchange, she said no p, I also pleaded with her not to tell my bros her husband which she also agreed.

We made the exchange, I got the #500 and gave her d oil she would have bought #900.

I just received a call from my elder bros yesterday, and he was very pissed? That y should I sell d oil to his wife?

I tried to explain but he won't listen, has even refused seeing me, honestly I am not happy right now, why will she disclose it to him? We had a pack?

.
I really feel for you guy. That is how a large number of ladies of nowadays do. Always doing everything possible to cause disaffection between thier husband and his family.
Plz drop your account number, you really need help to get you going.

Limitlessss:


Did I plan to go there to sell anything in the first place? You've never been in a desperate needy situation b4 I guess.

Guy don't mind these bitches, they are all the same just different way. Just take this as a life experience bcs u still hv a long way to go. Atleast this alone should toughened your mind towards women attitudes.

You should have communicated your bros first no matter what, you understand each other more better, but that his wife is not a good person

You hit the nail on the head. God bless you. Flee from both insensitive and stingy people.
If anyone went to uni and have experienced hardship while in school, then you will understand what the OP is talking about.

Klass99:
I honestly can't see what you did wrong and I read your story twice to be sure I didn't miss something.

Your brother and his wife are just very insensitive people, if you ask me.

I don't know what's worse, people who are insensitive to the needs of others or stingy/selfish people?

I think I'll lump them together. Both are worse!

Evercurious:
Sorry to say this your brother is so stupid while that woman is such a bad woman.. why such exchange? Wld sparing that N500 stop her from getting her stuff bought? Even of you suggested such, why must she take it after you had told her your predicament? God forbid.. SHE IS JEZEBEL PERSONIFIED..

If you like no go find help elsewhere .. Keep going to that house till she poisons you.. There are people you ought not to ask for help. Your brother's wife is one and your own brother another

as inn ehn not as if is one big money this young lad asked for oo, may 500 be bigger than that woman chaiii

Unnecessary anger from your brother if you ask me. It's a deal. Are you supposed to give her the oil for free or what's the cause of his overreaction?

And to her who couldn't keep tight-lip despite having a good deal off you, ignore her and move on. You shouldn't have told to keep it a secret, it was why she felt the need to reel out the deal. It should have been strictly business.

Dude, find some hustling means and ignore him and her till he's ready to get along peacefully with you. The earlier the independence mentality sets in, the better.

Many a times, ladies come into marriage with the mindset to compete with the man's family members. If the man is unwise enough to set required boundaries between the set of differing parties, it's best to ignore them and move on with one's life as if you never had a brother at all. This doesn't, however, mean you'll be more successful in life, it just means you respect yourself and your peace, which could have been put into question when in tandem with an intending bellicose wife. And nothing matters more than your peace and self-esteem or self-respect, not even success, I bet.


Peace, sha

LilMissFavvy:
One of the things I don't like about my gender . Most women cant keep secrets. Better to send your brother a message and narrate things just as it happened because she may have twisted the issue when she told your brother. I don't see it as a bad thing to have asked for that exchange since you were helpless. What's her gain now that she has put you in trouble.

He did absolutely nothing wrong cos he was desperate for help.. why shld she even accept such exchange? So you mean sparing N500 will stop her from buying her stuff?hmmmm.. she is just wicked ,callous and mischievous..

InTheCloudySky:
Your relationship with people and how well you know their character should always determine how you relate with them. You already know she's no fan of yours, so given her nature, having her buy the oil from you wasn't a good idea. After she told you she didn't have money, you should've kept it moving instead of trying to wiggle money out of her by force via selling her an item on the list. She could've accused you of selling her a bad item or tell your brother something to make you look bad, and I reckon the latter is what has taken place via her telling him about the exchange. The point is you shouldn't have sold her the oil, knowing she's someone who doesn't like you. I understand you were in need but your peace of mind is more important.

do you even know it means to be broke?

Klass99:
I honestly can't see what you did wrong and I read your story twice to be sure I didn't miss something.

Your brother and his wife are just very insensitive people, if you ask me.

I don't know what's worse, people who are insensitive to the needs of others or stingy/selfish people?

I think I'll lump them together. Both are worse!

You just spoke my mind.
I hate insensitive/selfish people.

Why cant the brother scold his wife for collecting the oil, and not simply providing for his brother.

Would they try dat nonsense with the wife's brother/sister?
If na me dem do dat nonsense, na family meeting i go table the matter.

topiiiiiiii:
as inn ehn not as if is one big money this young lad asked for oo, may 500 be bigger than that woman chaiii

My dear that N500 is obviously bigger than her and she will never go above that amount..

Op, I really feel your pain! She betrayed you but it's her loss not yours.
She has eroded that trust you had for her, Other family members(the objective ones) will be wary of her henceforth.
You shall be vindicated in the long run. It happens this is her stock in trade, she bound to do it to another person sooner or later.
It's hard for you to take but forge ahead. We all have ways of reacting to things but I must say your brother wasn't logical. He passed a verdict superficially.
You selling palm oil to his wife means you are broke and in a dire financial situation Abi you get palm oil shop?
Cheer up, time answereth all questions. You are going to leave school, make money and all this shall be confined to the past.

Some women sef mtcheeeew.
What's d big deal in dashing him like 1k and not collecting the oil, would she have died?
Reporting silly things to her husband as if that would stop him from cheating on her, nonsense.

It has already happened , I reasoned with your situation , you don't need to punish yourself through thinking , send your brother a text and explain to him and also apologize , I believed he will understand , only if he have a mindset , you have learned a lesson from this next time you will know how to associate with her.

Limitlessss:
I need frank and candid advice guys.

I'll be as brief as possible.

I am a student in my 400l nw, things aren't so Rosey nor easy especially financially for me now.







We made the exchange, I got the #500 and gave her d oil she would have bought #900.

I just received a call from my elder bros yesterday, and he was very pissed? That y should I sell d oil to his wife?

I tried to explain but he won't listen, has even refused seeing me, honestly I am not happy right now, why will she disclose it to him? We had a pack?

I was once in that position, reading for exam with empty stomach, trekking from South gate to futa junction.

Drop ur NUM make I reason u small change

God no go shame us

goodlistener:
Collect d red oil and give her back the 5 hundred, make she go buy am for market.

lalasticlala what do you have to say?

fair point
she just wan jam their head

im sure she was laughing while the call was going on

No reason am bro.

Just move on,

This is one of the things you see when your brother married a wicked woman and he is simping around her. We have seen more than this.

If your brother get sense he should know you are very broke.

9jayes:
I understand how #500 looks like 500k for someone students I also understand to how it feels to judge someone without hear his/her story, let ur wife tell us her own part

Amd what is there to say inside the fact that a student and infact her in law is desperately in need of N500