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Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by INCREDIBLE007(m): 2:54pm On Dec 16, 2021
EkehPraise:

Wallet and Earbuds

That one na sharp shooter

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Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by Shalommy(f): 2:55pm On Dec 16, 2021
You're looking for a perfect woman when you ain't perfect. You go old. Chaii..
Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by lexy2014: 2:57pm On Dec 16, 2021
chudez0147:

As if no be money him go spend to keep all them women. Op no mind this one abeg

do u need to spend money to keep a woman?
Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by Hassanmaye(m): 2:58pm On Dec 16, 2021
Nicepoker:
God is working so hard to delay your premium tears.
grin
Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by noCAP(m): 2:58pm On Dec 16, 2021
Bros, remove that marriage thing from your mind. This generation of girls ain't worth shit. If marrying an ex-olosho/hoe won't be a problem for you, then be my guest

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Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by RPG2020(m): 2:58pm On Dec 16, 2021
EkehPraise:
Like every well brought up young man, I'm in my early 30's and really doing fine at least I'm not begging for anything from anyone.

I set out this year to wife my girlfriend whom I had dated for 2 years but her character made me think twice so we broke up and I moved on. I have tried to make friends with matured ladies in the church I worship but it's been from one bad experience to another.

Ever since I started looking for a woman to call my wife I have been meeting different characteristics of women.
Within the space of 1 year I've met one who is a maniac, one I met at a hangout didn't hesitate to show her lazy attitude the day she came to my place to see I'm a bit comfortable, another one I met recently in church turned out to be a thief.

2021 is almost over and I'm yet to find a wife. Where do you advice I go in search for a good woman?

Wife material scarce oh!


Marriage nor be your mate grin

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Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by chudez0147(m): 2:58pm On Dec 16, 2021
lexy2014:


do u need to spend money to keep a woman?
No o... You need sand .
Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by VEE2010(m): 2:59pm On Dec 16, 2021
EkehPraise:
Like every well brought up young man, I'm in my early 30's and really doing fine at least I'm not begging for anything from anyone.

I set out this year to wife my girlfriend whom I had dated for 2 years but her character made me think twice so we broke up and I moved on. I have tried to make friends with matured ladies in the church I worship but it's been from one bad experience to another.

Ever since I started looking for a woman to call my wife I have been meeting different characteristics of women.
Within the space of 1 year I've met one who is a maniac, one I met at a hangout didn't hesitate to show her lazy attitude the day she came to my place to see I'm a bit comfortable, another one I met recently in church turned out to be a thief.

2021 is almost over and I'm yet to find a wife. Where do you advice I go in search for a good woman?

Wife material scarce oh!

I always advise people not to be so conscious about settling down, just live your life as if you are not looking for a wife while you try to mingle and make friends. The right person will come your way when you are less concerned about quitting bachelorhood. Importantly, be sensitive, the right person that will emerge will come so naturally and your instinct will prove it. I met my wife when I was so relaxed about the thought of getting married. While we dated, the instinct was so strong from both of us even when I tried very hard to resist it citing several failed attempts. I was so freaking about just continuing with the dating only until I was totally convinced that it was actually the right chemistry between both of us. We are happily married for 7 years now and have no regret even when we have a little misunderstanding, we still find ourselves attuned to each other.
Meanwhile, these are the little secrets traits that mustn't be ignored while dating:
1. Be free as if you are living your normal life - avoid drama and fake life
2. Be sincere to her in virtually everything, you may not disclose your intention even in the next 6 months
3. Study and understand her background
4. Get involved in her personal affairs to know if you can cope with her
5. Let her know your close relatives on time so that, they can as well observe her. Mind you, do not disclose your intention even to your relatives and friends.
6. Do not be too emotionally attached to her because doing so might keep lots of things away from you. You may not know when you start making decisions based on your emotion or sentiments
7. Learn to create little issues to know if you can manage her temperament
8. Do not judge her but rather let her know her little weaknesses and see if she will take correction
9. Do not be too perfect to a fault, she will also need to understudy your attitude to know if she can cope with you
10. Avoid what you will not like in the future...if you are not an outgoing type, make it known to her except you are willing to change to suit her person
11. Be fervent in your prayers and also, observe her spiritual life
12. Church dating most times is full of deceit and pretense because both of you may want to look good to each other courtesy of the message you hear in church
13. Try to understand the essence of a win-win situation in every argument that ensues between you both.
14. Be open in your finances on both sides
15. Focus more on what the future holds for you both even when you have not made your intention known to her
16. Be courageous to accept your faults and take responsibility when reflecting on remote causes of your little issues
17. Be caring and observe if she will reciprocate the same
18. Do not be too circulated around her while it is important you step back at times to assess her urge for you
19. Build friendship instead of lust for her
20. Don't pay so much attention to her shape but focus more on her inner beauty which is what will stand the test of time

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Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by InvertedHammer: 3:00pm On Dec 16, 2021
EkehPraise:
Like every well brought up young man, I'm in my early 30's and really doing fine at least I'm not begging for anything from anyone.

I set out this year to wife my girlfriend whom I had dated for 2 years but her character made me think twice so we broke up and I moved on. I have tried to make friends with matured ladies in the church I worship but it's been from one bad experience to another.

Ever since I started looking for a woman to call my wife I have been meeting different characteristics of women.
Within the space of 1 year I've met one who is a maniac, one I met at a hangout didn't hesitate to show her lazy attitude the day she came to my place to see I'm a bit comfortable, another one I met recently in church turned out to be a thief.

2021 is almost over and I'm yet to find a wife. Where do you advice I go in search for a good woman?

Wife material scarce oh!
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Did you see a video of Shiloh 2021? Plenty women dey market but no wife.

Single ladies are busy chasing the fantasy they read about online instead of facing reality. Try any of the Colleges of Education--the ladies there are being snapped up quickly. A lot of "reasonable" bachelors have turned their backs on the co-habiting, ill-mannered, yahoo-boys'-destroyed, materialistic, online-begging, catfishing, sugar-daddies-prone, semi-literate, runs girls (masquerading as students) that litter our universities and Polytechnics.

You are better off picking one from Allen Avenue at night. Do all the necessary lab works and if she comes out clean, then marry her like that. There is no significant difference between her and the ones you see in church. Don't be surprised to see her leading Songs and Praises on Sunday.

Unconditional love between a man and a lady does not exist in Nigeria.

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Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by adeiza4u(m): 3:01pm On Dec 16, 2021
EkehPraise:
Like every well brought up young man, I'm in my early 30's and really doing fine at least I'm not begging for anything from anyone.

I set out this year to wife my girlfriend whom I had dated for 2 years but her character made me think twice so we broke up and I moved on. I have tried to make friends with matured ladies in the church I worship but it's been from one bad experience to another.

Ever since I started looking for a woman to call my wife I have been meeting different characteristics of women.
Within the space of 1 year I've met one who is a maniac, one I met at a hangout didn't hesitate to show her lazy attitude the day she came to my place to see I'm a bit comfortable, another one I met recently in church turned out to be a thief.

2021 is almost over and I'm yet to find a wife. Where do you advice I go in search for a good woman?

Wife material scarce oh!
Let me gift you an unfailing advice free of cost. Come and thank me afterwards.
And the advice is:






Pray to God by Jesus for guidance, and favor.
PRAY AND PRAY

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Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by Berankis: 3:01pm On Dec 16, 2021
My advice for you is not to be too picky, as none of us are without our shortfalls. Just look for the one you can manage and can manage with you.
Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by AfriNotesNEWS: 3:02pm On Dec 16, 2021
EkehPraise:
Like every well brought up young man, I'm in my early 30's and really doing fine at least I'm not begging for anything from anyone.

I set out this year to wife my girlfriend whom I had dated for 2 years but her character made me think twice so we broke up and I moved on. I have tried to make friends with matured ladies in the church I worship but it's been from one bad experience to another.

Ever since I started looking for a woman to call my wife I have been meeting different characteristics of women.
Within the space of 1 year I've met one who is a maniac, one I met at a hangout didn't hesitate to show her lazy attitude the day she came to my place to see I'm a bit comfortable, another one I met recently in church turned out to be a thief.

2021 is almost over and I'm yet to find a wife. Where do you advice I go in search for a good woman?

Wife material scarce oh!

You should be thankful that u did not met a scammer among them

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Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by yemi1504: 3:03pm On Dec 16, 2021
karkinase:

You just Dey know.. the way everything is hard in this country so to get a good wife material. Many of the ladies out there r nothing to write home about.

You and him are just getting to know? Wife material don become dey find needle for haystack imo o.
Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by Onliie(m): 3:03pm On Dec 16, 2021
EkehPraise:
Like every well brought up young man, I'm in my early 30's and really doing fine at least I'm not begging for anything from anyone.

I set out this year to wife my girlfriend whom I had dated for 2 years but her character made me think twice so we broke up and I moved on. I have tried to make friends with matured ladies in the church I worship but it's been from one bad experience to another.

Ever since I started looking for a woman to call my wife I have been meeting different characteristics of women.
Within the space of 1 year I've met one who is a maniac, one I met at a hangout didn't hesitate to show her lazy attitude the day she came to my place to see I'm a bit comfortable, another one I met recently in church turned out to be a thief.

2021 is almost over and I'm yet to find a wife. Where do you advice I go in search for a good woman?

Wife material scarce oh!
Many Christian ladies are fake. Even serious ones are shallow.

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Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by silibaba: 3:03pm On Dec 16, 2021
EkehPraise:
Like every well brought up young man, I'm in my early 30's and really doing fine at least I'm not begging for anything from anyone.

I set out this year to wife my girlfriend whom I had dated for 2 years but her character made me think twice so we broke up and I moved on. I have tried to make friends with matured ladies in the church I worship but it's been from one bad experience to another.

Ever since I started looking for a woman to call my wife I have been meeting different characteristics of women.
Within the space of 1 year I've met one who is a maniac, one I met at a hangout didn't hesitate to show her lazy attitude the day she came to my place to see I'm a bit comfortable, another one I met recently in church turned out to be a thief.

2021 is almost over and I'm yet to find a wife. Where do you advice I go in search for a good woman?

Wife material scarce oh!

Them dey search for wife?. Don't go and marry all this endtime babe poop.

Just marry your bestfriend is all I can say.

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Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by lexy2014: 3:04pm On Dec 16, 2021
InvertedHammer:

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Did you see a video of Shiloh 2022? Plenty women dey market but no wife.

Women are busy chasing the fantasy they read about online instead of facing reality. Try any of the Colleges of Education--the ladies there are being snapped up quickly. A lot of "reasonable" bachelors have turned their backs on the co-habiting, ill-mannered, yahoo-boys'-destroyed, materialistic, semi-literate, runs girls (masquerading as students) that litter our universities and Polytechnics.

/

are u the one doing the census at colleges of education, polytechnics and universities to no who and who are being snapped up quickly and who are runs girls?

by d way, shiloh 2022 hasnt taken place yet. it will take place next year
Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by mrksquare: 3:06pm On Dec 16, 2021
EkehPraise:
Like every well brought up young man, I'm in my early 30's and really doing fine at least I'm not begging for anything from anyone.

I set out this year to wife my girlfriend whom I had dated for 2 years but her character made me think twice so we broke up and I moved on. I have tried to make friends with matured ladies in the church I worship but it's been from one bad experience to another.

Ever since I started looking for a woman to call my wife I have been meeting different characteristics of women.
Within the space of 1 year I've met one who is a maniac, one I met at a hangout didn't hesitate to show her lazy attitude the day she came to my place to see I'm a bit comfortable, another one I met recently in church turned out to be a thief.

2021 is almost over and I'm yet to find a wife. Where do you advice I go in search for a good woman?

Wife material scarce oh!

I'm on the same ship with you. When one finally decide to get married that is when you will know that good women are an endangered specie.

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Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by Koffiatama: 3:06pm On Dec 16, 2021
You mean for 2years you dated her, she was good?. At the mention of marriage, bad character entered into her. wonderful ?
Others are just useless, some are even thieves.
Show women some respect, they breath air same as you. Else you may have 2022 and beyond to search

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Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by lexy2014: 3:07pm On Dec 16, 2021
nkemdi89:
Same thing I am passing through as a woman , I was turning down proposals because I wasn't financially ready to settle down and I was aiming for a particular level at work , now I am ready but the choice of men I am seeing it's not what I was expecting.

make u and op put heads together to solve your common problem
Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by Okeedu(m): 3:08pm On Dec 16, 2021
Honestly I'll tell u to get a child through surrogacy first,then continue ur search later on.

Check out my signature guys.

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Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by lexy2014: 3:08pm On Dec 16, 2021
iamme1234:




Man
Change your location.
Good,better,best girls are still out there.
I repeat change your location

where should he change his location to?
Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by shonepet: 3:09pm On Dec 16, 2021
Brother, I am in the same shoe with you.
Since January, myself and my friend decided to settle down with a good lady this year. As i write, we have not achieved a % of this target..... especially me becos, i don't even have a girlfriend.

God help us

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Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by Obiorahpcfg: 3:09pm On Dec 16, 2021
Like every well brought up young man, I'm in my early 30's and really doing fine at least I'm not begging for anything from anyone.

I set out this year to wife my girlfriend whom I had dated for 2 years but her character made me think twice so we broke up and I moved on. I have tried to make friends with matured ladies in the church I worship but it's been from one bad experience to another.

Ever since I started looking for a woman to call my wife I have been meeting different characteristics of women.
Within the space of 1 year I've met one who is a maniac, one I met at a hangout didn't hesitate to show her lazy attitude the day she came to my place to see I'm a bit comfortable, another one I met recently in church turned out to be a thief.

2021 is almost over and I'm yet to find a wife. Where do you advice I go in search for a good woman?

Wife material scarce

You think so?
Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by ibechris(m): 3:09pm On Dec 16, 2021
EkehPraise:
Like every well brought up young man, I'm in my early 30's and really doing fine at least I'm not begging for anything from anyone.

I set out this year to wife my girlfriend whom I had dated for 2 years but her character made me think twice so we broke up and I moved on. I have tried to make friends with matured ladies in the church I worship but it's been from one bad experience to another.

Ever since I started looking for a woman to call my wife I have been meeting different characteristics of women.
Within the space of 1 year I've met one who is a maniac, one I met at a hangout didn't hesitate to show her lazy attitude the day she came to my place to see I'm a bit comfortable, another one I met recently in church turned out to be a thief.

2021 is almost over and I'm yet to find a wife. Where do you advice I go in search for a good woman?

Wife material scarce oh!



If all these women u mentioned can't be good enough for u including ur girl friend of 2years....guy,to be candid with u,u have a problem.

U are looking for a faultless woman to marry as if u are faultless yourself. Change ur attitude towards women and get the best of them.

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Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by yemi1504: 3:10pm On Dec 16, 2021
toujurs:
This is what i told guys earlier, a good woman with a good heart and character is very very hard to find, most of the ladies we have now are hungry lazy gold diggers or either very selfish. Look beyond physical beauty, its a scam. The beauty lies beneath, Ladies you see unmarried at 40, Bro check well its her bad character and selfishness that made her still single at such age, No guy will see a good hearted lady and keave her, guys have their own issues. But women own are worst. You cannot be a liability and still come into a man's life to dictate what happen.

You can say that again! But these ladies blame other things for their predicaments and not the real reason - them! I have one here and one is on the way to becoming one even though the one on the way is a very good pretender like most of them are.
Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by lexy2014: 3:10pm On Dec 16, 2021
chudez0147:

No o... You need sand .

have u spent sand on a lady before?
Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by latogng: 3:10pm On Dec 16, 2021
Kirkman:
Better enter Depper Life church go look for wife there grin and upgrade her to your specs afterwards. Cos this thing wey I dey read about your church girls dey give me cause for concern.

I get one deeper life girl wey dey com nack me on Sundays After Church, It doesn't look like i'm the only one she is seeing at the time, because she told me point blank we ain't heading anywhere due to our Tribal differences and her family strong Position on this.

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Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by PrinceMajestic: 3:12pm On Dec 16, 2021
oke2018:
Yes o
pls PM me
Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by EmyGod(m): 3:13pm On Dec 16, 2021
heniford2:
the problem started when you have the mindset "Am looking for a woman to settle down"look kill that mentality if not u will not find anyone suitable for u start making friends and keep it on friendship level u will be surprise as how life unfolds for you bro. sad wink good luck merry Xmas stay alive!
Do not X the lord please it is merry Christmas not X please.
Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by isaiah4life(m): 3:13pm On Dec 16, 2021
Dreytonisback:
Some get wife materials but no money to appreciate their woman
Life no balance

Lights up my kpoli in peace


Oga, you and smoke eeh! Make e no kill you,
Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by Worksunlimited: 3:15pm On Dec 16, 2021
EkehPraise:
Like every well brought up young man, I'm in my early 30's and really doing fine at least I'm not begging for anything from anyone.

I set out this year to wife my girlfriend whom I had dated for 2 years but her character made me think twice so we broke up and I moved on. I have tried to make friends with matured ladies in the church I worship but it's been from one bad experience to another.

Ever since I started looking for a woman to call my wife I have been meeting different characteristics of women.
Within the space of 1 year I've met one who is a maniac, one I met at a hangout didn't hesitate to show her lazy attitude the day she came to my place to see I'm a bit comfortable, another one I met recently in church turned out to be a thief.

2021 is almost over and I'm yet to find a wife. Where do you advice I go in search for a good woman?

Wife material scarce oh!

Take a chill pill.. na wetin I dey do ryt now.. I am on relationship break

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Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by msMonyei: 3:15pm On Dec 16, 2021
FunnyDude:


If you need money to date every woman you meet. That means your dating game (street OT) is poor. Go improve your dating game


And how does dating game and street OT relate? Some real nggaz no even get time for dating..

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