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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by nameo: 5:52pm On Dec 22, 2021
Guyman02:
Yes, we dated for 4 years as students, proposed to her after my NYSC when I secured a job, met her family, discussed my intention and they felt we are not on the same level (full of themselves), later they even claimed that they went to investigate my family in our village and they were told that mental illness runs in our lineage.
They convinced her to abandon our marriage plans which she did instead of fighting for us, I asked her to refund part of the bulk money I gave to her for the marriage preparation which she later did because I wanted a proper closure to the relationship, felt really humiliated, locked myself inside and cried, washed my face and told myself it was time to move on.

Deleted her contact from my phone, never scooped around her social media handles, put aside all our pictures together under a locker and didn't worry myself about her anymore.

Started another relationship with a lady I was close to as friends who was very passionate about me but I didn't look at her because I was faithful to my ex.

Suddenly from the blues, my ex elder sister called me after some months that she has been erratic, cursing everyone for making her to abandon the love of her life and that the family has agreed to our plans for marriage.

Later she called me asking for forgiveness and that it was an Uncle of mine who told her family that mental illness runs in our family because he felt I was marrying into a prominent family and to a girl who works in a big establishment while his own children are scattered.

I simply told her I have moved on and wasn't gonna look back and had already started marriage plans with the lady I mentioned earlier and I even invited her to the superlative wedding we were planning in an exquisite location then.
I used the opportunity to tell her that I am wiser now as I go for only ladies who stand by their men because I am afraid if I show any signs of madness (as my uncle told her family) instead of taking me to a psychiatrist hospital, she will rather take me to a market square so that the madness will become permanent.

Today we are both married to different people and talk freely on general topics anytime she calls me, but I totally avoid making any reference to our 4 years failed relationship to avoid Okafors Law.

Really nice read.

Let me finish what I am doing and come and "enjoy" this thread

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by 1Sharon(f): 5:53pm On Dec 22, 2021
MufasaLion:


Lol

This lady never said she wanted a big dick. For her to have left the guy, his dick was very small and it couldn't even last long.

You keep saying it could be worked on, but I hope you know working on such in a marriage is not easy. The guy should go and work on himself before thinking of marriage. He was not even straightforward with the lady with his genital problem.

Its pretty simple really, just tell him to hold on for as long as possible before cumming ?

Are you saying not lasting long is a medical problem?
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by liya11: 5:54pm On Dec 22, 2021
Wakando:

She was about to travel abroad, i spent more than a million for her travel, engaged her then she traveled, few weeks later her father called me to stop disturbing his daughter, that I'm too poor to be his son in law


Wow!

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by larryking540: 5:56pm On Dec 22, 2021
Dumte:
It all started during the COVID-19 lockdown period. In the morning hours of 4th April 2020, I met this lady who is a Tiv girl from Benue State. And we came to mutual agreement as we started dating. She was so much in love with me that I was invited by her aunt who she has been with for over 8years.

The aunt who is a professional prostitute that runs her business in Niger �� Republic while the girl and her aunt's daughter lives in the said northern state, got annoyed that throughout her entire life she hasn't seen any one who wants to take her as a wife except the ones who are for sex.

She wasn't happy with the relationship, but the more she hated us the more the girl loves me (someone once told me that the best time a girl expresses her love is when someone in her family is objecting her relationship, I don't know if that is true).

My ex's parents asked her to bring me so we can start proper planning. After 6 months of relationship we went home to see her parents. On getting to Benue, the dad accepted everything whole heartedly but the demon exhibits her monster through the mother who was fed negative information about me. That I am a private school teacher, that I speak different language etc. Lots of useless reasons.

That was the beginning of my ex's misbehavior. And to cut the long story short, she is currently into prostitution as I speak, same business her aunt is doing.

I'm planning to send her my wedding I.V coming next month. Just to let her understand that evry man is someone's favorite.
na waoo things they happen sha oo,,,women are women's own enemy,and I can bet you that her aunt isn't married again ,I tell ladies who care to listen the very day you stop telling your fellow ladies how your relationship is going you have solved a big problem from your life...

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nobody: 6:00pm On Dec 22, 2021
larryking540:
, sometimes when I see male and female praying for a good woman or delay in marriage,I don't feel pity or bad for them , this is one of the reason ,you hardly hear an Asian woman leaving a guy because of small dick or because of hight only African women do so ,




Oga u fit marry woman with a wide and unending hole??
You fit marry ugly or breastless woman??
If you can't do any of those above please stop attacking that lady.. Thanks

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by baby124: 6:01pm On Dec 22, 2021
ezegenigbonine:


My sister, if only he met you a virgin and was the one that deflower you, his small joystick would have matched your virgina.

God made it in a way that if you open a hole with 2 inches nail, the hole will always match 2 inches nail.
But to you women, a 6 inches nail will open your hole and you will be complaining that 2 inches nail is too small for the hole.

However it piss me off when a woman will be disvirgined by a big prick and she will be putting blame on an innocent man with small prick.

Try and allow your husband to disvirgin u and see if you will ever complain even if the man has the smallest penis in the world.
What happens when she gives birth? By the way, like Penis, vagina can have size. What if you marry one with big size and your pekus is still too small?

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by pocohantas(f): 6:03pm On Dec 22, 2021
FalseProphet1:

So in your myopic reasoning, you suddenly know what decision I'm going to make in my relationship, how did you acquire this strange gift if I may ask?

Suddenly all men will dump their woman because of a negative story they heard about her or her family.

When you read of stories of men who send their girlfriends abroad to study or invest heavily on their girls admist opposition from their friends and family concerning the girl, you'll turn a blind eye.

Recently an African footballer lost all the wealth he made in football because he registered his properties in his wife's name and she divorced him and inherited them.

As usual you feminist wouldn't move a muscle, but once a man gives an opinion you don't agreed you'll start jumping up and down like a dog on heat.

Oga rest abeg. No dey cap nonsense and offpoint. When you have a daughter and disapprove her marriage, tell her to run off with the guy because of love. For your small pikin brain, love is going against your family. Na too much film dey make una mumu. If they ask you to donate one kidney, love go clear from your opolo eyes.

Because your gbola dey rise, you think you are in love. Small children of this generation sha. cheesy

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by pocohantas(f): 6:05pm On Dec 22, 2021
larryking540:
will you also accept the fact that women lie and cheat also ?

I have NEVER seen women bragging about being cheats and liars. Context please. wink

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by capnies: 6:06pm On Dec 22, 2021
niyialama:
Yes, I have been. She was from an average well to do family and we used to be family friends, I was a disabled guy who resides abroad. We met online and she subtle impressed me, came over to visit and I was spending on her and family.

Cajoled me to come over to do introduction but after that, her mum and dad was not pleased with my condition and she found an excused to go for the guy she's been seeing whilst with me.

Life for you.

ARE YOU BLIND, DEAF, DUMB OR JUST PHYSICALLY CHALLENGED
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nobody: 6:07pm On Dec 22, 2021
MufasaLion:


I ain't gonna marry and I don't even wanna have more than 1 or 2 kids. See, without marriage, I can still achieve what I want.



Who even asked you?? You can keep your belief to yourself, then live for years die and get buried nobody knows or cares.
Make we hear word mbok

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by kakaflex(m): 6:08pm On Dec 22, 2021
Yes, have been with a lady for 4years.
I left her because the relationship has no trust. She don't trust me at all, even when I know am not cheating.

No marriage can last without TRUST

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by ultraviolet27(f): 6:09pm On Dec 22, 2021
larryking540:
, sometimes when I see male and female praying for a good woman or delay in marriage,I don't feel pity or bad for them , this is one of the reason ,you hardly hear an Asian woman leaving a guy because of small dick or because of hight only African women do so ,
. But I didn't See you raising a Hell when ur fellow Man Commented on this thread in the 4th Page that He Can't Marry Ladies that He Sleeps wit b4 Marriage as He had Texted 4 of them and they failed but u wanted a Lady 2 Condone a Man She isn't Sexually Compatible with.

Most of you Guys are terrible Seriously a Woman won't Open Her Legs for you U will Come here to Create Thread,Gnash ur Teeth,and defame them, and if they stl let u do,u will Still Come here and Shame them wetin una want?

But when u Guys are at d receiving End that is when u will realize She should have stuck wit you So that She won't be at Shiloh2022 Bal bla bla Even She was being Proactive now so as not 2 Cheat in Her marriage. anyway I blame d Girls thinking Opening their Legs for a Nigerian Man will Kee them not knowing when it Comes to them no be One size fit all.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Kirkman: 6:10pm On Dec 22, 2021
mixratio:
what is Okafors law pls?

It states that once a Congo has been shined once (C 1 ) , it can always be shined (C ∞ ) provided it was shined properly ( P) the previous times.(emphasis on properly). In other words, "....a woman once knacked, can be reknacked..." as far as all settings are favourable.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by larryking540: 6:10pm On Dec 22, 2021
gift0123:





Oga u fit marry woman with a wide and unending hole??
You fit marry ugly or breastless woman??
If you can't do any of those above please stop attacking that lady.. Thanks

because u feel relationship should be more about body compensation rather that what the heart has to offer....let me shock you abit you think a man who is normal upstairs and logical and ready to marry or settle down looks at the body first ,ask those men who where gilted or played by ladies ,when they start searching for love again body attraction is zero ,they don't care how beautiful you are again just have brains is all they want ....
I am not a virgin why should I go around looking for smaller holes hello,,,, atleast she has boobs to breastfeed my pikin,and point of corrections no woman is breast less

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by MufasaLion: 6:11pm On Dec 22, 2021
gift0123:




Who even asked you?? You can keep your belief to yourself, then live for years die and get buried nobody knows or cares.
Make we hear word mbok

Shut up! You weren't invited to my conversation. Bitter creature! grin

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by baby124: 6:12pm On Dec 22, 2021
Yes o. Irresponsibility and Hidden Baby Mama. Thank God for saving my life and giving me hubby with no baggage’s grin.

All these small boys shouting they want babymama. When you meet the girl you truly love and marry, she may not want a babypapa. So be careful in this life!

My ex cried and cried but that was not the plan I had for my life. Sorry… actions and consequences. undecided

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by MufasaLion: 6:12pm On Dec 22, 2021
1Sharon:


Its pretty simple really, just tell him to hold on for as long as possible before cumming ?

Are you saying not lasting long is a medical problem?

What I'm saying is that she ain't ready to manage and endure such case. Let it be!

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nobody: 6:14pm On Dec 22, 2021
MufasaLion:


Shut up! You weren't invited to my conversation. Bitter creature! grin



Gerrra here, keep your thought to yourself know tell us mbok.
Naa people like u go open mouth dey vomit yeye, come deceive others join.

Next year we go see you in love with mama tobe daughter before we know it you don marry score two goals in one month.. abeg shift. Hard hard man b say dey never fall in love

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by larryking540: 6:17pm On Dec 22, 2021
ultraviolet27:
. But I didn't See you raising a Hell when ur fellow Man Commented on this thread in the 4th Page that He Can't Marry Ladies that He Sleeps wit b4 Marriage as He had Texted 4 of them and they failed but u wanted a Lady 2 Condone a Man She isn't Sexually Compatible with.

Most of you Guys are terrible Seriously a Woman won't Open Her Legs for you U will Come here to Create Thread,Gnash ur Teeth,and defame them, and if they stl let u do,u will Still Come here and Shame them wetin una want?

But when u Guys are at d receiving End that is when u will realize She should have stuck wit you So that She won't be at Shiloh2022 Bal bla bla Even She was being Proactive now so as not 2 Cheat in Her marriage. anyway I blame d Girls thinking Opening their Legs for a Nigerian Man will Kee them not knowing when it Comes to them no be One size fit all.
I didn't need to check page 4 of that guys comment and I was about commenting back but had a breaking service ,,I don't advocate for cheating in relationship if you know me very well in nairaland ,both for male and females ,I have met red pillers who advocate of knacking a lady and dropping her or turning her into a baby mama ,and I am never in support of that behavior and I tell girls or lady which ever ,marry before you carry (marriage before pregnancy ) .... because the chances of becoming a baby mama is 70% higher
you will end up as a single Mother if you still choose the opposite ..

so choose your words wisely if you are coming for me , because both genders are faulty in my dictionary sweetheart

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Sermwell(m): 6:18pm On Dec 22, 2021
1Sharon:


I don't understand you.

Someone made a claim that mental illness runs in your family and you instead expected your girl to defend you?

Why didn't you vehemently deny it to her yourself?

If someone comes at me with an allegation I know isnt true, I won't stop denying it.

The girl is stupid for going along with an allegation without asking for proof, but you didn't defend yourself
It's only that can spew this trash! I checked and wasn't disappointed!
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by StreetFight: 6:18pm On Dec 22, 2021
FalseProphet1:

Why would you date someone you can't marry?

I thought dating is the stepping stone to engagement, then marriage...No?

Stop saying nonsense. Dating means free fuccking without pay.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nobody: 6:18pm On Dec 22, 2021
larryking540:


because u feel relationship should be more about body compensation rather that what the heart has to offer....let me shock you abit you think a man who is normal upstairs and logical and ready to marry or settle down looks at the body first ,ask those men who where gilted or played by ladies ,when they start searching for love again body attraction is zero ,they don't care how beautiful you are again just have brains is all they want ....
I am not a virgin why should I go around looking for smaller holes hello,,,, atleast she has boobs to breastfeed my pikin,and point of corrections no woman is breast less






hmmmm just dey look you with one eye. Oga physical attraction matters!!!! Know dey deceive yourself... No matter how many times a man is hurt he still desires a woman he finds attractive physically.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by larryking540: 6:22pm On Dec 22, 2021
gift0123:







hmmmm just dey look you with one eye. Oga physical attraction matters!!!! Know dey deceive yourself... No matter how many times a man is hurt he still desires a woman he finds attractive physically.
yeah that's the wrong misconception ladies have carried for century ,you see why a man and a woman can never be sesame ?

not all beautiful ladies a marryable sister ,men who have been tru hell in relationship know how we filter ladies out ,same like you but na who get money una they only accept ,,,but you ladies can do better when you filter relationship sha o, because all pocket filled with gold are not Gold but coated gold

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by larryking540: 6:24pm On Dec 22, 2021
pocohantas:


I have NEVER seen women bragging about being cheats and liars. Context please. wink
comot jor ,ooooh the ones going on in TikTok is film trick or you want me to send you clips of ladies caught red handed on a dick ?

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by DonroxyII: 6:24pm On Dec 22, 2021
ashawopikin:
the only way to handle a feminist is to dick her to submission
The Fury Energies will just turn to tears �

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by blaise26abj(m): 6:26pm On Dec 22, 2021
Gandokiejim:
My Experience
I've always said,I won't marry anyone I had sex with.I believe you are cheap if I sleep with you before marriage ( my ideology though)
I dated and engaged 4 Ladies,I'll tempt them for sex,they will just fall and open their legs,that will be the end of that relationship.
I want to have a feel of my wife first time wedding night.

After they opened their legs , did you sleep with them before calling off the engagement ? Who the F are you to tempt ladies that are engaged to you with sex ! Then judge them for falling for someone they love. You are a devil . You are not ready and i pray you don’t fall into the hands of a pretender that will see through your BS then F you up after you commit .

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by emonis88: 6:26pm On Dec 22, 2021
Sunday2021:
bubu is not your problem.
I can confidently tell you that if the Constitution allow for 3rd term buhari will win. All your propaganda since 2014 is useless. Your governor is owing civil servant 23 months, go and meet him.
Buhari is not your governor
Buhari is not your senator
Buhari is not your rep
Buhari is not your assembly member
Buhari is not your chairman
Buhari is not your councilor.
You can use the lagoon if you are not happy with Buhari.
Buhari is not all these, but he is d head of them all. I don't understand y u rejoice over mediocrity, even when it is staring u n every Nigerian in d face, y didn't u make these same excuses for previous presidents? But u were shouting then about them being incompetent, like this guy is shout about ur bubu, but u come here to defend what now, ur pocket?

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by MufasaLion: 6:27pm On Dec 22, 2021
gift0123:




Gerrra here, keep your thought to yourself know tell us mbok.
Naa people like u go open mouth dey vomit yeye, come deceive others join.

Next year we go see you in love with mama tobe daughter before we know it you don marry score two goals in one month.. abeg shift. Hard hard man b say dey never fall in love

You're a very foolish girl. Who the fvck are you to just jump into my mentions and start talking with both sides of your filthy mouth? You don't fvcking know me!

I ain't the reason you were used by men and always get dumped! Take your frustration back home.
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nobody: 6:30pm On Dec 22, 2021
larryking540:

yeah that's the wrong misconception ladies have carried for century ,you see why a man and a woman can never be sesame ?

not all beautiful ladies a marryable sister ,men who have been tru hell in relationship know how we filter ladies out ,same like you but na who get money una they only accept ,,,but you ladies can do better when you filter relationship sha o, because all pocket filled with gold are not Gold but coated gold




I know that all beautiful ladies may not be marriage materials, but such situation can never make a man to settle for a woman he never finds attractive, a woman who isn't presentable? "it's not possible"!

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nobody: 6:33pm On Dec 22, 2021
MufasaLion:


You're a very foolish girl. Who the fvck are you to just jump into my mentions and start talking with both sides of your filthy mouth? You don't fvcking know me!

I ain't the reason you were used by men and always get dumped! Take your frustration back home.





��� You follow for the men wey use me and dump me now? Bitter soul, you fit go hang transformer... Small boy, just go grow up first, you are talking about marriage, what do you even know about marriage? Like have you even coordinated yourself talk more of handling a home mumu.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by MufasaLion: 6:43pm On Dec 22, 2021
gift0123:






��� You follow for the men wey use me and dump me now? Bitter soul, you fit go hang transformer... Small boy, just go grow up first, you are taking about marriage, what do you even know about marriage? Like have you even coordinated yourself talk more of handling a home mumu.


grin grin grin

Till you get some sense, you will keep attending Shiloh! I ain't gonna dignify you with any response no more. Useless bitter old cunt!
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Panda7(m): 6:43pm On Dec 22, 2021
angry grin cheesy

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