debbydams:
Lol..it depends sha

Good afternoon Debby

Merry Christmas to you dear

And I wish you the best of new years ever

Simran94:

Because right from time, it's the responsibility of the man to take care of his family. Our fathers took care of our mothers, same with our grandfathers.

Hello Simran

Merry Christmas to you

And I wish you the best of new years ever

InTheCloudySky:
$121.68 dollars? I jump and pass.

These broke men have the worst attitude too, always angry for nothing. Again, I somersault and pass. No, thank you.

Lol... Babe I love your hum our

But you're right though

Merry Christmas to you dear

And have the best of new years ever

Datboredberry:


Did you miss the, "combined salary of the partners"...

Or you just wanna be stupid tonight?

Sweetheart don't mind him OK, just ignore.... I read your comment and you're right

Don't let let him spoil your Christmas spirit and energy oh jare

kakaflex:
How much the man takes home shouldn't be an issue. 50k is even much.

I got married when my Salary was 25k, after few months my wife got a Job she was earning 145k.

One thing I thank God is my wife is God fearing and respects me alot. That money didn't enter her head.

Few months later I got a pay raise to 180k at my place of Work.

So money shouldn't be an issue

if u haven't started your house project then dm me lets talk

MummyD2020:


Nothing wey u wan tell me, dey don scatter your heart before

No mind am

MummyD2020:

After all, he sees some qualities he loves in the girl. So why is she now not allowed to make a choice. Abeg leave this people here. Im just catching cruise with the topics and comments here

Merry Christmas to you dear

Angy55:


Don't mind them. They just want to marry somebody's daughter to come and suffer. As a Spinster self footing my bills, accommodation and all, it's difficult for me. Not talkless of a man.

I won't marry. I know miracle can happen any time. I will stand by you and encourage you, support you till you break through on the friendship/dating zone. When the money comes marry me. But if it hasn't come don't propose. I won't get angry.

Marriage is no child's play.

You're right dear

Merry Christmas to you

Estellie:
be like this one nor dey earn at all cause wdf are you so pained?

Btw, anyone earning 50k per month has no business with marriage. Survive first instead of getting married and bringing little kids to suffer in this world. Abi suffer nor dey taya una? Later now when your wife born triplet una go japka cus of ordinary hospital bill

Lol you're right dear

Merry Christmas to you dear

MisterKennedy:


Hello Simran

Merry Christmas to you

And I wish you the best of new years ever

Hello MisterKennedy

Thank you very much

Merry Christmas to you too.

I wish you the best of new years ever

I earn less than 50k I am married with three kids, self owned 2 bedroom apartment and pencils Camry. It's God and wife understanding.

UyaiIncomparabl:
This question has been over flogged severally.

Anyways, NO, I won't. I can't even date him, not even with prospects. I'm not that patient.

Haba dear... What if he's very hardworking and very promising but isn't there yet... Would you give up on him?

Mrscarter:



If i wasnt already happily married...yes i dnt care if we live on minumum money. As long as its the man i love i will work with him work together to bring in income. Anything can be done if u stand united and help build each other up. As long as we had a roof over our heads and a feed each day anything is possible. But i wouldnt have children til we doing better ofcourse

I love your reply here Mrs. Cater. It's the best female reply here so far.... I really love your mindset ma

Merry Christmas to you Ma

And a very prosperous and the best new year ever to you and yours.

Hmm!
Please how much is accommodation in Lagos? How much is one room a month? How much will be the monthly travel cost for the husband and wife? How much will it cost them to eat twice a day(not even three times)? What about decent clothing and dressing, electricity bills, water bills, etc? How will N50K be alright let alone enough for an individual, let alone N100K for a family of two?
I've read several stories like this and this is hearkbreaking. The average Nigerian citizen allows himself/herself to be pushed to the wall to the extent that we are now pushed into the very wall itself and yet we will not resist. The monies being stolen each day by politicians and others you all know is more than enough to pay a living wage to so many hardworking Nigerians. When are you guys going to wake up and insist that enough is enough? Is it not better to die on one's feet than to live under circumstances not worthy of humans? Yet, we are still dying in droves from minor challenges that adequate finances would have solved. So is it not better to die while fighting for equity than to still die as a result of lack of the same equity ? How does an individual even survive let alone thrive on N100k a month in a city like Lagos. We should please not even think of bringing innocent kids into this world on such a wage. It will be an act of injustice on our part to do that. This is really heartbreaking.

Datboredberry:
With the way most of you dish out insults...

Yes... She's entitled to choose or size you up... That's normal, intelligent even... Every living thing chooses a mate that has the most to offer...

You are entitled to choose also...

Your entire comment makes no sense...

First of all, you might be a suffer-head... Don't assume others are too... You might feel content being broke, struggling to feed... You seriously want to start a family this way?

See your child(ren) starve, sent home from school...etc.

It's not rude to be wise enough to know that 50k is not enough for even a family of three...(man, woman and one child)...

You should simply say that you can only marry if the woman earns the same amount too... A combined salary... A total of ₦100k... That's manageable...

But you're being unnecessarily defensive...

Toks2008:


You are so naive. Life can so happen to you that you won't know what hit you.

I was a millionaire in 2001 earning at least 1.5M a month. It was the internet boom Era, I was into computer sales and networking as well as setting up cyber cafes with money making referral program attached but in Nov 2001 I had an auto crash that sent me to the land of poverty... I could not walk for months and because the business was a young one it crashed so hard and I was as poor as you can ever imagine.

Today I thank GOD for his grace so the point I'm making is that only a foolish lady judges a man by his present financial state...as long as a guy is hardworking and the lady is not a hopeless parasite, they are good to go.

I'm very happy for you bro

Thank God for your life

They won't understand the pain we go through to make this money, especially in a backward country like Njgeria

Really?
That is why Nigeria has now grown an army of the uneducated, unlearned and uncontrollable kids who are running rampage across the country. The greater damage they will inflict in the coming years and decades will affect every single person living in Nigeria.
What you earn MUST determine when and IF you should marry to the extent that you marry to procreate. If you will not procreate, then your income should not determine when and IF you should marry, to the extent that you can find a fellow sufferhead to be your mate(male or female). But then, show me the Nigerian who wants to marry and not procreate. We have raised an army that will annihilate that country in the years and decades to come, simply by marrying and procreating when most of us have no busines doing so.

Iyaebe:
What you earn shouldn't determine when and if you should marry.

It actually shows he understands what marriage entails and therefore is very serious about marriage. His question does not insinuate that his marriage mate will be an idle individual with no income. We all should cut our coat according to the material available. He is stating the clothing material he has available and asking the opposite sex, who will know better, if they will agree to marry someone on that salary. But we commentators have taken the normal Nigerian route of presupposing the woman brings nothing to the table. You can be sure that a guy who makes N50K a month will most definitely not marry someone who does not have an income(if he likes himself at all). But it is possible that a good number of women who have an income may not want to marry a guy with such an income as himself. He is serious and has asked a very serious question and I applaud him.

motymop:
I am very concerned on why you need the opinion of women concerning your salary. Many of these women don't work or earn less than you, so why need their opinion?

Your reality is different from his reality. He is probably a decent guy on that one income who will not use his employers' time to hustle for other sources of income. It is easy to talk about several other sources of income at the same time. If that is easy in practise, I am sure there will be no poor person in Nigeria. Let's focus on his question: If you are a girl and I approach you, will you find the fact that I make N50K a month a turn off? And yes, a woman you want to marry has an absolute right to know what you make so it can inform her decision, just as you have a right to know what she makes so it can inform your decision. It's not just earnings: Where did you go to school? Did you finish High School? Did you go to college? Did you go to post-graduate school? How many siblings do you have? does your mother or father still control what you do? Where are you currently living? Who pays the rent? etc,etc,etc. Hard but necessary questions each party must ask before they decide if you are a worthy marriage mate. Else, kasalla go burst later in that marriage.

tnerro1:
Don’t be deceived by salary, I know some civil servants that have not touched their salaries in years. Look at his prospects, girl wey get scence sabi wetin I Dey talk about

Wuminity:
Why not, if he is willing to expand his coast with time.

Of course we are gonna stick to our plans, and there would be less lavish spending,,,, only the most important things are done first, and if there is room for spoiling left, it's mostly welcomed.

I love your reply dear. You actually have a very wonderful mindset

Merry Christmas to you dear

And a Fantastic New Year To You

havigold:



I will suggest you wait till the end of this OLD and LIFELESS statue tenure , before you embark in the INSTITUTION of MARRIAGE.. the truth be told no young lady living in the cities or villages can wear the garment of ENDURANCE for years because of the word called LOVE... Unless you have already gotten some necessary requirements of life then you can marry and manage a home with less than 50k..
The following will drain or make you...
Choice of partner
Marriage rites ( two people involved in finances)
Accommodation ( your sole responsibility )
Feeding ( spouse, child , inlaws, friends)
Personal management
Financial responsibilities etc

Don't be deceived every woman has her threshold of endurance in marriage , if a woman bears your sole responsibility get ready for SLEEPLESS, BORING and DIVORCE lifestyles in marriages...
WOMEN NO DEY FINISH FOR MARRIAGE MARKET...

Equip yourself with some other legit means of income and good investments...
Inspiring marriage and women lifestyle books
Having fun( playing safe ... Healthy)
Loving your creator and your fellow neighbours...etc

Then you will SEE that MARRIAGE WILL BE ATTRACTED TO YOU AT ITS RIGHT TIME boo/bae...
Shalom...

Wow!!! I really love your reply dear... It's so epic and mature.

Merry Christmas to you dear

And may you have a very wonderful and fantastic new year... May it be the best new year for you so far.

Yeah! just as there are many vagabond kids roaming that country and killing and maiming others. There is a basic/minimum standard for life to be lived in every country in every generation, including in the days of our grand parents and great grand parents. Majority of Nigerians have been deprived of that in our generation because of authority stealing and we have all acquiesced to it. We now have a standard of living that animals in some other african countries will be ashamed of. The consequences in terms of the quality of kids we are raising, are beginning to show up and in our life times, we shall all feel the effect.

sofiscatedmoron:

There are many Yoruba guys earning less than 20k monthly and married

ultraviolet27:
I Can!!! I am not Planning to have more than 2 Kids and this I would have Explained to my Partner before we get married and if He Can't go on with it then we wouldn't av gone on with the Marriage and getting married doesn't mean the Kids must start Coming immediately.

So far he has other Side Hustles too and I too will have even if I Earn more than Him Say up to 200k I will stl marry Him at d end it's not how Much you earn but how U Spend and Sustain it though the Month. If He wants us to Have Kids immediately we Can One then Postpone birthing d Other till d Standard of Living is better. I know He ain't going to Earn 50k forever So will I this will be increment and their is stl the Options of Hunting for other High Paying Jobs.


Lagos,Abuja,Rivers,and Some other States in the South and the Eastern Parts are d most expensive States in Nigeria Since we won't Settle down there and I never intend to live there then any other State we reside,Costs of Living their Should be more manageable.

Wow!!! I love your reply dear... You really have a very phenomenal mindset... It's so epic and mature.

Merry Christmas to you dear

May 2022 be your best year so far

meetme01:
It is not about the salary of the man. It's about being an hustler. Anyone that tells you salary is enough to survive or sustain a family is just deceiving himself. The higher the salary, the higher the expenses.

As a civil servant, that's my take home. I have about 4 different other hustle that bring money. I don't even rely on the salary.

Pls can we talk I want to learn form you the other side hustle you do... am in your shoes and things has not been fine am also a civil servant

PastorM:


My ears were burning

Lol... Why are your ears burning?

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NemoDatQuod:
Your reality is different from his reality. He is probably a decent guy on that one income who will not use his employers' time to hustle for other sources of income. It is easy to talk about several other sources of income at the same time. If that is easy in practise, I am sure there will be no poor person in Nigeria. Let's focus on his question: If you are a girl and I approach you, will you find the fact that I make N50K a month a turn off? And yes, a woman you want to marry has an absolute right to know what you make so it can inform her decision, just as you have a right to know what she makes so it can inform your decision. It's not just earnings: Where did you go to school? Did you finish High School? Did you go to college? Did you go to post-graduate school? How many siblings do you have? does your mother or father still control what you do? Where are you currently living? Who pays the rent? etc,etc,etc. Hard but necessary questions each party must ask before they decide if you are a worthy marriage mate. Else, kasalla go burst later in that marriage.

Try to understand, it’s not all about the salary. I know a lot of Igbo people who are civil servants who don’t depend on their salary. One has a car wash in my area I usually get my car washed. He is a young guy but he has prospects. If he tells a girl he is a civil servant with 50k as salary and the girl looks down on him and walks away, na her loss

MisterKennedy:


Lol... Babe I love your hum our

But you're right though

Merry Christmas to you dear

And have the best of new years ever

Lol. Thank you. Happy new year in advance.

MisterKennedy:


Good afternoon Debby

Merry Christmas to you dear

And I wish you the best of new years ever

thanks so much..best wishes

Datboredberry:
Have you ever thought of rapping? Ever thought of releasing a song!!!

You composed this in a relatively short time.. it's really really good! I love the flow... Your words... I'm still trying to figure out if there's more to this...

But nevermind that...

I enjoy singing... I've considered a career in the entertainment industry but it's not really a dream of mine... Plus, that datboredberry, she would be completely different from the little girl she once was... And I'm not sure if I'm ready or brave enough to close the chapter of my life that was her...

There's something scary about cutting the last thread that ties you to the past... Starting anew...

I'm blabbing... You want my honest opinion, you would be a great rapper... It's not going to be easy... I can feel you, and I know it's tough now... It's a hard world but if you really want it... You'll get to the top...

I had a few suggestions ted... If you don't mind...

My darling angel on Nairaland.....state your suggestions.
Hell can't be too hot for you..... I would rather be your burning wall of protection ..... money is just a tool I don't mind spending to keep your affirmations.

I believe in your ideas ....... the respect for your response to my lines can't be too much...2Pac was legendary.... but I'd put in more creativity to fetch your happiness.
Spent 20+ years on the streets but I won't say you deserve violence..... you're now part of my business.

Doh Reh Mih To Davido
Mih Doh Reh To Mon Ami

Decipher my mind......enter my heart and tell me what you find .. I don't want to waste the time of your kind.
You are a good inspiration .......worthy to meet .... even outside marriage... I can't regret it.... the conversation is enough to keep me not so bothered.... like a therapeutic stuff... I don't think I'm blind.


Naira Marley may be dancing with ice..... I spit something deeper.... what you have to meditate upon..... not just the instrumentals.
It's worth the flames in my head and it will set music platforms ablaze except nobody hears it..... speaking of individuals.
At the moment,my flow is steady.... working forever.....meant to fortify this dude...he should be a rapper...
Tell that producer it's the lines of a monster.... such that doesn't have to be Jigga.... the mindset is tougher.... overcoming accusations and condemnations from wherever.... the impact is bigger..... the Notorious B.I.G would have made that clearer..


Lyrically beyond anyone's greatness.....what else?

The law still remains: Spend less than you make.

MisterKennedy:


Wow!!! I really love your reply dear... It's so epic and mature.

Merry Christmas to you dear

And may you have a very wonderful and fantastic new year... May it be the best new year for you so far.

Am grateful .... Merry Christmas to you dear

And may you have a very wonderful and fantastic new year... May it be the best new year for you so far as well...
Peace unto you.....