phranco:
I am in a relationship with a girl I'm planning to get married to. I love her and we vibe together and play most times. From my own assessment, she is good, down to earth, knows how to cook, humble, respectful, and she is also very beautiful naturally, infact she passed 70% quality of the kind of woman I want in my life.

The problem is that I'm not attracted to her sexually. She has a small body, and doesn't have nyash or should I say small nyash (sorry for the offensive word). I'm not aroused if I'm with her. I can manage to have sex with her just once, even if she will stay five days with me, and I know this gives her concern.

I like ladies with backside, height and chubby. but the ones I have come across doesn't even measure up to this my girl in character.

Does sex Matter so much in marriage? Cos I'm afraid I may cheat on her or get sexual satisfaction outside our marriage. I'm just confused right now.

Honestly sex is the most important thing in marriage after money. Or after sex then money. If you are not sexually attracted to her or she is not sexually attracted to you, there will be an issue.

And when you have issues, you both may not know its sex that's the underlying reason.

Please marry who you're really sexually attracted to.

phranco:
I am in a relationship with a girl I'm planning to get married to. I love her and we vibe together and play most times. From my own assessment, she is good, down to earth, knows how to cook, humble, respectful, and she is also very beautiful naturally, infact she passed 70% quality of the kind of woman I want in my life.

The problem is that I'm not attracted to her sexually. She has a small body, and doesn't have nyash or should I say small nyash (sorry for the offensive word). I'm not aroused if I'm with her. I can manage to have sex with her just once, even if she will stay five days with me, and I know this gives her concern.

I like ladies with backside, height and chubby. but the ones I have come across doesn't even measure up to this my girl in character.

Does sex Matter so much in marriage? Cos I'm afraid I may cheat on her or get sexual satisfaction outside our marriage. I'm just confused right now.

You don't need to be confused
You know what you want from a woman can not be gotten 100%

Secondly, you talk about possibilities of cheating on her

Look cheating is an attitude a man form, so you will cheat if you want to cheat and if you don't want to cheat, is your choice

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar

Bros op ....stop confusing yourself and settle down with that baby girl

I understand you...but let me tell you a secret...marry a woman that can vibe, discuss, chat and play with you.....you see that sexual attraction aspects....it is going to come gradually
Forget about the yansh..as far as she is a woman that sexual attraction will come

You have a point but I beg to differ. You see God wired or coded every person with a unique attraction print like thumbprint that gives us morale or boost upon sighting them.Let me give you a personal example, my attraction gift is for light-skinned beautiful girls with moderate ass and boobs, my dick and wooing techniques will just come freely. I dated a girl like that, once she is around, Mr. John Thomas is extremely happy, it will stand at attention that the banny will begin to laugh. I have one friend who is a look alike but the opposite of me, he likes big ass to the extent that I started thinking all men love big ass, to my chagrin, I dated one, no passion at all! Morale of the story is: attraction gift matters in marriage, you can manage to marry a girl you are not attracted to sexually, it may work and even last but you won't enjoy it. It will be like a man destined to be a Davido doing Engineering, he may come out first class and may even build a flourishing engineering firm with sheer hardwork but he won't still be fulfilled. Life is about working with your natural programming (nature's code) and fulfilment comes from it, however you may modulate the codes since you have a will but you won't be as FULFILLED as you would be, if you leave the codes untouched.

Peace!

Me too i like big girls (not fat n chubby though).
When i met my wife she was skinny. But after our 1st child she became my spec!

phranco:
I am in a relationship with a girl I'm planning to get married to. I love her and we vibe together and play most times. From my own assessment, she is good, down to earth, knows how to cook, humble, respectful, and she is also very beautiful naturally, infact she passed 70% quality of the kind of woman I want in my life.

The problem is that I'm not attracted to her sexually. She has a small body, and doesn't have nyash or should I say small nyash (sorry for the offensive word). I'm not aroused if I'm with her. I can manage to have sex with her just once, even if she will stay five days with me, and I know this gives her concern.

I like ladies with backside, height and chubby. but the ones I have come across doesn't even measure up to this my girl in character.

Does sex Matter so much in marriage? Cos I'm afraid I may cheat on her or get sexual satisfaction outside our marriage. I'm just confused right now.

The love of yansh over values and virtues is the beginning of infidelity and divorce. When you allow ur prick to think for you, you will not be able to chose a good woman with your brain. Take sense my brother, its cheap here

phranco:
I am in a relationship with a girl I'm planning to get married to. I love her and we vibe together and play most times. From my own assessment, she is good, down to earth, knows how to cook, humble, respectful, and she is also very beautiful naturally, infact she passed 70% quality of the kind of woman I want in my life.

The problem is that I'm not attracted to her sexually. She has a small body, and doesn't have nyash or should I say small nyash (sorry for the offensive word). I'm not aroused if I'm with her. I can manage to have sex with her just once, even if she will stay five days with me, and I know this gives her concern.

I like ladies with backside, height and chubby. but the ones I have come across doesn't even measure up to this my girl in character.

Does sex Matter so much in marriage? Cos I'm afraid I may cheat on her or get sexual satisfaction outside our marriage. I'm just confused right now.

All na vanity.

DarkJeddi:
You know she can still add flesh abi?

All I see is a girl that would balloon..

As soon as she drops one or two kids..

You wear the shoes sha..

Op, some women remain the same size after kids.

All those women once they give birth them they set oo body go come out wella

guy marry her, if she born and with rest of mind.. she go add flesh and that buttocks will shoot out.. It go be like magic.. hv seen slim girls not my type as dem everything come out and moderate but this chubby once if Dem born exercise go follow to maintain their shape.. but lepa go just add moderate flesh at the right places.. u go appreciate her..

phranco:
I am in a relationship with a girl I'm planning to get married to. I love her and we vibe together and play most times. From my own assessment, she is good, down to earth, knows how to cook, humble, respectful, and she is also very beautiful naturally, infact she passed 70% quality of the kind of woman I want in my life.

The problem is that I'm not attracted to her sexually. She has a small body, and doesn't have nyash or should I say small nyash (sorry for the offensive word). I'm not aroused if I'm with her. I can manage to have sex with her just once, even if she will stay five days with me, and I know this gives her concern.

I like ladies with backside, height and chubby. but the ones I have come across doesn't even measure up to this my girl in character.

Does sex Matter so much in marriage? Cos I'm afraid I may cheat on her or get sexual satisfaction outside our marriage. I'm just confused right now.

Confused dude, you'll kill urself by urself

Abi o... Some men are something else

Kennyprince:
So what made u go for her in the first place since u know the kind of woman that u want already

phranco:
I am in a relationship with a girl I'm planning to get married to. I love her and we vibe together and play most times. From my own assessment, she is good, down to earth, knows how to cook, humble, respectful, and she is also very beautiful naturally, infact she passed 70% quality of the kind of woman I want in my life.

The problem is that I'm not attracted to her sexually. She has a small body, and doesn't have nyash or should I say small nyash (sorry for the offensive word). I'm not aroused if I'm with her. I can manage to have sex with her just once, even if she will stay five days with me, and I know this gives her concern.

I like ladies with backside, height and chubby. but the ones I have come across doesn't even measure up to this my girl in character.

Does sex Matter so much in marriage? Cos I'm afraid I may cheat on her or get sexual satisfaction outside our marriage. I'm just confused right now.

I'm not going to disparage you for your concern about not being sexually attracted to this lady despite scoring 70% of the requirements you desire to see in a lady.

However, let truth be told. Those things you look for in a lady are valid but for a short time. You'll soon get tired of them. Unfortunately, that's what we grew up to see about people. It happens to ladies too.

You'll see someone with qualities that will outlive each of you and you're jumping at what will soon fade away in 10yrs if not in a lesser period of time.

Let me tell you, what creates passion for sex aren't external things! Theyre internal ones! The real person inside of the body that is attracting you now.

You've not met the real person inside that smallish body of the lady, if you do, you'll want to sleep with her all day if you have the strength to do so!

Let me tell something. Develop the idea of sitting down with her in gists and the more you'll be more willing to be with her.

If you've ever met a lady with all the external traits you're looking for, but she's a beast in the inside, that's even the one you'll cheat on!

The joy to you in sex isn't all about what you want but the things you hear her saying while giving her the pleasure of her life.

You might not agree with me till you meet Jesus though!

If u ate not sexually attracted to her then leave her alone for who is attracted to her it's not by force , again LEAVE HER ALONE

Bros, stop watching pornography. You have conditioned your brain to big buttocks. The earlier you start changing your mindset the better for you. What I noticed is that you have refused to fall in love with her. The moment you are in love with her, forget big or small yansh. Play with her always. Work on yourself. If you are addicted to porn or masturbation then stop it. An errected and hardened penis does not know small or big yansh. Is it the yansh you will bang or the pussy?

phranco:
I am in a relationship with a girl I'm planning to get married to. I love her and we vibe together and play most times. From my own assessment, she is good, down to earth, knows how to cook, humble, respectful, and she is also very beautiful naturally, infact she passed 70% quality of the kind of woman I want in my life.

The problem is that I'm not attracted to her sexually. She has a small body, and doesn't have nyash or should I say small nyash (sorry for the offensive word). I'm not aroused if I'm with her. I can manage to have sex with her just once, even if she will stay five days with me, and I know this gives her concern.

I like ladies with backside, height and chubby. but the ones I have come across doesn't even measure up to this my girl in character.

Does sex Matter so much in marriage? Cos I'm afraid I may cheat on her or get sexual satisfaction outside our marriage. I'm just confused right now.

Sexual compatibility is very very paramount in marriage. And do not rely on hope to develop sexual attraction to her while in marriage..what if you don't?

Orgasmgiver123:



Damn.. nasty.. we're out of here

Lol!!! Funny pple

Is she short and fat as well?
Does she have straight legs?
As for ass and boobs, the attraction will come without all those
Consider your options, you will realize she's not a bad choice after all
Being petite is not bad

phranco:
I am in a relationship with a girl I'm planning to get married to. I love her and we vibe together and play most times. From my own assessment, she is good, down to earth, knows how to cook, humble, respectful, and she is also very beautiful naturally, infact she passed 70% quality of the kind of woman I want in my life.

The problem is that I'm not attracted to her sexually. She has a small body, and doesn't have nyash or should I say small nyash (sorry for the offensive word). I'm not aroused if I'm with her. I can manage to have sex with her just once, even if she will stay five days with me, and I know this gives her concern.

I like ladies with backside, height and chubby. but the ones I have come across doesn't even measure up to this my girl in character.

Does sex Matter so much in marriage? Cos I'm afraid I may cheat on her or get sexual satisfaction outside our marriage. I'm just confused right now.

Why dint you go for your spec then?

The only thing i can tell you from my experience is that girls with small body,small backside and front side are usually very troublesome and wicked. Hope she is not hiding her true character from you.

phranco:
I am in a relationship with a girl I'm planning to get married to. I love her and we vibe together and play most times. From my own assessment, she is good, down to earth, knows how to cook, humble, respectful, and she is also very beautiful naturally, infact she passed 70% quality of the kind of woman I want in my life.

The problem is that I'm not attracted to her sexually. She has a small body, and doesn't have nyash or should I say small nyash (sorry for the offensive word). I'm not aroused if I'm with her. I can manage to have sex with her just once, even if she will stay five days with me, and I know this gives her concern.

I like ladies with backside, height and chubby. but the ones I have come across doesn't even measure up to this my girl in character.

Does sex Matter so much in marriage? Cos I'm afraid I may cheat on her or get sexual satisfaction outside our marriage. I'm just confused right now.

Bros, stop watching pornography. You have conditioned your brain to big buttocks. The earlier you start changing your mindset the better for you. What I noticed is that you have refused to fall in love with her. The moment you are in love with her, forget big or small yansh. Play with her always. Work on yourself. If you are addicted to porn or masturbation then stop it. An errected and hardened penis does not know small or big yansh. Is it the yansh you will bang or the pussy? Somebody like you will like doggy style. But how many ladies will allow you to doggy style them when they always complain how painful it is. You see what porn has caused you? Give your self time. Your brain will begin to readjust and readapt to her physiological appearance.

phranco:
I am in a relationship with a girl I'm planning to get married to. I love her and we vibe together and play most times. From my own assessment, she is good, down to earth, knows how to cook, humble, respectful, and she is also very beautiful naturally, infact she passed 70% quality of the kind of woman I want in my life.

The problem is that I'm not attracted to her sexually. She has a small body, and doesn't have nyash or should I say small nyash (sorry for the offensive word). I'm not aroused if I'm with her. I can manage to have sex with her just once, even if she will stay five days with me, and I know this gives her concern.

I like ladies with backside, height and chubby. but the ones I have come across doesn't even measure up to this my girl in character.

Does sex Matter so much in marriage? Cos I'm afraid I may cheat on her or get sexual satisfaction outside our marriage. I'm just confused right now.

Dey dia dey deceive yourself. You will soon be aroused by the woman that will ultimately bless you with high blood pressure. God has led you to the woman that will help your apparently miserable life but to suffer dey hungry you. You had better grow and quit being a mumu boy. The way you are speaking you will cheat even if you are married to a sumptuous lady...Grow up. Rehabilitate yourself. Deal with your sexual flaws. Marry the lady that will support you in the journey of life and be devoted to loving her and being true to her!

phranco:
I am in a relationship with a girl I'm planning to get married to. I love her and we vibe together and play most times. From my own assessment, she is good, down to earth, knows how to cook, humble, respectful, and she is also very beautiful naturally, infact she passed 70% quality of the kind of woman I want in my life.

The problem is that I'm not attracted to her sexually. She has a small body, and doesn't have nyash or should I say small nyash (sorry for the offensive word). I'm not aroused if I'm with her. I can manage to have sex with her just once, even if she will stay five days with me, and I know this gives her concern.

I like ladies with backside, height and chubby. but the ones I have come across doesn't even measure up to this my girl in character.

Does sex Matter so much in marriage? Cos I'm afraid I may cheat on her or get sexual satisfaction outside our marriage. I'm just confused right now.

Instead of you to marry her and still remain miserable sexually it's better you let her go, am sure you can get a good girl with good character with the big bum bum you want , not being sexually attracted to her will definitely make you look elsewhere I don't support that

Let me let you in on a secret.

95% of men cheat on their wives.

Especially in Nigeria. Just make sure you respect her by being covertly discrete

phranco:
Thank you guys for ur submissions and opinions so far, I really appreciate. From these write ups, Peace of mind and Happines is top priority in marriage, sex is secondary, after all we can't be having sex every day in marriage. She will definitely give me the desired happiness.
You know in life, there is a stage when the truth will be staring at your face but it will be difficult to take decision. Not until you confide in someone and build your confidence. I will definitely wife her, nobody is complete and perfect. Its just that I'm a sexually active person, and I'm looking at marriage from sex angle. But my mindset have changed tonight, thanks guys.

I congratulate you for borrowing yourself some sense.
Go and sin no more

phranco:
Thank you guys for ur submissions and opinions so far, I really appreciate. From these write ups, Peace of mind and Happines is top priority in marriage, sex is secondary, after all we can't be having sex every day in marriage. She will definitely give me the desired happiness.
You know in life, there is a stage when the truth will be staring at your face but it will be difficult to take decision. Not until you confide in someone and build your confidence. I will definitely wife her, nobody is complete and perfect. Its just that I'm a sexually active person, and I'm looking at marriage from sex angle. But my mindset have changed tonight, thanks guys.

Since you are a sexually active person, its not out of place looking at marriage from sex angle..what if the sexual attraction still won't develop after marriage what will u do

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar

Bros op ....stop confusing yourself and settle down with that baby girl...

I understand you...but let me tell you a secret...marry a woman that can vibe, discuss, chat and play with you.....you see that sexual attraction aspects....it is going to come gradually
Forget about the yansh..as far as she is a woman that sexual attraction will come
and the funny and stupid thing is that most men even when their wife is sexually attractive with yansh they will still be banging other women outside

Slawomir, na you really type this thing?
Ah world wan end oh.

Nice one sha.

ayindejimmy:
Let me let you in on a secret.

95% of men cheat on their wives.

Especially in Nigeria. Just make sure you respect her by being covertly discrete

Which survey did you do to come to this conclusion? Or it is what you see on nollywood movies.

Sonnobax15:

Op,I pity you in advance...If you like, allow your quest and love for big nyanch to make you loosegaurd who go give you peace of mind..

Abi na banny wey get big nyanch wey go make you get competition with other men you want?


[color=#006600]Las las,one day one day small nyanch go vex shake[/color]

lol at the highlighted.......................................................That's the latest word of wisdom!

oluplus:


Which survey did you do to come to this conclusion? Or it is what you see on nollywood movies.

I've never met a married man that doesn't cheat in Nigeria.
Ok, except my elder brother. Even he admires ladies and usually wants to marry them.


Join the discussion

https://www.quora.com/Is-it-true-that-about-90-percent-of-men-cheat-in-marriage

Small yansh must shake las las.

ziondaughter247:
Just see how all the nairaland boys are offering advice without insult.
If it were a woman that wrote this, insults will have flooded this thread. Honestly, people in this forum needs to grow up. It has become very toxic.

This is the same way a woman may find a short guy, a broke man or a man with small dick unattractive. Allow people express themselves freely and seek for advice...Stop jumping on every and any thread written by a woman. It is childish and very rude. It's not a wonder that women are hardly contributors to this forum.

There are still men here throwing insults while trying to enforce their opinion/advice as the only right advice. So it's not because a man wrote this thread. It's because thread moderation is working against the positive outcome that you want.

Youd have a better argument if you focused on how thread moderation works and how it can better influence the topics and contributors positively.

phranco:
I am in a relationship with a girl I'm planning to get married to. I love her and we vibe together and play most times. From my own assessment, she is good, down to earth, knows how to cook, humble, respectful, and she is also very beautiful naturally, infact she passed 70% quality of the kind of woman I want in my life.

The problem is that I'm not attracted to her sexually. She has a small body, and doesn't have nyash or should I say small nyash (sorry for the offensive word). I'm not aroused if I'm with her. I can manage to have sex with her just once, even if she will stay five days with me, and I know this gives her concern.

I like ladies with backside, height and chubby. but the ones I have come across doesn't even measure up to this my girl in character.

Does sex Matter so much in marriage? Cos I'm afraid I may cheat on her or get sexual satisfaction outside our marriage. I'm just confused right now.

Even u marry person that u r sexually attracted to, u will still cheat, this i hv seen.