HRSweetness:


I hope you prayerfully chose this new neighborhood.

Wishing you the best.

I am. I don't have the mental energy to cope in a toxic environment. Nigeria itself is tough and rough enough.

geezville86:


Well, there you go! Now you are giving this some context...my initial comment was generic and based on your original post. If you think the lady’s utterance was coming from a bitter place, there’s a high chance her views are skewed and incorrect. Again, in that case, it would not bother me one bit as mentioned earlier.

I was angry initially but I began to look at it from a broader perspective. This could happen in a place of work or anywhere. People get denied of opportunities because of what someone said which are mostly untrue. Peoples images are damaged because of meaningless comments here and there.

I think you handled it well....just continue to buy from everywhere but hers, limit your interactions to barest greetings and start thinking of moving. Good luck.

Opeyemiextra:


I am. I don't have the mental energy to cope in a toxic environment. Nigeria itself is tough and rough enough.

LOL. True

Opeyemiextra:

I was angry initially but I began to look at it from a broader perspective. This could happen in a place of work or anywhere. People get denied of opportunities because of what someone said which are mostly untrue. Peoples images are damaged because of meaningless comments here and there.

Yeah, I completely understand. You should not allow this to way you down though. This life is really too short y’know. Let it go. We all have no idea about all the malicious comments folks utter behind our backs. You were just opportuned to be privy to this one. Keep being good and do not allow this to have a negative impact on your “worldview” of humanity in general.

Dailyparrot:
Let me share my experience in my house.

I am the type that don't talk to people and this makes them assume that I am arrogant and proud.

So, the whole people in the compound are just waiting for anything that they will use to mock me but I didn't give them any.

When I see people sitting on my car, I would scream and tell them to desist from that.

Boom, they are gossiping that I feel like I drive one kind big car that no one else drives.

Secondly, because I like moving with slim girls with pretty face, they gossip that I carry under age girls.

These were gossips that they had within themselves until I had a little misunderstanding with one of them, voom, she started vomiting all that they have been talking at my back but I give no single f_ck.

I told them to call the police on me any time they see me move in with any girl they suspected to be underage and as for my car, you can't carry your oversized self and sit on my bonnet as though it is a seat.

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Vokians:
My advice is you should try to at least petronize her sometimes. So you don't know that it hurt too. Are you quarrelling with her that you will not buy a single thing from her one day. Put yourself in her shoe and imagine how you will feel. Show love by petronizing her goods sometimes.

also know that people that behaves that way are insecure. So be the big bro even if you are a girl.

Eagba:
also know that people that behaves that way are insecure. So be the big bro even if you are a girl.

I am a lady. Who is your bro

KiNg0G:
you went out and greeted them?

and came back inside your house? jubilating because you thought you saw mere guilt in her face

what were you trying to prove?.... you seem like those ajebutters kinda breed.

make i tell you how mama okemute go handle am for area here.

She go carry chair come outside, then she go tell them to continue.
because she too still get her own to talk.


full area go scatter

na Dc go settle the matter... make hu na stop to dey act like ajebo.
na 9ja we dey o....if you do smei smei for your present them go use you play ball.

They are everywhere. I presently have neighbor who talk about everyone in the estate and even talk about her own family. I later realises she does that due to envy. She wishes to be like you and obviously she's caused and spelled to that. Learn to live with it and ignore always.

Opeyemiextra:


I am a lady. Who is your bro

you can NEVER be my bro NEVER. I don't even take most men to be my bro how much more you. I was only speaking metaphorically.

Opeyemiextra:
So, I have this neighbor who sells some stuff but for some reasons, I wasn't comfortable buying from her. I buy from the market. This really got her angry and I didn't even know this until recently when she would mention it.

To what really happened, I was home one day and she probably assumed I wasn't. She started saying very terrible things about me to another neighbor that it scared me that another human being would really do that. I was very angry while I was inside my room deciding what exactly to do. I thought of confronting but I decided against it. Eventually I went out, greeted both of them and she was shocked that I was at home. I could see guilt written all over her even days after.

Have you walked in on people or heard by chance people talking ill and evil about you? How did you handle it?

If your neighbor is selling anything and you don't buy from him or her do not expose the item and pass by the people .we are human it ought to be gossip about.

I have a foodstuff business in store in front of our compound,then you don't buy garri,yam,rice or bean or anything from me for your own personal reason.

Then you always stroll passed my food store with foodstuff in transparent bag or bag that expose the item.
And you think a Nigerian will over look that haba...them nor even gossip you reach

Never give a damn to what people say about you.

Kriss216:
Women and Gossip


Nothing about this gender is worth emulating.


Tueh!

It seems you come from a messed up family?
Did you grow under your mum's care?
Was she caring to you?
Did you actually see any atom of goodness in her?
Was she a kind of role model to you?
How about your sisters, Do you have any?
Was there love in between?
What was your Father's relationship with his family?
.
.
Sorry I asked alot of questions man but the way you guys slam women here prompted me to.
I pray 2022 hits with maturity.

Babisha10:
Hmm I can also relate to this in my area oo gossiping around with my name cos I stop buying from her shop, I'm just waiting for the day I'll hear my name coming out of her mouth the whole area won't contain us that day... I hate rubbish

my nigga , sometimes handling tins in a gentle way will make it worse

Ignore

Op what exactly did she say?

I truly commend how you handled the whole situation. And I pray I can do same too.

But honestly, I won't because I don't look for trouble, but when my toes are stepped upon when I am privately minding my business then I won't take that rubbish lightly.

I won't be physical, abusive or insutive BUT I will Sternly give that individual warning never ever to talk behind me again.

And It's best you didn't even buy from such neighbours because she will still you that as a weapon of gossip.

It's better you buy 5k worth produce from the market than from her because its you can't feed well gossip you hear again.

Cheerios...

I am well educated, civilised and responsible o that doesn't mean I will see someone trashing me and then I won't send them messages of warning.

Opeyemiextra:
So, I have this neighbor who sells some stuff but for some reasons, I wasn't comfortable buying from her. I buy from the market. This really got her angry and I didn't even know this until recently when she would mention it.

To what really happened, I was home one day and she probably assumed I wasn't. She started saying very terrible things about me to another neighbor that it scared me that another human being would really do that. I was very angry while I was inside my room deciding what exactly to do. I thought of confronting but I decided against it. Eventually I went out, greeted both of them and she was shocked that I was at home. I could see guilt written all over her even days after.

Have you walked in on people or heard by chance people talking ill and evil about you? How did you handle it?

Just Ignore. Infact carry straight face when u see her. Don't try to be in everybody's good book . It's unnecessary.

Vokians:
My advice is you should try to at least petronize her sometimes. So you don't know that it hurt too. Are you quarrelling with her that you will not buy a single thing from her one day. Put yourself in her shoe and imagine how you will feel. Show love by petronizing her goods sometimes.

mumu man.

come point gun for my head, say I must buy from you.

KiNg0G:
you went out and greeted them?

and came back inside your house? jubilating because you thought you saw mere guilt in her face

what were you trying to prove?.... you seem like those ajebutters kinda breed.

make i tell you how mama okemute go handle am for area here.

She go carry chair come outside, then she go tell them to continue.
because she too still get her own to talk.


full area go scatter

na Dc go settle the matter... make hu na stop to dey act like ajebo.
na 9ja we dey o....if you do smei smei for your present them go use you play ball.

From that spelling, e clear say u nobi Wafsider. No Warri person go spell Okiemute as Okemute

Opeyemiextra:
So, I have this neighbor who sells some stuff but for some reasons, I wasn't comfortable buying from her. I buy from the market. This really got her angry and I didn't even know this until recently when she would mention it.

To what really happened, I was home one day and she probably assumed I wasn't. She started saying very terrible things about me to another neighbor that it scared me that another human being would really do that. I was very angry while I was inside my room deciding what exactly to do. I thought of confronting but I decided against it. Eventually I went out, greeted both of them and she was shocked that I was at home. I could see guilt written all over her even days after.

Have you walked in on people or heard by chance people talking ill and evil about you? How did you handle it?

You've done enough already. Just greet them as usual then go do your thing.

The greetings is far much stronger than koboko.

airsaylongcome:


From that spelling, e clear say u nobi Wafsider. No Warri person go spell Okiemute as Okemute

okay oshare, you when be waffi, supposed understand say area nor care about spelling, as far you get the message.


fûcking mumu boy, you better get sense... nor be everybody hu na go just dey quote anyhow to yan okpata for.

I nor follow you drag warri, so use your brain box.

No need to confront her, just ignore her.

KiNg0G:

okay oshare, you when be waffi, supposed understand say area nor care about spelling, as far you get the message.


fûcking mumu boy, you better get sense... nor be everybody hu na go just dey quote anyhow to yan okpata for.

I nor follow you drag warri, so use your brain box.

See ẹkpa. Vwẹ'ọrhuẹ

Wetin u dey talk be real mumu talk. E just be like make Igbo person spell Igbo name as Shukuma or Yoruba spell Sola as Sholla. Ẹkpa dẹẹn

You for spell Akpẹvwẹ as Apewe na. As spelling no matter

airsaylongcome:


See ẹkpa. Vwẹ'ọrhuẹ

Wetin u dey talk be real mumu talk. E just be like make Igbo person spell Igbo name as Shukuma or Yoruba spell Sola as Sholla. Ẹkpa dẹẹn

You for spell Akpẹvwẹ as Apewe na. As spelling no matter

because of I when nor dey okemute when I spell, na make your brain dey touch like so? you forget say oke na person name on its own.

lol I nor be urhobo boy, better run inside those hu na thick thick bush towns for mosogha n the rest.
and leave waffirians for us when dey warri.
bush urhobo boy..

na small pickin Sense dey work you

KiNg0G:


because of I when nor dey okemute when I spell, na make your brain dey touch like so? you forget say oke na person name on its own.

lol I nor be urhobo boy, better run inside those hu na thick thick bush towns for mosogha n the rest.
and leave waffirians for us when dey warri.
bush urhobo boy..

Lol.. Eze na person name. Ese na person name. Similar spells but completely different names. Ọkiemute is NEVER spelt Okemute. Ọkeoghene shortened to ỌKE is not the same as Okẹ. Okemute is not the same as Ọkiemute. And whether you be Urhobo or not nor matter. Whether u be sheke or Ijaw, all of those tribes know how to spell each others names so far na Warri dem dey. I no go spell sheke name Omatsola as Omashola. I no go spell Preye as Priye

KiNg0G:
you went out and greeted them?

and came back inside your house? jubilating because you thought you saw mere guilt in her face

what were you trying to prove?.... you seem like those ajebutters kinda breed.

make i tell you how mama okemute go handle am for area here.

She go carry chair come outside, then she go tell them to continue.
because she too still get her own to talk.


full area go scatter

na Dc go settle the matter... make hu na stop to dey act like ajebo.
na 9ja we dey o....if you do smei smei for your present them go use you play ball.

Area!

airsaylongcome:


Lol.. Eze na person name. Ese na person name. Similar spells but completely different names. Ọkiemute is NEVER spelt Okemute. Ọkeoghene shortened to ỌKE is not the same as Okẹ. Okemute is not the same as Ọkiemute. And whether you be Urhobo or not nor matter. Whether u be sheke or Ijaw, all of those tribes know how to spell each others names so far na Warri dem dey. I no go spell sheke name Omatsola as Omashola. I no go spell Preye as Priye

Real recognize real.

Na only people when get witch like hu na for area,. Na dey behave like so...

Dailyparrot:
Let me share my experience in my house.

I am the type that don't talk to people and this makes them assume that I am arrogant and proud.

So, the whole people in the compound are just waiting for anything that they will use to mock me but I didn't give them any.

When I see people sitting on my car, I would scream and tell them to desist from that.

Boom, they are gossiping that I feel like I drive one kind big car that no one else drives.

Secondly, because I like moving with slim girls with pretty face, they gossip that I carry under age girls.

These were gossips that they had within themselves until I had a little misunderstanding with one of them, voom, she started vomiting all that they have been talking at my back but I give no single f_ck.

I told them to call the police on me any time they see me move in with any girl they suspected to be underage and as for my car, you can't carry your oversized self and sit on my bonnet as though it is a seat.

Lol.
Nice.

KiNg0G:


mumu man.

come point gun for my head, say I must buy from you.

Did I mention you? Why call yourself mumu man?