₦airaland Forum

God1stson:
If her mother had died in that incident you will not be talking like that. One thing that drives people like her wife is selfishness, anybody like that will still repeat the same thing over. I had a sister who knows I suffered acute ulcer yet most of the time she puts excess pepper in food. I complained severally but often she repeats it, I even gave her d option of grinding dry pepper and put it in her own afterwards but she didn't buy it. Since I was d one providing d money for food, I had to start giving her half of what I intend giving her 4 feeding. So any day I enter and taste one spoon and is peppeperish I will quickly go to Mama's care restaurant, the woman knows I don't need 2much paper or will buy indomie. Since then she is more cautious about putting pepper but I had remained committed to the half percent of feeding money so no more excess money for buying make ups or clothes from d remainder of the feeding money lol

NaBanga:
From reading the story, your wife did not poison your mother. No genuine doctor can say what was said in your story, unless they want to cause confusion in your home. Your mother's sodium increase can be caused by many things. It also sounds like your mother suffers from long term congestive heart failure. I suspect she even got Covid on top of all of this.

Nigeria is a cess pool of liars and horrible people. I just pray the woman does not suffer for what she has not done.

soundOsonic:
You haven't forgiven her, if at all you have you wouldn't be here posting this.
The only problem I saw here was lack of proper education from your wife.
Now sir, reason this: if she actually knew feeding her salt will lead to this; would she have fed her?
She was only careless and didn't take her diabetes serious.
She acknowledged her mistake and she had apologized already. I know this trying time is enough to pass blame, but blaming her wouldn't make the matter better or worse.

It was a silly mistake, even doctors makes mistakes, you too make mistakes, she had learnt. Go back to your house and clear it from your chest and celebrate the new year with your family.
Happy New year

Modified:
For those quoting me
For those saying it was intentional, you need to have sense. This isn't Nollywood movie it is real life.
The wife was only lazy and took her sickness for granted. This is the most logical explanation. It is still thesame reason why you poison yourselves taking alcohol, soft drinks, and food rich in oil and fats, though you are conscious of this fact this things are not good for you yet you take them, this is because you are not taking your health serious and you haven't seen with your eyes the implications what this things can cause.
The woman was conscious of the fact this things are not good, but she took it lightly because she haven't seen in first hand the implications.
I myself haven't seen first hand the implications of diabetics. I would have made same mistake due to laziness.

Modified: I heard the mama died OP take heart. Your wife was just foolish and that foolishness led to the costly mistake that was paid with a human life. Such is life, you have every right to be angry but madam did not kill your mother intentionally. Life goes on, I wish you would forgive her one day. Just note it can happen to anybody

yemi1504:
There is a solution to this if you have the means, money that is. Once your mom gets well, that maid that knows how to cook her food along with her, should go back to your mother's house to be cooking her food while you get another maid for your house. Chikena. Also, treat that maid well to avoid had I known in the future. I will take this drastic decision if I were in your shoes, no matter how your wife feels about it. It will send a very strong message that there are consequences for being lackadaisical and lazy. My 2 cents.

NaBanga:
No doctor can confirm that without seeing it with his own eyes. I know what I am saying. This is a lie. Nigerians are ignorant and the quack doctor knows this.

Theonlysonofher:
While others are celebrating the new year today I am here sobbing because my marriage is at the verge of breaking.

I loved my wife with all my heart but I don't think I will ever forgive her for what she has done to my mother.

I am the only child of my mother. I have three sisters on my father's side.
I am married with two beautiful daughters. my mother suffered from diabetes, bp and high cholesterol. She is on a special diets strictly no salt or too much sugar.

She came to stay with me because the person who was taking care of her wasn't doing her job properly so I had to bring her to my house so I will be monitoring her health.

I have a house help who prepares all her meals with less salt and she also makes sure she takes her medicines on time without fail.
Everything was fine, my mother is not a troublesome person, she gets on well with my wife and most of the time she is in her room resting.

On the 20th of December my house help had traveled to the village to see her people and she will be back in January 4th so my wife and I have to take care of my mother making sure that her foods is less salty and medicines on time.

Since I am always working so my wife had to take most of the responsibility. It is only for a week and fews days until the house help is back.

She had agreed to take care of my mother during this periods of time and I thought everything was fine but I noticed my mother become distant and tired unlike her and I had no idea that she was actually dying and I have never suspected that my wife was maltreating her.

So Thursday being 30th December I was at work when my wife called and asked me to join her at the hospital because mama had a seizure.

I rushed to the hospital and my mother was in a coma state and I asked her what happened to mama, she said mama woke up that morning complaining about shortage of breath and she told her to go back to bed and rest hoping she will be fine by the time she will wake up.
Only for mama to fall off the ground and started shaking with foam coming out of her mouth.

I was in panicked I couldn't stop praying for my mother to get better and I didn't leave the hospital, my wife went home to take care of the children because she has left them with the neighbour and I had spend all night prayer vigil at my mother's bedside and glory be to God my mother woke up yesterday being 31st but the doctor report was not a good news for me.

Actually my mother was poisoned with salt and guess who did it? My beloved wife couldn't bothered to cook a different meal for my mother, she used to feed her the same meal we ate knowing full well that mama cannot eat the same foods as us because we are salt lovers, especially my wife, she love eating too much salt which I have warned her over and over again because it is also not good for her health.

I confronted her, she said she only fed mama the same meals we ate twice only but according to the doctor it was more than two times.

I am hurt that my wife doesnt love my mother or treat her like her own mother because if she truly loved her like her own mother she would have put her diet on consideration and not allow her to eat the same meal as us. I love her mother and u treat her like my own mother.

It pains me a lot when I remember five years ago when her mother was in coma state and she was staying with her at the hospital, she is her only daughter amongst three boys.

I used to visit them everyday after work, I will bring foods and I have even washed her mother clothes with my own hands, I have done with love because she is my mother. I called my mother in law this morning and I have informed her about what her daughter has done to my mother and she couldn't stop apologising and she is very disappointed with my wife.

But see how she has repaid me by hurting my own mother.

She has apologised to me and to my mother, I have forgave her but I don't think I can stay with her again because one day if I become sick or bedridden she might treat me the same way.

Honestly speaking I am not even at home with her and the kids, I am at my cousin brother's house since yesterday I left the hospital and my mother is still in the hospital because she needs more treatment and hopefully she will recover by next week.

I don't feel like going home today and I don't know when I'll go home but I will always be there for my girls because they are the best thing that ever happened to me.

What other advice would you give me on this situation? What are your thoughts? Thank you for reading all I love this community.

Theonlysonofher:
While others are celebrating the new year today I am here sobbing because my marriage is at the verge of breaking.

I loved my wife with all my heart but I don't think I will ever forgive her for what she has done to my mother.

I am the only child of my mother. I have three sisters on my father's side.
I am married with two beautiful daughters. my mother suffered from diabetes, bp and high cholesterol. She is on a special diets strictly no salt or too much sugar.

She came to stay with me because the person who was taking care of her wasn't doing her job properly so I had to bring her to my house so I will be monitoring her health.

I have a house help who prepares all her meals with less salt and she also makes sure she takes her medicines on time without fail.
Everything was fine, my mother is not a troublesome person, she gets on well with my wife and most of the time she is in her room resting.

On the 20th of December my house help had traveled to the village to see her people and she will be back in January 4th so my wife and I have to take care of my mother making sure that her foods is less salty and medicines on time.

Since I am always working so my wife had to take most of the responsibility. It is only for a week and fews days until the house help is back.

She had agreed to take care of my mother during this periods of time and I thought everything was fine but I noticed my mother become distant and tired unlike her and I had no idea that she was actually dying and I have never suspected that my wife was maltreating her.

So Thursday being 30th December I was at work when my wife called and asked me to join her at the hospital because mama had a seizure.

I rushed to the hospital and my mother was in a coma state and I asked her what happened to mama, she said mama woke up that morning complaining about shortage of breath and she told her to go back to bed and rest hoping she will be fine by the time she will wake up.
Only for mama to fall off the ground and started shaking with foam coming out of her mouth.

I was in panicked I couldn't stop praying for my mother to get better and I didn't leave the hospital, my wife went home to take care of the children because she has left them with the neighbour and I had spend all night prayer vigil at my mother's bedside and glory be to God my mother woke up yesterday being 31st but the doctor report was not a good news for me.

Actually my mother was poisoned with salt and guess who did it? My beloved wife couldn't bothered to cook a different meal for my mother, she used to feed her the same meal we ate knowing full well that mama cannot eat the same foods as us because we are salt lovers, especially my wife, she love eating too much salt which I have warned her over and over again because it is also not good for her health.

I confronted her, she said she only fed mama the same meals we ate twice only but according to the doctor it was more than two times.

I am hurt that my wife doesnt love my mother or treat her like her own mother because if she truly loved her like her own mother she would have put her diet on consideration and not allow her to eat the same meal as us. I love her mother and u treat her like my own mother.

It pains me a lot when I remember five years ago when her mother was in coma state and she was staying with her at the hospital, she is her only daughter amongst three boys.

I used to visit them everyday after work, I will bring foods and I have even washed her mother clothes with my own hands, I have done with love because she is my mother. I called my mother in law this morning and I have informed her about what her daughter has done to my mother and she couldn't stop apologising and she is very disappointed with my wife.

But see how she has repaid me by hurting my own mother.

She has apologised to me and to my mother, I have forgave her but I don't think I can stay with her again because one day if I become sick or bedridden she might treat me the same way.

Honestly speaking I am not even at home with her and the kids, I am at my cousin brother's house since yesterday I left the hospital and my mother is still in the hospital because she needs more treatment and hopefully she will recover by next week.

I don't feel like going home today and I don't know when I'll go home but I will always be there for my girls because they are the best thing that ever happened to me.

What other advice would you give me on this situation? What are your thoughts? Thank you for reading all I love this community.

anungangampu:
Lol.. Seriously u can predict his age from his reaction

wirinet:
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dangotesmummy:
yes or invite the househelp to take care of her.wives usually or innately see their husbands mother as a baggage or an intruder who should not be seen around their husbands or exist.only a few genuinely love their mother in-laws the way they love their own mothers or children.the love for their children is unconditional but the love for their mother in-law are many times fake because there's no how if the doctor said their child was sick and should stay away from salt ,there is no way she will ever forget and if any househelp dares it she will come after her ruthlessly

Pearl05:
I'm sorry about your mom. Thank God she is getting better and well. I don't think your wife intentionally set out to hurt your mother.

The thing is that she might be overwhelmed with taking care of the young kids ; most men don't realised that 1-5 yrs old toddlers are the most difficult to look after. The little negligence has caused the family more. She must have learnt her lesson by now and won't try similar thing as you are likely to blame her now if anything happens to mom again.


What to do:
Genuinely fogive and forget.
Let her cook different of mom 's meal and store in the freezer ( that's if you get not less than 8 -12hr light daily).
Buy mom's special foodstuffs in bulk .
Let your wife reduce her own salt intake please as it affects everyone including the kids.( I was like that before as if i tell you that a soup is salty then nobody can eat it but worked on it and now i eat normal or no salt at all.
When next your help is to travel please get another person to replace her .

Quick recovery to mom.

mediainc:
Make sure you are being good to a good soul, a lazy, non chalant selfish woman deserve no husband.

CSTRR:
I can say this with 100% certainty.

This "mistake" or negligence would never have happened if that woman was her mother.

Terrible woman.

Personally, even if I forgive her for that, it would take time.

She used the life of her husband's mother to play bet9ja.

It's unforgivable.

Joshuazedd:
Lol how did the Doctor know salt was the cause?

AdmissionTipz:
the mom is late already

Beremx:
Your wife has asked for forgiveness. What else do you want?

Waiting for misogynistic people like Kris’s.216 to come advice you to divorce your wife

eyinjuege:
This your story get as e be.
I doubt the kind of salt that would make your mum have a seizure is one that anyone would be able to eat the meal, including your wife who likes salt. And this happened in about a week.
I would look into another cause for her seizures.
Hope she had a brain scan at the hospital because she might have suffered a stroke or ministroke.
Or was Mama having more than the number of tablets she should be having for her diabetes? Was she deliberately/unintentionally being overdosed on antidiabetic drugs that can cause low glucose, which in turn can cause seizures? Who is in charge of giving her the medicines? Can she be doing that by herself?
Or Mama has been avoiding eating food prepared by your wife because it's too salty, and she's still taking her diabetic medication on an empty stomach?
Please investigate further and ask your mum how she has been using her medicines.
It may be better to get her a weekly pill box with days of the week and times to take her medicine, so nobody gets confused about how she should be using her medicines

Landmack:
And errhmmm...Seun pls viewer's discretion when putting up adverts like this. I cant have this snake staring at me on every thread i open.

AvalonSpace:
And you called her mother and reported. But your mother was supposed to know her diet and say "no" to the food being served. Forgive her and don't take it this far.

Unclesamo:
Do u mind them!!!

if it was her mother, would she have behaved like that??

Theonlysonofher:
Unfortunately my sweet mother left us

Malawian:
If it is laziness, she could have finished cooking, removed the mother's portion before adding salt to the rest. It was intentional. Once or twice might be laziness, more than twice? Naa I don't think so.