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| My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by oladiddy: 11:02am On Jan 08, 2022 |
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday. Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again. Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss. Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly. My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again. Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like. Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge. I am loosing my mind. Please push to FP! 188 Likes 18 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Kriss216: 11:03am On Jan 08, 2022 |
. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. . Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home .She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again. A wife you're doing all these for, yet she's not submissive? What are you guys enjoying in this institution called marriage? No woman in this world is worth your peace of mind. 767 Likes 55 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by daddytime(m): 11:03am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Hmmm... I can relate to what it feels like with your daughter and the fear of losing her. But not to worry, even if you and your wife eventually go your separate ways which I will advise you to consider because your wife obviously isnt supposed to be your wife. She is an enemy or someone else's supposed wife who won't hesitate to bring you down before exiting your life eventually. Oga, no worries or fears of the unknown. Find your way from this conundrum ASAP and even you would marvel at how easy you'd navigate through. Wishing you the best on your next moves. If una sha need laptop to type the divorce or conciliatory letter, na me be una plug. Just dm me or do me a WhatsApp from my signature. 209 Likes 12 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Nobody: 11:03am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Rent a small room outside for 6 months. Take your child. Let her fend for herself 422 Likes 28 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by harqinhola(m): 11:05am On Jan 08, 2022 |
That makes two of us . 17 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Nobody: 11:06am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Please send a DM, I'm a marriage counselor and I can counsel you and help the marriage. Price is affordable.I like how your wife went through the window to continue the drama,it's sexy and i can do same.All this little little drama is sweet in a marriage, I can't marry and everywhere will be quiet,no na.I don't support her disrespecting you and even allowing third party to know of the drama,it is bad.But that type of drama that's toxic free is very good and healthy for a marriage. 17 Likes 15 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by LordIsaac(m): 11:11am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Jondelng:Infact, I wonder why leaving, albeit temporarily or even permanently, is not an option for men going through hell at home! 29 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Kriss216: 11:11am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Iyaebe:Go and find your own husband. Leave him alone! 362 Likes 14 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by MufasaLion: 11:11am On Jan 08, 2022 |
I believe you saw all these signs before you put a ring on it. I'd urge you both to visit a counsellor since it shows her family can't do nothing and you seem too weak for her. 170 Likes 6 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by ayenika1: 11:12am On Jan 08, 2022 |
oladiddy: All these red flags and you still got married? What does she do for living? She's your wife, therefore, you need to man up. Sit her down, ask her questions, don't hide your feelings and don't be too negative about her all through. Don't refer to past events too much. Make it brief and tell her your plans for the family. Ask her what she wants as well. Answer her truthfully to your ability. If it persist What's your relationship with your inlaws? If it's cordial, that's the next step. Don't state all these above, just tell them to please appeal to her in making the home friendly that gradually things would be fine. If it further persist Take a decision. 48 Likes 6 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Aidejay(m): 11:16am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Your wife is trying to reduce you, she is trying to pull you down and going after your job which she feels is important to you and relevant to your standing in life, is a means for her to beat you down and threaten you. she has put you in a corner, now you're trying to save your marriage, save your child and save your job. for a woman to be going after your source of income that is funding the family and her lifestyle is another level of wickedness in high places. 437 Likes 24 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Apus: 11:17am On Jan 08, 2022 |
LordIsaac: Don't forget to make a video or audio recording. You will need it. 32 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by CreepyBlackpool: 11:20am On Jan 08, 2022 |
you people didn't date before getting married? abi you only saw ass and boobs instead of her real character why you people were dating? 52 Likes 7 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by MCKitchen(f): 11:23am On Jan 08, 2022 |
 I will just make few points on the below summaries from your original post. You should know by now that she is not a God fearing woman for over 3 years leaving under same roof. A God fearing woman will always stand by the husband in thick and thin. Secondly she already passed a message to your overall boss that she is the one in charge of your home affairs by so doing putting your competent In your job at stake. I will say cut her bills, and save more for your daughter. Traditionally If you paid bride price the elders will have the right to summon her and your daughter where ever she is. Lastly consider lossing your job for your daughter but then again consider lossing her for your job and daughter. Don't waste your time for that woman. Order for ur pot of soup, to know life is sweet when you have good meal with peace of mind. oladiddy: At bolded so he should continue living a life of misery, most times let's face the reality and not always scriptures. Richy4: 13 Likes 3 Shares
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| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Nobody: 11:23am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Kriss216:It is common knowledge on nairaland that I hate guys that works from home,bitcoin, and any other online money making rubbish. So I don't have eyes for him and his likes.You know what I like and don't pretend about it 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Kriss216: 11:25am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Iyaebe:Says a broke and wretched Nigerian girl with just 2 Bras and 3 pants. 223 Likes 16 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Nobody: 11:28am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Kriss216:What if I don't do bras and pants?then it means you just spew rubbish 9 Likes |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Kriss216: 11:29am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Iyaebe:Won't be surprised sha. Oloshos no dey wear pant 201 Likes 12 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Richy4(m): 11:33am On Jan 08, 2022 |
I will echo Amen to what the other person said about renting a room but let it be for an office space... I know from kindergarten that one doesn't poo where they eat... But your wife must be a different species not to have known that... Do not jeopardize your job buddy.. it's hard to come by nowadays.. Rent somewhere, buy an office furniture like a chair and desk and a little mattress.. Just for your office purpose/ a refuge where u can run to when it gets hot at home... don't disclose the location even in the heat of passion.. or Samson and Delilah moment.. I will never advise u to go for a divorce... God forbid!!! U saw her, did courtship, loved all those 'wonderful qualities' I believed did not start today...How can any sensible person advise u both to go your separate ways  35 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Beblessedbaba: 11:35am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Dude Let me not lie to you... If a woman goes to that extreme you made a huge mistake in marrying her and no marriage counselor can fix this if you like allow them to deceive you until you have 3 children then it will be so tight/frustrating to leave and your youth will have been wasted. Way forward/Exit Strategy Immediate term 1. pally your immediate line manager and a critical member of your firm Executive Management. 2. Be on friendly terms with your work place Security team led by the security head. Give them head up especially the Security head with her pix as she will disguise and make many attempt to enter your work place to embrass you. Short term 1. Get a friend you can work from his house daily could be a student sef or an hotel you can use their lobby during office hours or distance neighbor. 2. Your wife should not know this locations on no account Medium term 1. Rent a new apartment or Share with a friend short term 2. File for divorce and serve her while outside the house with your daughter On no account should she know your new apartment or you disclose this to any of her loved ones or your loved ones for now. If you do any pity party you might lose your life as this woman is capable of killing you if you fall into her trap.. you can't serve her divorce paper and still sleep in the same house. We don't want you gracing Nairaland front page as gone too soon so use survival intent and your head instead of your heart.. Pressure and crocodile tears will come from many quarters friends, relatives, counsellors, pastors etc and you will be digging your grave if you fall for it. A word is enough NB: Few days back in the US, a man flew an aircraft into the home he shared with his wife with a plan to kill her and himself out of frustration instead of walking away. The wife and her son survived while the man died.. The wife response was I don't know why my husband acted the way he did as he is a fanstatic husband. More or less the best husband in the world. Won't it has been better if she said truly they had a dispute...you see the narrative... Read between the lines and smell the coffee. 105 Likes 7 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Dbrawllm0098(f): 11:42am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Stand up for yourself. As your child grows, she will begin to see you in the same way your wife does and she will have no respect for you. Tell the bitch to STFU. Don't take that shit. 23 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by tommy589(m): 11:53am On Jan 08, 2022 |
@richy 4, I guess you are making fun of op |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Sexyliciousbri: 11:55am On Jan 08, 2022 |
Gather evidence. Divorce. Win custody. Live happy life. 18 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by oladiddy: 11:58am On Jan 08, 2022 |
MufasaLion: Honestly...I didn't see this coming...it happen so fast. We only dated for about 7 months. I just hated my self. 20 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Richy4(m): 12:03pm On Jan 08, 2022 |
tommy589:  I didn't mean to honestly but i don't know how he missed all the red flags during courtship... it was not as if he was somewhere abroad and they matchmake and parcels a wife to him to marry without courting 5 Likes |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Raalsalghul: 12:27pm On Jan 08, 2022 |
MufasaLion: From his description, his wife doesn't seem like the type that would go see a counsellor with him. 16 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Nobody: 12:38pm On Jan 08, 2022 |
I hope she knows what you do sha ... because I don't understand what she is doing, even if you are fighting it is not enough to disrupt your Job and source of livelihood.. It is not everything you react to, and try to avoid arguments , although they are people who are never reasonable....Just consider your daughter and be taciturn 6 Likes |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by tommy589(m): 12:40pm On Jan 08, 2022 |
Richy4: My friend said, I should understand the fact we are wired differently and emotionally blinded to see signs or don't take signs seriously. His remark was due to the fact that I used to get angry and do question why some people are so gullible and find themselves dealt with by the wrong hand. Not that I didn't have imperfections in my past marriages,but I won't allow you to torment me. My motto is to get the output of my input, If not, you walk or I walk. I have a darling now that I am living the rest of my life with 7 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by MufasaLion: 12:40pm On Jan 08, 2022 |
Raalsalghul: The OP should go to her family and let them know he wanna divorce their daughter since she doesn't seem to be a reasonable person to have conversation with. 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by MufasaLion: 12:45pm On Jan 08, 2022 |
oladiddy: Well, maybe it was there but you didn't see through it because of love. Or something must have triggered it before she started exhibiting the behaviour after marriage. She might be frustrated, depressed or whatever. I feel like you need to explain more about her. |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Richy4(m): 12:55pm On Jan 08, 2022 |
tommy589: I'm happy for you my brother that u were able to find love again... But I feel really bad for OP honestly... Imagine my spouse calling my work place over domestic matters... It's just a sin in my own book honestly... No matter the domestic dispute, she shouldn't have gone to that angle especially if she didn't find the job for me... What's her motives behind that if not to get his appointment terminated... To think that her tuition fees comes from that same job she was tempering with is a different abomination raised to power two  20 Likes 5 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Nobody: 12:58pm On Jan 08, 2022 |
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