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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Avast(m): 1:41pm On Jan 08, 2022*

When you marry a wrong person, you are finished

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by heniford2: 1:47pm On Jan 08, 2022

Jondelng:
Rent a small room outside for 6 months. Take your child. Let her fend for herself

OP take this advice

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Sucre6: 1:51pm On Jan 08, 2022

This is exactly what happens when you force a woman to be with you from relationship, and when u finally marries her, she sees it like she is doing you a favour being with you, and from your narration above,it's clearly shows that you truly love your wife and daughter, but there is how far u will love someone until u start simping without knowing

She's an ungrateful mofo, I will advice you to divorce her for your own sanity, a woman who you spend 70% of your salary on and she still don't care if u loose your source of income is a she-devil.

Finally, she had fallen out of love with you, if she even does love you in the first place, stop being afraid of losing your daughter after divorce, if you legally married her, your daughter is yours and yours forever.

Be An Alpha Take the Pill, it's red in color cool

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Kobojunkie: 2:14pm On Jan 08, 2022

oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

While your wife sounds very irrational, it seems whatever it is you both argue about does need to be ironed out is what she may be attempting to communicate, albeit in a seemingly foolish manner. So, you may want to take some days off work, if you can, to iron out any grudges that may have built up in your marriage over the many arguments you two may have had. undecided

You mentioned that your wife has a masters, so is she unemployed or something? undecided

Please do not hesitate to engage the help of a marriage counselor while you at it and you may want to bring up the fact that you are already considering divorce there as well so you both are on the same page. undecided

In the meantime, you may want to ask friends or family if they can allow you work from their location instead or maybe rent a small space from an unmarried friend where you can work from until issues are resolved at home. That time away from your wife could do you and your mind some serious good.. undecided

P.S. unless you and your wife agreed to submission as part of the deal from the beginning, I don't see why you should expect it from her or anyone else. undecided

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by ibechris(m): 2:27pm On Jan 08, 2022

U married your number one enemy.

I know it's not easy for u but u have to do something very fast.

Any home that does not give peace would readily cause more harm to the dwellers.

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Danjikanbauchi: 2:37pm On Jan 08, 2022

oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly.

My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again.

Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like.

Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge.

I am loosing my mind.

Please push to FP!

brother you need to be a man go to her department discuss with her hod you want to withdraw her from the msc program ( this can be just a threat), Sue her to court to pay for all the expenses you have made about her education get close to a lawyer let them advice you more and send her out of your house making sure you seize her phone and deny her any access to your house using court restriction. Stop making her see you as a weakling if not she will soon send you to job hunting again.

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by cococandy(f): 2:38pm On Jan 08, 2022

She sounds like an enemy of progress.
So if you get fired from that job now, what will she gain. Na wa.

oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly.

My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again.

Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like.

Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge.

I am loosing my mind.

Please push to FP!

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Ishilove: 2:41pm On Jan 08, 2022

Where una dey see all these kain women marry? huh

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by cococandy(f): 2:43pm On Jan 08, 2022

Extremely embarrassing. embarassed

I wouldn’t even be able to show my face at work the next day

Richy4:
I'm happy for you my brother that u were able to find love again...
But I feel really bad for OP honestly... Imagine my spouse calling my work place over domestic matters... It's just a sin in my own book honestly...

No matter the domestic dispute, she shouldn't have gone to that angle especially if she didn't find the job for me... What's her motives behind that if not to get his appointment terminated...

To think that her tuition fees comes from that same job she was tempering with is a different abomination raised to power two
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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Richy4(m): 2:51pm On Jan 08, 2022

cococandy:
Extremely embarrassing.

I wouldn’t even be able to show my face at work the next day

It is really embarrassing my sis...
How are u doing by the way? Happy New year... Hope you had a cool holidays.

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Olumighty123(m): 2:51pm On Jan 08, 2022

Until you loose your job, and your self esteem goes from 100 to 5 percent, maybe then you'd leave that witch and go your separate way cool

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Biglittlelois(f): 2:56pm On Jan 08, 2022

I'm really surprised your boss did not blast her off with words she will never forget in her entire existence, he/she would have threatened and warn her never to call or interrupt your meetings anymore cos her plan of getting you sacked will never work,

Op tell your boss or colleague the above the next time she tries that nonsense again, she will look else where to rant her madness away.

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by candygist: 3:41pm On Jan 08, 2022

oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly.

My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again.

Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like.

Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge.

I am loosing my mind.

Please push to FP!

Lol, why do you guys come here to complain to us ? If I see Nigerians doing wedding parties every Saturday I always laugh at the couples because to me they are just deceiving each other. After the wedding and few months together the real attitude of either the man or the woman will be displayed. Didn’t you notice all these her behavior before you guys got married ? Congratulations to the lucky men who got married to the right women.

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by frozen70(f): 3:56pm On Jan 08, 2022

oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly.

My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again.

Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like.

Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge.

I am loosing my mind.

Please push to FP!

She just want to be naughty and made sure that you don't control her life

If you are ready to bear that fir the rest if your life, then stay put

But If you are fed up with such a disgraceful act, inform her family that you want to take a break from her because you need peace at home

As for your daughter she will not suffer rather she may not get the things she is supposed to be getting

May be that break will reset her brain

What's her gain if you loose your job, as if she can handle the family income

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by cococandy(f): 4:01pm On Jan 08, 2022

Richy4:
It is really embarrassing my sis...
How are u doing by the way? Happy New year... Hope you had a cool holidays.

Happy new year too
I’m Doing awesome

Stay blessed

Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by onegig(m): 4:53pm On Jan 08, 2022

Can't imagine what would push someone to the point they would want to saboteur your work to the point of calling your boss or shouting when you are on an official Teams meeting. Like seriously? So that means if you had an issue with her and you had a physical meeting in the office she wouldn't mind barging in to cause ruckus?

That person has mental issues and isn't in the right frame of mind. Even my worst enemy wouldn't try to do that. That's beyond evil for someone you are married to. They want to cause you pain so bad she has no limits.

Please take her for psychiatric evaluation. That's not how a sane human behaves .

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by GboyegaD(m): 6:39pm On Jan 08, 2022

I will suggest you separate yourself from her in the time being and do not spend a dime on her to see what her reactions would be and that will guide your next line of action.

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by GboyegaD(m): 6:46pm On Jan 08, 2022

Beblessedbaba:
Dude Let me not lie to you...

If a woman goes to that extreme you made a huge mistake in marrying her and no marriage counselor can fix this if you like allow them to deceive you until you have 3 children then it will be so tight and your youth will have been wasted.

Way forward/Exit Strategy
Short term
1. Get a friend you can work from his house daily could be a student sef or an hotel you can use their lobby during office hours or distance neighbor.

2. Your wife should not know this locations on no account

Medium term

1. Rent a new apartment or Share with a friend short term
2. File for divorce and serve her while outside the house with your daughter

On no account should she know your new apartment or you disclose this to any of her loved ones or your loved ones for now.

If you do any pity party you might lose your life as this woman is capable of killing you if you fall into her trap.. you can't serve her divorce paper and still sleep in the same house. We don't you gracing Nairaland front page as gone too soon so use survival intent and your head instead of your heart..

Pressure and crocodile tears will come from many quarters friends, relatives, counsellors, pastors etc and you will be digging your grave if you fall for it.

A word is enough

She knows his work place so for peace to reign, he shouldn't take the daughter with him for now. He should also talk to his boss if they have a cordial relationship. Someone who wants to destroy his source of livelihood should be avoided like a plague.

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by GboyegaD(m): 6:51pm On Jan 08, 2022

Ishilove:
Where una dey see all these kain women marry?

For market with their property for inside polybag and their fine Dunlop slippers. Abeg, na joke I dey ooo.

Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by blahc007: 6:53pm On Jan 08, 2022

I do wonder if all this characters some people display inside marriage, there partner no been see any sign of it during dating??
Abi na Dem jus ignore every thing, troway face marry.. believing the person will adjust.?

This question bothers me well well
Abeg I need an answer from married people.

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Beblessedbaba: 7:02pm On Jan 08, 2022

GboyegaD:
She knows his work place so for peace to reign, he shouldn't take the daughter with him for now. He should also talk to his boss if they have a cordial relationship. Someone who wants to destroy his source of livelihood should be avoided like a plague.

That woman is capable of anything including killing you if you like go listen � forgive and forget I pity you

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by utinni(f): 7:45pm On Jan 08, 2022*

If the stuff like this doesn't work, you may then follow your heart.

Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Cyborgzone: 7:48pm On Jan 08, 2022

More like 3 of us

harqinhola:
That makes two of us .

Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by rayvelez(m): 7:48pm On Jan 08, 2022

Iyaebe:
Please send a DM, I'm a marriage counselor and I can counsel you and help the marriage. Price is affordable.I like how your wife went through the window to continue the drama,it's sexy and i can do same.All this little little drama is sweet in a marriage, I can't marry and everywhere will be quiet,no na.I don't support her disrespecting you and even allowing third party to know of the drama,it is bad.But that type of drama that's toxic free is very good and healthy for a marriage.

Only god know the level of your nessmad. Are you sure you’re mentally okay??

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by emmanuelbrown26: 7:48pm On Jan 08, 2022

Kriss216:
A wife you're doing all these for, yet she's not submissive?

What are you guys enjoying in this institution called marriage?

No woman in this world is worth your peace of mind.

Seconded baba, I keep saying it that no woman bone of woman dare gv me headache. Sometimes I keep wondering why we hv so many boys in men skin that can't put woman where she belongs to. Just negodu d nonsense my fellow man dey pass through

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by emmanuelbrown26: 7:50pm On Jan 08, 2022

LordIsaac:
Infact, I wonder why leaving, albeit temporarily or even permanently, is not an option for men going through hell at home!

Just that op is a sis in man skin that's why d wife is maltreating him this way

Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by DavidEsq(m): 7:50pm On Jan 08, 2022

oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly.

My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again.

Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like.

Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge.

I am loosing my mind.

Please push to FP!

Why do u think u would have to lose custody of your daughter? U work from home, so u provide top notch emotional and physical support to your daughter. All u need to show is that your wife would bring up your daughter under a tumultuous environment of hate, violence, screaming and the likes.

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by drmuchin: 7:51pm On Jan 08, 2022

oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly.

My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again.

Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like.

Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge.

I am loosing my mind.

Please push to FP!

U re a SIMPle man

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by kansoboy: 7:51pm On Jan 08, 2022

All this rubbish talk...you saw the sign during courtship, but u blindly went ahead to marry her...permit me to say that Ur parents even pin pointed the signs, but u felt u are wiser.

All these men that have not married....open Ur eyes and see the signs now..she will not change after marriage, rather she will worsen.

Ehen heh, back to u oga, next time look for small hotel near Ur house and go and do Ur presentation, as for the woman, send her parking to her father's house before she send u packing to the under world by giving u BP.

I rest my case

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by DavidEsq(m): 7:51pm On Jan 08, 2022

daddytime:
Hmmm...

I can relate to what it feels like with your daughter and the fear of losing her.

But not to worry, even if you and your wife eventually go your separate ways which I will advise you to consider because your wife obviously isnt supposed to be your wife. She is an enemy or someone else's supposed wife who won't hesitate to bring you down before exiting your life eventually.

Oga, no worries or fears of the unknown. Find your way from this conundrum ASAP and even you would marvel at how easy you'd navigate through.

Wishing you the best on your next moves.

If una sha need laptop to type the divorce or conciliatory letter, na me be una plug. Just dm me or do me a WhatsApp from my signature.

U have spoken well

Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Kobojunkie: 7:51pm On Jan 08, 2022

blahc007:
I do wonder if all this characters some people display inside marriage, there partner no been see any sign of it during dating??
Abi na Dem jus ignore every thing, troway face marry.. believing the person will adjust.?

This question bothers me well well
Abeg I need an answer from married people.

You'll be shocked to know that this same character is probably part of why OP was drawn to his wife while they were dating. lipsrsealed

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by marsup: 7:52pm On Jan 08, 2022

I can tell you this for free....
Your wife has a serpentine spirit. A woman who has been assigned to destroy you.

Who did you offend? Sometimes human beings are the architect of their own problems.

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