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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by BlackyOne: 8:18pm On Jan 08, 2022
oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly.

My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again.

Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like.

Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge.

I am loosing my mind.

Please push to FP!


Tell her you're tired and you would like her to leave or you will be forced to throw her out, then call her parent and tell them you're no longer interested in the marriage to their daughter....

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Nicepoker(m): 8:18pm On Jan 08, 2022
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Iyaebe:
Please send a DM, I'm a marriage counselor and I can counsel you and help the marriage. Price is affordable.I like how your wife went through the window to continue the drama,it's sexy and i can do same.All this little little drama is sweet in a marriage, I can't marry and everywhere will be quiet,no na.I don't support her disrespecting you and even allowing third party to know of the drama,it is bad.But that type of drama that's toxic free is very good and healthy for a marriage.
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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by okoroemeka(m): 8:18pm On Jan 08, 2022
oladiddy:


Honestly...I didn't see this coming...it happen so fast. We only dated for about 7 months.

I just hated my self.
I don't think renting another place and running away from this type of woman is the solution,she will just block your way one morning and demand to know we're you are going,I think the solution to my best knowledge is to ignore her totally as if she doesn't exist,grind her down with a mental war of attrition,she will want to talk to you then lay down the rules,and let her know if she misbehaves there will be consequences.and don't hesitate to send her packing if she misbehaves.

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Elidrisy20: 8:19pm On Jan 08, 2022
This one na small case nah, just spoil her with money until she has nothing to do with it
Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by teeste: 8:20pm On Jan 08, 2022
oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly.

My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again.

Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like.

Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge.

I am loosing my mind.

Please push to FP!

Drama at the window got me laughing...o boy! very dramatic woman.
I no get words for you bro!

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by ariesbull: 8:20pm On Jan 08, 2022
Iyaebe:
Please send a DM, I'm a marriage counselor and I can counsel you and help the marriage. Price is affordable.I like how your wife went through the window to continue the drama,it's sexy and i can do same.All this little little drama is sweet in a marriage, I can't marry and everywhere will be quiet,no na.I don't support her disrespecting you and even allowing third party to know of the drama,it is bad.But that type of drama that's toxic free is very good and healthy for a marriage.

You that is marriage counseling and olosho looking for guys in real estate...

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Nobody: 8:21pm On Jan 08, 2022
Iyaebe:
Please send a DM, I'm a marriage counselor and I can counsel you and help the marriage. Price is affordable.I like how your wife went through the window to continue the drama,it's sexy and i can do same.All this little little drama is sweet in a marriage, I can't marry and everywhere will be quiet,no na.I don't support her disrespecting you and even allowing third party to know of the drama,it is bad.But that type of drama that's toxic free is very good and healthy for a marriage.

Stop it there please. Somebody is deliberately trying to get the husband sacked and you are calling it sweet drama. And she is benefiting more from the money that the job brings, is that not madness. What she needs is a psychiatrist

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Viking007(m): 8:22pm On Jan 08, 2022
oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years

Please push to FP!
You saw all these traits and you still chose to marry her. Oga, enjoy your marriage. undecided

https://t. me/+-3PPcuajfH8yZDc8

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by emmanuelbrown26: 8:22pm On Jan 08, 2022
oladiddy:


Honestly...I didn't see this coming...it happen so fast. We only dated for about 7 months.

I just hated my self.
Don't hate yourself now, this is not the time to start hating yourself nor blaming yourself. The best u can do right now is separation, if u could be sponsoring her MSC with your 70% income, I wonder what would happen by the time she start earning, she would throw u away, is better u damn what people would say and hv peace of mind than dying slowly and pleasing people.

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Aaron12(m): 8:22pm On Jan 08, 2022
Iyaebe:
Please send a DM, I'm a marriage counselor and I can counsel you and help the marriage. Price is affordable.I like how your wife went through the window to continue the drama,it's sexy and i can do same.All this little little drama is sweet in a marriage, I can't marry and everywhere will be quiet,no na.I don't support her disrespecting you and even allowing third party to know of the drama,it is bad.But that type of drama that's toxic free is very good and healthy for a marriage.
Are you sure you are a marriage counselor,
Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Richy4(m): 8:22pm On Jan 08, 2022
seanwilliam:
you’re right . And I agree. But come to think of it, what if she changed after marriage? What if they didn’t court for long? And what if they didn’t have close relationship while dating ??( I mean they didn’t get to know each other very well probably due to work, distance etc )

My brother, Marriage is a serious business in my opinion... One can't afford to make such mistake.... There must be one redflag she will leave behind no matter how careful might be just to get hooked.. he choose to ignore it...A stubborn person can display a bit of it during courtship... My brother decided to ignore it... Probably because he's the calm type and the sister capitalised on it...

U can agree with me that some people do not like trouble naturally and they can do about anything just to avoid it...OP might be in that category..

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Nobody: 8:23pm On Jan 08, 2022
Aaron12:
Are you sure you are a marriage counselor,

She is, but a very bad one

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Truvelisback(m): 8:23pm On Jan 08, 2022
Bro, becareful of ur wife. Infact, keep away vital secrets away from ur wife otherwise, she would hang u to death. Omo! see Korokoro witchcraf!

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by kansoboy: 8:24pm On Jan 08, 2022
Kobojunkie:
Reality,I am afraid, does not work that way. Assuming you wield control over a woman is what is crazy of what you suggest here. That was the mistake your father's before you made and are still paying for to this day. undecided

The OP chose this woman as his wife over all your so-called good girls out there, and he knows why and there is no need to belittle him for that. Probably his wife still is the best in the bunch for him, crazy as she may be in this story he tells us here. undecided


U are not been truthful to Urself..I guess Ur father's and Ur fore fathers who have been reduced to nothing by Ur mother's have not been able to man up and talk to u one in one the implications on marrying a woman who is not calm and cool headed...
If the OP is enjoying the marriage, he would not have cried out.

To solve a problem, u have to fine the root cause. If you don't remind the op how he ignored the signs during courtship, he will go ahead and repeat

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Caleycash(m): 8:24pm On Jan 08, 2022
Danniedpastor:


Please, shut up if you have nothing reasonable to say.
You are the one to shut up... fake scamming pastor!

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Dybala11(m): 8:25pm On Jan 08, 2022
Iyaebe:
Please send a DM, I'm a marriage counselor and I can counsel you and help the marriage. Price is affordable.I like how your wife went through the window to continue the drama,it's sexy and i can do same.All this little little drama is sweet in a marriage, I can't marry and everywhere will be quiet,no na.I don't support her disrespecting you and even allowing third party to know of the drama,it is bad.But that type of drama that's toxic free is very good and healthy for a marriage.
Imagine, and you sat down to type this. May I never jam somebody like this o, no peace of mind fah.

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Lexicon123: 8:27pm On Jan 08, 2022
Have you considered working from the office? Or is your office not accessible?
Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by intruder15(m): 8:27pm On Jan 08, 2022
oladiddy:


Honestly...I didn't see this coming...it happen so fast. We only dated for about 7 months.

I just hated my self.

Get up and act. Something is making her pompous. Identify it and kill it.
That 70% you give her, you didn't start what it's for. Neither did you state what she does for a living.

You are being bullied by your wife because you are gentle and calm. It's natural for one's quietness to be abused. A factory reset slap may solve the issue. Or may not. Only time will tell.

If the quarrels are over petty stuffs, escalate to her. Then escalate to her family that she is closest with. Stating if it doesn't improve, you will take a drastic decision. Keep the decision to your self.

She obviously doesn't have regard for you or your work. She can make you lose your job in future if you don't act. Set password on your phone. Let her know the reason why.
You need inner peace. Home is not giving you that. Get somewhere else to stay and work. It may be a library or an open space that can allow you make your teams call.

Divorce is not an option. At least not yet. Observe the improvement. If still worse, ensure you have escalated to both families before you take the divorce route.

It doesn't mean that you have failed in life. Shit happens. One's sanity is most important.
Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by MufasaLion: 8:27pm On Jan 08, 2022
Kingscee:


No be only counsellor, both senator all join, OP mad woman na always a mad woman, no matter how you counseling her, that man should divorce her if he wants to live longer

Her temperament can be managed. She can be asked to join Anger Management Group.
Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by fashionale(m): 8:28pm On Jan 08, 2022
Chairman, don't be afraid of loosing your child if una separate... For now, your mental health is more important than your fear... Go for divorce and let your attorney push for you to be seeing your child on monthly basis....

And stop spending 70% of your income on a woman who's bent on destroying you. Cut her off and only give what's necessary for the house and your child ... Save ooo because divorce process no be moi moi.... I wish you good luck

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by fx45(m): 8:29pm On Jan 08, 2022
Iyaebe:
What if I don't do bras and pants?then it means you just spew rubbish
Na tights or girdle you dey wear

Spits!

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Fididiguy(m): 8:29pm On Jan 08, 2022
You too should give your life to Christ, start family alter in your home, read Bible together and see an instant mending of broken relationship

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Nobody: 8:29pm On Jan 08, 2022
MufasaLion:


Her temperament can be managed. She can be asked to join Anger Management Group.

Kwantinue

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Ofadaman(m): 8:29pm On Jan 08, 2022
Obviously something is going on beyond the quarrel, she plans to make you miserable, a woman that wants to sabotage your source of livelihood will ruin you if you have no means of income. This is a red flag, file for divorce immediately. You'd live in hell if you lose your job or by any means she becomes the bread winner.

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by gbemishile: 8:30pm On Jan 08, 2022
Sit her down and talk like two matured adults.
Divorce should be the very last option.u want to run away at the slightest of problems.how sure are u that the next woman will not have qualities as worse as ur current wife.
Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by myami: 8:31pm On Jan 08, 2022
Kriss216:






A wife you're doing all these for, yet she's not submissive?

What are you guys enjoying in this institution called marriage?

No woman in this world is worth your peace of mind.
you no dey rest. Every thread you must comment.
Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by famto4luv2004(m): 8:32pm On Jan 08, 2022
I pray you don't lose your job but if you do, this woman will move on with her life base on the description of her, bro your job is very important to you and those dat get small small change from it.

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by OlawaleBammie: 8:32pm On Jan 08, 2022
oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly.

My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again.

Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like.

Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge.

I am loosing my mind.

Please push to FP!
if she's not submissive to u so why must u spend even 40% of ur earnings on her talk more of 70%??

Our men are losing their hold indeed


Good pls bless orlando owoh in his grave

The day u stop pleasing women at the expense of ur happiness yhe day u get liberated

Dont be a puppet to a woman and see her fear u, bro, it imperative u create fears in ur woman...

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by PearlFid(f): 8:33pm On Jan 08, 2022
Let me not blame you for marrying her because I know you saw all these qualities and you still married her.. I'm not an advocate of divorce, if you're a Christian take your problem to your pastor, Godly counselling can help, and on your own ask God for mercy and wisdom to govern your family, you're the head of the home, the priest of the home.. Your wife cannot take that position from you, your wife aught to submit to you and you aught to love your wife. Your wife submit to the love you shower her, now.. Don't always talk about the past, pray with her, love her, cherish her, advice her like her King you are, be the head, and above all love her unconditionally even if she's yet to change, with time she will change and adjust by herself and even ask for your forgiveness. Love is the strongest force in the world it can change anything and lastly don't forget to always consult your maker.
Don't say you're tired, there is cross for every marriage to carry, ask God to give you the strength and wisdom to carry yours.
Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by favour32(m): 8:34pm On Jan 08, 2022
Women dey contribute to some extent why most men nor dey last for Nigeria.

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Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by Westernequinox: 8:34pm On Jan 08, 2022
There are many angles to diagnose your case.
Are you a transformed man, transformed spiritually, a home where the government of Christ and his nature are resident is bound to derail and descent into chaos,for a wise man, the nature of the vipers here should not be under estimated, Their wisdom is a poison, you are seeking to soothe a wound, you have to understand that calmness put all offense to rest. If you you should go by the paraphernalia of deceit posted by the mob here, you would take a route in life that might take you years to recover. Be wise, pray and consult a priest wise in the spirit of God to administer the right dosage of treatment needed for marital happiness to be functional in your home

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