Nothing is wrong with marriage as an institution, in fact, marriage with the right person is the best thing that can happen to any individual.





A wife you're doing all these for, yet she's not submissive?

What are you guys enjoying in this institution called marriage?

No woman in this world is worth your peace of mind. [/quote]

Step 1 :Reduce your help to her and let her know her dramatic antics has caused you your job.

Step 2: Move out while you start divorce proceedings which you may not follow through.

Some women feel.they cannot divorce

Step 3: If she sobers up, then go for licensed marriage counselling not with a religious person.



Step 4: If she doesn't sober up , begin the divorce proceedings.

Your daughter will be fine

Don't lose your life to another individual 's cruelty and insensitivity.


Do you deliberately get her to get highly upset Then stop it

You are not ready. You can't divorce her. Divorce is forbidden in Jesus. Go and pray for her. You knew she was like this, yet you got blinded by beauty and now you seek divorce, hell fire is real. You must manage the situation for been foolish at dating. God be with you bro.

oladiddy:


I am loosing my mind.

Please push to FP!

Me I know very well that no one will give his child to someone who has lost his mind.
When you loose your mind eventually you will loose your kid.

pls brother your own is small,only God know what i am passing true with my wife,i fill like commit sucide

I am not here to judge,but search your heart Op if you are completely innocent because some women can go to any length to fight their husband without considering the consequence s if their husband is cheating on them.

what did you do ? give one example
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oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly.

My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again.

Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like.

Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge.

I am loosing my mind.

Please push to FP!

I do not knkw your own kind of person and behavior, but people who blame others have their own faults from experience, so in refuse to make comments about the attitude of your wife.

But if you lose your job, this wife will leave you. The handwriting is clear on the wall. If you have a disability, she will dump you. So why are you playing with your life?

You marry first for companionship, but you arent getting it. And your excuse now is your daughter. I am sure you had an excuse for marrying her when you saw the red flags.

The truth is to be single is better than marrying a demon. But many in Nigeria rush marriage because of what the society thinks about them. And this wrong habit has put us in a big mess economically which we will realise soon. The population is exploding and people still do not care. People who should have one kid are having 5 and above. And still exploding...then, the 5 children also have 6 children each. What kind of life is that? Now, Lagos has been over populated that it has become too crowded. Yet, madness is everywhere.

Sir, give yourself peace of mind ooo. And the only way out is staying away from a toxic partner. Just based on your mental and emotional health, stay away from her. Better you pack out.

Go and consult a lawyer how you can get your daughter, or how you can make her not to run away with her. Yes, she cannot run away even she has thw custody if you are fast and you have used the law to compel her. After all you are taking care of your child.

Take videos and evidences of periods you shared with your daughter cos you will need it. The worst case is that you will have joint custody. But for you to be the bread winner and even have time to take care of your kid, then, it is very likely you will get the custody. Act fast.

When you are ready, serve her a divorce letter..simple.. And if she decides to run away with the girl, there is nothing much you can do. But you can prevent it.

After all I have written, I am sure you will still hesitate. But remember, it is your life. If you had taken the right step, you wouldn't have got to this. So, you have been making bad decisions. If you dont do what is right, that woman and even your daughter you are using as the reason to stay in an emotional abused relationship will even insult you. I pray nothing happens to your source of income.

When you marry the wrong spouse, you are already dead. Just look at you not having any plan. Just dumping money on that woman. 70% of your salary for many months went into a lady who doesnt appreciate it. Or mayne you want her to serve you like a god cos you did it. I really cant say, but just think before igs too late. You better stay single so you dont kill yourself before your time., or you end up with a woman who will make your old age more terrible.

Life is too short. Before you know it, you are already over 65 and that's retirement. So, you better make the right decision. Again, staying single is better than staying with a wrong spouse. But most men cant stay single. They can't even cook for themselves. Lol.

Goodluck!

ukpahu:
pls brother your own is small,only God know what i am passing true with my wife,i fill like commit sucide

That's serious, sit her down and ask if she wants you dead or alive.If she's not ready to reconcile go and see her ppl and let them call her and question her while she's acting like that.If she's not ready to change suggest that both of you should live separately for that least 3 months then come together thereafter if this will refresh d marriage because of d tension btw both of you.During this period both of u should check yourselves and work on your imperfections,I believe there's going to be some differences

kansoboy:
All this rubbish talk...you saw the sign during courtship, but u blindly went ahead to marry her...permit me to say that Ur parents even pin pointed the signs, but u felt u are wiser.

All these men that have not married....open Ur eyes and see the signs now..she will not change after marriage, rather she will worsen.

Ehen heh, back to u oga, next time look for small hotel near Ur house and go and do Ur presentation, as for the woman, send her parking to her father's house before she send u packing to the under world by giving u BP.

I rest my case

Stop shouting, bros.
Most times, women don't reveal their real characters during courtships, and they do that intentionally to ensure the marriage goes ahead.
You need to understand this.

Iyaebe:
Please send a DM, I'm a marriage counselor and I can counsel you and help the marriage. Price is affordable.I like how your wife went through the window to continue the drama,it's sexy and i can do same.All this little little drama is sweet in a marriage, I can't marry and everywhere will be quiet,no na.I don't support her disrespecting you and even allowing third party to know of the drama,it is bad.But that type of drama that's toxic free is very good and healthy for a marriage.

You mean a woman that wants him to lose his job is normal in a marriage?

Are you sure you are not a curse to womanhood?

Your own life is absurd and you want to counsel others on how to live their lives?

What an absurdity?

oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly.

My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again.

Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like.

Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge.

I am loosing my mind.

Please push to FP!

"Pack and go" in kiss Daniels voice.
Divorce her and collect your daughter. The child belongs to the man of the house.
Don't share your income with your wife, Instead she should share her own with you, since na she cause am, she be the reason why you are running away for ur dear life, sign am for lawyer paper. Put the house for rent as soon as you "Pack and go". Please don't plan to have any other child, don't get stuck in the rat race.
Collect the house rent, don't give her shishi even 10 Kobo, only according to her contribution to build the house are you allowed to give her something.

Iyaebe:
Please send a DM, I'm a marriage counselor and I can counsel you and help the marriage. Price is affordable.I like how your wife went through the window to continue the drama,it's sexy and i can do same.All this little little drama is sweet in a marriage, I can't marry and everywhere will be quiet,no na.I don't support her disrespecting you and even allowing third party to know of the drama,it is bad.But that type of drama that's toxic free is very good and healthy for a marriage.

Taa!!!

Kriss216:

Go and find your own husband. Leave him alone!

Lmaooo

Munzy14:
Taa!!!

Remember You owe me a car

oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly.

My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again.

Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like.

Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge.

I am loosing my mind.

Please push to FP!

You married another man's wife....So sorry man..

The biggest fear of any focused man is to avoid marrying another man's wife..

With your own wife and soul mate, good things will start happening to you the moment you meet her.......Words of my Dad.

This one is attacking your source of livelihood, she is there to render you useless..


Oga divorce is an option...Before you go 6feet below sea level.....Your daughter will never forget you as long as you are there for her...With basic training she need to stand on her feet.

Too many good ladies out there...No let one dangerius lady kill you before it is your time.

Kriss216:






A wife you're doing all these for, yet she's not submissive?

What are you guys enjoying in this institution called marriage?

No woman in this world is worth your peace of mind.

This is why I Hate marriage

Aidejay:
Your wife is trying to reduce you, she is trying to pull you down and going after your job which she feels is important to you and relevant to your standing in life, is a means for her to beat you down and threaten you.

she has put you in a corner, now you're trying to save your marriage, save your child and save your job.

for a woman to be going after your source of income that is funding the family and her lifestyle is another level of wickedness in high places.

This is why we are telling this guys to enjoy themselves vagina People only think of themselves

Iyaebe:
It is common knowledge on nairaland that I hate guys that works from home,bitcoin, and any other online money making rubbish. So I don't have eyes for him and his likes.You know what I like and don't pretend about it

Do you say rubbish blood of Zachariah! It's the future of money

Aidejay:
Your wife is trying to reduce you, she is trying to pull you down and going after your job which she feels is important to you and relevant to your standing in life, is a means for her to beat you down and threaten you.

she has put you in a corner, now you're trying to save your marriage, save your child and save your job.

for a woman to be going after your source of income that is funding the family and her lifestyle is another level of wickedness in high places.

Correct.

@op, find your way.

Iyaebe:
Please send a DM, I'm a marriage counselor and I can counsel you and help the marriage. Price is affordable.I like how your wife went through the window to continue the drama,it's sexy and i can do same.All this little little drama is sweet in a marriage, I can't marry and everywhere will be quiet,no na.I don't support her disrespecting you and even allowing third party to know of the drama,it is bad.But that type of drama that's toxic free is very good and healthy for a marriage.

Full

Kobojunkie:
1. Your forefathers did all that "manning up" yet we still end up where you are today? What does that tell you of all there supposed efforts?

2. The Op didn't tell you anything about ignoring signs during courtship. As a matter of fact, he explained that he knew the woman he was marrying... only now her character has become troubling and this as a result of arguments they couple have been having.

What's this idiot always saying?
Our forefathers 'manned' up and were fully in charge of their various homes; their wives were humble, hardworking and respected them.
There was no such thing as a woman then rubbing shoulders or dragging headship of the family with her husband.
Women then understood what marriage meant and their positions as wives/keepers of home, and divorce rates were very low.

What nonsense are you even saying. If you don't know anything about history, go back and update your rusty knowledge on it.

oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly.

My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again.

Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like.

Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge.

I am loosing my mind.

Please push to FP!

Sometimes, I wonder where u guys sees all this mad ladies; were there are many responsible ladies who are ready to sacrifice everything to be with u.

How did u even marry a proud lady with such attitudes. Sometimes 80% of our problems is caused by ourselves. U think when u get married to her she will change abi, and u went ahead and married her just because she has big back side, and she beautiful. Now u are tired of the back side and her beauty and u are considering devorce.

When they warned u people not to marry a lady for her beauty and back side u people with not hear. And I believe you parents could have warned u but u claimed u lover her not knowing u are blind because honestly u are not in love but infatuated.

For so many guys reading this post pls Mary a lady who respect u and ready to sacrifice everything for u. They are available and I can assure u that. But sometimes, when such ladies comes to ours lives, we take advantage of them and go and marry the one that will kill us.

WE ARE IN THE SAME SHOES MAN!

Kriss216:

Won't be surprised sha. Oloshos no dey wear pant

Hahahaha

ukpahu:
pls brother your own is small,only God know what i am passing true with my wife,i fill like commit sucide

You are a disgrace to humanity. Assuming I know you, I would have punched your face. You want to commit suicide because of a woman, is she the one feeding you? Are you incapacitated? I am so angry typing this. You don't know your way out? Suicide is only what you think because of so called wife so that you put your family members in mourning state. Go and meet someone around your house now to punch your mouth.

Op, you be fool.
You didn't see all these character traits before you marry am?

Why you simps men dey always like dey stupid for woman matter, and after you go come dey disturb the rest of us with your problems?

With all this stories. Wey I dey read here to marry self no be priority again o. na make God dey help person oo. KARASIKA everywhere.

yemi1504:


Thank you especially at the last statement!

One love man, I wish your every peace of mind u desire in this world

Kriss216:





A wife you're doing all these for, yet she's not submissive?
What are you guys enjoying in this institution called marriage?
No woman in this world is worth your peace of mind.

I wonder why men marry these days.

MufasaLion:
I believe you saw all these signs before you put a ring on it. I'd urge you both to visit a counselor since it shows her family can't do anything and you seem too weak for her.

your comments are what is killing both husband and wife in marriage, they will be thinking that he or she will change after marry he or her

ukpahu:
pls brother your own is small, only God knows what I am passing true with my wife, I fill like commit sucide

pls do so that means one fool goes back home out of the fool we have in men because I don't know why you can not walk away from her or send her away