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| I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Rita005: 9:01pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Hi folks! I feel like sharing my predicament with you and hope to get a solution. Please bear with me cuz it's a long read. I'm a 26 years old banker (not contract staff) in one of the south south states. Recently, I met a beautiful soul and I think I'm getting so fond of him now. We connected after the close of service in church and exchanged contacts. He was kind enough to drop me off my house. This guy is doing very well for himself (lives in a nice estate and owns a good ride). A short while after our first meeting, we spoke on phone and I didn't know when I asked him why he isn't married. He told me it's a long story and would like to talk about it when we meet one-to-one. Fast forward, we met and he told me all there is about him. He's 34, got married about 2 years ago, but now separated from his wife. The reason he gave for the separation was lack of trust from his wife. According to him, his wife is so insecured to a fault. According to him, the first week he got married was when he started regretting his actions. After their marriage, his wife travelled down home to bring her remaining baggage. Before she returned, he made sure he cleaned the house thoroughly. However, when his wife came back, she headed straight to the fridge (she had made soup and stew before traveling) and the next thing was cry! According to him, he said he was confused at first. it was when he asked her what the problem was that she said he brought a woman to their matrimonial home. He said he cried so much and regretted marrying a woman with a possessed mind. According to him, all the signs were there before marriage and he ended the relationship more than 5 times but she kept begging. What she was holding on to was that there's no assurance that the guy will marry him, hence, her fears. According to him, the woman has accused him of sleeping with his former neighbors and she insisted that they move out of that area. for peace to reign, he agreed and they got another accommodation. Again, she started accusing him of having something with his new neighbors (even the married ones). To be honest, this guy is admirable and very reserved and I'm not sure if he's doing all the things his wife accused him of. He got angry when his wife decided to report him to the church authority. According to him, this woman has no single proof of him cheating but her reprobate mind is affecting her badly. She even went ahead to share demeaning messages about him (her husband) on her whatsapp status. This guy said he has pleaded with her to stop but it's getting worse. Now, they were married for about two years without a child. He said he could manage to live with the woman for more years without a child but can't do that when his peace is been threatened. He said his wife nags a lot and it was driving him crazy. According to him, his mum was never in support of the marriage but dad was interested in it. As it stands now, he has left his wife and moved to another state where we both met. I have been friends with him for about 3 months now and I must say that this guy is a sweet human being. He asked me out but I told him we should just be friends, owning that he's still legally married. However, my feelings for him is growing everyday and this guy knows how to get one emotionally attached to him. Even though I can perceive that he wants sex with me, he never begs or act too anxious over it. He's so calm and mature and this is making me to admire him the more. Note: He said he has talked about divorce with his wife but she's refusing it. This is where my concerns come in. Now, I'm scared of going into a relationship with him knowing that he's not divorced yet. To be honest, I can hardly concentrate these days because the thought of this guy has occupied my mind. Can I go ahead with him or the implications would be overwhelming? To be honest, I've not met a guy has coolheaded and admirable as this guy but I'm scared. please I need advice on how to handle this situation. Thanks 39 Likes 8 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Sonnobax15(m): 9:02pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
 A man who truly wants to divorce his wife legally,that one no suppose to be stress na  . Unless he wanna add you to the list of one of his alphabet bitches  . I believe if you get to hear the HD version of the whole story from his wife's own perspective, you may end up running faster than Usain bolt,for your dear life  556 Likes 29 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by ednut1(m): 9:06pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Shine your eyes madam, his nice car and estate dey enter your eyes. If the wife tell you her version i bet it wont be the same as he told you. He should divorce her fully before you date him if not na hot tears dey come. 431 Likes 24 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Animegirl(f): 9:08pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Nawa 2 Likes |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by helinues: 9:09pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
 He's 34, got married about 2 years ago, but now separated from his wife Very popular lyrics line used by guys 247 Likes 12 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Rita005: 9:09pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Thanks guys... He is hardly perturbed about me not agreeing to his wishes. 16 Likes |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by helinues: 9:12pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Rita005: Note: He said he has talked about divorce with his wife but she's refusing it. Another repeated lyrics line. The guy is probably working in one state while his family is in another state or another location 396 Likes 16 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by ParpahSeventy: 9:12pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
At 26,the world ahead of you is larger and full of better options to be entangled in this mess, that thing that's making your thoughts go wild, if I were you, I would calm myself, you think he is everything because you chose to see "everything" in him. Be wise my dear. 246 Likes 14 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Naijanascam: 9:12pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Madam banker just hold your peace..... all that glitters aren't gold ...... don't let what you see or hear sweep you off your feet...... 99 Likes 5 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by advanceDNA: 9:15pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Rita005: This one na old format men naa...but one of the most effective cheating format men working in a different state from the location their wife stay use it to cruise single girls like you... He's just trying to make you comfortable dating him with the knowledge that he's married.. babe, he will fvck you, he will use you, because tha'ts all you are to him right from the start... Walk away now... u have no business hanging with a married man. u will only get burned... You own man is coming.. you go dey alright las las 286 Likes 12 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Nobody: 9:16pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Hello babes. An old format he used. If he can't tender the legit divorce papers to u,then u should kill your vibe for him already. Nigga is legally married! He just need some puzzy 144 Likes 7 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Candidlady: 9:20pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Aunt rita/ritad No sense for you ma... Same story he told bet he must have used it on so many mumu like you... You have young men who are legit single but no you chose to fall in love with a married man ...cuz he rich has a ride.. Sure a regular hustling dude must have approached but you turned him down ... Husband snatcher.... Keep Chasing Gold till you get swallowed in the mine. Modified- so smellysperm get sense like this... This year must be nice 150 Likes 8 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by fikayormi(m): 9:20pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
That guy is a real player  When he is done lashing your pussy , smoke will come out of it 155 Likes 10 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Ebubu: 9:21pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
I dey pity you He’s working in another state and wants to keep you as a sexmate That one concern you and whatever you want to do with your private part 79 Likes 7 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Rita005: 9:22pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Thanks a lot... But I have heard both of them speak on phone. The woman keeps begging but he's made up his mind already. When I first met him, I even advised him to go back to his wife. All he could say is that "it's okay if I don't want to be friends with him but I shouldn't tell her to go back to a woman who threatens his peace". advanceDNA: 4 Likes |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Ebubu: 9:28pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Rita005: So it is hard to hire a woman to act a scripted call? Well, seems you are already convinced to go ahead so why are you here  202 Likes 14 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by zed7: 9:31pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Beware of the cane they used in chasing the first wife out. Not all that glitters is gold. Look for someone without complications. The most successful scammers are the ones never in a hurry, they don't put pressure and take their time. You've been warned. 142 Likes 8 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by FanOfMyself: 9:51pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Why is everyone condemning the man? No one is even giving him a chance. So if I marry someone and tomorrow she turns out to become a nightmare I wouldn't leave her for my own sanity. OP, don't swallow all these negative opinions from people who have never met this man hook,line and sinker ooo. Try and find out more about him from his relatives and friends (facebook) if you can. Also try to infiltrate the estranged wife's camp albeit in disguise if you can. These herculean but possible tasks will reveal any secrets about him that might hurt you. But you should know that nairaland is full of negative energies oo 77 Likes 7 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by samdavjustin(m): 9:54pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Rita005: I don’t believe all that script he gave you, there are three sides to a story. You are working in a bank, you’re confirm wife material surely you can do better than that so why rush. 18 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Rita005: 9:55pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
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| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Rita005: 9:56pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Even though I hate to say this, I've spoken with his mum on the phone. He's not a cheat and I'm a smart woman to know that. The issue is just about his marital status. helinues: 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Rita005: 9:59pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Now, you are going too extreme. Thanks anyways. Ebubu: 9 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by yuping(m): 10:04pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
| Run! Run!! Run!!! Na sweet mouth oooo, even if he is saying the truth divorce might take time, so don't waste yours, he will still need to study you and all that. 14 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Nobody: 10:05pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Candidlady:Lols...I've always been a nice guy. Don't act surprised 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by aanuoluwami14(f): 10:07pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
| I laughed because many of that man are here reading this, they will lie to you that they are separated while they are still together. God will never forgive all those liars, they always ended up with painful and shameless death in the hotel or one of their slay mamas till down their brains. Ojukokoro will kill you, he will still dump you as he did with his first wife if he finally divorced his wife. Look for your type, you are still young. Don't be a cause for someone's broken home. Learn from Fani Kayode 31 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by ednut1(m): 10:11pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Rita005:cock and bull story from him. His wife keeps begging him what does that even mean. Has he gone back to return bride price or served her divorce papers  . Alot of women like you never use their heads till they serve hot breakfast and you come say men are scum54 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Ebubu: 10:19pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
ednut1:don’t mind rita005 Aunty Abeg go and get fkcked make we rest No just come here tell us men are scum and liars in the end Calm headed ni e no know say dem dey learn am27 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Twoclans(f): 10:26pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Rita005 you seem to really have alot of butterflies in your stomach for this guy.. oh well it is allowed. In everything or whatever decision you take make sure you take care of your heart and expect the worse. 30 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by BlaqJosh: 10:34pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Go ahead is it not what you have been doing. nonsense 8 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Nobody: 10:40pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Op sit him down and talk to him about d need to divorce... So u can b no1 in his life, else the legal wife will come after u 4 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by advanceDNA: 10:40pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Rita005: He has crept under your skin as I can see u are already giving reasons for him.. See...life na risk...So if you want to risk it....no wahala...I just hope you don’t lose more than invested time and countless session of spreading legs.. All those phone calls u are talking about are not proofs you are not being played... Real evidence is him Making divorce moves With lawyers you can see...no be mouth them dey use ask for divorce Real evidence he wants something genuine with you is one of two members of family being aware of you in his life and the divorce issue 35 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: I'm Deeply In Love With Him But He's Not Divorced Yet! by Rita005: 10:41pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Thanks a lot. I really like him but his marital status is troubling. I sure will be careful about it. His mom is so interested in him getting another woman cuz she was never in support of his decision to marry his wife. I appreciate your advice. Twoclans: 2 Likes |
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