Rachel98:
Good morning everyone. Hope we're having a wonderful week.

My Elder brother is doing well, no doubt he's the breadwinner in our family But his wife is so rude, too authoritative, she's full of pride and she looks down on people. She see everyone as her employee, she does not care if her actions or words hurts you, she's quick to slap at any slightest provocation. She's an event planner, please are event planners this rude??

She's the main reason why we barely visit our brother, despite we all live in the same city, we feel like a total stranger in our brother's house. Probably she's using "jazz" on him, I don't know But everything she does seems cool to him.

I managed to spend the weekend with them, since on friday she act like my presence irritates her. The maid prepared semo and vegetable soup, i don't eat swallow that like, so she saw me cooking noodles, she rudely said why're you not eating semo? Why are you people so selective? Then she left the kitchen. I just maintained my cool.

Yesterday she slapped her maid just because the plantain she told her to fry wasn't brown enough (maybe she wanted burnt sacrifice plantain). My elder brother calmly said honey you shouldn't have slapped her just becus of plaintain. The next she told my brother was "Defender!! go and marry her nw"

This morning, I jejely packed my belongings on my way to work, I entered my brother's car so he can drop me at the bus-stop, I just told him I won't be coming to his place anymore, once I'm done with work today I'm going home straight. And the annoying part, he would be asking me why? As if he's blind, he can't see how rude and ill-mannered his wife is.

His wife has really separated my brother from us, his own family. We don't even know what to do.

Rachel98:
Good morning everyone. Hope we're having a wonderful week.

My Elder brother is doing well, no doubt he's the breadwinner in our family But his wife is so rude, too authoritative, she's full of pride and she looks down on people. She see everyone as her employee, she does not care if her actions or words hurts you, she's quick to slap at any slightest provocation. She's an event planner, please are event planners this rude??

She's the main reason why we barely visit our brother, despite we all live in the same city, we feel like a total stranger in our brother's house. Probably she's using "jazz" on him, I don't know But everything she does seems cool to him.

I managed to spend the weekend with them, since on friday she act like my presence irritates her. The maid prepared semo and vegetable soup, i don't eat swallow that like, so she saw me cooking noodles, she rudely said why're you not eating semo? Why are you people so selective? Then she left the kitchen. I just maintained my cool.

Yesterday she slapped her maid just because the plantain she told her to fry wasn't brown enough (maybe she wanted burnt sacrifice plantain). My elder brother calmly said honey you shouldn't have slapped her just becus of plaintain. The next she told my brother was "Defender!! go and marry her nw"

This morning, I jejely packed my belongings on my way to work, I entered my brother's car so he can drop me at the bus-stop, I just told him I won't be coming to his place anymore, once I'm done with work today I'm going home straight. And the annoying part, he would be asking me why? As if he's blind, he can't see how rude and ill-mannered his wife is.

His wife has really separated my brother from us, his own family. We don't even know what to do.

Raalsalghul:
Chances are you'll do the same when you get married to your husband too so why complain.

Ybaby:


That is the behaviour that is giving your bro a hardoon lowo lowo bayii

What you can do is to mind your business and face your life. If your brother wants to see you - he will come and visit and you can visit too but tolerate her behaviour if you will visit.

Your bro loves DOM women and he is a SUB passive man.



Go and live your life!

aboyaji:
Thanks. You're wise. That's exactly what I'm doing now.

I only wish him well.


Guess what happened 2 days ago. Mom called and said "let your brother not repeat what he did some years ago".

What happened years ago? He had impregnated a certain young lady in 2014. Same person. Same occurrence. Who settled the matter? Family. And he's 3-4 years older than I am. Guess what? I wasn't close to him when it happened in 2014 and the girl in question came from an irresponsible money driven and alcoholic drunk family.

This new girl smokes weeeeeeeeeeeeeed. Story for another day.

And that punk assess of a kobo.junkie is talking thrash.

Kobojunkie:
My mistake then... I thought that was implied by your support for the other poster you mentioned earlier and by the statement below which you posted earlier.

2. So, marriage, for you is not an agreement between you and your man but between you, your relatives and your man?

NoToPile:


Loool, it's the husband that will even start defending the wife you are fighting.

Dybala11:

Fear fear.

Anyway I personally hate staying with people that likes shouting to convey their message. My mom is in this category before, she has learnt to cool down now sha. Cos I won't even say a word when she's shouting, after then I'll now ask her to tell me my fault and let us enter into dialogue.

sterlingD:

That Family Politics eh........... you got it right

aboyaji:
Wait let me tell you what you don't know. I may have made a mistake quoting you. You don't sound learned in this discourse.

He is my brother. I am closest to him. I am not the type of adult that sits around doing nothing when things are going out of hand. I am very much responsible in his life because he is my brother. Get it?

Dreytonisback:
Funny dude
Lemme make something clear to you
You can't blame your brother for not seeing her rudeness, that's the power of love there
That's the path he's chosen soet him be , he's no simp
People like that are not quick to react but when they do it's never funny .

My advise to you is to never step your foot inside that house again (self respect)
No matter what your elder bro tells you , never go there .
This is the problem with families where there's only one successful person in the family

If only you were rich too , she wouldn't be that rude to you
She feels y'all are draining her husband lol
Forgetting she's just a wife and not blood .

If you doubt what I'm saying, take a close observation at your elder brother's few successful friends who visits him with mad rides
You'll see how she'll put her attitude on check , and don't be surprised if it's your brother who's giving her such powers over y'all

Wanna understand what I mean there?
There are some men who foolishly tells their wives everything they do for their relatives
And how he's the source of how you people feed daily .
Some women do look down on such family members when they do visit


Lights up my kpoli in peace

Rachel98:
I can't be rude to my in-laws when I get married, becus i'm not ill-mannered, ill-bred and rude... So I can't.

Rachel98:


This morning, I jejely packed my belongings on my way to work, I entered my brother's car so he can drop me at the bus-stop, I just told him I won't be coming to his place anymore, once I'm done with work today I'm going home straight. And the annoying part, he would be asking me why? As if he's blind, he can't see how rude and ill-mannered his wife is.

Double0h7:


No disrespect but you need to step out of people's lives. This is your brother's journey and when he learns what he has to learn then he will do what he wants to do.

I don't get on with my sisters inlaw (no relationship, no love or hate, just neutral and respectful) but I respect them enough to stay the heck out of their lives. I would never disrespect the mothers of my nephews and nieces because those children will only see me as the enemy. I will wait for time to do it's magic and accept whatever the outcome may be.

Double0h7:
Maybe she senses that you don't like her and she's giving it back to you. If you want to build a relationship with her then you have to make the first step and be nice and respectful to her.

Her rudeness could be a defense mechanism to protect her from being abused in her new home... drop your guard and buy her a gift as a peace offering and slowly get to know her without judging her or talking bad about her.

Double0h7:


No disrespect but you need to step out of people's lives. This is your brother's journey and when he learns what he has to learn then he will do what he wants to do.

I don't get on with my sisters inlaw (no relationship, no love or hate, just neutral and respectful) but I respect them enough to stay the heck out of their lives. I would never disrespect the mothers of my nephews and nieces because those children will only see me as the enemy. I will wait for time to do it's magic and accept whatever the outcome may be.

Rachel98:
Good morning everyone. Hope we're having a wonderful week.

My Elder brother is doing well, no doubt he's the breadwinner in our family But his wife is so rude, too authoritative, she's full of pride and she looks down on people. She see everyone as her employee, she does not care if her actions or words hurts you, she's quick to slap at any slightest provocation. She's an event planner, please are event planners this rude??

She's the main reason why we barely visit our brother, despite we all live in the same city, we feel like a total stranger in our brother's house. Probably she's using "jazz" on him, I don't know But everything she does seems cool to him.

I managed to spend the weekend with them, since on friday she act like my presence irritates her. The maid prepared semo and vegetable soup, i don't eat swallow that like, so she saw me cooking noodles, she rudely said why're you not eating semo? Why are you people so selective? Then she left the kitchen. I just maintained my cool.

Yesterday she slapped her maid just because the plantain she told her to fry wasn't brown enough (maybe she wanted burnt sacrifice plantain). My elder brother calmly said honey you shouldn't have slapped her just becus of plaintain. The next she told my brother was "Defender!! go and marry her nw"

This morning, I jejely packed my belongings on my way to work, I entered my brother's car so he can drop me at the bus-stop, I just told him I won't be coming to his place anymore, once I'm done with work today I'm going home straight. And the annoying part, he would be asking me why? As if he's blind, he can't see how rude and ill-mannered his wife is.

His wife has really separated my brother from us, his own family. We don't even know what to do.

pocohantas:


His brother that is impregnating girls upandan, was he trained well? That is his brother’s spec. He is simply attracting the kind of reckless girls that are willing to be impromptu babymamas. Give your brother hot hot first or save the energy for your own home.

Astoria:
Just imagine your entitlement mentality "I don't eat swallow that like (like that). Why didn't you carry your own gas cylinder and the things you will eat while visiting since you know her kind of person. Y'all should stop getting on people's nerves. Stop allocating unwarranted and derogatory titles to them as well. Again, in your brother's wife's voice, "why are you people so selective?" The semo they made for you who will now eat it? Bring fort better issues and we will intervene accordingly.

mployer:

I can't bet my life you ain't no virgin.

If you got pregnant in your first time sex, would it make you reckless and untrained?

pocohantas:


I can very well get pregnant, but not for an irresponsible man. Definitely not with me being a drunk and weed addict. Not with me having a money addicted family. Not with me being a Snapchat slayqueen. That is the difference. That is the recklessness in it all.

So, what is your obsession with the condition of my vagina? Is the key to you breakthrough there, such that you willing to stake your life over the condition of a random internet user’s vagina? Is your life that worthless to you?

Care to share?

aboyaji:
Wait let me tell you what you don't know. I may have made a mistake quoting you. You don't sound learned in this discourse.

He is my brother. I am closest to him. I am not the type of adult that sits around doing nothing when things are going out of hand. I am very much responsible in his life because he is my brother. Get it?

Ishilove:

TabletMan:
I usually don't comment on this kinda topic or whenever the topic stretches to many pages but I just did now just to commend and appreciate your effort in voicing out about family values in society.
But just know that most people on this site will never understand what it means because In here we have alot of people from defective homes, some are product of single parent while some are bastards, some of them are product of incest.
You don't ever expect any of the above group to agree and see reasoning in your points so that's why you don't have to push hard while arguing on this kinda topic. Life is complex so they won't understand you and vice versa.

pocohantas:


Imagine staking his life over toto. Nawa. To born boy done dey fear me.

pocohantas:


I can very well get pregnant, but not for an irresponsible man. Definitely not with me being a drunk and weed addict. Not with me having a money addicted family. Not with me being a Snapchat slayqueen. That is the difference. That is the recklessness in it all.

So, what is your obsession with the condition of my vagina? Is the key to you breakthrough there, such that you willing to stake your life over the condition of a random internet user’s vagina? Is your life that worthless to you?

Care to share?

Kobojunkie:
Regardless of your opinions of this girl, it really isn't your place to tell your brother who he can or who he can't marry or keep as wife. This is your brother's business that you keep trying to make yours.

Your brother knows the way out of the relationship if that is what he desires, so leave him and mind your own life and business please.

Yes, he is your brother but the moment he decided to hitch his trailer with this woman, he ceased primarily as your brother and became this woman's partner. You really ought to respect that.