All terms are so real!.

Jackanda1:
I understand that good looks definately have advantages, but this thread will only discuss the disadvantages.

I am also aware that been less attractive has drawbacks. The fact that I am discussing the problems of beautiful people doesn't mean ugly people don't have problems. Let's focus on one aspect today.
I have a relative who is very handsome. We grew up, lived and schooled together (nursery-university). We are very close. The points in this thread are from observation.

For some reasons let me add: He was diagnose with anxiety and depression. He had low self esteem and was mostly a loner.

1.People are mostly insecured and intimidated by good looks. So they tend to react defensively against, subdue and humiliate you.

Its the same thing when people know you have a first class grade. You'll hear all sorts of degrading comments. Insecure people people will do anything to put u down, if you've got something they don't have.

2. Most people think life is easy for you,you're getting away with things and you don't have difficulties. So they deliberately decide to treat you with disdain. They think they are bringing about justice.

3. People stereotype you to be arrogant, proud, vain, stuck up, opportunist,mean,dumb etc anything you do or say, people find a way to relate it to the judgement they already have about you.

Thats why people say things like ' Does he have a good character' when discussing about gudlooking ppl.

4. Good looks +shyness is a curse. People don't expect you to be shy. You quietness &social inhibition could be interpretate to mean pride and arrogance.

5.Having a conversation with most people is like acting a poorly scripted movie. It seems people don't know how to act normal around you.

6. People are not free around you. They don't play or joke with you like everyone else. So youre mostly isolated

7. Since people donot expect you to have difficulties. They may be unsympathetic towards your problems,mock you behind your back and even use your trouble against you.

8. You are expected to be confidence, charismatic, have leadership skills, Rich and have a good life. Inability to meet up can cause metal breakdown.

9. You become the center of attention. Topic of discussion and gossip. Your business becomes everyone's business.

10. Even if you are in the right side of an argument. People will side against you.
It seems odd siding you.

11. Fine girls play over hard to get. Most average looking girls are intimidated and see themselves below your league

12. You can't joke or play around with people. They hinge on every word you say and may interpretate it to mean mockery or catty put downs.

13. Uneccesary aggression from fellow gender. Jealousy?

14. People think u are shallow, dumb, incapable etc. If a good looking person were to contest for election, most people won't vote for him. You're never taken seriously.

15. Everyone seems to easily believe anything bad about you and are willing to unite against a common enemy- you.

16. Most people donnot offer you help because they think you have it all.

17.You cannot talk about the problems of attractive people, no matter how badly it affects you.

18. Is it true people pay you complements often?
Why should they? So that your head will grow bigger that it's already is?

19. If your boss is intimidated by your looks, you might not get that job , no matter the qualification.

20.There are people who judge you negatively but not to point of butting head with you.

So they decide in their mind: ' I won't pay any attention to anything he says', I won't give him any validation or pay him any complements etc.
This gives them since of victory over you.
You might notice they make a big deal of ignoring everything you do or say

21. People make a big deal about your looks even more you do.

22. If you recently grew into your looks, you find most of your friends ghosting you.

23. Because of this problems, you can be forced into isolation

24. You are mostly ignored in a social group. Nobody speaks to you. You'll feel like a goat among lions.

25. People feel they need to compete and win against you. You might notice them unneccesarily showing off what they have that you don't have.

26. Most people act like they have gotten a life time achievement when they embarass, insult and put you down. They seem so happy and fulfilled. Pathetic

27. Most girls who like you but are intimidated by your looks act very aggresive to get your attention. This is usually counterproductive.

28. Since pple think everyone is kind to you, they decide to be the special ones that will make your life miserable.

29. Saying no to a request, cancelling an apointment can take a toll on people's emotions. They feel you are rejecting them or you are proud.

30. I don't know for fine girls, but fine boys tend to reject favors from people becos it makes you feel indebted to them. It also make u seems weak or like a woman. Even lalasticlala and seun can attest to it.

31. You are afraid of loosing your looks since its the only thing people value about you.

Thatssobeyonce:

Oh i understand now

Yeah and some or rather alot are not naturally fine they are just well groomed. Like those black bearded guys.

jaxxy:


Yeah and some or rather alot are not naturally fine they are just well groomed. Like those black bearded guys.

True i once said something similar, most these pics they post as fine guys are actually below average to me. We're all beautiful shaa, atleast in our parents eyes

Thatssobeyonce:


True i once said something similar, most these pics they post as fine guys are actually below average to me. We're all beautiful shaa, atleast in our parents eyes

Hahaha yeah. So who is above average to u?

I no dey look mirror for presence of people and i no dey look people face as i dey waka

[/color][color=#990000]@Jackanda1, YOU JUST DESCRIBED 31 STRUGGLE OF MY LIFE, SPOT ON.
ONLY TRULY HANDSOME GUYS CAN RELATE TO THESE .
EVEN GUYS WITH CARS & MONEY STILL FEEL THE NEED TO SHOW OFF AND COMPETE ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO WOMEN.

MESSAGE TO ALL FELLOW HANDSOME GUYS

(1) 80% OF GIRLS AROUND WILL LIKE YOU BUT ONLY 45%(UGLY GIRLS) WILL OBVIOUSLY SHOW IT TO YOU, OTHERS ESP AVERAGE TO FINE GIRLS CONCEAL IT BUT ADMIRE YOU0 IN SECRET

(2)FELLOWS GUYS KNOW THAT MOST GIRLS WILL LIKE YOU THATS WHY THEY FORM BEAT WITH YOU & ARE INTIMIDATED , KNOW THAT IT IS AN ANIMAL INSTINCT THING0 ~ it is all about competition for opp sex.

(3)IT IS A WAY TO BRING YOU DOWN THATS WHY PEOPLE ASK, IS HE INTE.LLIGENT, HAVE MONEY, OR PERSONALITY,. WHAT ABOUT AVERAGE TO UGLY GUYS WHO ARE NOT INTELLIGENT OR POOR OR DON'T HAVE CHARACTER, DO THEY QUEST0ON THEM.


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(4) UNFORTUNATELY, HANDSOME FOCUS ON THEIR APPEARANCE & FAIL TO DEVELOP OTHER ASPECT BUT IT IS WORSENED BY OSTRACISING TREATMENT PPLE METE OUT TO THEM


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[/color][color=#990000]@Jackanda1, YOU JUST DESCRIBED 31 STRUGGLE OF MY LIFE, SPOT ON. 
ONLY TRULY HANDSOME GUYS CAN RELATE TO   THESE  .
EVEN GUYS WITH CARS & MONEY STILL FEEL THE NEED TO SHOW OFF AND COMPETE ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO WOMEN.

MESSAGE TO ALL FELLOW HANDSOME GUYS 

(1) 80% OF GIRLS AROUND WILL LIKE YOU BUT ONLY 45%(UGLY GIRLS) WILL OBVIOUSLY SHOW IT TO YOU, OTHERS ESP AVERAGE TO FINE GIRLS CONCEAL IT BUT ADMIRE YOU0 IN SECRET

(2)FELLOWS GUYS KNOW THAT MOST GIRLS WILL LIKE YOU THATS WHY THEY FORM BEAT WITH YOU & ARE INTIMIDATED , KNOW THAT IT IS AN ANIMAL INSTINCT THING0 ~ it is all about competition for opp sex.

(3)IT IS A WAY TO BRING YOU DOWN THATS WHY PEOPLE ASK, IS HE INTE.LLIGENT, HAVE MONEY, OR PERSONALITY,. WHAT ABOUT AVERAGE TO UGLY GUYS WHO ARE NOT INTELLIGENT OR POOR OR DON'T HAVE CHARACTER, DO THEY QUEST0ON THEM.


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(4) UNFORTUNATELY, HANDSOME FOCUS ON THEIR APPEARANCE & FAIL TO DEVELOP OTHER ASPECT BUT IT IS WORSENED BY OSTRACISING TREATMENT PPLE METE OUT TO THEM


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[/color][color=#990000]@Jackanda1, YOU JUST DESCRIBED 31 STRUGGLE OF MY LIFE, SPOT ON.
ONLY TRULY HANDSOME GUYS CAN RELATE TO THESE .
EVEN GUYS WITH CARS & MONEY STILL FEEL THE NEED TO SHOW OFF AND COMPETE ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO WOMEN.

MESSAGE TO ALL FELLOW HANDSOME GUYS

(1) 80% OF GIRLS AROUND WILL LIKE YOU BUT ONLY 45%(UGLY GIRLS) WILL OBVIOUSLY SHOW IT TO YOU, OTHERS ESP AVERAGE TO FINE GIRLS CONCEAL IT BUT ADMIRE YOU0 IN SECRET

(2)FELLOWS GUYS KNOW THAT MOST GIRLS WILL LIKE YOU THATS WHY THEY FORM BEAT WITH YOU & ARE INTIMIDATED , KNOW THAT IT IS AN ANIMAL INSTINCT THING0 ~ it is all about competition for opp sex.

(3)IT IS A WAY TO BRING YOU DOWN THATS WHY PEOPLE ASK, IS HE INTE.LLIGENT, HAVE MONEY, OR PERSONALITY,. WHAT ABOUT AVERAGE TO UGLY GUYS WHO ARE NOT INTELLIGENT OR POOR OR DON'T HAVE CHARACTER, DO THEY QUEST0ON THEM.


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(4) UNFORTUNATELY, HANDSOME FOCUS ON THEIR APPEARANCE & FAIL TO DEVELOP OTHER ASPECT BUT IT IS WORSENED BY OSTRACISING TREATMENT PPLE METE OUT TO THEM


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jaxxy:


Hahaha yeah. So who is above average to u?

Ion really have preferences buh pple like big sean, B.O.B,Zayn malik,some Indian/korean actors that saga guy from bbn lol. I think they're good looking

[color=#990000][/color]@Jackanda1, YOU JUST DESCRIBED 31 STRUGGLE OF MY LIFE, SPOT ON.
ONLY TRULY HANDSOME GUYS CAN RELATE TO THESE .
EVEN GUYS WITH CARS & MONEY STILL FEEL THE NEED TO SHOW OFF AND COMPETE ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO WOMEN.

MESSAGE TO ALL FELLOW HANDSOME GUYS

(1) 80% OF GIRLS AROUND WILL LIKE YOU BUT ONLY 45%(UGLY GIRLS) WILL OBVIOUSLY SHOW IT TO YOU, OTHERS ESP AVERAGE TO FINE GIRLS CONCEAL IT BUT ADMIRE YOU0 IN SECRET

(2)FELLOWS GUYS KNOW THAT MOST GIRLS WILL LIKE YOU THATS WHY THEY FORM BEAT WITH YOU & ARE INTIMIDATED , KNOW THAT IT IS AN ANIMAL INSTINCT THING0 ~ it is all about competition for opp sex.

(3)IT IS A WAY TO BRING YOU DOWN THATS WHY PEOPLE ASK, IS HE INTE.LLIGENT, HAVE MONEY, OR PERSONALITY,. WHAT ABOUT AVERAGE TO UGLY GUYS WHO ARE NOT INTELLIGENT OR POOR OR DON'T HAVE CHARACTER, DO THEY QUEST0ON THE

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(4) UNFORTUNATELY, HANDSOME FOCUS ON THEIR APPEARANCE & FAIL TO DEVELOP OTHER ASPECT BUT IT IS WORSENED BY OSTRACISING TREATMENT PPLE METE OUT TO THEM


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The 31 things you wrote, many of them can be boxed up into one and some of them are even contradictory.

You say people thing you're dump, then you turn around and say people expect you to be smart.

Being a sharp looking dude I can relate to some of these, but no one things I'm dump never!, Just when u get to occasion spot light is on you and people tend to believe you're the leader of the pack

Except for the second pics, none of those people including the last woman is fine , they just make up and grooming.

Thatssobeyonce:

I disagree with ur last statement, run how and why? Laslas dem go marry

Lol.. just use 2face as a point in case....then u will grab my meaning..

Is having beard synonymous to looking good, since all the pictures posted up there have beards?

Jackanda1:
goodlooking people never admit that they are, they never brag about getting favours because of looks.

Most people who brag about been goodlooking are actually average

Thats a fact�

I will set up a union where my co-members will discuss a way forward. Na crime to be fine boy

Bro, the thing don tire me, you will just be hearing faworaja (using good look to cheat). Nobody takes you serious, many girls will tell you they can date you, because they can't die of hypertension. Everybody is always on defensive mode towards you. Being good looking naa problem at times.

Thatssobeyonce:


Ion really have preferences buh pple like big sean, B.O.B,Zayn malik,some Indian/korean actors that saga guy from bbn lol. I think they're good looking

That’s a kinda fair list except for saga. He only has a nice body. Lol

Nnamekus1:

And you concluded you were removed because you're good looking?

No, I wasn't removed because I was good looking, I didn't say that. One of the points Op made was some people tends to put them down. So I just felt some group of people just hated for no reason. Maybe that's why. I mean before that episode I can't make small joke they always get defensive. After telling them I'm just joking like everyone else. Maybe that's not the reason sha

thanksjosh005:
Are these educated guesses or psychological facts?

no mind them, those things he listed there are for successful /rich/wealthy people fine or no fine.

Klass99:


Lol I feel you.

The points listed in your original post are accurate and grounded in reality too. Nice topic, I enjoyed reading it.

How is your cousin now? I hope he is over the anxiety and depression?

he's good now

Thatssobeyonce:

U wrong actually, good looking often suffer from low self esteem. Stare at them and they'll start feeling nervous

l know what am saying, even the ones with the so called self esteem still have that hidden pride, they dont know how to handle the attention and most a times feel as if they are doing u a favor by relating with you.
if you are good looking and down to earth, l mean your actions and inactions potrays humility u will make a lot of friends

Ofadaman:
The 31 things you wrote, many of them can be boxed up into one and some of them are even contradictory.

You say people thing you're dump, then you turn around and say people expect you to be smart.

people have either negative or positive sterotypes about beautiful people.

I disagree with op by 90%, nobody hate you or get jealous of you because you are good looking, if it happens check your character, most of self acclaim good looking guys i know are arrogant and proud koboless men/women, check yourself if you feel they are hating you.

victooman:
l know what am saying, even the ones with the so called self esteem still have that hidden pride, they dont know how to handle the attention and most a times feel as if they are doing u a favor by relating with you.
if you are good looking and down to earth, l mean your actions and inactions potrays humility u will make a lot of friends

Hidden pride? you mean like forgeting to greet people, saying no to requests, being quiet, minding your business?

marsman:

Lol
I can bet it with you that you are wrong have you experimented it.
A pretty face besides a normal face both bidding for a position of leadership. Cause i have seen it before and although the guy was fine and eloquent that day, he didn't really even say much in his manifesto while the other claimed to have experience from the moom to earth. The fine guy won with a huge margin.
Goodlooking people will be able to relate to what i am saying

I've gotten jobs before because of my looks.

Our boss would call me 'Handsome and Brainsome'... Lol


I got another job after i left the first one because the oyibo man said 'i have the face that fits the organisation'...

Eventhough they position I applied for was not what they were looking for, they created another office for me.

b5ive:
Thats a fact�

Yah. A fine boy braging about his looks will only make people hate him the more.

Really

Fyie:
Aswerrr...To be fine boy plus introvert na big time curse.

U be fine boy gals go dey feel insecure around u...na to just knack go abeg.

U be fine boy na so u go dey draw unnecessary attention and hate.

U be fine boy...yo boss, neighbors, people go dey put eyes on u anytime u dey talk to any gal, thinking something dey go on between Una..

I no dey even follow pesin wife laugh or talk for long ..I dey cut my lane before dey carry plank wipe me.

Imagine say u be fine boy u no come get money...chai see finish

you're very correct here... Though I don't talk talk to ladies I meet on street, but the day I tried it. My brother come and see as eyes dey bore hole for my body

there is truth in this write up. but people varies, what applies to one good looking person might not apply to another. another thing is, how do u really know if someone is good looking. a person you consider good looking to you, might not be good looking to another person, he might see it as average looking person, it all depends on each individual preferences. and another thing is, some good looking persons are actually arrogant and proud truely, especially some fine ladies. not all though, but some.

Highbeepeeh:
you're very correct here... Though I don't talk talk to ladies I meet on street, but the day I tried it. My brother come and see as eyes dey bore hole for my body

People should stop judging us quick, we are like every other human.
I'm suffering this as an introvert..

You can't make mistakes in people's eyes.
Fine boy this...fine boy that... Fine boy no get money.
They should just allow us to be broke and dumb too like every other human.

When you stay your lane they say is pride.
When You mingle they want to take advantage of you.

Imagine any girl I ask out keep telling me NO because she thinks I have many girls around me.
Abegi Fine boy na curse!

Jackanda1:
Hidden pride? you mean like forgeting to greet people, saying no to requests, being quiet, minding your business?

No ,pls am not bad looking either before u tag me jealous. While in campus two beautiful girls live in our compound , one is Eucharia and the other is faith,both are introverts rarely talk, But when u communicate and relate with faith u feel at home, most guys approach them and try to relate with them as the only ladies in the lodge ,the manner faith will relate and turn u down u wont even feel any bad, besides she is not obsessed with her beauty, Eucharia on the other hand have not insult anyone directly but through her inactions you sense it.
It is as if u are expected to give her special treatment because she is pretty,, she dont make any effort to relate with anyone in the compound untill u do. you should know that ur instinct will never lie when u are dealing with a proud person.
Back then during my service year,a guy called Abubakar literally sweep all the girls away with his good looks, corpers ,students, t.p students everyone wants to date Sadiq as we call him, but l can bet u he was greatly love even among the guys,and the staffs, he is humble and down to earth and people sense that, u cant fake it.
The truth is that good looks are blessings but most people who have it dont handle it well and are proud, and yes there are also ugly people that are very proud.