NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

Your sister will never forgive you for this.She'll also believe that her husband had been cheating on her with you all along and no pastor could convince her other wise.

Have you gone mad to even consider that.

NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

FERNANDEZISBACK:

Does that give you any right to conclude when you literally understand nothing baby boy..?
Married for 10 years but acting like a little boy..

shut up and get out

NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

Probably fake story but if true, u no get sense. In fact u silly to even think of such.

Some important details were left out in this story of yours like telling us if the younger sister is already getting intimate with the elder sister's husband to even want to consider his proposal

Of course... matured minds, free spirits. Do whatever you want and danm anyone who tries to speak sense and truth. Why even bring the matter here and ask for advice?

FERNANDEZISBACK:

If I humiliate your head now you will start crying on the mods..did you not read where she said matured minds..?

Looks like you ain't ok huh? respect yourself and stop concluding in a brainless manner..

If you accept his proposal, do you think he will treat you different from your sister as time goes on?
Also:
Becareful with the path you're treading, it's not going to be smooth, every action has consequences.
Secondly, don't do things out of Desperation, it always end in Premium Tears!

Where can we meet so that I can buy you a drink? Maybe stone cold ice cream? Oil dey your head.

emmeyen:
Why will he not be adamant to reconcile with his wife when you have been opening the door of your house for him? Accept it and lose your sanity and sister's love. Women should stop being other women's enemy. That man must indeed be shameless trying to come in between two sisters. Are you not supposed to be on your sister's side in times like this? You see him as a brother and your sister is what? An enemy? Why do women find it comfortable to date their friend's or relatives' boyfriend and husband? What if the divorce doesn't come through or they get back together and by then mr "brother" has already gotten to your pants. How do you then face your family and your sister? You will now become sworn enemies right? Sister, men never finish for market. Send the buffalo home abeg.

NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

NovesaTillie .

Give your life to Christ.

The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom.

If you are a Christian you wouldn't be asking :
"Should I accept his proposal? "

Repent now before it's late for you.

If you are a true child of God , you would be binding every principality and power that they as a couple /their marriage is wrestling against not to be here asking such abominable question.

Don't let the wrath of The Most High God come upon you.

Note: whoever reads this; never do this kind of thing to someone's marriage , never scatter a marriage.

And those of you giving her bad advice , you better repent , ...if she carries your bad advice out , you could share in the punishment , if there is any punishment.

And those of you that come on nairaland posting; sinful things, posts leading others to sin , posts that are abomination/sin to The Lord God , questions you are to ask God only (God is a jealous God) ; you come here and be seeking advice from people , among which will mislead you, posting posts inline with thanking people (when you haven't thanked God first)/giving glory to people, thing, social media platform ::: you better repent. Repent and give your life to Christ, turn from your evil ways and give your life to Christ.

Important Note :whoever is reading this ; make sure you have surrendered your life to Jesus and you are His true child. (A true child of God , will never ever come on nairaland to post such post; but will instead go to God and submit the case to Him alone and pray for them)

That's even assuming what the OP told us here is the whole truth. It's possible she played a part in the stress of that marriage. She might even be sleeping with him already or even before the marriage broke down.

infogenius:


Let me give u little girl an insight.
The elder sister is separated from a 5yr marriage for two months. The families are trying to reconcile and a 30 old younger sister of is confused about accepting the proposal of her elder sister's husband who has been visiting her.

The proposal came because she led him on . I believe if she was sensible she should have been able to use the elder sister's husband visits to reunite them but reverse is the case as she is confused about accepting his proposal.

Anyway, u are and the op are just girls age is just a number.

Nice meeting you though

ibinaboonline:
Of course... matured minds, free spirits. Do whatever you want and danm anyone who tries to speak sense and truth. Why even bring the matter here and ask for advice?

I understand you..

Made619:
shut up and get out

Ok?

sugarbeesmith:
you think wisdom is by age? See the nonsense you supporting .how on Earth should she accept such a useless proposal ..big betrayal to the family

Did I say she should?

This is serious and not advisable. Look for your rib sister.

Jesubaby:

It's not every issues you advise someone politely. You use insult to advise some issues, like this particular issue. Na insult fit her 4 dis matter

Really with insults?
That's quite wrong..you don't advice people with insults aiit no matter what..

Simillar senerio has once happened among my sisters, one of my sisters was dating a man who happened to be a police recuite them not yet certified officer.....according to the man that my said sister is after material things always demanding for money" when the guy couldn't cope anymore he adjusted himself himself from the relationship....then like about two years later my eldest sister travel to that same land. And he met with my eldest sister,today now dey are happily married,the point am trying to make here is what tribe doesn't work for john may work out for Johnson....Thank u.

NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

My advice is that you're mad .

xperiencelove:
Abort that mission.

Okay. Thank you

FERNANDEZISBACK:

I don't have no problem with the point you was trying to make in the first place..
Where you spoke wrongly was telling her she ain't sensible at 30 and she is obviously responsible for her sister's marriage failure..
Is that the right thing to say? :-

Someone came here for an advice but you boys will insult and conclude directly..what happened to acting like a man huh?

Listen keep quiet , some advice deserve some insults in order to reset some people's brain. So if the marriage is still going well won't she be able to find another man to marry ? she only put her age for people to pity her age .

She should let her sister's husband alone , according to her the marriage is not ended yet .

brightalo1010:


My advice is that you're mad .

You are also mad.

blessStar:


NovesaTillie .

Give your life to Christ.

The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom.

If you are a Christian you wouldn't be asking :
"Should I accept his proposal? "

Repent now before it's late for you.

If you are a true child of God , you would be binding every principality and power that they as a couple /their marriage is wrestling against not to be here asking such abominable question.

Don't let the wrath of The Most High God come upon you.

Note: whoever reads this; never do this kind of thing to someone's marriage , never scatter a marriage.

And those of you giving her bad advice , you better repent , ...if she carries your bad advice out , you could share in the punishment , if there is any punishment.

And those of you that come on nairaland posting; sinful things, posts leading others to sin , posts that are abomination/sin to The Lord God , questions you are to ask God only (God is a jealous God) ; you come here and be seeking advice from people , among which will mislead you, posting posts inline with thanking people (when you haven't thanked God first)/giving glory to people, thing, social media platform ::: you better repent. Repent and give your life to Christ, turn from your evil ways and give your life to Christ.

Important Note :whoever is reading this ; make sure you have surrendered your life to Jesus and you are His true child. (A true child of God , will never ever come on nairaland to post such post; but will instead go to God and submit the case to Him alone and pray for them)

Okay. Thank you

brightalo1010:


You are very right and I do not know why everyone keeps reacting that way.. .

Thanks

Funkymode:
Never you accept such a proposal, even though he's good, your sister is at fault, still doesn't warrant you to accept such proposal, there are other guys out there, dying to have you but maybe your attitude or your sister's husband has money and you feel he's the one that can take care of your needs, you're either a material lady or not a shame type, is your family struggling to feed? Or he pays your family bills, that you now feel, you should go with him despite you knowing he's your sister husband, you must have been having an affair with him, if not, he would not have that mind to say such to you. In fact you're a wayward person, you can't be trusted been with another woman husband

Hmmm. I am not getting any younger

No wahala continue!!!!

Shameless woman, at 30 your brain is still doll , hahhah

NovesaTillie:


You are also mad.

shameless sister's husband snatcher . No wonder other men are running away from you . you're cursed yeye woman with zero shame .

Don't accept his proposal even if he has divorce with ur senior sister, because it looks very abominable.

NovesaTillie:

Okay. Thank you

Nollywood and fake stories.

But if it's true then obviously u played a role in ruining your sisters marriage so that u can have the man.

What goes around comes around.

If you truely love your sister, I don't expect you to accept such proposal, if the story that happened to your sister happens again to you. If you can't help the matter don't add to it.....

@OP, which tribe are you from? Because in my own tribe, it is a taboo for one to contemplate marrying her sister's husband and vice versa. So, the issue of considering it as you are doing now should not even come at all, because the elders in your family/kindred will not even allow you to voice it out.

NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

Are you a FOOL?
Betrayal is worst than murder, who did you even conceive it in ur heart to even play towards that extent, ur sister is still alive and ur thinking of dating or marrying his husband.
Kaii who did this to us?
Our churches has failed us.