FERNANDEZISBACK:

Keep the story to yourself..next time learn to address an issue maturely not spewing nonsense..or did you not read what you said..

Why say she's responsible for her sister's marriage failure?you spoke in a very immature way and you are here talking about me being immature..
Pls she needs mature advice not your kind who are too quick to conclude negatively..

And you think your own advice is matured? A matured mind will never entertain her Sister’s husband’s amorous friendship not to talk of marriage proposal.

The heart of a man is desperately wicked, who can know it?

NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

U will be 30 so, what are u waiting for? Accept him joor! Don't pretend u don't have feelings for him.

Why

Ashawo ....

I dont think it is the right thing to do,how do you want your sis to look at things from this point? Please dont accept that proposal to me it looks somehow

Imagine oo... siblings
You all that supported this hoe, will face same fate.

Just november? Less than 2 months chaiiii..am sure u guys hv been fucking already

Still a no go area. The guy is wicked. And who says they will not reconcile? They just separated in Nov, two months ago. The husband will just use thevOP to count scores and later reconcile with his wife. OP needs to avoid the guy.

PoliteActivist:


What if her sister says he's a very good man and it was
all her fault they broke up??

Mariangeles:


Mu.nzy14, gbara oso bia oooo!
Bia lee ihe chaga nga!

I kwukwere ya ekwu eshi ahu o!
Chinekenna!

So eshi ahu ngwara gi ya, i chere na o wu just mere talk okwaya? Smh

M like haa la mmadu, I don't hide the truth at all..

Umunne nwaanyi abuo, nwere level of envy na anoro between them, ma ya fodu kwa ndi wu just friends.

OP and the In-law are in for it...Anyways happiness is key thing..They might be the right partners for each other.

Nwa m datiri last si na ya achohu onye Catholic, I ma ihe umu nne ya ndi Nwaanyi o toro gwara ya? Na ya chee kwa eche ofuma...That it isn't a big issue ma ya fokwa nke i wu deal breaker...Reason am na..

I feel the sis is not showing value to the man, And you know there is always that sister that will be calm and coordinated marakwa ihe ochoga...

The man is good, if he isn't OP Won't look his way twice not to even develope feelings for him...Biakwa choro ilu ya sef...She has capitalize on her sister's flaws to improve and become the best woman for the man....These things happen naturally everyday...

Umu nwoke achohu kwa nwaanyi na awa ha ishi ugbu a...As long as he has something doing...Better and nice ladies will admire and hook up...

Nwoke ole lugakwanu nwaanyi ugbu a...Even with the comfortable earnings.

FERNANDEZISBACK:

I don't have no problem with the point you was trying to make in the first place..
Where you spoke wrongly was telling her she ain't sensible at 30 and she is obviously responsible for her sister's marriage failure..
Is that the right thing to say? :-

Someone came here for an advice but you boys will insult and conclude directly..what happened to acting like a man huh?

Yes, he said the right thing, a sensible lady, wouldn't even think of having anything to do with her brother-in-law whether divorced or not, a sensible person should differentiate between right and wrong, so infogenius is right, OP is a dunderhead, the stup!d Geh is already catching feelings for her sister's husband, she doesn't even need anyone's advice on this, why do I feel, she's the reason for the separation;
And as for you, I hope same thing happens to you, then you'll applaud your sis for doing the right thing.
Women supporting women my flat A$$!
Op you're very maaaaaaaaadddddddddd! At this age, you still never get sense, laslas na baby mama go be ur end, olosho ten Kobo, ashigbe aburo.
Op is even same age with me, werey no go find ur own husby, olojukokoro omo ale jati jati!

FERNANDEZISBACK:

Really with insults?
That's quite wrong..you don't advice people with insults aiit no matter what..

Of course....If she discuss this issue with responsible parents, their first reaction will be "are u ok" "are u out of ur mind" and so on. They will never advise her politely, i bet u. I quote, "responsible parents".

NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

You didn't add that you have been sleeping with him also. Women!

NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

If you love him, you are very sure you love him and you both understand each other and you are very compatible, please go ahead...


Every man willing to marry has his own wife on earth...You might be his own woman...I bet he is good..If not you won't look his way twice...And you are surely a better version of your sister for him to even nurse a feeling to make you his better half...Go on.

It is about you two...With time everyone around you will adjust...Life is short to make excuses for a matured person.

NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.
Shut the Bleep up!
You're the reason for their break-up, you've been sleeping with him long before now, may you never enjoy that marriage, if you end up with him, shamele$$ thing, no wonder your kitten is as wide as third mainland bridge.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

STFU!
You've been sleeping with him long before now, and ur shamele$$ self is the reason for their separation, olojukokoro omo Irankiran, may you never find peace in his home, go and look for your own husband gbokogboko oshi.
No wonder ur toto wide pass third mainland bridge, elese toothpick oshi.

Munzy14:

If you love him, you are very sure you love him and you both understand each other and you are very compatible, please go ahead...


Every man willing to marry has his own wife on earth...You might be his own woman...I bet he is good..If not you won't look his way twice...And you are surely a better version of your sister for him to even nurse a feeling to make you his better half...Go on.

It is about you two...With time everyone around you will adjust...Life is short to make excuses for a matured person.

I hope you say the same, if your wife decides to leave you for your brother, abi you are the man OP is talking about.
You ND the Op no just get shame, Oro rirun.

NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

for u to even consider him and bring matter here means u are sick and need doctor to check ur brain. Ur own sister even if she's ur friend it's still very wrong . U said u don't want insult... Lol, u brought it upon urself. U are a traitor for even allowing that man in to ur house in the first place.

infogenius:


U're not ok at all very immaturely brainless.
There are some things that should not be considered at all. His sister got separated from her husband two months ago and she is asking if she can accept his proposal two months after. Is this right?

I notice u just barge in and post in threads that's ok but post or respond when u really have something sensible to say.
I am also very sure u not even close to getting married which makes it so unwise for u to even comment on the thread.

FYI, I am over 10yrs in marriage and I can tell u it is getting better. I don't need to tell you that my mind is very mature.

Try and make a relationship work instead of badging and commenting on threads that have to do with people that want to settle down or in marriage.

Person wey no know anything wey dey do I too know. Rubbish

Kindly stop quoting dat slowpoke, it's a waste of time. Both she ND the Op no just get sense,oloshos in disguise.

But you are not stupid. Are you?

DabuIIIT:


And what happens to the divorced sister now on the side?
And when the man gets fed up again and gets his eyes in a third sister,he again call it quits and ask for another divorce until he fks every woman in the family, ain't that perfect?!

have told you the guideline for such circumstance in Islam. The divorced sister can equally remarry. The only thing that can stop it is if the parent of the girl does not give the husband permission to marry the younger sister. And to give you a better insight if he divorce the elder sister and change his mind to re-marry her. She has to marry another man then get divorced from him before he can marry the elder sister again.

Don't even think about it and you shouldn't even be asking this question. Simply disassociate yourself from that senseless guy immediately.

By this post, you are telling me you are matured in age but not matured at all in thought. How on earth will you allow one man to sex both you and your sister because you are getting up to 30 years and is not married yet. I won't be surprise that he may have slept with you by now.
So instead of pitying your sister and comforting her, you want to break her heart the more. Nawa for you.

You should have slapped the hell out of that man the day he said it, but for you not to do that, am very hungry of slapping you now.

Mariangeles:

Munzy14, gbara oso bia oooo! Bia lee ihe chaga nga!
I kwukwere ya ekwu eshi ahu o! Chinekenna!

nwanyi owerri nka bu aru

sọ́rọ̀ niyen? You and you sister's husband have no shame. At 30, do you think you are too old to get a good single man.
Continue, you will reap what you sow.

ugom123:
If you both are sure of what u have as true, why not? Go ahead and accept. Forget about what the world will say and focus on what makes you happy. Ur sis is free to marry anyone including his brother if she wants to.

This life eh, it is only what makes me happy that I do as long as I'm not killing anyone.
what if the man couldn't cope with ur sis. I know my guy who has been so good to his wife but the wife has refused to be good in bed. He has tried eveything to teach her but she has refused to learn.
This my guy na correct guy wey Don over try for this his wife even when they were dating.

See eh, marriage matter, is somehow. If the man finds love else where now from a lady who meets his desire, some humans will begin to judge him.
sis, if u love the man too and he loves u too, go ahead and accept and enjoy.

my friend get out of here. You are not making sense

ShyBabe:

I hope you say the same, if your wife decides to leave you for your brother, abi you are the man OP is talking about.
You ND the Op no just get shame, Oro rirun.

If my wife leaves, she isn't my wife. As simple as that.

Your partner will never leave.

You people don't like to hear the truth or face reality atimes...

Wait for OP's pre-wedding pics....Overtaking is allowed..

Any sister wey dey feel too special, na another nice sister go double cross am.

Are you so desperate? Will you accept the proposal of any man that approaches you just because you are thirty years? You will find your own guy, that man is just a deceiver, don't allow him destroy the relationship you have with your sister. He is not a responsible man, a responsible man will not behaviour so mannerless. He will end up hurting you if you marry him.

infogenius:


U're not ok at all very immaturely brainless.
There are some things that should not be considered at all. His sister got separated from her husband two months ago and she is asking if she can accept his proposal two months after. Is this right?

I notice u just barge in and post in threads that's ok but post or respond when u really have something sensible to say.
I am also very sure u not even close to getting married which makes it so unwise for u to even comment on the thread.

FYI, I am over 10yrs in marriage and I can tell u it is getting better. I don't need to tell you that my mind is very mature.

Try and make a relationship work instead of badging and commenting on threads that have to do with people that want to settle down or in marriage.

Person wey no know anything wey dey do I too know. Rubbish

Don't the guy jor, he's bereaved of sense. He has registered his folly in the minds of a large number of Nairalanders.

infogenius:


The little boy made a relationship work and making his marriage better.
Which one big girl u don make work?

Iknow very well that all the trash u spill here has not helped u to get a steady relationship.

Work on a relationship, get married then possibly ur sense will make sense but until then keep gallivanting here and talking like a kid that can't reason.

Go through all his comments on this forum and you'll the type of person you're wasting your time on. I made the mistake of engaging the ediot days ago cos I didn't know who he his.

iguita:
Still a no go area. The guy is wicked. And who says they will not reconcile? They just separated in Nov, two months ago. The husband will just use thevOP to count scores and later reconcile with his wife. OP needs to avoid the guy.

Well, we don't know the relationship of the two sisters. Suppose they are mortal enemies. The question then becomes : will you marry your mortal enemy's ex?
Also remember the saying: "All's fair in love and war"

infogenius:


U're 30 and surprisingly with lack of sense. Accept his proposal at ur own risk. It's obvious u're the most likely reason y his marriage to ur sister failed.
Better look for ur own husband and leave ur sister's husband alone.

you have said it all,if the op accepts to marry the man then there will never be peace in that family again in their lifetime, encourage him to reconcile with his wife and promise to be a loyal side wife,he will listen to you,but all indications is pointing to the fact that your mind had already accepted the man with his assets and liabilities.

NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

Don't ever in your life try that. In fact, if anything happen to your sister you will be the first suspect.