Dear all, permit me to use this medium to seek for mature and experienced advise...

When a wife out of her own wish without any current justifiable reason seperates from her husband for almost two months and has now decided to return back with the kid out of her own wish without any pressure, should the man accept her back?

Also should there be conditions attached before the man can accept her back? Mature and experienced input is highly appreciated.

Thanks all.

Her return might be for permanent solution

If you know what that means

We should wait for the elders, but for me ooo,is no no!

Depending on the cause of the separation.
The man or woman may be at fault

If am at fault i will accept her back, but if am not at fault nah make go back & come with the elders.

She might be coming for revenge....to finish the job....Trust no one

Coming back either out of remorse or she noticed she is pregnant.

Babsojimjim:
Dear all, permit me to use this medium to seek for mature and experienced advise...When a wife out of her own wish without any current justifiable reason seperates from her husband for almost two months and has now decided to return back with the kid out of her own wish without any pressure,
1. should the man accept her back?
2. Also should there be conditions attached before the man can accept her back? Mature and experienced input is highly appreciated. Thanks all.

1. Depends on the circumstances under which the separation took place, and the other partner left behind. .

2. Again, depends on the condition of the marriage and the heart of those in it.

Babsojimjim:
Dear all, permit me to use this medium to seek for mature and experienced advise...When a wife out of her own wish without any current justifiable reason seperates from her husband for almost two months and has now decided to return back with the kid out of her own wish without any pressure, should the man accept her back? Also should there be conditions attached before the man can accept her back? Mature and experienced input is highly appreciated. Thanks all.

My question is that, why did she leave? To whom did she go to? Why is she back?

Op pls be very careful of that woman.
Them fit don lace her with thunderbolt,to kill you first,then she will go back to the new lover.

You can hope for the best but trust me she would do it again. Her mind is messed up and only ur wife knows why she left in the first place.

Babsojimjim:
Dear all, permit me to use this medium to seek for mature and experienced advise...When a wife out of her own wish without any current justifiable reason seperates from her husband for almost two months and has now decided to return back with the kid out of her own wish without any pressure, should the man accept her back? Also should there be conditions attached before the man can accept her back? Mature and experienced input is highly appreciated. Thanks all.

OP this was my advice on this issue when she left: https://www.nairaland.com/6926203/invited-parents-dialogue#109145689

It may be time to have that conversation about why she left and why she's back. There are so many different reasons why she may have come back, for instance, she has tasted the other side without her husband and seen that she still needed him, she has recharged herself from the mental exhaustion and ready to continue her marital life, she got disappointed from what she was looking for out there, she was persuaded by parents or friends to give him another chance, she was afraid that he was moving on without her and she came back to make sure there was nobody else etc. There are so many reasons. You need to find out, but thread cautiously, as a man and her husband, I believe you know her better and know the right time and ways to have a conversation to get your answers and move on from there

Righteousness2:
As long as she is the Orginal wife of the man, and he is her Orginal husband, he should accept her.

Your suggestion is so naive. Please elaborate why a woman who left on her own volition should stroll back and be accepted back by her husband just like that. I doubt if you are married.

Let's hear from the elders.

Just two months! Madam came back after two month and said: "Oga come make we Bleep" Now she has gone for one year, I have changed all the locks! Saw her last night in Lekki, thank God I did not run her over with my car!

Babsojimjim:
Dear all, permit me to use this medium to seek for mature and experienced advise...When a wife out of her own wish without any current justifiable reason seperates from her husband for almost two months and has now decided to return back with the kid out of her own wish without any pressure, should the man accept her back? Also should there be conditions attached before the man can accept her back? Mature and experienced input is highly appreciated. Thanks all.

Your LIFE SPAN will most likely be reduced...
I just hope it won't go down that way.
Most Single Fathers are far better without women around them & kids raised by single Fathers have shown not to Constitute nuisance significantly as against those raised by single mothers who harbor so much hatred.

Again, Kids raised in troubled homes are more likely to experience same & suffer damnation when they become independent compared to kids whose parents parted ways early enough while they were still very young.
.......Check out Research Articles by University of Southern California, Purdue university.
In Summary;
IF you can live & survive without her contributions for 2months, I don't see reason why you can't live without her forever.
Always strive to make your ABSENCE be felt by people and not your presence.

bummyla:
Just two months! Madam came back after two month and said: "Oga come make we Bleep" Now she has gone for one year, I have changed all the locks! Saw her last night in Lekki, thank God I did not run her over with my car!

Hey God!

For real

The man should only accept her back if she had been in her parents house, other than that, there should be lots of questions that need answers, to know the next step to take.

Mariangeles:
The man should only accept her back if she had been in her parents house, other than that, there should be lots of questions that need answers, to know the next step to take.

This is your answer. Your obvious lack of self esteem is too glaring to her. Reason she has taken you for a ride!

She must vibe with elders from her father's side before I go accept her, you can't just nice out if my house for no reason, and you stroll back in like a prodigal wife and expect me to accept you


You will give explanation of what happened in front of the elders you brought

Mariangeles:
The man should only accept her back if she had been in her parents house, other than that, there should be lots of questions that need answers, to know the next step to take.

And this because those who are housed in a parent's home can never be up to no good?

Babsojimjim:
Dear all, permit me to use this medium to seek for mature and experienced advise...When a wife out of her own wish without any current justifiable reason seperates from her husband for almost two months and has now decided to return back with the kid out of her own wish without any pressure, should the man accept her back? Also should there be conditions attached before the man can accept her back? Mature and experienced input is highly appreciated. Thanks all.

Separation is necessary some times, when there are unreconcilable differences. After separation, the man and woman will think things through and come up with better ways to handle the reoccurring issue.
Which will lead to a more peaceful marriage.

She has learned lesson now. Just give her a chance.

Mariangeles:
The man should only accept her back if she had been in her parents house, other than that, there should be lots of questions that need answers, to know the next step to take.

Even in her parents house, a lot must have changed..

For me I won't.. I mean if she has that mind to leave me in solitary, then there is no love initially.

I always say this, nothing can make who is yours leave you...never ever.

Even in your worst, he or she will be a mental and spiritual spport.

Babsojimjim:
Dear all, permit me to use this medium to seek for mature and experienced advise...When a wife out of her own wish without any current justifiable reason seperates from her husband for almost two months and has now decided to return back with the kid out of her own wish without any pressure, should the man accept her back? Also should there be conditions attached before the man can accept her back? Mature and experienced input is highly appreciated. Thanks all.

If it were me I will start my own shakara...men offer a lot of thankless service many familes dont appreciate.

Let her continue to stay with whoever has been hosting her. She probably believes you wont do well without her...youve survived the 2 months, let her know you can go further.

shortIGBOman:


Separation is necessary some times, when there are unreconcilable differences. After separation, the man and woman will think things through and come up with better ways to handle the reoccurring issue.
Which will lead to a more peaceful marriage.

She has learned lesson now. Just give her a chance.

I disagree bro. We dont have both sides though, but from what I have read so far, whatever the issue was, is something both parties coukd have worked out but only 1 was looking for a solution.

The lady used the nuclear option -abandoned the man for 2 month and took their only child. She can repeat it again tomorrow. I personally wont take her back in a hurry....may never take her back seff because clearly I cant depend on her

Kobojunkie:

And this because those who are housed in a parent's home can never be up to no good?

At least, her parents would’ve been able to give account of what she had been up to all that while, at least to some extent.
A person who’s up to no good will hardly go back their parents house. Unless the parents are irresponsible people sha.

Munzy14:

Even in her parents house, a lot must have changed..

For me I won't.. I mean if she has that mind to leave me in solitary, then there is no love initially.

I always say this, nothing can make who is yours leave you...never ever.

Even in your worst, he or she will be a mental and spiritual spport.

Well, it also depends on why she left and how long they’ve been married. Right?
I mean, if they are a young couple, then that could be expected of an immature wife.

If she left to her parents house, any responsible parents would either send her back, or send for her husband to hear from both side what happened.
And in this case, neither happened, so hmmm.

Mariangeles:
At least, her parents would’ve been able to give account of what she had been up to all that while, to some extent.
A person who’s up to no good will hardly go back their parents house. Unless the parents are irresponsible sha.

Really? You have never heard of parents encouraging their separated children to find themselves other lays during a separation?

Kobojunkie:
Really? You have never heard of parents encouraging their separated children to find themselves other lays during a separation?

Then those are the irresponsible parents I was talking about. Not common though.
Op should know the kind of family he married into and what they’re capable of.

Mariangeles:
Then those are the irresponsible parents I was talking about. Not common though.
Op should know the kind of family he married into and what they’re capable of.

Please tell me you are kidding abeg!