walkingshadow911:



do yo think you can have an intelligent conversation with a creature made with just 1 rib from you with 9. you will only be wasting your time bro. reasons can't be far fetched.

Damn!!!!

Increase the volume comrade!!!

Dating smelly Nigerian boys should be a full time job naw. They have to get returns one way or the other for the virtue, if present, going out of them. I don't blame them.

GooodHardDick:


This is exactly how a typical Nigerian girl talks. It shows you have low self esteem and of course, your write up is a complete fallacy! Normally, the Binis and Esans are extremely proud and arrogant people

But I have told you before, stop disgracing unibenites and Edoites online, most people here stays around BDPA, 19 street, Uselu, New Benin, ring road, uwasota etc and no one here really cares!

You were never invited into whatever I was saying

Cos it's now okay to get tackled??

I have every rights as you are to say whatever I want to say here
I don't care if you call it pride

And yes I'm proud of what I am

and I don't give a f*ck about that too!!

SandraIkuboR:
I won't reply you cos I never invited you into whatever I was saying here

cos it's okay to get tackled??

I have every rights as you are to say whatever I want to say here
I don't care if you call it pride

Which tackled? He asked u a simple question, instead of answering the question, you decided to display your low self esteem.

At the bolded, no one said u don't have right to talk. If you must talk, talk with sense. Boys full everywhere Esp on those area I mentioned earlier, make dem no go reason ur matter

GooodHardDick:


Which tackled? He asked u a simple question, instead of answering the question, you decided to display your low self esteem.

At the bolded, no one said u don't have right to talk. If you must talk, talk with sense. Boys full everywhere for those area I mentioned, make dem no go reason ur matter

And I call yours INFERIORITY COMPLEX
Arguing with a Lady online sies....Smh

who wan reason my matter?.....Lmao...

And what business of yours is it though??

I'm so pissed off right now

keep talking to yourself!!!

GooodHardDick:
Dear women,

Dating is not employment. You should not be maintained by the guy you are dating. If you're broke, get a job, not a boyfriend. If you say "love is caring", why must it be your boyfriend that must care financially for you? If you really believe that, why can't you financially care for him too? Do you hate him? Stop this Jezebelic manipulations. It is called entitlement mentality!

Thank you bro. Nice one!

SandraIkuboR:
And I call yours INFERIORITY COMPLEX
Arguing with a Lady online sies....Smh

who wan reason my matter?.....Lmao

what business of yours is it though??

continue with your fatherly duties and not mind your business

I'm so pissed of

I'm out of here!!!

keep talking to yourself

This is why you're so stupid. You created a thread lamenting that ur bf was ugly after eating his money, what kind of entitlement mentality is this? Now you're bragging and lying about what your parents are not. Na so you mumu?

I thought you even have sense!!! I'm sure you're a teenager, what an idiot you are!

GooodHardDick:


This is why you're so stupid. You created a thread lamenting that ur bf was ugly after eating his money, what kind of entitlement mentality is this? Now you're bragging and lying about what your parents are not. Na so you mumu?

I thought you even have sense!!! I'm sure you're a teenager, what an idiot you are!

What's with all this Quotes and Insults though??

Are you drunk or what??

When did I post on my bf was Ugly,and all those crap you said up there??

Are you trying to get back at me with that or what??

I posted on missing my PERIOD
That was my first post go view it( i don't care if you view it)

You are the one with the teenage brain here and stupid one here too

SandraIkuboR:
Go f*ck yourself then

I'm sure what I receive monthly as allawe from my professor parents in Uniben is enough to feed you for life......Rubbish

LoL
I just had to run down your post since you said you're in the same school with me
You?? A medical student? Howwww??
Then the world is in trouble.
That being said

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dhiqson:




LoL
I just had to run down your post since you said you're in the same school with me
You?? A medical student? Howwww??
Then the world is in trouble.
That being said

.

And so what if I'm a medical student

GooodHardDick:


This is exactly how a typical Nigerian girl talks. It shows you have low self esteem and of course, your write up is a complete fallacy! Normally, the Binis and Esans are extremely proud and arrogant people

But I have told you before, stop disgracing unibenites and Edoites online, most people here stays around BDPA, 19 street, Uselu, New Benin, ring road, uwasota etc and no one here really cares!

Bro like wtf
I'm shocked
I'm tryna ask my guys who she is
Cause I've got most in mbbs dept
My best bet is maybe she just gained admission or I don't know
LoL check her pic
I say we're in trouble in this country

dhiqson:





Bro like wtf
I'm shocked
I'm tryna ask my guys who she is
Cause I've got most in mbbs dept
My best bet is maybe she just gained admission or I don't know
LoL check her pic
I say we're in trouble in this country

Ignore the idiot bro. She's a nobody, Na small Pekin still dey worry her!.

GooodHardDick:


You mumu shaa. This post was for ladies but you decided to show your stupidity. Simps will always be simps. You can continue simping or get sense. The Choice is yours!

Nahhh
He was being sarcastic
See the emojis bro

Animegirl:


We have more pressing issues in Nigeria, but men can never stop talking about women matter and sex.

All these poverty stricken and lazy Nairaland small boys, can't stop talking about women for clickbait.

This you?
No be your fault. Men really have fallen down the grid
Why won't you spew this na
Maga dey wey dey replace wetin your pops suppose do

kepstone:


All you have said, is not absolute truth... The issue of Providence in marriage is not left to the man alone, no werein the Bible God said or commanded man to provide for his wife 100%. Please read your Bible well and interprete it well.
Our society is raising set of ladies that are selfish, self centered, greedy, careless and who to them love is all about what the man can provide which is money.... Love is not what is sustaining many marriage's in Nigeria as of today but what the man can bring to the table. Sadly many people or ladies going into marriage are going in there with the wrong ideology of what marriage is and roles to play in marriage.
Don't quote Timothy for me were Paul Said if a man can not provide for his family he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. What a man provides in marriage is more than Money but in Nigeria don't provide money you will see how your so call wife or girlfriend turn your life into a living hell.
As long as the benefit is flowing the love keeps flowing, when the benefit or money is no longer flowing, all you get is disrespect, insult, comparison and shame, cheating and even divorce from your wife. We are good when things are good but we are not going to be good when the storm comes. But the true test of a man's strength is storks and challenges, same applies in marriage the true test of love in marriage is she storm's arises. Mind you storm's can come in different ways and different perspective. So many people getting into marriage don't really know what marriage is you think is all about sex and money alone, you think it's about vacations and cruising in good cars. Little wonder alot of men die early in marriages this days because of so much burden they shoulder Because they are trying to be called the MAN.
I see alot of disrespectful, unsubmissive ladies who are not concern about building their life and character for marriage bit are all centered on if the guy has money... You see them jump from one offer to another offer like monkeys untill they find a branch that can hold them. If they branch that holds them can no longer hold them they jump again, this are the kind of generation of ladies we are seeing and raising, no character not submissive, disrespectful and egotistical, materialistic and highly opinionated.
A man's was never design to have his ego destroyed or attacked, if you as a lady do that you shut the man off... Many ladies are not wise, I have female friends of 30-38 yrs still trusting God, every yr Shiloh you see them with prayer point � Lord my husband. I don't pity them I don't even pray for them any more. Many of them will spend all their money to get iPhone to look expensive, go to expensive places just to hook up rich guyz and some of this rich guyz are not even interested in them but to use and dump them. Check out every lady you see advance in age not yet married there are factors responsible for that.
It could be her character, ego, materialistic nature, unrealistic expectations and doesn't know how to keep a man. By the time they are realize time has passed. Many well meaning Good guyz are available to wife this guyz but money is the major obstacle. Many ladies don't want to build, don't want to start from somewhere but want everything given to them at a platter of Gold.
Now let's me go back to Bible
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and both shall become one... That's the idea of marriage in God's eyes oneness in all things that's by the role of a woman is to be a help meet someone suitable, adaptable and fitted to the needs of the man.
Who is a helper
A helper comes into your life to help you in your life in terms of things you can't do for yourself.
The primary role of a woman in marriage is to help as design by God and marriage is actually a roless partnership between Aman and a woman.
But what we have today are women who wants to over burden a man with all the bills and keep all her money to herself.
A woman that can give you access to her money does not deserve your ring as a man you are setting up yourself for a life of torture.
Believe a man should provide but he is not the 100% provider in marriage at all times.
If there is love then it will be roless.
God bless my mum. When my father went broke my mum handled the home for years when my father bounced back he willed everything to her not even to us. My mum never crossed primary 6 but she understood what love and what marriage is all about.
Most Nigerian ladies are setting up them selves to be single for a long time, from y survey many guys are not interested in marriage. God help this generation.

HOW TF IS THIS GETTING 4LIKES?!!!!!!!!!
You sir is wise!!!
Those clamouring for traditional husband's, check this
Feminists lol you deserve toxic men like us

UyaiIncomparabl:


My dear, leave this your westernized mindset in that abroad that you are in. Over here, we are Africans and we should behave like one. We are gradually throwing away our heritage and culture as of old in the name of feminism.

Men are by nature, total providers. Women will just assist when it's necessary. That's how I was taught and I adore the teachings. It has served me well. Even the Bible and Holy Quran command that a man should be 100% a provider in his home. It's just that our heritage has gone to the dogs and men of nowadays are so lazy and looking for working-class women so they will stop working and leech off them. I can't be that woman.

So, who are you a mere mortal to disobey God's commandment when he has stamped it?

Just get your acts together and start doing better. Or you just stay put forever there in that your abroad and be with whitey. Better learn to open your hand. Aka chi chi chi is not good.

Is that the only part of the Bible that you obey
Why choose the one that serves you right and ignore the rest.

Are you trying to tell me that you obey everything the holy book says

You should know change is constant and not even the holy books can stop that.

UyaiIncomparabl:


My dear, leave this your westernized mindset in that abroad that you are in. Over here, we are Africans and we should behave like one. We are gradually throwing away our heritage and culture as of old in the name of feminism.

Men are by nature, total providers. Women will just assist when it's necessary. That's how I was taught and I adore the teachings. It has served me well. Even the Bible and Holy Quran command that a man should be 100% a provider in his home. It's just that our heritage has gone to the dogs and men of nowadays are so lazy and looking for working-class women so they will stop working and leech off them. I can't be that woman.

So, who are you a mere mortal to disobey God's commandment when he has stamped it?

Just get your acts together and start doing better. Or you just stay put forever there in that your abroad and be with whitey. Better learn to open your hand. Aka chi chi chi is not good.

You talk about his westernized lifestyle, how we are Africans and expected to behave as one and also that we have to maintain our culture and heritage as of old but same you talked about the teachings of the Bible and Quran when it's obvious they are borrowed culture forced on us Africans.

You guys should stop bashing Nigerian girls of this generation...

Not making excuses for them but majority of them are victims of the continual downward spiral of our Nigerian society.

In the not too distant past, it took quite a lot for a man to woo a woman. But sadly and steadily, society decayed and many of these ladies today are the byproducts of that decay.

With the increasing corruption and loss of values in Nigerian society, the scenario of young ladies living off young men precipitated and has become the norm of today. The problem is made worse with social media. Think of Yahoo Yahoo and the likes.

When young girls see other young girls like them doing well and having no direct or relatable source of income or means to fund the "doing well" lifestyle than being the girlfriend of a "well to do guy", what do you expect?

I also think it is a function of the absence of the male figure in the home (in many cases...not all). Guys, lets be honest, who doesnt like a decent girl from a good home for keeps? That decency is the reflection of the training that the lady had imbibed as a result of good upbringing evidenced by the presence of the male figure in the home. And it is both ways in this scenario.

At the end of the day, somebody has to put in the work. If no one puts in the work, this is what you get. If parents don't put in the work, these are the children you get in society. If we as adults and semi adults don't put in the work (to stem the tide), we continue the narrative of progressive degradation of society.

With the increasing cheapening of values, everything has become transactional. If you want me to give up my p*$$y for you, be willing to pay the price. The entitlement mentality that is being frowned at is an uproar at the cost of maintenance for exclusivity..."only me will have this t0t0 for this period of time"

Meanwhile, the lady (the hustler that society has turned her into) is also looking to retain premiumship. If she is not receiving funding to maintain her status, her value (and perceived value) drops...ask them T0t0 d?ckeh and t0ke makinwa and co...

Gosh! What a vicious cycle.

UyaiIncomparabl:


My dear, leave this your westernized mindset in that abroad that you are in. Over here, we are Africans and we should behave like one. We are gradually throwing away our heritage and culture as of old in the name of feminism.

Men are by nature, total providers. Women will just assist when it's necessary. That's how I was taught and I adore the teachings. It has served me well. Even the Bible and Holy Quran command that a man should be 100% a provider in his home. It's just that our heritage has gone to the dogs and men of nowadays are so lazy and looking for working-class women so they will stop working and leech off them. I can't be that woman.

So, who are you a mere mortal to disobey God's commandment when he has stamped it?

Just get your acts together and start doing better. Or you just stay put forever there in that your abroad and be with whitey. Better learn to open your hand. Aka chi chi chi is not good.

Lol. Look at this ignorant rubbish. You haven't got a clue what you're talking about, no offense intended.

Seeing as we all grew up in a patriarchal country like Nigeria, I can understand and empathize with many of your points. However, you've failed to realize that the patriarchy you grew up in has resulted in your tendency to believe and think that a man being the sole provider is the natural state of affairs (especially if this prejudice is reinforced by religion, which you demonstrated in your closing paragraphs).

Now, let's go back to the theory of evolution

When you look at related species like chimps and gorillas, it's clear that human patriarchy has analogues in the male dominance of such species (since their behavior is governed by evolution, and thus by what is advantageous - in their environmental context). When we investigate why, we find that males are simply stronger and better defenders of their offspring, as well as their family/tribe/social group. Clearly, some of that applies to us as well. As a result, men are typically larger, stronger, and more aggressive than women.

When you consider those issues, you'll see that "patriarchy" has benefited us in our evolution, just as it has benefited other male-dominated primates. Females must nurture their infants; males are then free to specialize in strength and protection to some extent. But equally, it is weaker in us. Our males are not as divergent from our females as in gorillas or chimps. And do you know why?: It is because we are thinking beings, and our success is more from thought - weapons and how to use them; food and how to grow it, for example - than from brute strength.

Disentangling the complexities can be hard. However in general, the more a society depends on brute force (especially, warrior societies), the more likely we are to see rule by the physically strong, i.e. men. Once such a setup is in place, it can be difficult for women to "recover", so to speak: those in power tend not to give it up, and also tend to teach the required conventions to their children (so boys grow up expecting to be heads of their households, while girls grow up expecting to be dutiful wives: a disparity helped by differential education).

^^^^^THIS is not our natural state of affairs.

The days when physical strength and aggression was key to survival are long gone. It takes little strength to pull a trigger, compared to the thrust and parry of sword and spear. It takes no strength to win in a world where success comes from the mind

Men being dominant and all that stuff made sense when the cultivation of warriors from neighbouring villages was necessary for survival, including that of the women. It makes no sense when we have achieved a civilisation based on individual rights, the function of the mind, and the rule of law bringing force under objective control. We have evolved past all that

Suffice to say, your mindset is outdated. Stuck in the ancient times.

GooodHardDick:


Damn!!!!

Increase the volume comrade!!!

this is why women dont talk in helders meetings. they don't have mental capacity to think far and wide. it's not there fault though, nature wired em like that. they can only think with their immediate emotions.

very few are lucky exceptions though.
respect to all our women in here

Beebah2000:
No be by force to date. If you no wan feed another person daughter, then NO DATE.
Simple!!!

Nonsense,not all girls are leeches or need to feed by the guy they are dating, it's just the very broke ones with messed up mentality!

This mentality is sickening.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Please, learn to read well. I'm not against women working. Let them earn a living but the men in their lives must take care of them 100%. Over here, we treat our women like eggs. Women should be pampered.

UyaiIncomparabl:


What do you mean by "go and work"? I have a job but I will still demand your money. How hard is that to understand?

Fine working girl with dis mentality, what happened?

pansophist:


Why do you think it is only broke men that expect women to show up with reasonable contribution? To stay wealthy, you must make decisions that sustain wealth. You hardly see wealthy people marry poor people, those are Nollywood nonsense. Check the elite class in Nigeria, they marry within themselves. Being wealthy is not just a material thing, but a psychological thing as well. Now imagine the kind of discussion that will happen between Dangote and the bread-hawker. What will they talk about? Wake up, real life is realistic.

As an analogy, its easier to climb the staircase to the 5th floor when you're not carrying a woman on your shoulder, because she can use her legs. It's easier for two couples to go higher when each of them can contribute materially even if it's not equal, instead of the women burdening the man with hers, while not contributing anything. You can argue that men should provide more, then you'll have a point. But saying women should not do at all is a recipe for singledom. Only dumb men that do not know their direction in life will accept that condition.

Don't you also want to be the kind of woman that gives her a husband's car as a gift? Is sex and washing his clothes only how you'll show love to him? Don't you want him to feel convinced that you're with him not for his money? If the economy goes bad and he loses income, will you guys become poor instantly? What kind of mentality do you have sef?

The only woman that I'll take seriously with this "men are a provider crap" must not only be submissive but also a virgin and must accept if I take multiple wives and want her to birth me ten kids. I don't like the selective application of culture. The bible says that a man should only pay the bride price for virgins, so she must be one. Stop the hypocrisy abeg.

Bro, you don vex.

I don’t know why they always think only broke guys want women working.
Does it mean they don’t believe men should have taste or standard? Na wa oooo

SHOCK7:

Fine working girl with dis mentality, what happened?

I don't understand.

Emeraldfynest:
This mentality is sickening.

Doesn't change the fact that it's indeed a FACT!

UyaiIncomparabl:


I don't understand. :
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I sent you a dm,hope you don't mind

SHOCK7:

I sent you a dm,hope you don't mind

I mind a lot, please.

I'm a gold digger. Stay away.

UyaiIncomparabl:


I mind a lot, please.

I'm a gold digger. Stay away.

It's funny, somehow am still curious to know more about u? At least I think I'm stable enough for you

SHOCK7:

It's funny, somehow am still curious to know more about u? At least I think I'm stable enough for you

Goodluck

emmaodet:




Bro, you don vex.

I don’t know why they always think only broke guys want women working.
Does it mean they don’t believe men should have taste or standard? Na wa oooo

I even think wealthy men are actually more focus on a lady earnings potential. You dont build wealth and run it down by marrying wrongly. I honestly don't know any man that doesn't. Because if the women lack money skills, then its a problem down the road. Its a dangerous skills to know how to spend, but not make money. Na the man go suffer.

pansophist:


I even think wealthy men are actually more focus on a lady earnings potential. You dont build wealth and run it down by marrying wrongly. I honestly don't know any man that doesn't. Because if the women lack money skills, then its a problem down the road. Its a dangerous skills to know how to spend, but not make money. Na the man go suffer.

It is a pity most have big eyes and wide mouths but can't make the money for such or manage it.
I only pity most nigerian men because they won't have much choice than to settle down with the inferior options in the market.
I even say a comment the OP made where she said she ghosted a guy because of i think 100 naira recharge card. That is to tell you how stingy and extremely self she can be yet she wants a man to kill himself to impress her.
Is it a crime if you buy your man a car? is it a crime if you surprise him with things, gifts etc? are those not good things to emulate? i don't just get it.