Fahdiga:
You try. kudos. May your children lift you 8ft above the ground and leave you to fall yakata in future in Jesus name amen

Backlaw406:

lol. If I may ask, how old is Iyaebe?

Moz22:
Actually typing this with a heavy heart and so much disgust for what I've done.. wish I had handled the situation better.

My father is the best man I could ever wish for and if I had another chance to pick a dad again in my next life, I'll pick a richer version of him but my mom?? Sigh!

However growing up with them was so stressful in every way u can think of.. my dad was the meek type, soft spoken and slow to react but my mom would always complain about everything, she fights everything and everyone.. never afraid of any form of confrontation, she would complain about my hairstyle, she would check if I sagged my trousers.. she monitored me extremely and always nagged about it.. I'm this typa guy who is well cultured, I wouldn't say I got that from home training tho cos I do not drink, smoke nor womanize... And I think it's d joy of every parent to have child like me, I basically had no friends visiting me then and even up till now. I've got trust issues that's why I don't keep friends.. my mom made my youthful days hell for me, I didn't really enjoy it.. times I spent with her were miserable as she would shout everyday, quarrel even over phone conversations that you would think the person she's fighting with was right in front of her.. and some times I even pity my dad whenever she starts with him. I developed some sorta hatred for her

Lately I've been spending more time with them cos of our last born just so I could keep an eye on him and we stayed close too.. and the way she treats him makes me wonder if she was the one gave birth to him, if I was away when she was pregnant for him and delivered.. I would have argued that she was his mother. There were times that I had to pass the night there and her voice or rants would be what will wake me up very early in the morning just as it used to be when I used to be there...

I used to think that as people grow old, they become calmer but that isn't the case with my mom, she's more violent... She lost her twin sis last year March and I sincerely hoped that would change atleast but iro nio... Her other sisters aren't even speaking to her at the moment. My dad was a musician.. old age won't allow him continue doing music, coincidentally I picked up that barton.. been doing the same music(live musician) all my life but my mom has always been against it.. she was never happy whenever I carry my dad's guitar to rehearse or whenever I bring a piano home.. it was always war...

Been there since last weekend cos of the poor electricity in my area.. we have had power for about 7 days now.. Had gone for a studio session, only to return in d evening and I was greeted with shouting over a very trivial issue, I was so angry that I responded to every of her verbal insults.. and then she hit me and I reciprocated which I felt so bad about almost immediately.. she dragged me by my clothes shouting that I must kill her again, by that time.. my anger had subdued and all I had on my mind was to leave the house immediately. She threatened to arrest me.. She tore my shirt and I managed to pull away from her.. and left without picking my stuffs. All my life, I have never raised up my hands to hit a woman talkless of my mom.. I don't even beat kids when they do wrong, I hate to see tears..

I know it's a disgraceful thing to do. I've got no excuse for what I've done whatsoever. I even avoid confrontations with my own gender sef cos I know what I'm capable of. I'm always quick to say the word sorry just to avoid prolonged issues. I had been offline since it happened, just came here to drop this and I know how much insults I'm gonna get here anyway but we learn everyday and will surely pick the ones that will make me a better person.. no one's perfect

Pls ignore my typo errors abeg

olibeans:


Guy go and hang yourself

M3A16:
It is a pity that you have got to deal with a parent of such attitude but our parents become our cross the moment we are able to identify purpose of living regardless of their lapses or faults.... You have done the abomination my bro, quickly find a way to seek for her genuine forgiveness and thereafter turn to your creator for the same. Note: there is no shame here oooo, you have made a deadly mistake and you have been sharply able to recognize that, kindly do this needful ASAP.
May we all be guided and forgiven
My heart is with you bro

peepydelano:
60+

Backlaw406:

Are you a PRO for Iyaebe?

Fahdiga:
You try. kudos. May your children lift you 8ft above the ground and leave you to fall yakata in future in Jesus name amen

Fahdiga:
You try. kudos. May your children lift you 8ft above the ground and leave you to fall yakata in future in Jesus name amen

Iyaebe:
Hmmmm,you need to seriously beg for her forgiveness else your future kids will hit you too and it becomes a thing in the family, you should have simply left the scene rather than exchanging words with her but she pushed you to it which is bad on her side but she’s your mom and has some edge over you.Learn to keep some distance from people who can easily trigger you be it parents and whatever.Go and redeem this messy situation and never allow such to happen again,also ask God to forgive you after your mom has finally forgiven you.Good luck

Uzomacharles:
SOME WOMEN ARE JUST WICKED...



SOMETIMES IS GOOD TO PROOF WE'RE NOT WEAKLING


I guess you understand what I mean...

Emotional damage or psychological trauma can even make you affect the society in a bad way

Best advice for you is to leave that environment cos more regretful stuffs might happen btw u & her...


Don't mention me saying shit

elmagnifico411:
A big fat lie![b] His future kids would do no such thing if he doesn't drive them crazy like his mom did to him. [/b]He's regretting his actions already, let's help him heal. There's a part in the bible that advise parents about being careful with their kids. The two of them needs forgiveness, not just him alone. I pray God will heal his mother.

elmagnifico411:
A big fat lie! His future kids would do no such thing if he doesn't drive them crazy like his mom did to him. He's regretting his actions already, let's help him heal. There's a part in the bible that advise parents about being careful with their kids. The two of them needs forgiveness, not just him alone. I pray God will heal his mother.

baby124:
Awon ti redpill. If you had respect for women, you will hit your father first and hit your mother too. Your mother is reaping the fruit of her labor where she did not raise you to respect her and other women. 3 gbosa for you! Now your eye don clear abi?

TheWolfen:
Don't worry the memory of u hitting your mom will hunt u until u fall out of this world.

But as long as your mom is still alive.
There are chances for you to make amends.

Housing:
I feel very sorry and sad for you. You are guilty in many ways it wasn't impulse. You claimed to be well behaved but I doubt it. You won't end up hitting your Mum if you haven't replied her back while she verbally charged at you.

If it was impulse you would quickly prostrate and start begging immediately not that you will free yourself. You might wound her more in the process.

Talking back to your Mum is very bad and that is the genesis of the problem.

Your father being the meek among your parents pushed her into that form. If not for her strong stand you would have end up worst. You Dad created the leadership void that is why she steps in albeit she may over do it but then she is your Mum.

Pray to God for forgiveness and quickly reach out to her for forgiveness.

Go and meet her for forgiveness, she may not accept your plea immediately but hold on to her feet and beg seriously.

May God guide you in getting forgiveness from your Mum.

Antina:


Because you didn't want to listen to the truth? Some mothers behave worst than yours, yet no kid is able to return insults let alone hit her.

That is the way you were brought up. That is the truth.

Your mother for that matter, Then who cant you hit?

Moz22:
Actually typing this with a heavy heart and so much disgust for what I've done.. wish I had handled the situation better.

My father is the best man I could ever wish for and if I had another chance to pick a dad again in my next life, I'll pick a richer version of him but my mom?? Sigh!

However growing up with them was so stressful in every way u can think of.. my dad was the meek type, soft spoken and slow to react but my mom would always complain about everything, she fights everything and everyone.. never afraid of any form of confrontation, she would complain about my hairstyle, she would check if I sagged my trousers.. she monitored me extremely and always nagged about it.. I'm this typa guy who is well cultured, I wouldn't say I got that from home training tho cos I do not drink, smoke nor womanize... And I think it's d joy of every parent to have child like me, I basically had no friends visiting me then and even up till now. I've got trust issues that's why I don't keep friends.. my mom made my youthful days hell for me, I didn't really enjoy it.. times I spent with her were miserable as she would shout everyday, quarrel even over phone conversations that you would think the person she's fighting with was right in front of her.. and some times I even pity my dad whenever she starts with him. I developed some sorta hatred for her

Lately I've been spending more time with them cos of our last born just so I could keep an eye on him and we stayed close too.. and the way she treats him makes me wonder if she was the one gave birth to him, if I was away when she was pregnant for him and delivered.. I would have argued that she was his mother. There were times that I had to pass the night there and her voice or rants would be what will wake me up very early in the morning just as it used to be when I used to be there...

I used to think that as people grow old, they become calmer but that isn't the case with my mom, she's more violent... She lost her twin sis last year March and I sincerely hoped that would change atleast but iro nio... Her other sisters aren't even speaking to her at the moment. My dad was a musician.. old age won't allow him continue doing music, coincidentally I picked up that barton.. been doing the same music(live musician) all my life but my mom has always been against it.. she was never happy whenever I carry my dad's guitar to rehearse or whenever I bring a piano home.. it was always war...

Been there since last weekend cos of the poor electricity in my area.. we have had power for about 7 days now.. Had gone for a studio session, only to return in d evening and I was greeted with shouting over a very trivial issue, I was so angry that I responded to every of her verbal insults.. and then she hit me and I reciprocated which I felt so bad about almost immediately.. she dragged me by my clothes shouting that I must kill her again, by that time.. my anger had subdued and all I had on my mind was to leave the house immediately. She threatened to arrest me.. She tore my shirt and I managed to pull away from her.. and left without picking my stuffs. All my life, I have never raised up my hands to hit a woman talkless of my mom.. I don't even beat kids when they do wrong, I hate to see tears..

I know it's a disgraceful thing to do. I've got no excuse for what I've done whatsoever. I even avoid confrontations with my own gender sef cos I know what I'm capable of. I'm always quick to say the word sorry just to avoid prolonged issues. I had been offline since it happened, just came here to drop this and I know how much insults I'm gonna get here anyway but we learn everyday and will surely pick the ones that will make me a better person.. no one's perfect

Pls ignore my typo errors abeg

Fahdiga:
Shatap

Tallesty1:
Why are you people shying away from the truth simply because it was a woman, his mother.

If what the OP said about the woman is true then she owe him and his siblings an apology. In sane clime, government suppose don collect the kids from her because she's an abusive parent.

Do you know the psychological and emotional damage she's done to these children? Do you even know how abusive people are raised?

Everything he complained about her doesn't matter because she's a mother right? You think being a mother starts and ends at pushing kids out?

It's a miracle if this Op is reserved, that's if he's not lying about himself but that too is a psychological problem. A kind of defense mechanism.

He said in his post that he doesn't have friends, he doesn't trust people. Do you think these things happened naturally? Dude is trying to protect himself from people like his mother. He's damaged.

Let me be honest with you, the OP is very likely to be a violent person, he sees it himself so he's staying away from people because he doesn't want to act it out. He dislikes his mother for it and he will hate himself even more if starts behaving like his mother.

Nothing will happen to the OP if he doesn't apologize, though I will advise him to. Do you think the father will keep quiet if the wife isn't as the son described her?


It's people like you and Iya whatever at the front page that make it difficult for African parents to apologize.

The woman is a bad mother, I won't say she deserves what she got(it should have come from someone else) but I don't blame the Op.


You need to live with a toxic person to be able to have an informed opinion on this issue.

Spherical77:
Yes i understand. But could you please tell me the instruction God gave parents just as he instructed the children to obey their parents?

peepydelano:
Na wetin the yeye feminist dy always claim for here bdat lol

Moz22:
Actually typing this with a heavy heart and so much disgust for what I've done.. wish I had handled the situation better.

My father is the best man I could ever wish for and if I had another chance to pick a dad again in my next life, I'll pick a richer version of him but my mom?? Sigh!

However growing up with them was so stressful in every way u can think of.. my dad was the meek type, soft spoken and slow to react but my mom would always complain about everything, she fights everything and everyone.. never afraid of any form of confrontation, she would complain about my hairstyle, she would check if I sagged my trousers.. she monitored me extremely and always nagged about it.. I'm this typa guy who is well cultured, I wouldn't say I got that from home training tho cos I do not drink, smoke nor womanize... And I think it's d joy of every parent to have child like me, I basically had no friends visiting me then and even up till now. I've got trust issues that's why I don't keep friends.. my mom made my youthful days hell for me, I didn't really enjoy it.. times I spent with her were miserable as she would shout everyday, quarrel even over phone conversations that you would think the person she's fighting with was right in front of her.. and some times I even pity my dad whenever she starts with him. I developed some sorta hatred for her

Lately I've been spending more time with them cos of our last born just so I could keep an eye on him and we stayed close too.. and the way she treats him makes me wonder if she was the one gave birth to him, if I was away when she was pregnant for him and delivered.. I would have argued that she was his mother. There were times that I had to pass the night there and her voice or rants would be what will wake me up very early in the morning just as it used to be when I used to be there...

I used to think that as people grow old, they become calmer but that isn't the case with my mom, she's more violent... She lost her twin sis last year March and I sincerely hoped that would change atleast but iro nio... Her other sisters aren't even speaking to her at the moment. My dad was a musician.. old age won't allow him continue doing music, coincidentally I picked up that barton.. been doing the same music(live musician) all my life but my mom has always been against it.. she was never happy whenever I carry my dad's guitar to rehearse or whenever I bring a piano home.. it was always war...

Been there since last weekend cos of the poor electricity in my area.. we have had power for about 7 days now.. Had gone for a studio session, only to return in d evening and I was greeted with shouting over a very trivial issue, I was so angry that I responded to every of her verbal insults.. and then she hit me and I reciprocated which I felt so bad about almost immediately.. she dragged me by my clothes shouting that I must kill her again, by that time.. my anger had subdued and all I had on my mind was to leave the house immediately. She threatened to arrest me.. She tore my shirt and I managed to pull away from her.. and left without picking my stuffs. All my life, I have never raised up my hands to hit a woman talkless of my mom.. I don't even beat kids when they do wrong, I hate to see tears..

I know it's a disgraceful thing to do. I've got no excuse for what I've done whatsoever. I even avoid confrontations with my own gender sef cos I know what I'm capable of. I'm always quick to say the word sorry just to avoid prolonged issues. I had been offline since it happened, just came here to drop this and I know how much insults I'm gonna get here anyway but we learn everyday and will surely pick the ones that will make me a better person.. no one's perfect

Pls ignore my typo errors abeg

Fahdiga:
For always insulting men, 8ft and above awaits you tomorrow