Good that you have not wedded her yet. Don't force a woman to marry you. Sit her down and ask her if she sincerely wants you guys to continue and get married. Don't be harsh to her, She might open up to you. It is better than to continue without trust. Now that she has a job, you have a car, what are you waiting for to wed her? So if you guys are not yet sure, then release her to marry another man. You have nothing to lose are there are probably better girls out there for you, but this time do not waste time.
Good luck

Tell her to hold onto the guy while you look for another girl. No time to dey check time, abeg.

Netmuch:
Hi fellow nairalanders,

I and my fiance were both bankers, I brought her in town and God used me for her to secure a job.

Where I used to stay was a bit further to our work place, so their is another banker guy who has a CR-V Honda car that usually drops her in the morning at her office whom she later became close friends with, although dey do call themselves whenever the guy is about leaving his house to pick up my fiancee, which I was aware of.

However, suddenly I realized that my fiancee WhatsApp chat is always cleared not to let me see their chats which I suspected a foul play, but the worst came last week when I was trying to get my car engine oil and I was approaching her, she was calling the guy, as I near her to eavesdrop on what she was talking with the guy, she quickly ends the call. I got angry that why will she not let me hear their conversations if truly she has nothing to do with the guy. I challenged her but she insisted nothing was going on between them that she had to end the call on my arrival which she has always call in my presence.

I don't want to be a fool as am about to end the relationship, but I guess I need your honest and positive response on this matter why she had to do what she did. I am a very simple guy and I believe every one should have their freedom. And I don't cheat.

I will love to hear your mature opinion on this.

Thanks.

Buy a car for her so that she can stop following him in order to prevent you from getting high blood pressure.

zomby:


No need to confront the dude, it is absolutely unnecessary. If the girl is cheating, simply take your time to plan your exit and then move on.

As simple as that. It's her decision to cheat so I see no reason confronting that guy

Uncle96:
Why would you allow another man to be dropping your woman off at work everyday ?

Have you been to Lagos, live on the mainland and work on the island?

Bigredmachine:
A man and a woman can't just be friends ...

How many times will they tell you that...

Like charges repel each other and unlike charges attract each other

Funkyswagzz:


Simple to show her he is control.. oh she will definitely not go close to that guy again

U think so? That will make her Bleep the guy the more behind close doors tho

Netmuch:
Hi fellow nairalanders,

I and my fiance were both bankers, I brought her in town and God used me for her to secure a job.

Where I used to stay was a bit further to our work place, so their is another banker guy who has a CR-V Honda car that usually drops her in the morning at her office whom she later became close friends with, although dey do call themselves whenever the guy is about leaving his house to pick up my fiancee, which I was aware of.

However, suddenly I realized that my fiancee WhatsApp chat is always cleared not to let me see their chats which I suspected a foul play, but the worst came last week when I was trying to get my car engine oil and I was approaching her, she was calling the guy, as I near her to eavesdrop on what she was talking with the guy, she quickly ends the call. I got angry that why will she not let me hear their conversations if truly she has nothing to do with the guy. I challenged her but she insisted nothing was going on between them that she had to end the call on my arrival which she has always call in my presence.

I don't want to be a fool as am about to end the relationship, but I guess I need your honest and positive response on this matter why she had to do what she did. I am a very simple guy and I believe every one should have their freedom. And I don't cheat.

I will love to hear your mature opinion on this.

Thanks.

So your babe has a bestie you are finished. How do u guys entertainment such nonsense. Did her mother have bestie

Netmuch:
Hi fellow nairalanders,

I and my fiance were both bankers, I brought her in town and God used me for her to secure a job.

Where I used to stay was a bit further to our work place, so their is another banker guy who has a CR-V Honda car that usually drops her in the morning at her office whom she later became close friends with, although dey do call themselves whenever the guy is about leaving his house to pick up my fiancee, which I was aware of.

However, suddenly I realized that my fiancee WhatsApp chat is always cleared not to let me see their chats which I suspected a foul play, but the worst came last week when I was trying to get my car engine oil and I was approaching her, she was calling the guy, as I near her to eavesdrop on what she was talking with the guy, she quickly ends the call. I got angry that why will she not let me hear their conversations if truly she has nothing to do with the guy. I challenged her but she insisted nothing was going on between them that she had to end the call on my arrival which she has always call in my presence.

I don't want to be a fool as am about to end the relationship, but I guess I need your honest and positive response on this matter why she had to do what she did. I am a very simple guy and I believe every one should have their freedom. And I don't cheat.

I will love to hear your mature opinion on this.

Thanks.

For you to suspect this ..... It mean you are right ........ Our instinct does not lie .

Wuppdex:
Only SIMP would confront another man over a woman, a real man would move on rather than start fighting over a cheating partner, don't forget she made her choice, relationship core value is trust, so if she's trustworthy partner no matter the circumstances she would stay loyal and not mess around every guy who complimented her. Unless you wanted to spend the rest of your life shielding your spouse from other men.The more you SIMP the less she values you okay

Bro when u understand the way women brain are wired then he wont discard that girl very easily because he was only suspect her. Remember this the only thing he complained about. How are you 100% sure he will get a perfect woman when they break up. When u want to get married u need to be ready for alot of challenges. He needs to make it clear to that lady he is not ready to tolerate promiscuous life. He cant discard her because of suspicion. He needs to have a little tolerance if not he will jump from one woman to another.
This is marriage not relationship

wiseone28:
If it was you he would have gotten tired of picking you..


Your instincts is right but if you doubt it keep calm you will catch her with a good evidence one day.

Flesh and blood did not just reveal the bolded to you.. But my faaaaather in heaven.


@op.. Just take ur L and move on.

zoroby:


U think so? That will make her Bleep the guy the more behind close doors tho

Listen any woman that love will do the right thing when u caution them.. no one is perfect. If she is stubborn that is when u discard her. So what do suggest?

wiseone28:
Relationship matter don tire me with everyday complain especially with women not faithful the most..

The earlier guys should realize girls can never be faithful the good for us.

Have money or no money girls will never be faithful.

Girls are only faithful to what's convenient for them....

If you want catch her with evidence use whatscan to monitor her chat with the nigga. If you no get strong mind no try am cos u go see wetin u break u

Funkyswagzz:


Bro when u understand the way women brain are wired then he wont discard that girl very easily because he was only suspect her. Remember this the only thing he complained about. How are you 100% sure he will get a perfect woman when they break up. When u want to get married u need to be ready for alot of challenges. He needs to make it clear to that lady he is not ready to tolerate promiscuous life. He cant discard her because of suspicion. He needs to have a little tolerance if not he will jump from one woman to another.
This is marriage not relationship

When you get married you should not get ready for lots of challenges.... that's bulkcrap.... if marriage is so challenging why not get a girlfriend then

VladimirPutiin:


He should confront the guy over a whooore ??

If she really have self dignity and respect for her fiancé she wouldn’t have allowed that dude be fuccking her. Most Nigerian girls, especially the ones raised in Lagos Island are hoes.

Dude he is only suspecting besides he is too quick to bring this matter. A good observer will take his time to get a concrete evidence rather than being too quick to confront her

Tboymessiah:


Wrong move, the lady we go back to beg the guy, then the guy we act like nothing dey happen, after all the lady go dey give de guy attitude na so de relationship go tey end......


Meanwhile after the girl don show de guy pepper, and end the relationship she go get full right to follow the guy with car

Listen any lady that will risk getting married to mere sex is foolish unless she never liked the guy from onset. Besides he didnt complain the lady is demanding. So lets not be too quick to jump into conclusion.

Funkyswagzz:


Dude he is only suspecting besides he is too quick to bring this matter. A good observer will take his time to get a concrete evidence rather than being too quick to confront her

Why do you trust these girls much like this. Everything the OP said points to the fact that she’s fucccking that guy.

Op if you like yur woman do has if you don't care but less yur caring infact
I hope u get plan b cus this one don be another man meat .

Sha don't b bothered what will be yurs will be yurs

BigBashiru:


When you get married you should not get ready for lots of challenges.... that's bulkcrap.... if marriage is so challenging why not get a girlfriend then

Wait so u actually think staying married is as easy as abc. Well i believe ur parents never hard argument at home ever. Lets say there union was better than romeo and juliet

Microwhy:

Downgrade the relationship to the lowest level in your heart, smash her like a side chic which i bet will last longer and more enjoyable.
Stop fiancé/fiancee stuff right from your heart and treat her like an object without attaching anything to the relationship.
I bet, if she truly loves you, the truth will come out.
Use a mind game on yourself by telling your mind that she's nothing but a cheap girl in your neighbourhood.
Don't quarrel,don't argue and don't bother yourself about it. Turn her to side chic and continue your normal doings with her.
Don't hurry for main chic but you already know that she's a side chic awaiting main chic.

Thank you my brother. I've not and will never tell any girl that her relationship with me is over. Na you go tire. Hoes everywhere...

VladimirPutiin:


Why do you trust these girls much like this. Everything the OP said points to the fact that she’s fucccking that guy.

I dont trust any woman.. he needs to get an evidence first cos when he break up and later find out there was nothing goin on he will leave to regret it.

You would have to look for another means she would get to work. It's not always nice allowing your fiancee have such access to opposite sex, women are flexible.

Netmuch:
Hi fellow nairalanders,

I and my fiance were both bankers, I brought her in town and God used me for her to secure a job.

Where I used to stay was a bit further to our work place, so their is another banker guy who has a CR-V Honda car that usually drops her in the morning at her office whom she later became close friends with, although dey do call themselves whenever the guy is about leaving his house to pick up my fiancee, which I was aware of.

However, suddenly I realized that my fiancee WhatsApp chat is always cleared not to let me see their chats which I suspected a foul play, but the worst came last week when I was trying to get my car engine oil and I was approaching her, she was calling the guy, as I near her to eavesdrop on what she was talking with the guy, she quickly ends the call. I got angry that why will she not let me hear their conversations if truly she has nothing to do with the guy. I challenged her but she insisted nothing was going on between them that she had to end the call on my arrival which she has always call in my presence.

I don't want to be a fool as am about to end the relationship, but I guess I need your honest and positive response on this matter why she had to do what she did. I am a very simple guy and I believe every one should have their freedom. And I don't cheat.

I will love to hear your mature opinion on this.

Thanks.

Fool

Netmuch:
Hi fellow nairalanders,

I and my fiance were both bankers, I brought her in town and God used me for her to secure a job.

Where I used to stay was a bit further to our work place, so their is another banker guy who has a CR-V Honda car that usually drops her in the morning at her office whom she later became close friends with, although dey do call themselves whenever the guy is about leaving his house to pick up my fiancee, which I was aware of.

However, suddenly I realized that my fiancee WhatsApp chat is always cleared not to let me see their chats which I suspected a foul play, but the worst came last week when I was trying to get my car engine oil and I was approaching her, she was calling the guy, as I near her to eavesdrop on what she was talking with the guy, she quickly ends the call. I got angry that why will she not let me hear their conversations if truly she has nothing to do with the guy. I challenged her but she insisted nothing was going on between them that she had to end the call on my arrival which she has always call in my presence.

I don't want to be a fool as am about to end the relationship, but I guess I need your honest and positive response on this matter why she had to do what she did. I am a very simple guy and I believe every one should have their freedom. And I don't cheat.

I will love to hear your mature opinion on this.

Thanks.

Don't waste your time. The other dude is chopping your babe already. If by chance they have not been chopping each other's work and love your babe, take her far away from the dude. If a woman likes a guy, there is a 70% chance she'd fck him.

Funkyswagzz:


I dont trust any woman.. he needs to get an evidence first cos when he break up and later find out there was nothing goin on he will leave to regret it.

She's fùcking him badderly. Go and inspect her vagina if u want

I know how painful it feels,but calm down and play a mature game with her.don't use the harsh method but the calm and smart method.

killmods:

She's fùcking him badderly. Go and inspect her vagina if u want

If only suspicion will make u dump ur fiance my dear i wish u goodluck getting married cos u will dump alot of women

Netmuch:
Hi fellow nairalanders,

I and my fiance were both bankers, I brought her in town and God used me for her to secure a job.

Where I used to stay was a bit further to our work place, so their is another banker guy who has a CR-V Honda car that usually drops her in the morning at her office whom she later became close friends with, although dey do call themselves whenever the guy is about leaving his house to pick up my fiancee, which I was aware of.

However, suddenly I realized that my fiancee WhatsApp chat is always cleared not to let me see their chats which I suspected a foul play, but the worst came last week when I was trying to get my car engine oil and I was approaching her, she was calling the guy, as I near her to eavesdrop on what she was talking with the guy, she quickly ends the call. I got angry that why will she not let me hear their conversations if truly she has nothing to do with the guy. I challenged her but she insisted nothing was going on between them that she had to end the call on my arrival which she has always call in my presence.

I don't want to be a fool as am about to end the relationship, but I guess I need your honest and positive response on this matter why she had to do what she did. I am a very simple guy and I believe every one should have their freedom. And I don't cheat.

I will love to hear your mature opinion on this.

Thanks.

stop them from spending time together .. that drive to work and is dangerous.. its poassible they have straffed

Tboymessiah:


I like your comments, it's deep my brother...

Please clear me more on how there is no control over it.

1- The ball is in your court that is if you are really saying the true.

2- I don't judge people immediately until I hear the other side from your fiancee.

To avoid story that hit the heart later in future, it's better you arrange your own dismissal from such relationship...
A word is enough for...

Funkyswagzz:


I dont trust any woman.. he needs to get an evidence first cos when he break up and later find out there was nothing goin on he will leave to regret it.

Why is she deleting her chats with the guy ??

Why is she always ending the call anytime she sees her fiancé coming close ??

Why is she always feeling uncomfortable about her husband knowing more about their relationship ?? (going by his writeup here or didn’t you read it well bro). These are the things an average Nigerian girl does when she is cheating. I know them too well. I have been with a couple of them before. That is how one saved her sugar daddy number with Uncle and they always spoke on the phone like relatives, until I found out he is her Sugar daddy. Fear these girls bro. If she got nothing to hide, she won’t be doing all that. The red flags are there to see.