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MadamVanessa:




Is there anyone both male and female that doesn't have a reckless past? personally, if I love , I love, I don't believe in the philosophy of digging one's past before settling down with the person; because to be very candid, there's nobody past that's palatable.

Na sex she had no be say she kill person, or no be say she give you disease. Na knack she knack, u been de knack too before u even meet am. The abortion she committed, even house wives of today , commit abortion too. So It's an old story.

Meeting you , means starting afresh with a new chapter. people with trust issue have the time of going back to dig at one's past and if look closely their past too may even be more messy.




Look for more justifiable reason to jappa after knacking the poor girl, don't come up with this childish and RECKLESS excuse.

BirtherOfKings:
small boi wan handle big something
Leave her now if u know u can't handle her past and groom her into a better version of herself...someone better Dan u is waiting so take it as a privilege from GOD to be d one to lead her in the right path
If u are sleeping with her though, just know ur destiny has been turned to a menstrual rag
Discipline urself to stay away from fornication and show her there are still good men out there...can't handle it? Go away from. Ha

rickleye:
I'll tell you a story... there was this lady who played " hard to get " one of many. She would later tell me that I was " too nice " & polite and tht she was not used to that. She was used to "bad boys " persona. In any case, once we started dating she would tell me her past . When we cuddle she would say mum sends her greetings and confess that she loves me and that she did this or that in her past. ( Had an abortion, had sex with this dude or that ) and she will keep wanting assurances that I wouldn't leave her or discard her because of her past.

Not to sound like a religious nut - But if Jesus loved us while we were yet sinners. Then babe - My love for you is not based on past relationships but in the now. I would chide her and say " Girl you bad o " and we laugh but then she would ask - do I still love her, in which I would respond. yes !

The most important thing is that she is with you Now !!!
As long as she does not have any affliction that you cant deal with - Can she still have kids, or any virus which attacks the immune system but most importantly are you both compatible ?. Then enjoy the time you both have and see where it leads to.

sirjamesjnr:
. Having reckless sex with multiple partners is not a mistake. Every choice we made has consequences. It is good to come clean, if the person you are dealing with can't handle a little thing like your sexual exploitation then he or she wasn't meant to be with you. It takes a matured mind to be in love.

Iyaebe:
Haven't you also been sleeping around? what makes yours better than hers? if you don't love her then let her go,a fornicator cannot be condemning another fornicator,lailai.

MadamVanessa:




Is there anyone both male and female that doesn't have a reckless past? personally, if I love , I love, I don't believe in the philosophy of digging one's past before settling down with the person; because to be very candid, there's nobody past that's palatable.

Na sex she had no be say she kill person, or no be say she give you disease. Na knack she knack, u been de knack too before u even meet am. The abortion she committed, even house wives of today , commit abortion too. So It's an old story.

Meeting you , means starting afresh with a new chapter. people with trust issue have the time of going back to dig at one's past and if look closely their past too may even be more messy.




Look for more justifiable reason to jappa after knacking the poor girl, don't come up with this childish and RECKLESS excuse.

Legendoo:
Oponu

Mcslize:
If I should recommend, I will suggest that DNA test should be made compulsory in hospitals.

But my point still remains that ladies should not imitate men in terms of sleeping around, cuz it will in the long run tell in them.

Men have no issue and that's why even if they sleep with a thousand girls today, if they want to settle down, they will still easily pick any girl to settle down without stress.

But that's not same with ladies. That's why ladies should not take after what men are doing.

Unfortunately, it is what it is!

service44:
Op your own small, but we both are in the same shoe, my girl open up to me recently and when I think about the unthinkable things this girl has done, I was left to depression. She told me she once had Anna sex with a guy and she couldn't poo for days, she told me the number of married me she has had sex with because of money, the shock of my life is that, she told me she started having sex at 13yr and she has not used condom before, she is 29yr now. What am i going to do? I just pretends as if I don't have time so that she can still reveal more but withing me..............she is no,no.

Cardealer2021:
Everybody has a skeletons in their cupboard
Why not forget about your girlfriend past and move on.
You were never a part of the past so don't let it bother you.
If you don't like the girl why not smash and go

MadamVanessa:




Is there anyone both male and female that doesn't have a reckless past? personally, if I love , I love, I don't believe in the philosophy of digging one's past before settling down with the person; because to be very candid, there's nobody past that's palatable.

Na sex she had no be say she kill person, or no be say she give you disease. Na knack she knack, u been de knack too before u even meet am. The abortion she committed, even house wives of today , commit abortion too. So It's an old story.

Meeting you , means starting afresh with a new chapter. people with trust issue have the time of going back to dig at one's past and if look closely their past too may even be more messy.




Look for more justifiable reason to jappa after knacking the poor girl, don't come up with this childish and RECKLESS excuse.
Poor girl wey had no qualms about sleeping with a married man? 'poor' indeed.

Gointo:
Im tired of people discussing fornication with zero conscience and lot of excitement., when God said dont fornicate its for our good...sin affect oneself and and others,because we are connected like a spider web..anytin happenin on one line of the web affect the whole web somehow..,sinful men fornicate with girls and women,that are the future wifes of their fellow men,but they are worried about the body count of their partner, that hypocrisy at its peak..the cycles goes spreading unfaithfulness among mankind....REPENT AND SURRENDER TO THE LORD JESUS CHRIST. DONT DIE A SINNER.

Moloso:
See them trying to justify their reckless pass.



I no get rough pass make I tell you, and as a lady if your pass is rough I no get any business with you

MadamVanessa:




Is there anyone both male and female that doesn't have a reckless past? personally, if I love , I love, I don't believe in the philosophy of digging one's past before settling down with the person; because to be very candid, there's nobody past that's palatable.

Na sex she had no be say she kill person, or no be say she give you disease. Na knack she knack, u been de knack too before u even meet am. The abortion she committed, even house wives of today , commit abortion too. So It's an old story.

Meeting you , means starting afresh with a new chapter. people with trust issue have the time of going back to dig at one's past and if look closely their past too may even be more messy.




Look for more justifiable reason to jappa after knacking the poor girl, don't come up with this childish and RECKLESS excuse.

Officiallyme:
Hello guys, met this girl some time around January this year and asked her out and we started dating ever since

So recently, I got to know about her past. Her past was so reckless that it is giving me a second thought about everything, sta hirted having s*x at the age of 15 while in secondary school and travelling to see a lot of men whom she claimed was asking after her hand in marriage. This girl has slept with so many guys that it's freaking me out, funny thing is, she's been lying and hiding some things but as a smart guy, I've always had my way around her to tell me the truth.

She told me she did a "mistake" abortion for one of her boyfriends then and just last year December, she had s*x with a married man and she knew very well he was married. These are just few of the stuffs I recently found out about, I know it's all in the past and she claims she's changed and want a real relationship with me but I don't believe at all, she claims to love me so much and cannot do without me and honestly, I love her too but I'm scared this may just change a lot about everything.

I don't know what to do, I'm hurt and disappointed and I don't know what to do now. I just need someone to talk to me, please don't insult me, I just need some pieces of advise.

Thanks

safarigirl:
Stop giving people terrible advise please.

You cannot make plans for the future if you do not have knowledge of the past. It is only a fool that ignores the past and thinks their future will be problem free

If you are with someone, you are with every version of them, both their past, present and future and you need to be comfortable with every page of their story to love them fully.

If somebody was sexually assaulted in the past, it will reflect in their present and possibly their future. You must have the past in mind, so, you know how to handle their present and future.

Forget the past na wetin make some people dump Buhari on top our head.

The past is relevant and will always be relevant, it must not be forgotten

rickleye:
I'll tell you a story... there was this lady who played " hard to get " one of many. She would later tell me that I was " too nice " & polite and tht she was not used to that. She was used to "bad boys " persona. In any case, once we started dating she would tell me her past . When we cuddle she would say mum sends her greetings and confess that she loves me and that she did this or that in her past. ( Had an abortion, had sex with this dude or that ) and she will keep wanting assurances that I wouldn't leave her or discard her because of her past.

Not to sound like a religious nut - But if Jesus loved us while we were yet sinners. Then babe - My love for you is not based on past relationships but in the now. I would chide her and say " Girl you bad o " and we laugh but then she would ask - do I still love her, in which I would respond. yes !

The most important thing is that she is with you Now !!!
As long as she does not have any affliction that you cant deal with - Can she still have kids, or any virus which attacks the immune system but most importantly are you both compatible ?. Then enjoy the time you both have and see where it leads to.

Simran94:
How many Nigerians can afford a DNA test?

You still don’t get my point. How many young girls will a RICH man in his 50s get married to if they all continuously cheat on him? Because you don’t expect a girl in her early 20s who is just discovering her womanhood to be faithful to an old guy, are you?

Funny enough, a lot of women are no longer marriage freaks, some of them don’t want to get married anymore. See the likes of Genevieve Nnaji who already has a daughter, Ini edo chose the IVF option, even Rita Dominic got married in her late 40s, there are also other notable women who no longer see marriage as anything and why should they? See the marriages of today, divorce divorce divorce. Just have money and do IVF or adopt a child. We have many women that have done, are still doing it and will continue to do it.
So if you think you can use marriage to threaten women, lol OYO.

What I am saying is, you men can’t eat your cake and have it.
Good night.

2ndchildhood:
The situation am in ATM.. because with a girl having multiple sexual relationship in the past and high body count, they is a high possibility of her cheating in marriage.. they are not use to one man

Officiallyme:
Hello guys, met this girl some time around January this year and asked her out and we started dating ever since

So recently, I got to know about her past. Her past was so reckless that it is giving me a second thought about everything, started having s*x at the age of 15 while in secondary school and travelling to see a lot of men whom she claimed was asking after her hand in marriage. This girl has slept with so many guys that it's freaking me out, funny thing is, she's been lying and hiding some things but as a smart guy, I've always had my way around her to tell me the truth.

She told me she did a "mistake" abortion for one of her boyfriends then and just last year December, she had s*x with a married man and she knew very well he was married. These are just few of the stuffs I recently found out about, I know it's all in the past and she claims she's changed and want a real relationship with me but I don't believe at all, she claims to love me so much and cannot do without me and honestly, I love her too but I'm scared this may just change a lot about everything.

I don't know what to do, I'm hurt and disappointed and I don't know what to do now. I just need someone to talk to me, please don't insult me, I just need some pieces of advise.

Thanks

Ishilove:
Come clean to what end? As long as that past will not in the future threaten your partner's spiritual and physical well-being then let the past remain in the past. Make your peace with God, repent and let the past remain in the past.