Yamiriflathead:


Having vagina, Breast and yansh is now how women measure standards. Men done suffer

Most of these gals claiming standards don't even have shi shi in their accounts

Iyaebe:
Is this your latest escuse?

qtguru:


*excuse

Leave me alone Grandma, Happy Mother's day too

Gamesmart:


Oga, I asked you to swear on it. Not to give a sermon and boast of being a "respectable, happily-married husband".

Oya, do the swearing na. Let your wife no say you never shag anyone outside.

MansoryMX:


I don’t do that religious shit y’all hide under and commit evil. Secondly I don’t owe you anything. As I tell you say I never knack outside, take it or leave it. Some of us are focused on what we have and not looking for what will ruin your life and home you have built for yourself. It’s a personal choice if you choose to protect yourself for your spouse. Them nor dey tie person preek for am. Used your head boy!

AlphaBeta130:
How is it free

porthouse7:
well said. but all ur points are youthful points, wait till u are in ur 40s u will need a companion regardless of ur obvious facts

Highlyrespected:
Marriage is blissful when you are with right person.

Marriage is fruitless when you are wrong person.

To settle down is not the issue but to find the right person is the main issue.

Favfables1:
The day I realized that women who were practically nobodies could become billionaires on account of just divorce alone, was when it really sank in that this marriage thing doesn't favour men one bit...

A woman doesn't have to work at all, just marry a rich guy, give birth to a couple of kids for him, divorce him and Bam! Half of everything he worked for his entire life time belongs to you ....

It's little wonder why over 80% of divorce are intiated by women ...

Yes! One may argue that, that doesn't happen in Nigeria, I agree...

However...
Why should I be responsible for ALL the expenses of an adult who practically have slept with other men, acts like a child, throw tantrums, nags at every slightest opportunity and yet still wants to be treated with "love"?

And besides...
Everything an average wife has to offer can be replaced with money, so why not focus on making money, get those things and be free from the trouble that comes with marriage ...

apatheticme:


@bolded Men have also practically slept with many other women/girls; its common knowledge that men are kids at heart; men throw tantrums the most over every lil' issue; you've not met some insecure men who nag at the slightest discomfort; every human desires to be treated with love whether male or female.

So your assertion could pretty much go either way regardless of the gender. But y'all generalize a lot.

Truth remains that the economy ain't smiling. Most bachelors under 40years are unemployed/underemployed and can't sustain a family.

Trying to push the narrative that women are the cause of your frustrations on this platform for likes is simply hasty generalization!

If you meet a good woman, who has a good source of income, you'll be an advocate of marriage.

Don't let bad news about other people's marriages poison your mind. Our destinies are different in life. Marriage is the subunit of every functional society, without it, we can't build stable homes, balanced children and strong communities.

apatheticme:


1. @bolded Men have also practically slept with many other women/girls; its common knowledge that men are kids at heart; men throw tantrums the most over every lil' issue; you've not met some insecure men who nag at the slightest discomfort; every human desires to be treated with love whether male or female.

So your assertion could pretty much go either way regardless of the gender. But y'all generalize a lot.

Truth remains that the economy ain't smiling. Most bachelors under 40years are unemployed/underemployed and can't sustain a family.

2. Trying to push the narrative that women are the cause of your frustrations on this platform for likes is simply hasty generalization!

3. If you meet a good woman, who has a good source of income, you'll be an advocate of marriage.

4. Don't let bad news about other people's marriages poison your mind. Our destinies are different in life. Marriage is the subunit of every functional society, without it, we can't build stable homes, balanced children and strong communities.

apatheticme:


@bolded Men have also practically slept with many other women/girls; its common knowledge that men are kids at heart; men throw tantrums the most over every lil' issue; you've not met some insecure men who nag at the slightest discomfort; every human desires to be treated with love whether male or female.

Favfables1:


1. You talk about fallacy and yet you can confidently make this?? LMAO

Yes my assertion could go either ways, both men and women sleep around bla bla bla, but women still don't take care of all financial expenses ...

A 40year old man may not be able to sustain a family, but he can sustain himself, so why should he marry? Because at the end of it all, if he cannot carry out his responsibilities "as a man", you think his wife will do it without complaining and yet still respect him? ...

2. First off...
I'm not trying to push anything on anyone, but it seems like you are ...
Secondly...
Everything I wrote in the earlier post can be backed up with facts and facts don't lie ...
Thirdly...
What makes you think I'm frustrated?
Or is this the "fallacy of hasty generalization you spoke about" ....
Fourthly...
You sound like marriage is a goal for you, and if more men see it as a sham, then you won't achieve your goal...Pele o
Fifth...
What you bolded in my earlier post that led to all this plenty write up, is a question I'm currently asking myself, because I'm considering marriage, do you think a man who can consider marriage now, in this economy is "frustrated"? ...

3. Another fallacious statement ...
So in your mind, the reason I'm not an advocate of marriage is because I haven't met a "good woman with a good source of income" ....

And besides...
A woman's income does not in anyway benefit me, because at the end of it all, "his money is our money and my money is my money" , abi no be so? Abi will it be "manly" to split bills with my wife ?

4. Yeah....
I agree with this 100%
But you also forgot to add, "Marriage isn't compulsory" ....

Favfables1:


1. You talk about fallacy and yet you can confidently make this?? LMAO

Yes my assertion could go either ways, both men and women sleep around bla bla bla, but women still don't take care of all financial expenses ...

A 40year old man may not be able to sustain a family, but he can sustain himself, so why should he marry? Because at the end of it all, if he cannot carry out his responsibilities "as a man", you think his wife will do it without complaining and yet still respect him? ...

2. First off...
I'm not trying to push anything on anyone, but it seems like you are ...
Secondly...
Everything I wrote in the earlier post can be backed up with facts and facts don't lie ...
Thirdly...
What makes you think I'm frustrated?
Or is this the "fallacy of hasty generalization you spoke about" ....
Fourthly...
You sound like marriage is a goal for you, and if more men see it as a sham, then you won't achieve your goal...Pele o
Fifth...
What you bolded in my earlier post that led to all this plenty write up, is a question I'm currently asking myself, because I'm considering marriage, do you think a man who can consider marriage now, in this economy is "frustrated"? ...

3. Another fallacious statement ...
So in your mind, the reason I'm not an advocate of marriage is because I haven't met a "good woman with a good source of income" ....

And besides...
A woman's income does not in anyway benefit me, because at the end of it all, "his money is our money and my money is my money" , abi no be so? Abi will it be "manly" to split bills with my wife ?

4. Yeah....
I agree with this 100%
But you also forgot to add, "Marriage isn't compulsory" ....

sparko1:



The bolded should tell you something, hardly you find a MARRIED MAN OF 80Yrs, MOST MARRIED MEN DIE BEFORE THEIR 7OTH BIRTHDAY.

But if you can make you 50s without trouble from a woman, there is a greater chance you will get to 80 before you kick the bucket, forget the stories of your children will be young at that age, because the truth is, if you don't have money to take care of your children, giving birth to them early just means, they get to dig your grave early, they will become trouble for your day and night and when on your dying bed, you will be surprised, you haven't lived a fulfilled life.

So tell me, why do I a 32 year old man, should think of getting married?

Have you ever thought about this, until a man is finicially capable of living an enjoyeable life, nobody talks about marriage, the moment, he's living a two bedroom flat, has a car, get to send money home, everyone wants him to get married, why? its seems the idea is this, a man is not supposed to he happy for too long, the moment he is happy for 1,2 years, they want him to add some suffering to his life, because it makes no sense for a man to be happy or maybe the society views the idea of a man being always happy as an issue that can propel him into greater things, and they just don't want that, they want him to come down to the level of everyday complain. Just my observation.

Gerrard59:


Achievements are subjective. How you view an achievement is different from the next person and that should be regarded and respected.

sparko1:



The bolded should tell you something, hardly you find a MARRIED MAN OF 80Yrs, MOST MARRIED MEN DIE BEFORE THEIR 7OTH BIRTHDAY.

But if you can make you 50s without trouble from a woman, there is a greater chance you will get to 80 before you kick the bucket, forget the stories of your children will be young at that age, because the truth is, if you don't have money to take care of your children, giving birth to them early just means, they get to dig your grave early, they will become trouble for your day and night and when on your dying bed, you will be surprised, you haven't lived a fulfilled life.

So tell me, why do I a 32 year old man, should think of getting married?

Have you ever thought about this, until a man is finicially capable of living an enjoyeable life, nobody talks about marriage, the moment, he's living a two bedroom flat, has a car, get to send money home, everyone wants him to get married, why? its seems the idea is this, a man is not supposed to he happy for too long, the moment he is happy for 1,2 years, they want him to add some suffering to his life, because it makes no sense for a man to be happy or maybe the society views the idea of a man being always happy as an issue that can propel him into greater things, and they just don't want that, they want him to come down to the level of everyday complain. Just my observation.

Gamesmart:


Are women paying for all these mens' expenses?

You appear to have missed the core point of his argument that you addressed.

apatheticme:


In life, people usually speak from their various perspectives!

I don't really know where yall get the ghetto, broke ass girls/women yall date/Marry with warped mentalities as regards finances!

One thing is clear, a well brought up lass, from a good home , without enough to drink and eat will not behave like a longer throat outside!

She will not only be cultured and classy,she will also be gainfully employed and will be ready to spend her entire savings on her man and kids.

Such virtuous ladies/women while they exist, may not come in attractive packaged, with bums,boobs, nails, eyelash etc that y'all tag full option!

Date/Marry homely and cultured ladies, y'all would say no and run after the ghetto,broke ass bosom and bum ladies with entitlement mentality. then when they suck y'all dry you turn around to wail and blame the entirety of Nigerian women!

Nigerian men are confused!!

DoctorOlasDesk:




Aunty these spanking don dey too much na. Take am easy na.

apatheticme:


Truth is usually bitter, but it sets free

Ain't spanking anyone, Just dropping my honest opinions on a subject of discourse!!

Offline reality is different from online blabbings.

Offline all around us,we see daily how women toil in various disciplines to make ends meet for them and their families. so why will some people come online and keep pushing the narrative that only men bring money,it's disgusting!

apatheticme:


In life, people usually speak from their various perspectives!

I don't really know where yall get the ghetto, broke ass girls/women yall date/Marry with warped mentalities as regards finances!

One thing is clear, a well brought up lass, from a good home , without enough to drink and eat will not behave like a longer throat outside!

She will not only be cultured and classy,she will also be gainfully employed and will be ready to spend her entire savings on her man and kids.

Such virtuous ladies/women while they exist, may not come in attractive packaged, with bums,boobs, nails, eyelash etc that y'all tag full option!

Date/Marry homely and cultured ladies, y'all would say no and run after the ghetto,broke ass bosom and bum ladies with entitlement mentality. then when they suck y'all dry you turn around to wail and blame the entirety of Nigerian women!

Nigerian men are confused!!

DoctorOlasDesk:

Atleast 60% of homes are financailly run by women but boys in 20s don't know cause they've not gotten to that bridge yet.

Everyone brags until reality sets in. Same way everyone talks tough until they get beaten up badly.

No too stress am

Gamesmart:


GUY!!!!!!!

For fcck sake, ease on the Simping!

apatheticme:


You can push whatever narratives that make you sleep better at night.

@1st bolded, a lot of homes these days (in this Buhari economy) are run by women financially, but because they don't run to social media to announce likes you guys, you erroneously assume that only men finance the home. Do not use celebrities or social media noise to generalize! Are you saying as a matter of fact that your mom never contributed one Kobo to the home or to your development till you got to this level you are??

apatheticme:

@2nd bolded You people and your baseless assumptions on this forum that every female here is unmarried.

FYI, I'm married, with kids. Marriage ain't a goal for me, I work, earn a decent living and contribute immensely in my home. Marriage is just one of the things secured in the bag. There are other numerous things secured already!!

apatheticme:

@3rd bolded, You could keep the write up simple and resist the urge to explain! It is what it is, most of your reasons for avoiding marriage are baseless,shallow and lack depth! Many of you would grow pass this stage and literally eat your words!!

apatheticme:

@4th bolded; You're speaking from a relationship point, We talking marriage here. In marriage, Ego is meant to be put aside. Each partner is supposed to invest in the marriage financially and otherwise equally without bias!

Well, most people were raised badly from poor homes so they have weird financial backgrounds and mentalities. Ideally, marriage according to Biblical standards means 2people coming together to be one in flesh,soul, spirit and finances as well as other values meant to be shared in godly homes!

apatheticme:

@5th bolded; Of course, variety is the spice of life! After all said and done, everyone reserves the exclusive rights to decide not to get married. I only wish they do not take such decisions based on social media noise and bandwagon mentality of feeling among, celebrity lifestyle and general stupidity! Our communities,society and future world deserve better children raised from balanced homes rather than bastards from baby mama papa madness!!

Gamesmart:


You missed the point again!

It is not about what is forced by life to happen. The point was about what is sought and planned to happen.



Sorry I am going to be blunt!

This is a typical illogical way a woman argues against a point she does not like or want to accept. She switches to using the exception, minority or self to make a general rule.

For example, tell a woman that: Women tend to lose their looks as they age and cannot easily attract a desirable, high-earning man by the time they are 50+ years old.

Typical women's response: That is a lie. Look at Jennifer Lopez! She is still pulling men in her 50s.

As for the claim that "Marriage ain't a goal for me", I suspect that is just another case of a typical illogical way a woman argue against a point she does not like or want to accept: Just lie outrightly to win the point!



Una see?

The same woman who said "Marriage ain't a goal for me" would be the same one who gets angry when men don't want to marry or condemn the institution of marriage. That is when you know she just lied outrightly to win the point.



Marriage is a useless institution for the modern day man.



Don't worry how they take the decision of what they want in their live.

Don't get angry about their decision.

Simp DoctorOlasDesk, you are free to back her up here. You will get your pat on the head, boy.

DoctorOlasDesk:



Until you enter marriage before you go see wetin dey inside. For now, win the arguement, i nor get money banter

DoctorOlasDesk:

I've brought together and i've been actively involved in atleast 7 - 10 marriages

Go and sit down. Kid

DoctorOlasDesk:




Atleast 60% of homes are financailly run by women but boys in 20s don't know cause they've not gotten to that bridge yet.

Everyone brags until reality sets in. Same way everyone talks tough until they get beaten up badly.

No too stress am

faithfull18:

Like seriously Apart the money you guys always claiming you provide, what else do you bring to the table.

Even the money self, in today's world, more ladies are more financially stable than the guys.

Say something else please.

sparko1:



The bolded should tell you something, hardly you find a MARRIED MAN OF 80Yrs, MOST MARRIED MEN DIE BEFORE THEIR 7OTH BIRTHDAY.

But if you can make you 50s without trouble from a woman, there is a greater chance you will get to 80 before you kick the bucket, forget the stories of your children will be young at that age, because the truth is, if you don't have money to take care of your children, giving birth to them early just means, they get to dig your grave early, they will become trouble for your day and night and when on your dying bed, you will be surprised, you haven't lived a fulfilled life.

So tell me, why do I a 32 year old man, should think of getting married?

Have you ever thought about this, until a man is finicially capable of living an enjoyeable life, nobody talks about marriage, the moment, he's living a two bedroom flat, has a car, get to send money home, everyone wants him to get married, why? its seems the idea is this, a man is not supposed to he happy for too long, the moment he is happy for 1,2 years, they want him to add some suffering to his life, because it makes no sense for a man to be happy or maybe the society views the idea of a man being always happy as an issue that can propel him into greater things, and they just don't want that, they want him to come down to the level of everyday complain. Just my observation.