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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Kobojunkiee: 1:23pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
VictorUSA:Do you also take it to God when your wives or galfriends cheat on you?, So God who hates divorce yet decrees that He allows it in case of cheating in marriage - suggesting the marriage has failed at that point - is wrong abi? You all believe God to be foolish while you are wiser? Ofcourse you lot have all but replaced God with the one conveniently sold to you by your Pastors and mogs who feed you lies to soothe your egos regularly. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by VictorUSA(m): 3:02pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
Kobojunkiee, pls answer this: (1) Is it a sin to remain with a cheating spouse and pray to God to change such a person? (2)Where in my write up did I mention my pastor or I stated that what I wrote was pastor's opinion? (3)Is it bad for me to air my opinion? |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by IamGreen1(f): 3:06pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
dannex4adx: Amen but not the type I may need to pray for for cheating sha. |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Kobojunkiee: 3:15pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
VictorUSA:1. It isn't a sin to remain hooked with an adulterous partner. Where it becomes sin is when you accept and even becomes an enabler in the sinful act or you take to sinning in your bid to change your adulterous spouse. Also, God does not change anyone who does not wish to change in the first place. God instead will turn a heart whichever way He wants, not the way you want. 2. VictorUSA:Your pastors and mogs are all the same. 3. Never said it is bad to air an opinion as what I myself did was "air" mine. |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by VictorUSA(m): 3:24pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
Our pastors are all thesame? At this point I can't say anything to you.You're entitled to your opinion.It's not a sin why did u condemn me and what brought my pastor into this? You can air your opinion elsewhere and not in my mention (mostespecially when it seeks to undermine my pastor). |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Kobojunkiee: 3:34pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
VictorUSA:Here again is my post to you. I am unsure why you instead resort to being defensive when all you needed to do was respond clearly to questions asked.... VictorUSA:1. Do you also take it to God when your wives or galfriends cheat on you?, 2. So God who hates divorce yet decrees that He allows it in case of cheating in marriage - suggesting the marriage has failed at that point - is wrong abi? You all believe God to be foolish while you are wiser? 3. Ofcourse you lot have all but replaced God with the one conveniently sold to you by your Pastors and mogs who feed you lies to soothe your egos regularly. |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by dannex4adx(m): 4:03pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
IamGreen1:Ohk. I wish you could understand. |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by VictorUSA(m): 5:01pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
Kobojunkiee (1) I'm not married and I don't have girlfriend. (2) God is not wrong and I'm not to wiser than God. Tell me where in my comment sugests I'm wiser than God. |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Kobojunkiee: 5:29pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
VictorUSA:God said divorce is allowed by Him in the case of cheating, this in Matthew 19 vs 7 - 9, while you decreed instead that, "Divorcing your 'only' husband on the grounds that he cheats will be a grave mistake". |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by VictorUSA(m): 5:40pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
Kobojunkiee:Ok (1)Is 'grave mistake' thesame as 'sin'? (2)Did I say such verse doesn't exist or did I expressly counter it? (3)Must you drag my pastor into this? |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Kobojunkiee: 5:46pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
VictorUSA:in the case of cheating, divorce is not a sin, nor a grave mistake.. |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by VictorUSA(m): 5:51pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
Kobojunkiee:I know that it's not a sin that was why I said 'grave mistake' depending on her circumstance.You didn't answer my questions. |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Kobojunkiee: 5:54pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
VictorUSA:Here's a better question, if God did not decree divorce in the case of fornication a mistake, who are you to decide it so? As for your pastors and mogs, I already responded to that, just that you seem to think that by denying my response you can make me change my mind, or something, as far a they are all concerned. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by VictorUSA(m): 5:59pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
Kobojunkiee:My friend, you are entitled to your own opinion.You are confused so rest for a while and look for your mates to argue with. |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by DEMZEE(m): 7:50pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
frozen70: FEMALES LOVE OPPORTUNITICALLY AND ARE DRIVEN BY SURVIVAL AS LONG AS HE IS TAKING CARE OF HIS MASCULINE TRADITIONAL ROLES THEN EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by nedekid: 8:09pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
SeaTrade:Hmm oga in 20 years of marriage we don see everything. Well my experience is from close friends and their marriages. Even today a very prominent man I know, just heard from my madam of one serial wife poking bad guy having an affair with that rich, goldly man's wife. This is the 5th married woman I don hear this man de fire. Do you know that 90% of men that have caught their wifes in affairs will never divulge it, but will generally settle. This is especially if news of it did not breakout in the open to hurt his ego. If it was just a one off cheating that did not become a scandal, will you then destroy a marriage with 2,3,4,5 kids? Most kids on this forum will say yes, but the matured minds will be more cautious. Try to work it out if possible. Try one more time to see if things will change. Oga, every marriage has a story, every long lasting marriage, they kept their secrets, did not bring in 3rd parties, instead worked it out at night in secret. If our parents married for over 52 years sit down and tell you what they both went through and endured to make things work, you will be shocked! |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Nobody: 8:33pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
headbasher96: Let's reverse this case; what would you advise a man who caught his wife sex chatting with another man multiple times. Please give me a straight honest answer, no beating about the bush; thanks in advance. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Nobody: 8:37pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
Na wa ooo for some comments here. Some nairaland men get double standard. The same hand una give a liability housewife, una go wan use the same hand for a wife wey dey share 50:50 bill with una. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by headbasher96(m): 8:54pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
loveymom:i already said nothing with all due respect unless u dont love your wife because if u do petty things like chat will not be a issue i said its when i catch her with a man that is when i will react they might but loose their lives |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Graxie(f): 9:43pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
Imagine if it were a man that wrote this, you will hear things like, go for DNA test, bla bla bla. Just read the hypocrisy. Leave his phone has become gospel instead of hack her phone. Oh yes, penis can wander but pussy should be locked. If this is marriage, I would have gladly opt out. Thank God for the man he gave me. I don't even deserve him. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Nobody: 9:49pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
headbasher96: You got it all wrong; sex chatting is not a petty thing for married couples. It should not happen or be condoned. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Nobody: 9:52pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
We have enabled our men so much in this part of the world that they feel it's their birthright to do certain things. Women don't put up with what a man can't tolerate, simple.. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Kobojunkiee: 10:26pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
loveymom:This sin is on both the men who beat their chests as they sin, and the women who not only enable them but invariably raise their children to believe in the normalization of this sin. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Druss(m): 8:05am On Apr 03, 2022 |
Your husband is playing a dangerous game and he is doing it because he has the illusion that it is in control. You are right. His actions are disrespectful and he should really stop as they do not help your family's reputation and togetherness. From what you have said (and I would love to hear his side), you are not to blame in anyway for his actions. Forget that stuff about preference for kissing etc. If I were to offer advice, it would be to discuss with him how much you are hurt by the actions. You are unable to force him to stop so that one is by prayer. As some has said, immediately do tests to determine your health. If he refuses to stop and even if he stops, start preparing your plan B finances at the side. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by KingGBsky(m): 8:24am On Apr 03, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Only women cheats… Men have natural traits when it comes to fancying different women. It’s been like that for generations. So you can’t call a man a cheat. Only women are classified as such because they have no right to cheat… if they intend to then they can remain single. |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Druss(m): 9:59am On Apr 03, 2022 |
KingGBsky: Looks like you are playing Devil's advocate. Men cheat. Women cheat. Playing around with English on such an important but simple matter is ridiculous. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by headbasher96(m): 10:18am On Apr 03, 2022 |
loveymom:every one is entitled to his own opinion |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Kobojunkiee: 1:44pm On Apr 03, 2022 |
KingGBsky:Men and women are born from the very same loins and women so it makes sense to conclude that share a nature. Where some claim a polygamous side to men, there is a polyandrous side to women, balancing out that claimed nature. Women have the same "right" given them by nature that men have to "cheat", so I am not certain why you somehow assume you make the law where women are concerned where nature has of her own deemed them both capable of expressing the same traits. |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Kobojunkiee: 1:46pm On Apr 03, 2022 |
headbasher96:This isn't a matter of opinion since even the courts have ruled in favor of divorce just on evidence that is these sex chats. |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by KingGBsky(m): 2:10pm On Apr 03, 2022 |
Kobojunkiee: Of course women are capable of cheating. They do it so well all together but not when it comes to marriage. A woman that cheats in marriage should end the union even before the husband finds out. |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by KingGBsky(m): 2:12pm On Apr 03, 2022 |
Druss: No man cheats… Cheats on who? Who is marrying who? Why aren’t women concerned if a wealthy man has many concubines? |
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Kobojunkiee: 2:13pm On Apr 03, 2022 |
KingGBsky:Does a man who cheats in marriage end the union even after he has been found out? |
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