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Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by Remman(m): 7:38pm On Apr 18, 2022
echomanji:
I have a wife and a 3Yr old baby. My wife is my issue tho.

1) she has low sex drive of which i've learnt to live wit without cheating on her.

2) she is overjealous to the extent of calling any of my friends that demands too much of my attention to backoff, most especially the female friends.

3) gets angry so easily and when she does, she doesnt even talk to me for days, nt even greeting. Even when she is at fault. I'll be the one begging. She only asks me for money to cook and that is all.

I'm tired of this to be honest and i'm considering calling it quits. I love her with all my heart bt this marriage is torment 4 me. I'm getting fed up wit the whole thing. I've tried severally to talk sense into her all to no avail.

Need advice pls.....
how much is seun paying you to be coming up with fake stories to drive ads impressions? Talk truth...!
Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by Glowqueen3(f): 7:39pm On Apr 18, 2022
[quote author=DavSagacity post=112049832]Pls look for an elderly person she respects alot like her Parents or Pastor or mentor and explain things to them . Let them know how much you love her and u want your marriage to be peaceful without any form of malice, rancor , or incessant disagreement. Don't let it look like you came to report her, but rather for them to help you talk to her to forgive u if there's anything you have done in the past that is still hurtful to her that is making her to behave the way she's doing at the moment. I believe she'll listen to them .
Concerning her low sex drive, assist her with house chores when u can. Women don't respond well to sex when they are stressed with house chores and taking care of the baby. What are the things that makes her happy that u have stopped doing. ?? Look inward and make amend. Also don't just dive into sex. pre-intimacy is very essential. When I got married, my wife had to tell me that I should take it easy. So I had to learn pre-intimacy to prepare both of us for enjoyable love making and not one person enjoying the act. So bro, she needs pre-intimacy .
As long as there's no form of any physical assault, I believe things can be amended and your home will be peaceful and joyous again.
This is the best advice you need
Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by Acidosis(m): 7:39pm On Apr 18, 2022
Tundellinium:


How can he fix someone's attitude towards him.

By changing his reaction to someone's attitude towards him.

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Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by Maobichek: 7:39pm On Apr 18, 2022
Acidosis:



#3 is your main problem. That aspect of begging her all the time, pleading with her to talk to you or even love you, is your problem. Fix it.

Take the mantle of leadership in your home and put her in her rightful place -- a wife.

I don't encourage any man to be a simp and i will encourage all simps to do away with being simp.

I got uncomfortable at the 3rd paragraph, he should ensure that his marriage is ok but not begging her even when she is at fault.

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Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by ALABACONNECT(m): 7:39pm On Apr 18, 2022
We live in a mad world honestly. How do married people who dated for quite a while before finally getting married still get to this only to come online to take advice from mostly single people or people who haven't seen the walls of a stable relationship?
Nna eh. Ikegwuru

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Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by virginchaser(m): 7:41pm On Apr 18, 2022
echomanji:
I have a wife and a 3Yr old baby. My wife is my issue tho.

1) she has low sex drive of which i've learnt to live wit without cheating on her.

2) she is overjealous to the extent of calling any of my friends that demands too much of my attention to backoff, most especially the female friends.

3) gets angry so easily and when she does, she doesnt even talk to me for days, nt even greeting. Even when she is at fault. I'll be the one begging. She only asks me for money to cook and that is all.

I'm tired of this to be honest and i'm considering calling it quits. I love her with all my heart bt this marriage is torment 4 me. I'm getting fed up wit the whole thing. I've tried severally to talk sense into her all to no avail.

Need advice pls.....

Young man it's not going to get better. The major question is do you have better person in mind? The risk is getting married to another worse lady. Decision lies in you.
Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by babtoundey(m): 7:42pm On Apr 18, 2022
What is it with Nairaland frontpage and sex today!
Everywhere, sex, sex, sex ... Se ogun la'ye ni?
Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by omoadeleye(m): 7:42pm On Apr 18, 2022
echomanji:
I have a wife and a 3Yr old baby. My wife is my issue tho.

1) she has low sex drive of which i've learnt to live wit without cheating on her.

2) she is overjealous to the extent of calling any of my friends that demands too much of my attention to backoff, most especially the female friends.

3) gets angry so easily and when she does, she doesnt even talk to me for days, nt even greeting. Even when she is at fault. I'll be the one begging. She only asks me for money to cook and that is all.

I'm tired of this to be honest and i'm considering calling it quits. I love her with all my heart bt this marriage is torment 4 me. I'm getting fed up wit the whole thing. I've tried severally to talk sense into her all to no avail.

Need advice pls.....



If it's affecting your mental health, walk out of it, if you later found peace of mind without her, you did the right thing

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Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by rickleye: 7:42pm On Apr 18, 2022
echomanji:
I have a wife and a 3Yr old baby. My wife is my issue tho.

1) she has low sex drive of which i've learnt to live wit without cheating on her.

2) she is overjealous to the extent of calling any of my friends that demands too much of my attention to backoff, most especially the female friends.

3) gets angry so easily and when she does, she doesnt even talk to me for days, nt even greeting. Even when she is at fault. I'll be the one begging. She only asks me for money to cook and that is all.

I'm tired of this to be honest and i'm considering calling it quits. I love her with all my heart bt this marriage is torment 4 me. I'm getting fed up wit the whole thing. I've tried severally to talk sense into her all to no avail.

Need advice pls.....

Your side of the story is low sex drive
What is her side of the story - Do you have a hyper or overactive sex appetite ?

These are your options
1. You sit her down and talk to her not “ at “ her.
Listen sex is an important part of a marriage to me. I would like us to “do the nasty “3 times a week. I find that I am drawn to other women and porn to satisfy my urge. What do you say ?
If she says she doesn’t care then your other
2 option might be to leave the marriage.

I am weary about you leaving the marriage because you have only mentioned “ low sex drive” as her issue . You haven’t mentioned any other perceived flaw , so how do you know the grass is greener on the other side ( with another woman , who may not love your child as your own and comes with her own baggage)

If your interested I’ll recommend 2 items for you to read together and watch. I’ll recommend the DVD.
https://www.amazon.ca/Laugh-Your-Way-Better-Marriage/dp/1416558799/ref=asc_df_1416558799/?tag=googlemobshop-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=292962612622&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=11152984564419500361&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1002604&hvtargid=pla-350146903655&psc=1

GoodLuck !

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Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by Majesty33(m): 7:43pm On Apr 18, 2022
gasparpisciotta:
Echomanji, create regular romantic times between you and your wife, no be only when you won gbensh you go dey do lovey lovey!

The issue of anger can be handled by you, giving up is not an option, except you wan make another man raise your daughter.

Her jealousy could be as a result of the way you dey relate with her when you wan go hangout.
Tell her where you dey go and who you dey with, e no dey hurt.

But no be everything about your dealings you go tell your wife to avoid see finish.

Lastly, if she no get job, find her one.

Peace
This aspects of telling a woman about all my dealings is what I can't handle. Pls can u help out. My elder misbehaves to me whenever she likes and have no regard for me.
Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by MrPADDY(m): 7:44pm On Apr 18, 2022
Udemzy05:


Very funny post, some will say it's because she just had a baby and all that.

This is a big lie,it's either she was pretending or OP saw the signs and ignored it or he's one of those that says I pray to God and he said you're the one,and gbam marriage happened.
Wait until you hear op's wife's side of the story.
Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by Wande22(m): 7:45pm On Apr 18, 2022
gasparpisciotta:
Echomanji, create regular romantic times between you and your wife, no be only when you won gbensh you go dey do lovey lovey!

The issue of anger can be handled by you, giving up is not an option, except you wan make another man raise your daughter.

Her jealousy could be as a result of the way you dey relate with her when you wan go hangout.
Tell her where you dey go and who you dey with, e no dey hurt.

But no be everything about your dealings you go tell your wife to avoid see finish.

Lastly, if she no get job, find her one.

Peace
Wa gbayi bro
Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by Mystery9(m): 7:45pm On Apr 18, 2022
This reasons are not enough to lead to divorce.
Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by maticar: 7:46pm On Apr 18, 2022
echomanji:
its hard. I love her.
Don't listen to the clown above
Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by Enwhen(m): 7:46pm On Apr 18, 2022
echomanji:
I have a wife and a 3Yr old baby. My wife is my issue tho.

1) she has low sex drive of which i've learnt to live wit without cheating on her.

2) she is overjealous to the extent of calling any of my friends that demands too much of my attention to backoff, most especially the female friends.

3) gets angry so easily and when she does, she doesnt even talk to me for days, nt even greeting. Even when she is at fault. I'll be the one begging. She only asks me for money to cook and that is all.

I'm tired of this to be honest and i'm considering calling it quits. I love her with all my heart bt this marriage is torment 4 me. I'm getting fed up wit the whole thing. I've tried severally to talk sense into her all to no avail.

Need advice pls.....


You need to show her love , she has lo e trust in you , what u need to do , go very close to her , take her out , introduce her to anybody .....flex with her , give her enough water melon to burst her sex drive , take her to dubai...pls show her love to quench the bitterness in her.
Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by Bmuhd4smile: 7:47pm On Apr 18, 2022
jesmond3945:
lol. She is using the classic manipulation and narcissism used by women to exert control in the home.
1. She doesn't have any low sex drive. She wants to have sex in her own terms.
2. Is she ready to fill the attention gap? If you check she also has men she chats with who give her attention but for you no go area. Don't let her alienate those people from you because they might be your lifesaver tommorow.
3. Don't beg her again and you would not die. Be a man. Fight her silent treatment with harsher silent treatment. If she doesn't talk to you, leave the house and go meet people who will talk to you or rather channel your attention to your daughter.
Don't quit your marriage. Don't show physical strength or emotions rather use your brain to win the battle. Show stoicism.

Massive respect...
She doesn't have low sex drive... she is just manipulative and love to have sex on her own terns. She might even like pornography self. Na so them they do
Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by Parizz: 7:51pm On Apr 18, 2022
DispatcherLagos:
To think I had wanted to put the engagement ring on my girlfriend's finger this Easter before I started seeing various threads against marriage......Omo Na postpone till further notice. I can't come and kill my happiness
have you fùcked her pussy?

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Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by Karemarealty288(m): 7:51pm On Apr 18, 2022
Get a side chicken..

Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by gerrisson(m): 7:51pm On Apr 18, 2022
Leave. Life is too short to endure a loveless marriage.
echomanji:
I have a wife and a 3Yr old baby. My wife is my issue tho.

1) she has low sex drive of which i've learnt to live wit without cheating on her.

2) she is overjealous to the extent of calling any of my friends that demands too much of my attention to backoff, most especially the female friends.

3) gets angry so easily and when she does, she doesnt even talk to me for days, nt even greeting. Even when she is at fault. I'll be the one begging. She only asks me for money to cook and that is all.

I'm tired of this to be honest and i'm considering calling it quits. I love her with all my heart bt this marriage is torment 4 me. I'm getting fed up wit the whole thing. I've tried severally to talk sense into her all to no avail.

Need advice pls.....
Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by Jeferious: 7:52pm On Apr 18, 2022
cyphher:
You might be killing your happiness by not putting that ring on her finger. If she is right for you, pls go for it. You are not other people, and thier respective situations aren't yours either

What do you mean by him killing his own happiness by not putting a ring on the lady's finger? Is his happiness absolutely dependent on marriage with the lady? Sorry to ask, but are you mad? What kind of generation is this kwanu that I found myself in? Even animals now have better reasoning than some human beings.

I no blame you. Na the person wey carry im gist come for market na im I blame
Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by Parizz: 7:54pm On Apr 18, 2022
MadamVanessa:
shocked








Her low sex drive and her inability to apologized when she's at fault can be seen as issue here, but her being over jealous is not an issue, every loving wife will do the same including me.

If she will agree to take Spanish fly so to improve her sex life, I advise you get her the drugs but make sure that your dick is good enough to withstand whatever will be coming and also look carefully if her clit is still intact or it was cut off.



i would like to suck your pussy
Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by toujurs: 7:59pm On Apr 18, 2022
Till now i just haven't seen that lady, that i will love to get married to, i guess it's a mission impossible. Like i even approach ladies every where in the mall, open market, church, leisure centre. to put in more efforts. But all my efforts has always landed me as a Bleep boy. Due to taste. It seem like a mission impossible. I will just settle with the best. Its like its imo state girls that full this lagos. Every where imo state girls. Still single at 32 years. sad
Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by enonche85(m): 7:59pm On Apr 18, 2022
echomanji:
its hard. I love her.

Involve family members, if no change then leave.
Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by Proudlyomonna: 8:00pm On Apr 18, 2022
DispatcherLagos:
To think I had wanted to put the engagement ring on my girlfriend's finger this Easter before I started seeing various threads against marriage......Omo Na postpone till further notice. I can't come and kill my happiness

If you keep posting it you might never get married sad
I am wedding my baby girl this August.
After tasting many women I came to a conclusion that no other woman can give me bj and cow girl style like my baby girl,so I am settling for her full time.
Na the mumu op be the cause of him problem.
My woman knows I hate stress and senseless confrontations with passion.
I stay away from anything and anyone that will stress me like a plague,if she stress me na to leave house for her go my house for another state,stay there with another sweet potato grin
The op should stop behaving like a slowpoke and take charge of his home.
Marry ooo e dey necessary but marry with sense��.

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Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by Tundellinium(m): 8:02pm On Apr 18, 2022
Golden111:
Brethren! don't always be in an hurry to conclude everyone is a kid like you.

What's the essence of keeping female friends when his wife is not comfortable with it?

And will he be comfortable with his wife keeping male friends?

Common man, I can have female friends. That doesn't mean I'm flirting with them. So because I'm married now, I shouldn't have female friends, what sort of rubbish is that?

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Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by Tundellinium(m): 8:04pm On Apr 18, 2022
Acidosis:


By changing his reaction to someone's attitude towards him.

Common, think bro. Both parties have their attitude to work on.
Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by tonididdy(m): 8:04pm On Apr 18, 2022
DispatcherLagos:
To think I had wanted to put the engagement ring on my girlfriend's finger this Easter before I started seeing various threads against marriage......Omo Na postpone till further notice. I can't come and kill my happiness
Comrade fear not... grin

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Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by walewriter: 8:05pm On Apr 18, 2022
Kriss216:

LOVE is just a word used by two fools to deceive themselves.

She doesn't talk to you only to ask money for food and give her

That's where your problem lies. Learn to fight fire with fire or leave the marriage. No woman is worth your peace of mind.

Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by Sniper04(m): 8:07pm On Apr 18, 2022
echomanji:
I have a wife and a 3Yr old baby. My wife is my issue tho.

1) she has low sex drive of which i've learnt to live wit without cheating on her.

2) she is overjealous to the extent of calling any of my friends that demands too much of my attention to backoff, most especially the female friends.

3) gets angry so easily and when she does, she doesnt even talk to me for days, nt even greeting. Even when she is at fault. I'll be the one begging. She only asks me for money to cook and that is all.

I'm tired of this to be honest and i'm considering calling it quits. I love her with all my heart bt this marriage is torment 4 me. I'm getting fed up wit the whole thing. I've tried severally to talk sense into her all to no avail.

Need advice pls.....
Divorce her bro, she's not serious, let her pay for this, she Will come beg you herself if she's truly serious
Re: I'm Getting Tired Of This Marriage! by Nobody: 8:07pm On Apr 18, 2022
DispatcherLagos:


To think I "stylishly" interviewed some married men on how they are fairing in their marriages....... you will not believe that over 70% of them wish they are single. And the remaining 30% wish they married someone else
So this either means that men don’t know how to pick a wife, Nigerian women are all bad or men are never satisfied.

I think we know what the answer is.

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