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KiNg0G:
Good day all

My girlfriend invited me to her cousins birthday party that held yesterday, at first I didn't really want to go but she kept on insisting few days ago.. when she noticed I might not come, she went ahead to invite a buddie of mine who we do things together 24/7 so that guy had to press me on yesterday afternoon.

We were three who went, getting there it was filled up with lots of guys and girls... since we were invitees from her, we just sat down observing the crowd untill a girl came to bring us drinks filled our table With meat sauce..but where my girl now? she's no where to be found.. untill I saw her from afar sitting with her cousins and some other people. I wanted to go meet her, instead I called her on the phone to look at my direction where I was, she said she knew, oya come say hi.. she was reluctant to stand up to come meet me.

We ate and drank then stood up 30mins later and left the party ground, according to my guys, they said she might have some other guys in the crowd that's bankrolling her, hence the ignoring....but why did she still insist I come?

There are different ways to look at it; you may not be the only guy and she had to spend her time with more ‘important’ guys she’s dating at the party, but if that’s the case then why would she invite you to begin with?

Second possibility is that she may have been offended by something you did (like initially refusing to attend) so she used that opportunity to do small shakara for you and mess your mind up as pay back. Women play these mind games sometimes because they are not straight forward beings who can just tell you directly when you upset them. I too have been invited to a party by a girl I was toasting only for her to act as if she barely knew me at the party.

It’s also possible that there were just too many important people in her life at the party (friends and family) that she hasn't seen in a long time. You can’t truly expect anyone’s full attention at a party especially when they are the ones hosting it because they have to attend to too many people at once.

Of course it could be a combination of all the above listed factors in varying degrees. I however refuse to believe this girls didn’t even come over to say hi to you AT ALL. .

Only way you can know for sure is to talk to her about it and let her know you were offended by it. She will either apologize and give reason or she will act defensive. If it’s the latter then that’s a red flag to me.

KiNg0G:
Good day all

My girlfriend invited me to her cousins birthday party that held yesterday, at first I didn't really want to go but she kept on insisting few days ago.. when she noticed I might not come, she went ahead to invite a buddie of mine who we do things together 24/7 so that guy had to press me on yesterday afternoon.

We were three who went, getting there it was filled up with lots of guys and girls... since we were invitees from her, we just sat down observing the crowd untill a girl came to bring us drinks filled our table With meat sauce..but where my girl now? she's no where to be found.. untill I saw her from afar sitting with her cousins and some other people. I wanted to go meet her, instead I called her on the phone to look at my direction where I was, she said she knew, oya come say hi.. she was reluctant to stand up to come meet me.

We ate and drank then stood up 30mins later and left the party ground, according to my guys, they said she might have some other guys in the crowd that's bankrolling her, hence the ignoring....but why did she still insist I come?

Alot of things played out here but your pride will not allow u understand the scent on the air...you have your rights to flare up and be mad but trust me this matter no reach blocking..inasmuch she didn't do well trust me, there are 70% possibility that she didn't come to u cos of her father and 20% possibility that other boyfriends were there and 10% possibility that she is mad at u for refusing to come when she asked u to but agreed when your guys told u..BRO U DIDN'T BREAK HER WING AS YOU ARE FORMING..na ur type dey always form say dem sabi how to deal with naija girls while at the same time ,,na u dey get played all the time...i can never vouch to any girl but in this case u for verified first weda her Popman an dat kinda dad wey no dey give their daughter chance...most gilrs are virgin look like alike whenever they are at home

Moreover, you think u are confuse of how a smallie as u claim Bleep u up like ..then why did u run to Nairaland to seek advice if ur BRAND no dey Cap? aboy bend down and smell the scent ..u are heartbroken and if by mistake she no call u within 1week..u will unblock her and use style call her..

she actually broke ur ego and she knows ur type wella but u no know..if she is in love with as u claim..my niggi..u are inlove wt her much more d only difference be say..some of ur guy fit no gbadu her statue hence d reason ur forming rubbish..finally aboy..u are capping and its not good for Hoodboiz..so investigate the matter after all na ur babe no b hoe..if am wrong den u deal wt her..as for now na ur ego dey act and u r giving her power...i might sound harsh but i have been in ur shoe and ur age..i bleeped up wt my... but i later retrace..

if she dey flaunt u more dan u do her....ur days are numbered in her world Know this and know Peace naija girls no fit loose all..these scenario na lesson one..keep forming cap man while u loose appetite to ea cos of one smallie wey u don break her wing or did she?

wumi2017:
Hahaha, maybe na only you dey view yourself for her status...you never heard of """who can view her status""

You go like vawulence

kizbad:
Alot of things played out here but your pride will not allow u understand the scent on the air...you have your rights to flare up and be mad but trust me this matter no reach blocking..inasmuch she didn't do well trust me, there are 70% possibility that she didn't come to u cos of her father and 20% possibility that other boyfriends were there and 10% possibility that she is mad at u for refusing to come when she asked u to but agreed when your guys told u..BRO U DIDN'T BREAK HER WING AS YOU ARE FORMING..na ur type dey always form say dem sabi how to deal with naija girls while at the same time ,,na u dey get played all the time...i can never vouch to any girl but in this case u for verified first weda her Popman an dat kinda dad wey no dey give their daughter chance...most gilrs are virgin look like alike whenever they are at home

Moreover, you think u are confuse of how a smallie as u claim Bleep u up like ..then why did u run to Nairaland to seek advice if ur BRAND no dey Cap? aboy bend down and smell the scent ..u are heartbroken and if by mistake she no call u within 1week..u will unblock her and use style call her..

she actually broke ur ego and she knows ur type wella but u no know..if she is in love with as u claim..my niggi..u are inlove wt her much more d only difference be say..some of ur guy fit no gbadu her statue hence d reason ur forming rubbish..finally aboy..u are capping and its not good for Hoodboiz..so investigate the matter after all na ur babe no b hoe..if am wrong den u deal wt her..as for now na ur ego dey act and u r giving her power...i might sound harsh but i have been in ur shoe and ur age..i bleeped up wt my... but i later retrace..

if she dey flaunt u more dan u do her....ur days are numbered in her world Know this and know Peace naija girls no fit loose all..these scenario na lesson one..keep forming cap man while u loose appetite to ea cos of one smallie wey u don break her wing or did she?

You are right. See my post above yours. All 3 scenarios you listed are possible but my bet is that she was mad at him for initially refusing to attend. If it was because of her father or other guys then she would have never invited him to begin with.

Though her actions no make sense but you sef no do well,your No should have been No.

You no get levels abeg.

Grown peeps and their children tantrums. Choking on red pill but still coming to nag on woman matter.

Tueh!!

There is no issue here. She invited you to her family event, and you expect her to stick around you. you sound like a jealous type. You are only his boyfriend, not a fiance so you r not expected to be introduced to his family yet. Propose to her today and everything will change. As a guy wey I be, I can't introduce a girlfriend to my family members in a family event. Stick someone, have some drinks, and wait for me when I am ready to leave...watch from distance, while I give you full gist later

Nonexisting:
according to my guys, they said she might have some other guys in the crowd that's bankrolling her, hence the ignoring....
Your guys already gave you the answer to your question, what else do you want?.

I tire ooo, if to say she no ask am to come na different thing entirely,but she beg you to come you say no,later you come show cos your guy press you to come and you expect make she dey smile and jump over you cos you be her Boyfriend,she no get right to vex for you abi?

KiNg0G:
e fit be bros, but some of her friends get my digit dey repost me and her pics anyhow.

so I nor sure..say na only me dey view am

Because of reposting on WhatsApp status?? What if she blocks her cliqs from viewing the status before Posting your pics

Kingpele:
Oga incase you will read this ,I want u to know that the girl is well groomed young lady who is ashame of admitting before her people that she is living in fornication with a man ,because that is what she will be doing if she had associated with you publicly before her relatives..it only a shameless girl from a sick home will do otherwise in this circumstance.i didn't know any of my wife relatives all the years we dated ,I wasn't invited in any thing they do but immediately I propose marriage and started to make plans for marrying her ,boom I was specially invited by her parents and I slept in thier house but in different room..right now am a star boy in that family, they loved me very much and supported me financially during our wedding in 2011.so it no big deal except you don't value decency

you mean there no decency in saying hi to someone she invited?
woman go use ur head tire..
u be baby adult

SlyfoxxjReturns:
You are right. See my post above yours. All 3 scenarios you listed are possible but my bet is that she was mad at him for initially refusing to attend. If it was because of her father or other guys then she would have never invited him to begin with.

exactly..he seems to be short tempered ..the reason why he blocked her there..

Deputy boyfriend

Toma2:
Because of reposting on WhatsApp status?? What if she blocks her cliqs from viewing the status before Posting your pics

I don't post people on WhatsApp cos it means nothing

You still dey ask question? It is obvious she isn't proud of you.

In case you don't know, women are the most confused people on Earth. She just messed the only opportunity she should have used to introduce you to her friends and family.

Kick her ass and move on. Ignore any apology from her no matter what the reason May be.

The girl is bad.

KiNg0G:
Good day all

My girlfriend invited me to her cousins birthday party that held yesterday, at first I didn't really want to go but she kept on insisting few days ago.. when she noticed I might not come, she went ahead to invite a buddie of mine who we do things together 24/7 so that guy had to press me on yesterday afternoon.

We were three who went, getting there it was filled up with lots of guys and girls... since we were invitees from her, we just sat down observing the crowd untill a girl came to bring us drinks filled our table With meat sauce..but where my girl now? she's no where to be found.. untill I saw her from afar sitting with her cousins and some other people. I wanted to go meet her, instead I called her on the phone to look at my direction where I was, she said she knew, oya come say hi.. she was reluctant to stand up to come meet me.

We ate and drank then stood up 30mins later and left the party ground, according to my guys, they said she might have some other guys in the crowd that's bankrolling her, hence the ignoring....but why did she still insist I come?

KiNg0G:
Good day all

My girlfriend invited me to her cousins birthday party that held yesterday, at first I didn't really want to go but she kept on insisting few days ago.. when she noticed I might not come, she went ahead to invite a buddie of mine who we do things together 24/7 so that guy had to press me on yesterday afternoon.

We were three who went, getting there it was filled up with lots of guys and girls... since we were invitees from her, we just sat down observing the crowd untill a girl came to bring us drinks filled our table With meat sauce..but where my girl now? she's no where to be found.. untill I saw her from afar sitting with her cousins and some other people. I wanted to go meet her, instead I called her on the phone to look at my direction where I was, she said she knew, oya come say hi.. she was reluctant to stand up to come meet me.

We ate and drank then stood up 30mins later and left the party ground, according to my guys, they said she might have some other guys in the crowd that's bankrolling her, hence the ignoring....but why did she still insist I come?

She is not proud of you.

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KiNg0G:
no man she just sat there, but she disrespected my friends and most especially I for making us look like mumu who just came to chop.
the celebrant don't even know us

Una for reject d food and drink as well since she didn't came to greet una

She no try at all inviting you guys all the way to a birthday party just to snub you guys well if she come around just hear her out and interrogate her seriously cus she is some how shy of you in the pubic and all over you in the private that is not love but greed, as a man you just have to observe and make things clear to her before you invest more to her life(emotionally financially spiritual) etc but come to think of it if she can to dat to u guys in pubic don't to think she might be hiding so many things from you.

wumi2017:
Hahaha, maybe na only you dey view yourself for her status...you never heard of """who can view her status""

pro! U sabi the thing abi. Badt girl

KiNg0G:
i blocked her number instantly... she called my friend who later explained the situation to her.
God knows she needs 2 bouncers to follow her come my house

according to her she said her dad was around, she didn't know how to introduce me to him... because she never planned him to be there.
yes they were some matured men in their table, but I don't believe thats the only reason

Baba this thing wey she talk na nonsense... This girl don whyne you finish.. omo see washing.

humberjade:
Your own better.

It is either she was angry, or she had someone more strategically important...so until you confirm which is the case, hang in there.

Back in my Uni days, my girlfriend asked that I follow her to a friend's birthday party, I told her I was not interested...I could see the disappointment on her face as she left for the event. Feeling bad about the whole thing, I dressed up and followed her, before I could get to the junction, she had left. I ran into a friend and we chatted away for like 30mins.

On getting to a party around 8pm, she was no where to be found, and since I was not too well acquainted with those present, I went upstairs and stood by the balcony to try and locate her instead of looking lost downstairs.

Lo and behold, I just saw a guy pulling her to the front of the party...it started with casual dance, but when the DJ switched to 'Turn me on' by Kelvin Little...hmm, this babe started twerking; digging the guy like grinder. After the display in the open, the guy sat down at a corner and she sat on his lap, still grinding and giggling away.

I said to myself, "I have seen enough". Passed through the party furiously ...I think someone told her I just left, and she came after me, knelt down pleading on the road (she knew I saw it all), I didn't say a word and just left to clear my head.

On getting home, I saw neighbours (students and indigenes alike) surrounding her in my room, whilst crying. They started pleading. I was so embarrassed and didn't take time to hug her. Everyone laughed and left.

I forgave her, but never respected, loved and trusted her again. I had bigger plans for us, but that singular act ruined it. I stayed with her for 6 more months until OBJ era 8 months ASUU strike hit. It was a perfect excuse to break things up.

Do you know the lesson of your story?
Men are extremely jealous and territorial.

KiNg0G:
i blocked her number instantly... she called my friend who later explained the situation to her.
God knows she needs 2 bouncers to follow her come my house

according to her she said her dad was around, she didn't know how to introduce me to him... because she never planned him to be there.
yes they were some matured men in their table, but I don't believe thats the only reason






I understand bro....but you see I don't think it's an issue of her not wanting to show me off, like shes ashamed of me or something.

She nor fine pass me, this girl don use gragra take know all my own friends finish, same way I knew some of hers.. everywhere I am, she always wants to be there .. hence the reason she had to tell my buddie... cus she know that guy go pull me through for the birthday... because I nor dey too much like crowd....but this scenario when play yesterday na I not understand.

Weda the men when dey with me too rough! I nor know

She’s lying. She invited another boyfriend of hers to that same party.
Next time, give her same treatment.

Don't fret she's not with anybody, she's just a good girl that wants you around her all the time but also Godly. I'm sure she will inform her cousins after you guys left

KiNg0G:
yes nw

this na girl when dey flaunt me anyhow for her status.

one sure bobo dey that ground, when be chairman..I observe.

I nor believe that her papa bull crap

You blocked your girlfriend's number because she didn't come to greet you immediately you came for a party?

Na every fvck up una dey table? Bro you go table am tire ooh.

She might have planned to meet you guys later, only for you guys to eat finish and vamoose.

KiNg0G:
Good day all

My girlfriend invited me to her cousins birthday party that held yesterday, at first I didn't really want to go but she kept on insisting few days ago.. when she noticed I might not come, she went ahead to invite a buddie of mine who we do things together 24/7 so that guy had to press me on yesterday afternoon.

We were three who went, getting there it was filled up with lots of guys and girls... since we were invitees from her, we just sat down observing the crowd untill a girl came to bring us drinks filled our table With meat sauce..but where my girl now? she's no where to be found.. untill I saw her from afar sitting with her cousins and some other people. I wanted to go meet her, instead I called her on the phone to look at my direction where I was, she said she knew, oya come say hi.. she was reluctant to stand up to come meet me.

We ate and drank then stood up 30mins later and left the party ground, according to my guys, they said she might have some other guys in the crowd that's bankrolling her, hence the ignoring....but why did she still insist I come?

To full fill your disgrace if you like if she come with one doggie excuse Rob that ur coconut head make you forgive her na you know the one she go do next na center of water she go leave you

KiNg0G:
yes nw

this na girl when dey flaunt me anyhow for her status.

one sure bobo dey that ground, when be chairman..I observe.

Ior believe that her papa bull crap

women mostly can lie useless lie where no sweet in such cases,its a social environment you can greet anybody aslong as no kissing in public,her dad suppose understand, so I no see reason why she no even acknowledged your present, she's a damn liar play your cards well give her "pick two"

KiNg0G:
Good day all

My girlfriend invited me to her cousins birthday party that held yesterday, at first I didn't really want to go but she kept on insisting few days ago.. when she noticed I might not come, she went ahead to invite a buddie of mine who we do things together 24/7 so that guy had to press me on yesterday afternoon.

We were three who went, getting there it was filled up with lots of guys and girls... since we were invitees from her, we just sat down observing the crowd untill a girl came to bring us drinks filled our table With meat sauce..but where my girl now? she's no where to be found.. untill I saw her from afar sitting with her cousins and some other people. I wanted to go meet her, instead I called her on the phone to look at my direction where I was, she said she knew, oya come say hi.. she was reluctant to stand up to come meet me.

We ate and drank then stood up 30mins later and left the party ground, according to my guys, they said she might have some other guys in the crowd that's bankrolling her, hence the ignoring....but why did she still insist I come?

leave under age girls alone

KiNg0G:
Good day all

My girlfriend invited me to her cousins birthday party that held yesterday, at first I didn't really want to go but she kept on insisting few days ago.. when she noticed I might not come, she went ahead to invite a buddie of mine who we do things together 24/7 so that guy had to press me on yesterday afternoon.

We were three who went, getting there it was filled up with lots of guys and girls... since we were invitees from her, we just sat down observing the crowd untill a girl came to bring us drinks filled our table With meat sauce..but where my girl now? she's no where to be found.. untill I saw her from afar sitting with her cousins and some other people. I wanted to go meet her, instead I called her on the phone to look at my direction where I was, she said she knew, oya come say hi.. she was reluctant to stand up to come meet me.

We ate and drank then stood up 30mins later and left the party ground, according to my guys, they said she might have some other guys in the crowd that's bankrolling her, hence the ignoring....but why did she still insist I come?

I know how the dating scene is today but y'all (male & female) should try to analyze situations outside he/she is cheating.

If it is her cousin's birthday then it is not far fetched that her uncle/aunt invited his/her brother (who is her father).

If her father is at the party and she is not old/independent enough to have a boyfriend (according to her parents) or they expect husband straight, she would leave you hanging there.

I do not believe that she would expect her other boyfriends/sugar daddies and go the length she did to make you come.

More likely that she wanted to show you off to her cousins and unfortunately, her father showed up.

Also, why would she need a man/men to bankroll her cousin's birthday

How sure are you that she wasn't the one directing all the goodies to your table at the back end?

Instead of you to discuss your grievances with her, you have blocked her and perhaps the relationship cools off and you both move on to the next.

It is well.