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That taking a loan to date woman - that is high level idiocy.

luscioustrish:
She likes you and wants you to do better.
I don’t see where the problem is
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Was thinking I’d see something in your write up asking for a vacancy, your qualifications, location and the rest which should be your priority now.

The op has 2 major problems.

1, is the house bt he's working towards it since he just changed city or state.

2. This is the bigger problem. why is a girl he met in march all over him like juju.

AllKnowing:
Your Babe is giving you the “appropriate” energy, quite frankly. However, it is your prerogative to decide how to respond. You can allow Nairalanders to come give you the usual line - “Don’t allow a vaginarian pressure you!”

Or you could try to put in the work, for 3 months, and see if you’ll find opportunities to raise 150k for rent. We both know you want an apartment to yourself. Why does anyone have to “pressure” you to go get something you badly want?

Right energy bt questionable energy also. Thsts his problem. Zanzibar1 I hope I'm correct here?

Op doesn't want to go from frying pan to fire because if awoof wey fit run belle

Me I think we should ask u now, do u really want to get a house now?
Definitely not sure.
So if it's a job u want first fine n good and you know after the job the first project is a house ....sit her down n tell her this.
But remember if she agrees ur word is ur bond.
Not wen the money comes u rember u HV some ppl u want to impress.

Zanzibar1:
I don't know what exactly she does for a living although she said she sells women hairs, bags and shoes.

Abeg, how many she dey sell in a day gan gan? lmao

Zanzibar1:
I have come here to raise this issue because i believe someone must have passed through what i am going through at the moment.

There is this Lady i met in March, she is super classy and has all the curves and looks like a model. What brought us together was just a friendly convo and a friendly tease that i admire her nails and since then she has been all over me.
She asked me if i lived alone and i told her i currently stay with a friend because i just relocated to the city based on job hunting levels. She asked what my plan was and i told her that i would like to first get an apartment while i sort out other things.

I don't know what exactly she does for a living although she said she sells women hairs, bags and shoes. I have actually seen her post them on her whatsapp. What surprise me the most was that she doesn't deny me access to her phone. This made me to loosen my grip a bit regarding my phone privacy ... Then one day, she saw a loan app message requesting me to pay my outstanding debt, she asked me how come and i told her the truth that i was seriously broke and i wanted to take her out. I wanted the two of us to go swim together and have fun. And that was why i took the loan. She frowned and asked why i was stressing myself to impress her .
She transfered some money to me to offset the debt. it all happened like juju. i am still trying to wrap my head around that.

I am trying my best to fit in with her but something is really off somewhere. I don't want to assume i know entirely what she does for a living but then, i have grown to really admire her. I wouldn't want to call it love but all my thoughts are always about her nowadays. Like 4 days ago i questioned her about some friends of hers i saw on her icloud and since then she has been giving me tough time.

Lately, she told me point blank that if i cant get my own apartment, she'll have to stop dating me. she said she is ready to even pay part of the money involved but a nigga got nothing to afford even a face me and face you room. I have tried my best to explain to her how i am even surviving and how broke i am to get a 150k self con. She keeps saying i am going to get a job and ill be fine, that i am a man and i will certainly raise the money if she as a lady can raise part of it.

I dont know why she believes so much in that tho cuz i have been very opened to her. My mind has been filled up and i dont have anyone to share it with thats why i brought it here. i have my doubts about her but i love her.

Please pardon any typos, i am writing this straight from my heart

Alaye,
Trust women, they can see the future. Make moves and you will be surprised with the result. She is respectfully telling you not to be a lazy man and do not think say you don get CBN,she self dey hustle.

Lastly brotherly, what is she doing ? Ih hustler dey spend money on you, na marriage she want oh, you get mind

It’s just so unfortunate how people are saying the op should go get a job bla bla like he’s not taking any step toward it just maybe he hasn’t succeed with it. And to those saying he’s lazy, how are u so sure he's lazy. It won’t suprise me if some or even most people yarning dust here are jobless and lazy but forming lord behind their keypad.

To the Op pls there are reasonable comments/advices here just pick them and move on. It’s really tough out there but bliv we will surely look back and smile of what we have become. Never give up..!!!

Focus on getting a job, that is the most important thing.

Zanzibar1:
I have come here to raise this issue because i believe someone must have passed through what i am going through at the moment.

There is this Lady i met in March, she is super classy and has all the curves and looks like a model. What brought us together was just a friendly convo and a friendly tease that i admire her nails and since then she has been all over me.
She asked me if i lived alone and i told her i currently stay with a friend because i just relocated to the city based on job hunting levels. She asked what my plan was and i told her that i would like to first get an apartment while i sort out other things.

I don't know what exactly she does for a living although she said she sells women hairs, bags and shoes. I have actually seen her post them on her whatsapp. What surprise me the most was that she doesn't deny me access to her phone. This made me to loosen my grip a bit regarding my phone privacy ... Then one day, she saw a loan app message requesting me to pay my outstanding debt, she asked me how come and i told her the truth that i was seriously broke and i wanted to take her out. I wanted the two of us to go swim together and have fun. And that was why i took the loan. She frowned and asked why i was stressing myself to impress her .
She transfered some money to me to offset the debt. it all happened like juju. i am still trying to wrap my head around that.

I am trying my best to fit in with her but something is really off somewhere. I don't want to assume i know entirely what she does for a living but then, i have grown to really admire her. I wouldn't want to call it love but all my thoughts are always about her nowadays. Like 4 days ago i questioned her about some friends of hers i saw on her icloud and since then she has been giving me tough time.

Lately, she told me point blank that if i cant get my own apartment, she'll have to stop dating me. she said she is ready to even pay part of the money involved but a nigga got nothing to afford even a face me and face you room. I have tried my best to explain to her how i am even surviving and how broke i am to get a 150k self con. She keeps saying i am going to get a job and ill be fine, that i am a man and i will certainly raise the money if she as a lady can raise part of it.

I dont know why she believes so much in that tho cuz i have been very opened to her. My mind has been filled up and i dont have anyone to share it with thats why i brought it here. i have my doubts about her but i love her.

Please pardon any typos, i am writing this straight from my heart

bro let me be frank with you; this girl might be a runs babe on lowkey but she loves you so much. she wants you to succeed and believe me you have to man up and take up responsibility. honestly, women love privacy when they're in relationships and you should know that. she wants to be able to do anything with you at home without feeling ashamed or tensed that anyone can come around. get a job bro and infact she can help you with a job. she'll gladly help you cos she sees you as husband material. when a lady is spending her energy on a man like this, it means she sees a future with you. you can get jobs in the career and jobs section here. if you lose this girl, the next one you would get might be a liability.

Too many things are wrong with this post
The first thing you mentioned about her were her curves
2. You borrowed money to take her out
3 She is willing to pay part of your rent even though you don’t have a job
4. ...
She is a runs girl even though you have not realised it but she wants to settle down with a man who is modest and trusts her.
This response is not coming from a teenager.

AllKnowing:
Your Babe is giving you the “appropriate” energy, quite frankly. However, it is your prerogative to decide how to respond. You can allow Nairalanders to come give you the usual line - “Don’t allow a vaginarian pressure you!”

Or you could try to put in the work, for 3 months, and see if you’ll find opportunities to raise 150k for rent. We both know you want an apartment to yourself. Why does anyone have to “pressure” you to go get something you badly want?

This is one of the most sensible comments I've read here in recent time.
I like the fact that it's devoid of the cynicism and jest nairalanders are notorious for.

Good man!

doggedfighter:
How is she your girl?

Your jobless self met a lady in March and you know next to nothing about her .


The next thing is to call her your girl .


And to think you relocated to come find work.

Reason you are squatting

Now you are creating threads on ' your girl '

Call your mum on phone and narrate what you are telling us here to her

And hear what she will tell you

Calm down na.

She done dey give am money naw. Why won’t she be his girl? Useless slay-king.

bmdmix14:
U took loan to take a girl out. Lol u are finish

if he borrows to pay back the loan, he is "finished completely" but if he cannot payback the loan, then he is "completely finished"

Zanzibar1:
I have come here to raise this issue because i believe someone must have passed through what i am going through at the moment.

There is this Lady i met in March, she is super classy and has all the curves and looks like a model. What brought us together was just a friendly convo and a friendly tease that i admire her nails and since then she has been all over me.
She asked me if i lived alone and i told her i currently stay with a friend because i just relocated to the city based on job hunting levels. She asked what my plan was and i told her that i would like to first get an apartment while i sort out other things.

I don't know what exactly she does for a living although she said she sells women hairs, bags and shoes. I have actually seen her post them on her whatsapp. What surprise me the most was that she doesn't deny me access to her phone. This made me to loosen my grip a bit regarding my phone privacy ... Then one day, she saw a loan app message requesting me to pay my outstanding debt, she asked me how come and i told her the truth that i was seriously broke and i wanted to take her out. I wanted the two of us to go swim together and have fun. And that was why i took the loan. She frowned and asked why i was stressing myself to impress her .
She transfered some money to me to offset the debt. it all happened like juju. i am still trying to wrap my head around that.

I am trying my best to fit in with her but something is really off somewhere. I don't want to assume i know entirely what she does for a living but then, i have grown to really admire her. I wouldn't want to call it love but all my thoughts are always about her nowadays. Like 4 days ago i questioned her about some friends of hers i saw on her icloud and since then she has been giving me tough time.

Lately, she told me point blank that if i cant get my own apartment, she'll have to stop dating me. she said she is ready to even pay part of the money involved but a nigga got nothing to afford even a face me and face you room. I have tried my best to explain to her how i am even surviving and how broke i am to get a 150k self con. She keeps saying i am going to get a job and ill be fine, that i am a man and i will certainly raise the money if she as a lady can raise part of it.

I dont know why she believes so much in that tho cuz i have been very opened to her. My mind has been filled up and i dont have anyone to share it with thats why i brought it here. i have my doubts about her but i love her.

Please pardon any typos, i am writing this straight from my heart

Bro.. Just try and get anything, i mean anything other than evil, doing just to get the finance coming.

People like us dey find this kind girl we no see.

bukas15:
if he borrows to pay back the loan, he is "finished completely" but if he cannot payback the loan, then he is "completely finished"

Una no go kill me with laughter here

Guy no pressure yourself make you no go do evil ooooh , they manage dey go small small oooh , life no cheap oooh .

Guy I'm a living witness, I got married last year also living a beautiful life without lacking the necessary things in life. My wife was actually the one that pressured me into getting my own apartment because then I was sharing one room with a friend. I thought my wife was a desperate chick then but I later realized that God sent her to move me out of struggles, Immediately I moved to self contained after struggling to get the money for my rent things turn around for me, I got a good job, Favour here and there, we got married and I'm even the one training her in Nursing school. Some girls comes around men to help then grow but if you are not sensitive enough you will mistake her to a gold digger. That girl might not be what you take her for.

My Oga don talk!
Na the truth be this.
She really wants the best for you and trust me, even if after u get the job and the apartment and she eventually leaves u (Godforbid), you should still thank her. Because she pushed you beyond the limits you set for yourself. Do well to get a source of income no matter how small.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr

Just do your best and get one apartment to manage

From your story...it seems she is a good girl but also a runs babe on a low key

And she is seeing you as someone she wants to take a little bit serious

She scolded you for taking a loan to impress her, yet she is threatening you with break-up because you can't afford an appartment. This is serious than you think :

Maybe he didn’t give us all the details as to why she is “my girl” to him. But some words of encouragement to him wouldn’t hurt sis!

doggedfighter:
How is she your girl?

Your jobless self met a lady in March and you know next to nothing about her .


The next thing is to call her your girl .


And to think you relocated to come find work.

Reason you are squatting

Now you are creating threads on ' your girl '

Call your mum on phone and narrate what you are telling us here to her

And hear what she will tell you

Dem go soon serve you breakfast!

OscarJaden:
na girl were help op settle him loan no get 50k for account?
Lol

U dey mind that nigga wey dey mad

Which state are you ? In benim? Can u drive ?

Zanzibar1:
I have come here to raise this issue because i believe someone must have passed through what i am going through at the moment.

There is this Lady i met in March, she is super classy and has all the curves and looks like a model. What brought us together was just a friendly convo and a friendly tease that i admire her nails and since then she has been all over me.
She asked me if i lived alone and i told her i currently stay with a friend because i just relocated to the city based on job hunting levels. She asked what my plan was and i told her that i would like to first get an apartment while i sort out other things.

I don't know what exactly she does for a living although she said she sells women hairs, bags and shoes. I have actually seen her post them on her whatsapp. What surprise me the most was that she doesn't deny me access to her phone. This made me to loosen my grip a bit regarding my phone privacy ... Then one day, she saw a loan app message requesting me to pay my outstanding debt, she asked me how come and i told her the truth that i was seriously broke and i wanted to take her out. I wanted the two of us to go swim together and have fun. And that was why i took the loan. She frowned and asked why i was stressing myself to impress her .
She transfered some money to me to offset the debt. it all happened like juju. i am still trying to wrap my head around that.

I am trying my best to fit in with her but something is really off somewhere. I don't want to assume i know entirely what she does for a living but then, i have grown to really admire her. I wouldn't want to call it love but all my thoughts are always about her nowadays. Like 4 days ago i questioned her about some friends of hers i saw on her icloud and since then she has been giving me tough time.

Lately, she told me point blank that if i cant get my own apartment, she'll have to stop dating me. she said she is ready to even pay part of the money involved but a nigga got nothing to afford even a face me and face you room. I have tried my best to explain to her how i am even surviving and how broke i am to get a 150k self con. She keeps saying i am going to get a job and ill be fine, that i am a man and i will certainly raise the money if she as a lady can raise part of it.

I dont know why she believes so much in that tho cuz i have been very opened to her. My mind has been filled up and i dont have anyone to share it with thats why i brought it here. i have my doubts about her but i love her.

Please pardon any typos, i am writing this straight from my heart

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr

Just do your best and get one apartment to manage

From your story...it seems she is a good girl but also a runs babe on a low key

And she is seeing you as someone she wants to take a little bit serious

She is most probably collecting gbola from some benefactors but that does not necessarily make her a runs girl. She can still change

Udemzy05:
Chai, same post wey me and you read but we dey see things differently.

The way you see am different from the way I see am.

Chai.

Yea...Bro, I'm old enough to know what too much pressure can lead one into, the OP is been unnecessarily been pressured just because he fell in love and he will do anything to keep such love...Yea, she's a nice lady from his concept and such a lady can be a motivation even in the face of breakup...

But the main point I'm driving at is that, she knows there is currently no money on ground, she knows Baba took a load to impress her, then when he found some strange friends on her phone, the threats started coming in "Get an apartment or I dump you..." How does she expect the young man to achieve that...??

It's well bro...!!

blue01:
Ok wetin go happen be say we go do 50/50

hehehehe, oya nah.... i like your sense of humour, i hope the OP get the message and behave like a man

Zanzibar1:
I have come here to raise this issue because i believe someone must have passed through what i am going through at the moment.

There is this Lady i met in March, she is super classy and has all the curves and looks like a model. What brought us together was just a friendly convo and a friendly tease that i admire her nails and since then she has been all over me.
She asked me if i lived alone and i told her i currently stay with a friend because i just relocated to the city based on job hunting levels. She asked what my plan was and i told her that i would like to first get an apartment while i sort out other things.

I don't know what exactly she does for a living although she said she sells women hairs, bags and shoes. I have actually seen her post them on her whatsapp. What surprise me the most was that she doesn't deny me access to her phone. This made me to loosen my grip a bit regarding my phone privacy ... Then one day, she saw a loan app message requesting me to pay my outstanding debt, she asked me how come and i told her the truth that i was seriously broke and i wanted to take her out. I wanted the two of us to go swim together and have fun. And that was why i took the loan. She frowned and asked why i was stressing myself to impress her .
She transfered some money to me to offset the debt. it all happened like juju. i am still trying to wrap my head around that.

I am trying my best to fit in with her but something is really off somewhere. I don't want to assume i know entirely what she does for a living but then, i have grown to really admire her. I wouldn't want to call it love but all my thoughts are always about her nowadays. Like 4 days ago i questioned her about some friends of hers i saw on her icloud and since then she has been giving me tough time.

Lately, she told me point blank that if i cant get my own apartment, she'll have to stop dating me. she said she is ready to even pay part of the money involved but a nigga got nothing to afford even a face me and face you room. I have tried my best to explain to her how i am even surviving and how broke i am to get a 150k self con. She keeps saying i am going to get a job and ill be fine, that i am a man and i will certainly raise the money if she as a lady can raise part of it.

I dont know why she believes so much in that tho cuz i have been very opened to her. My mind has been filled up and i dont have anyone to share it with thats why i brought it here. i have my doubts about her but i love her.

Please pardon any typos, i am writing this straight from my heart

Uncle, you should be smart enough to know that lady truly likes you and won't mind you bought start something serious.

Sit her down and open up completely to her every damn thing about you and I'm sure she will tell you hers as well.

Try get something doing, if possible get a bankable skills first maybe something in the area of ICT.

Finally, get close to her and together you guys can work things out with combined ideas. The truth here is SHE TRULY LOVES you and that alone is a big PLUS

chukwuibuipob:
u borrowed money to impress a lady ? Thank God,she's NOT a Aradite/parasite type, ur life for don BEND beyond repair .Collect the money and go luk for moderate self mini fl@t in Aboru/ipaja(if u stay in Lagos)
A minimum of 180/200k will give u one there sha.From there, hit the ground running (job/biz wise)

Bro I need an apartment in Lagos. Just self con.

150 to 200k. That's my budget

Op is obsessed with hardship that he can't believe someone will come into his life and soften it...
My 2cents
Don't loose that girl... She's your light

bmdmix14:
U took loan to take a girl out. Lol u are finish

and the idi*t no get work o.

Zanzibar1:
I have come here to raise this issue because i believe someone must have passed through what i am going through at the moment.

There is this Lady i met in March, she is super classy and has all the curves and looks like a model. What brought us together was just a friendly convo and a friendly tease that i admire her nails and since then she has been all over me.
She asked me if i lived alone and i told her i currently stay with a friend because i just relocated to the city based on job hunting levels. She asked what my plan was and i told her that i would like to first get an apartment while i sort out other things.

I don't know what exactly she does for a living although she said she sells women hairs, bags and shoes. I have actually seen her post them on her whatsapp. What surprise me the most was that she doesn't deny me access to her phone. This made me to loosen my grip a bit regarding my phone privacy ... Then one day, she saw a loan app message requesting me to pay my outstanding debt, she asked me how come and i told her the truth that i was seriously broke and i wanted to take her out. I wanted the two of us to go swim together and have fun. And that was why i took the loan. She frowned and asked why i was stressing myself to impress her .
She transfered some money to me to offset the debt. it all happened like juju. i am still trying to wrap my head around that.

I am trying my best to fit in with her but something is really off somewhere. I don't want to assume i know entirely what she does for a living but then, i have grown to really admire her. I wouldn't want to call it love but all my thoughts are always about her nowadays. Like 4 days ago i questioned her about some friends of hers i saw on her icloud and since then she has been giving me tough time.

Lately, she told me point blank that if i cant get my own apartment, she'll have to stop dating me. she said she is ready to even pay part of the money involved but a nigga got nothing to afford even a face me and face you room. I have tried my best to explain to her how i am even surviving and how broke i am to get a 150k self con. She keeps saying i am going to get a job and ill be fine, that i am a man and i will certainly raise the money if she as a lady can raise part of it.

I dont know why she believes so much in that tho cuz i have been very opened to her. My mind has been filled up and i dont have anyone to share it with thats why i brought it here. i have my doubts about her but i love her.

Please pardon any typos, i am writing this straight from my heart

That's part of what makes you a real man.

cletz991:
Which state are you ? In benim? Can u drive ?

I am in abeokuta, I can drive automatic.
I don't know how 5o drive manual transmission yet. But I can learn fast since I know how to drive already