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40fy:
Why is marriage so important??

Every Malam and their kettle. Some of us consider the family unit to be important.

Whazar:
What advice do you guys need again after seeing red flags?

I just taya oo

It is not that easy dear. Sometimes I feel like she does these things out of youthful exuberance, but then a lady of 22 and also an under graduate is no longer a baby na.

Choilila:
Thank God this happened .

It is a crazy world man.

2dice01:
Bros marry her asap
Don't let a good lady go cus of small thing like infidelity
She will change like APC

I appreciate the humour but not a joking matter bro.

OnlineArchitect:
SimPLE man still seeking for advice when u should boot the bitch out of your life

Not that easy bro. And I ain’t a simp. Infact my breed is rare. I feel this is just a classical case of being in love with the wrong person.

gasparpisciotta:
How can a goat be friends with a tiger?

Same sh*t running through my mind bruh.

Yusufisraelj:
Mehn this your case hard oooo.

The dilemma of choosing a good, homely girl with shitty tendencies. Phewww

Guy nobody perfect, everyone has short comings but for me I take cheating or revealing private parts seriously.

It's clear you don't want a cheating wife, but her tendencies is giving her away. if you can't live with her short comings, why stay? Just end the whole thing, it going to be painful, yeah I know that feeling, and it's going to be difficult in all fairness, but make no mistakes if you make an emotional decision out of this, you'll live to regret it, the signs are there and you can't live with it.

No homo but I love you for this bro. I appreciate ur advice. I have to move on. It is gonna be difficult but I jst have to.

MrBrownJay1:
you sir are dating an undercover olosho, who is just a good dikc away from cheating on you....AGAIN!!!!

the fact that she A) cheated already once and/or B) sends videos of her fingering herself to men who want to date/fukc her, shows that you are dating a SHE-devil. and although she says she has a man, she obviously has NO RESPECT for that man, your r/ship or her cheap self! how can the supposed mother of your future kids be sending her X rated videos to strangers?!?!?! can you marry such mentally deranged person?

i suggest you count your losses and walk run away!

Thanks man.

wallarwallar:
It is not easy to dey advice people 4 relationship cos na go dey ask advice bt na anoda ting dey una mind.. 4 ur case u luv dat girl dearly and it is very hard 4 u to let go bt u @ jst looking 4 people to condem her so u can use dat to move on but it won't help u cos u go still go back.. Ur problem is jst dat u gat no principle and people like u are very hard to advice

Not exactly man. I feel ashamed discussing this with my family and friends reason why I brought it here. Moreover, nobody knows it all. I have informed her I am moving on but she is still texting and begging. I am jst tired man.

zexy2030:
My friend don't be manipulated, move on. You have not found a wife.

You have lost your honor her nude is online, marrying her turns u to a piece of bread.

It is so painful.

Elporo:
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Psst ... @cowboyvs .. Psst ... Come closer

Not a joke bruh

WickedPisa:
bro, if you'd listen to me ooo she is still young, and she'd do worse until she crosses 25

so she isnt going to change anytime soon, the question is can you handle ? until she matures?

The painful part is that this girl has a wonderful side that no guy can easily ignore. She is not demanding, she is loving and caring. She is beautiful and clean. Infact, I will certify her 100% in other aspects except the area I jst pointed out. It feels so crazy losing that kind of girl because of such a stup*d indiscretion by her.

Brogrammer:
This is a freaking red flag, man!!!���
But it seems you're seeing a blue flag instead... If you want peace, stay away from under 24 years old girls. They are in this phase that makes them want to try different adventure.

You want to live the life your momma won't want for you!

This girl behaves more matured than even some 30-yr olds that I have dated in the past. She doesn’t nag, doesn’t give me headache, is not quick to anger and so many other good features. Reason why this is a difficult one for me.

Michelle55:
You better focus on yourself and leave that girl, she's in the whoring stage and there's nothing you say or do now that would deter her from getting dicked by others.
On the other hand, you can decide to be a gentleman and accept her back, the choice is yours bro.

I loved this girl so much but with this last action I feel she has finally crossed the rubicon.

Supreme01:
She is a nice girl as u said but her prblm is she's jst too loose. She isn't matured and not yet ready to settle down. The settling down means alot. So let her go.

This is apt. Letting go is the most difficult part though. Good girls are not easy to come bye.

Oluwabucci:
send me her WhatsApp number so I can speak to her on your behalf.

Not a joke bruh.

cavreek:
Dem no dey tell person 2 times
Interpret this advice anyhow u wish

70 years old man......

It is only when u experience it that you will realize that it is not easy to let go someone with a nice heart. Moreover, I am 33 not 70.

UpInTheSky:
You say she has never disrespected you but,
she slept with another man (a married man four times)
and sent an explicit video or herself to another guy.

If you call these respect, then Idk what else to say, lol.

I am f*cking sad like this

IamDora:
Lol, did I just read where u said u are not getting any younger and really want to settle down? are u a lady? u re funny dear

Listen, men marry when they want okay? We ladies are the ones that marry who is ready, so u better calm down and have a rethink, marriage is not something u rush into.

We all have certain milestones we’ve set for ourselves. I dnt wanna marry late. I feel time is already ticking and I wanna settle down. Period.

gaby:
If I were you, I'd be more worried about her written English than her naughtiness. She's living her age.

Make I tell you the truth?

English is not our mother tongue. As I said earlier, she is Edo and I am Igbo. Besides, she is a brilliant girl. I am jst disappointed with her whori*h tendencies. I know nobody is perfect but I can’t live with a cheating partner. I can’t tolerate that.

IsellSmartTvs:
If pesin don see video of V
Does it mean he neva see d gal unclothedness

She made the video without showing her face but I know it was her VJ cos we have been intimate before.

MrMcJay:
Why do you want to personalise a public property?

To an extent, she has been decent but the problem is I dnt know what she does when I am not there and it is so painful that I can’t even trust her again.

cowboyvs:
Good day Folks, I am not going to bore you with all the details. Ok, I have been a member of this Forum but I really need matured advise cos I am in a dilemma right now. I met this cute babe in 2021. She is from Edo I am Igbo. I was really thinking of getting married to her but I have some serious concerns.

Firstly, sometime last year she came visiting. While she was sleeping on my laps her phone screen lit up so I was tempted to look and I saw message delivered to Mariam. So something whispered to me to check the content of the message. When I checked, I discovered that the message was deleted after it was sent. So being a Guyman, that discovery spurred my curiosity. What I did was to copy the number and checked on Truecaller, lo and behold a Man’s name appeared. So I checked his name on face book and checked on WhatsApp too and I saw it was a married Man with five kids. So I waited till morning and confronted her. Initially, she denied it was a man but when I confronted her with my evidence she confessed it was a married man. I enquired further and she told me they have had s*x like 4 times while we were dating ooo. I butted her out of my house and blocked her completely. But this babe will be using other pple’s phones to call and be sending msgs telling me she is sorry. So at a point I forgave her and we continued, but, I was not ready to start trusting her again. So last week, I was trying to see if she has truly turned a new leaf before making a major move by going to see her parents. I was shocked what I saw in her WhatsApp. There was this random dude asking her out. From their chats she told the guy that she has a boyfriend so she can’t have anything to do with him. But, she sent him a video of her touching her Vagi*a. Telling him she wets and squirts very well. When the guy demanded they see so he can feel her she told him no that her Vagin* is only for her boyfriend. Also I saw so many guys asking her out but she kept telling them she is in a serious relationship and she can’t date them. So I am really confused. She is 22 and I am 33. It pains me so much cos this girl is so loving and caring and also a good cook. She treats me well and has never disrespected me. I am really hurting inside cos I feel this is not the kind of woman I wanna marry like how do u expose the most intimate part of ur body to someone else. Is it lack of maturity or she is jst loose and I didn’t know. I have refused picking her calls but she keeps on begging and sending msgs seriously. I am tired. Please I need matured advise cos I am no longer getting young and I wanna settle down ASAP.

She's 22, that's peak period of oloshoism. I don't think she's ready for any commitments, she just want to explore more

cowboyvs:
Good day Folks, I am not going to bore you with all the details. Ok, I have been a member of this Forum but I really need matured advise cos I am in a dilemma right now. I met this cute babe in 2021. She is from Edo I am Igbo. I was really thinking of getting married to her but I have some serious concerns.

Firstly, sometime last year she came visiting. While she was sleeping on my laps her phone screen lit up so I was tempted to look and I saw message delivered to Mariam. So something whispered to me to check the content of the message. When I checked, I discovered that the message was deleted after it was sent. So being a Guyman, that discovery spurred my curiosity. What I did was to copy the number and checked on Truecaller, lo and behold a Man’s name appeared. So I checked his name on face book and checked on WhatsApp too and I saw it was a married Man with five kids. So I waited till morning and confronted her. Initially, she denied it was a man but when I confronted her with my evidence she confessed it was a married man. I enquired further and she told me they have had s*x like 4 times while we were dating ooo. I butted her out of my house and blocked her completely. But this babe will be using other pple’s phones to call and be sending msgs telling me she is sorry. So at a point I forgave her and we continued, but, I was not ready to start trusting her again. So last week, I was trying to see if she has truly turned a new leaf before making a major move by going to see her parents. I was shocked what I saw in her WhatsApp. There was this random dude asking her out. From their chats she told the guy that she has a boyfriend so she can’t have anything to do with him. But, she sent him a video of her touching her Vagi*a. Telling him she wets and squirts very well. When the guy demanded they see so he can feel her she told him no that her Vagin* is only for her boyfriend. Also I saw so many guys asking her out but she kept telling them she is in a serious relationship and she can’t date them. So I am really confused. She is 22 and I am 33. It pains me so much cos this girl is so loving and caring and also a good cook. She treats me well and has never disrespected me. I am really hurting inside cos I feel this is not the kind of woman I wanna marry like how do u expose the most intimate part of ur body to someone else. Is it lack of maturity or she is jst loose and I didn’t know. I have refused picking her calls but she keeps on begging and sending msgs seriously. I am tired. Please I need matured advise cos I am no longer getting young and I wanna settle down ASAP.

Never take back a cheat, once a cheat, always a cheat, now OP let me give you this scenario, imagine on your wedding day the guy she sent her noods to is sitting at a table and smiling and in he's head he just pities you lol, imagine that and let it sink in. Forget her she's a sl*t move on and find a better lady

Guy....even mumu suppose get sense sometimes. What are u still doing with that girl

99 percent of ladies are not wife able.including this your girl.leave her,she is not even fit to be s babymama

cowboyvs:
I enquired further and she told me they have had s*x like 4 times while we were dating ooo. I butted her out of my house and blocked her completely. But this babe will be using other pple’s phones to call and be sending msgs telling me she is sorry. So at a point I forgave her and we continued, but, I was not ready to start trusting her again. So last week, I was trying to see if she has truly turned a new leaf before making a major move by going to see her parents. I was shocked what I saw in her WhatsApp. There was this random dude asking her out. From their chats she told the guy that she has a boyfriend so she can’t have anything to do with him. But, she sent him a video of her touching her Vagi*a. Telling him she wets and squirts very well. When the guy demanded they see so he can feel her she told him no that her Vagin* is only for her boyfriend. Also I saw so many guys asking her out but she kept telling them she is in a serious relationship and she can’t date them. So I am really confused. She is 22 and I am 33. It pains me so much cos this girl is so loving and caring and also a good cook. She treats me well and has never disrespected me. I am really hurting inside cos I feel this is not the kind of woman I wanna marry like how do u expose the most intimate part of ur body to someone else. Is it lack of maturity or she is jst loose and I didn’t know. I have refused picking her calls but she keeps on begging and sending msgs seriously. I am tired. Please I need matured advise cos I am no longer getting young and I wanna settle down ASAP.

Why do you keep lying to yourself? Guy, certain things are unforgivable in a relationship. Cheating is one of them. And once a woman starts, she cannot be redeemed.

Marry virgins and virgins only. Thank the elders later.

virginprincess:
Pls let her go,if you marry her she will cheat on you.

Case closed

cowboyvs:
To an extent, she has been decent but the problem is I dnt know what she does when I am not there and it is so painful that I can’t even trust her again.

She wasn't sorry for what she did, she's sorry she got caught.
Well, I don't like to advice people in love because they usually don't take advice.
You are the CEO of your life, do what you think is best for you.

Marry her and u will regret it for the rest of ur life ....she will be a disgrace to ir family....marriage is not relationship ooo.... u will see the other deadly side of her if u marry her and she has a child for u( thats if its ur child) .... she definitely doesn't love u, when a woman loves a man , she will never cheat... women are not like men when it comes to love ... the only reason she is with u is cos u are the only one that she can manipulate... the moments she finds someone better, she will dumper sorry ass without thinking twice ....

Never wife a hoe ... this rule has saved a lot of niggars and those that dint abide by it got destroyed

She will change when you finalized the marriage. Is just assurance from you she needs. The other women outside may lack every things she is good off