VeryWickedMan:
How about your Mom?

The meme and the question gave me joy. A lot of things are hidden in them.

I do not mean to make the Op feel bad but if must be objective I would ask him same question and also go further to attempt answering that if he is not willing to do so.

For the fact that he is seeing Yahoo Yahoo as the alternative to studying is enough to reveal to us that he is a lazy and also full of entitlement mentality.

Is there anyone stopping you from joining the Yahoo Yahoo business today if you think it is easy and right?

Your parents are separated; have you told us what led to the separation? What effort have you made to reconcile them? Did you blindly support your mum even when she seemed to be wrong or not? How did you empathize with your dad when he probably was helplessly complaining of the emotional torture he was going through in your mother's hands? Was your father earning big enough as at the time your mother left him or is it because he has struggled and found his footing again and now you know he is your father? If your father is drinking away such amount of money, have you tried to sit down with him to discuss that? I have too many questions to ask but I feel I should just summarize them by asking this one more question; are you sure you are his biological son? This last question could be the reason for the separation and also why he is not interested in you.

Go back to your "faultless" mum and ask her to tell you the truth. Remember, you are a man and you are not yet sure of what future holds for you in terms of relationship. While you plan to make your "father" suffer you may never know how your own old age will be.

Sue for peace and ask God for wisdom and directions. Some people who don't have parents or rich parents still survive and become successful in life.

Failure44:
I'm in pains and so annoyed.
I can't even boast of 10k in my account,
I'm crippled with debts on loan apps
This ASUU strike has only made my life worse.
The useless man I call a father that earns half a million monthly, spends It on drinking. I vow to make that man suffer at old age and to bury him in a shallow grave.
What did I do in my past life to be born into a broken home?
Where both parents are like cat and dog.
While my mates were learning yahoo, I was reading like a fool preparing for school.
Now I have secured the so called medicine but am suffering in silence while they're buying cars.

Do you know how painful it is to see the same people you were with now buying cars and using the latest phone?
How painful it is to see them spraying money in the club while you're borrowing money from loan apps?
How painful it is too them those you helped now snub your messages?

Now I understand why people commit suicide

So sorry bro…… I wish you all the best.

VeryWickedMan:


You have abandoned feminism?

that wretched soul is probably from a broken home and very bitter against me which she probably inherited from her mum. Very dangerous to marry

tayo60:
U are not alone. Many fathers are deadbeat dad. Forget him and focus on your mum and how to develop yourself. change your mindset, think positively, stop taking loans, try and pay the ones you own. Since ASU is still on strike, try and get a menial job to help you offset your debts and save some for school. I wish you well

Another toxic bitter child of broken home spotted. Biased by the mum against her father already. This type Poisons their husbands

You are letting anger consume you while not gaining anything in the process, you will never be confident and self reliant if you continue like this.

Forget about your father, think about yourself. Your path is

blingxx:



At 19yr you say ? How old where you when you left your father's house ? In this same country where everything is fvcking hard ,the youths are doomed to fail already ... May your children reason this way brrrh .. tbh wtf are you even saying

He might be saying the truth bro... I started taking Care of myself since 13, yes 13 very hard to believe. Although Nigeria was not as this poor....paid for my jssce myself through selling of orange in the afternoon to selling bread in the evening, paid for my ssce through selling of men's underwears , this was what I did through my university level... yet I never talk ill of my none of my parents... but guys of this generation... hmmm let me just stop there

OBALOLA55:
YOU FIT DIE BEFORE AM BRUH


WATCH WHAT YOU SAY

I think he is already under curse by his disrespect to his father. He is digging his grave unknown to him

dbrown2021:


My friend your father needs love and help, like you do. Your Father has relational authority over you. If you provoke him and he lays curse on you, that curse is likely to stand. Now take this advice. Love your father, befriend him, respect him honour him and help him. Once you get his attention through love, he will reciprocate and you may be able to encourage to do away with drunkenness. Insulting and disrespecting him because he is a drunk can only push him away further. Honour your father and mother ,that it may be well with you. And for you, you need to he careful and prayerful so that you do not reproduce what you hate now in your family in future. Familiar spirits cause a lot of damage in families.

an irresponsible father laying course on his child? Parents provoke not your children says the lord.

Be like op no get sense. How can you as a med surg student be envying yahoo boys.
If you know what is good for you just focus on your studies and come out.

For me i would prefer that couples go there separste ways intead of living together like strongholds or cst and dogs so to say. . please find peace, pray and i hope wisdow of God will direct you

Failure44:
I'm in pains and so annoyed.
I can't even boast of 10k in my account,
I'm crippled with debts on loan apps
This ASUU strike has only made my life worse.
The useless man I call a father that earns half a million monthly, spends It on drinking. I vow to make that man suffer at old age and to bury him in a shallow grave.
What did I do in my past life to be born into a broken home?
Where both parents are like cat and dog.
While my mates were learning yahoo, I was reading like a fool preparing for school.
Now I have secured the so called medicine but am suffering in silence while they're buying cars.

Do you know how painful it is to see the same people you were with now buying cars and using the latest phone?
How painful it is to see them spraying money in the club while you're borrowing money from loan apps?
How painful it is too them those you helped now snub your messages?

Now I understand why people commit suicide

Guy you be mumu.
Because your father didn't support you financially you are planning all this evil in your mind. What if you die before him?

Your Story sef no clear, Only You, Your dad earn half a million, Only You, you are born into a Broke Home

Failure44:

What can I do?
I'm not financially independent, I tried learning forex but I don't have the capital to bear the losses.
I don't have a skill because I spent all my time trying to gain admission to study medicine.

Now I'm in 200 level waiting for ASUU

While waiting, I believe you can find side hustle like a mini job to do. ASUU strike may be a blessing in disguise for you.

Bill Gate once said "if you're born poor is'nt your fault but if you die poor it is your fault" using ur old man as an excuse to get loans tagging ur sef a failure is ur own downfall nt his.

Failure44:
I'm in pains and so annoyed.
I can't even boast of 10k in my account,
I'm crippled with debts on loan apps
This ASUU strike has only made my life worse.
The useless man I call a father that earns half a million monthly, spends It on drinking. I vow to make that man suffer at old age and to bury him in a shallow grave.
What did I do in my past life to be born into a broken home?
Where both parents are like cat and dog.
While my mates were learning yahoo, I was reading like a fool preparing for school.
Now I have secured the so called medicine but am suffering in silence while they're buying cars.

Do you know how painful it is to see the same people you were with now buying cars and using the latest phone?
How painful it is to see them spraying money in the club while you're borrowing money from loan apps?
How painful it is too them those you helped now snub your messages?

Now I understand why people commit suicide

Guy stop ranting and visit your foundation, Satan has tampered the family foundation.

From the connotations of your context you don't even have a good home.

You need God no help from the poor man.

oh! Look at your moniker "Failure" and you want to pass? your dream bro!

Ishilove is responsible forghis boy's suffering.

Raspberries:
My dad makes solid cash... But he's never given me a dime...

Douchbag... When he's old he expects I would forgive him... I wish he were dead...

Even hell wouldn't take him.

1. That you are a young man does not put your dad up for death before u.
2. At 19 you should just chill and finish your school then start from there.
3. Never say he will suffer at old age cos you just might be wishing the same for yourself and who knows, he may even get better financially when he is old.
4. If your dad refused to grease your palm what about your mum.
5. Do not feel bad that the yahoo boys are buying cars and spraying money, many of them can't sleep at night cos of the things they have done. Moreover, not be who first reach police station dey win case... That they have the cash to spend does not mean you won't make it in your chosen path in future.
6. Instead of learning forex you can learn how to fix phones or how to cut hair while u at home. Any of these skills can feed you in school.
7. No Pain, No Gain. Do not take the shorter route it may not stand the test of time.
8. Be positive always.

Raspberries:
Isn't his father a man? Why should his mum have to take up his duties as the head of the home? She's the weaker sex, remember?

When you retàrds misbehave and fail your children, then you remember your wives...

The op's father makes half a million every month yet his family suffers...

Use your brain to think... It's not an accessory nitwit...

my mom single handedly took care of the 6 of us financially even why my father was alive because she earns more. So next time i will advice you shut up your mouth next time if you have nothing to say because i believe you are suffering from diorrioha of the mouth

Failure44:


I'll understand the reason why he did it?
How do you understand your father beating your mother countless times in front of you?
Or trying to kill you and your brothers?
Or breaking house properties
Or threatening not to pay my school fees?
Or embarrassing the family name?

See, I'll work hard to better myself and become a great father for my kids( that's if I get married)
But i swear on my life, that man will see hell from my hand.

If you think mikel did his father badly, that man hasn't seen anything.
A shallow grave is where he'll land

Bro. Let go of bitterness, and hatred, this will affect your overall wellbeing.

Learn to be self dependent, get a skill.

akaahs:

Instead of lamenting like a church rat, why did u begin to think of how to start taking responsibilities of ur self since ur dad is irresponsible man? U think u re small or too young to fend for ur self??
See, there things we can't change, ur background/family. Don't allow it affect your mental health. U need all the focus u can muster to face ur bright future. Please don't dwell on ur father in ability to provide for u. If some us should tell you how life have toast ehhhh.
Find one or two tech skills to learn and make some cash while waiting for ASUU. Best of luck

He is 19 for crying out loud.
He is still a very very young adult if we can even call him an adult.

Stop trying to demand responsibility beyond his age grade.

His parents are failing him.

Raspberries:
My dad makes solid cash... But he's never given me a dime...

Douchbag... When he's old he expects I would forgive him... I wish he were dead...

Even hell wouldn't take him..

and your mother

My brother, I feel your pain. To be sincere with you, blaming your father for your failure is like blaming baba God for creating us or sent you to that family of yours. Remember a drummer work is to beat the drums but he or she do not tell you to dance like this or like that, you choose the kind dance you want not the drummer to choose for you. Yours situation is better because you choose by yourself some where blaming their parents for choosing for them. I don't really believe that what you are saying about your father you wouldn't practice it when you get married. Because, your focus, your mind, your energy now are negative, your head is full of negative about your daddy particular. Your story is like a child who said his parents don't know how to work, if your says that what will be your answer? If you can see any positive things in your daddy how sure are you are your neighbors or any other person or any partner if there is? Although he is your father means you know him more than anybody. Beside why is it that your dad and mom are still together? If they're still together to me sorry to say, you are lying about your dad. Bottom line you are to learn from your parent not otherwise bros. Say you have parent what about those who do not have at all, at early age they loss their parent, they keep moving from one anuty to uncle, moving everytime no parmanet house their education nobody body knows at 12yrs primary 2. Remember if you can't learn from your parent you have then forget no lesson that lecture gone forever but decided what you want to learn from them. I have mine which I learned from them likewise your child too will learn from you. Let your daddy change by seeing that you can do it without him know that your success is in your parent blessings. Stop this negative mind set of yours about your father it will lead ashtray.

Now it's clear why moms are the best... I won't say anything about my dad on this platform... I leave him for God to judge.. I will be better than my dad, that I know.. Time will tell... It's painful some dads have money but can't use it to invest it on the children... God won't spare such fathers, trust me... Try to be a man and live your life like you never had any father. Make God your father..

Failure44:
What kind of man earns so much money every month but finishes it in the first week.
Even to pay my school fees and buy textbook is an issue

At my young age am forced to collect loans to keep myself a float.
At just 19 am owing debt, I pity this man when I graduate, I'll show him pepper like mikel showed to his father.

remain small pepper to show ya mama too



Better go and hustle,some guys made it without their parents' involvement.


Don't make excuses for failure at this very young age

Cypress042:
I pity you op. Just use the sense that your God gave you and be important in life.

You're 19years old and still being entitled to your fathers money haba!

Young man, your father has really tried and trainned you up to this extend, is time to hustle and live like a man you should be.

Stop taking loans go and hustle

Nigerian parents have so much abdicated on their responsibilities to their kids that we see wrong as right. What "hustle" will a 19 year old do, to survive if not to engage in crime. A 19 year is still and child and thats it.

Raspberries:
Since I was born... Never recieved a dime...

Read to comprehend...

maybe he found out you weren't his biological child


Do some background checks,interrogate ya mum

Godswilleee:
Abeg wetin mikel do e papa

no mind the entitled brainwashed brat.



These are what you get when you married a very terrible wuman who will eventually turn your children against you



men be wise!

I am sure the reason your mom still love your dad is because that thing that made her love your father is still there.
You think I am lying?! Read Things Fall Apart. Ask Okonkwo's 2nd wife. He almost killed her, she is the one that used her hand to escape, but still used her hand to come back.
That love must be blinding your mom's eyes. If she dies where will that love go to.
Moreover you don't know the relationship or what happened between your Dad and Mom before you were born and before their getting married.
God forgive me. But take heart

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Don't mind him. Let him sit there and be lamenting as if his father cut off his hands. Does he think everyone out there making it had their parents by their side?

Did u study Medicine? Cos I know even Nursing is very difficult with no time left for any hustling.

Do u know if he borrowed money for his handouts, hostel fee, some medications/ multivitamins which help him stay alive while he burnt the night oil to pass to yr 2(200l)?

Una go just dey yarn nonsense for public forum, no motherly love in your words even if some callous men in the group are saying nonsense. Your type only loves their OWN children . Abi u wish your child hustling unnecessarily without some support and comforting words from the dad?

Tufiakwa!

princewarri1985:
my mom single handedly took care of the 6 of us financially even why my father was alive because she earns more. So next time i will advice you shut up your mouth next time if you have nothing to say because i believe you are suffering from diorrioha of the mouth

don't reply a woman who doesn't have sense

Failure44:

I'll make that man suffer mehn, the amount of hatred I have for him is unmatched.

He'll suffer, when he dies, I'll bury him in a shallow grave or let him rotten in the mortuary

Lol

NO NEED PRAYING FOR HIM TO SUFFER AT OLD AGE.......JUST PRAY FOR HIM TO DIE.

princewarri1985:
my mom single handedly took care of the 6 of us financially even why my father was alive because she earns more. So next time i will advice you shut up your mouth next time if you have nothing to say because i believe you are suffering from diorrioha of the mouth

Are you stupid? Did you read my comment before replying?

The person I quoted is a redpiller who believes women are inferior to men...

You're so dumb, you didn't see I was being sarcastic?

I made a point that the parent who earns more should cater to the needs of the family..

The op's father earns 500k and his mother earns 20k...

So what's your point?

Jacksparrow7:
don't reply a woman who doesn't have sense