assholemods:

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Coming from different backgrounds make us see things differently.

Let us assume she was wrong not to have taken the weight off the supposed mother-in-law while she was sweeping, the boyfriend could have given her a signal without the mum noticing.
And the mother too- Could have approached and corrected her with love aimed at getting her to help out.

To simply order her out afterwards showed how rude and intolerant she could/would be to any lady that marries her son.

Each one of them (Mum, son and girlfriend) needed to adjust. Making yourself approachable, patient with people, willingness to learn and ability to overlook certain things could make the three of them bond well enough.

emmanuelbrown26:

Nothing like cruise, na frustration dey worry am. Don't u know that once a woman dun clock 35years, she start agitating, coupled with ops midget stature

UyaiIncomparabl:
I saw this post on Facebook and it makes me question myself asking what "Nigerian men want". It irks me so bad.

Women have been debased to NOTHING that a chore has become a yardstick in choosing a wife. I keep asking myself if God did not make a mistake to have given the headship to them from the beginning.

And now, I'll reiterate this here. I also don't care about the reactions it brings. It's not my business how you feel but I must say this to men- DO NOT SET UNNECESSARY STANDARDS THAT YOU WON'T MEET. Read that again. Would he have washed the girl's father's or mother's clothes if turns were switched? NO. Many men here won't either. It degrades them after all. ONLY women should cower and wash g-pee tanks because they want to marry. Marriage only favours the women after all. It's the women who do these things I blame. You don't rate yourselves.

If you try this with me, I'll FAIL your test woefully. It is the audacity to make this a post for me. They make marriage seem so unpalatable and dramatic.

Manners should tell you that you do not sweep when a guest is around. It is ABSOLUTELY rude and that shows that you do not even respect me enough to have kept your abode neat before my arrival. And that to me, is a RED FLAG!

It also tells me that "I am not welcome in your abode". I am immensely glad that the girl in the story dodged a bullet. Good riddance.

Signed; Bitterleaf Feminist.

UpInTheSky:


Yup, definitely nauseating to want somebody's daughter whose bride price he's yet to pay to be playing housewife for him. Men like him who expect women to bend over backwards to prove themselves usually have nothing to offer. If he were trained (clearly he isn't), he was supposed to take that broom and do the sweeping, not expect his female guest to.

Had this been a male friend of his, I wonder if he would've ended their friendship because of this. Obviously not. But apparently different rules apply to female guests, smh. He will clearly be one of those husbands who can't boil water because those values weren't instilled in him as a male child, and/or who expect his wife to do all the chores in the house because apparently that's her duty.

Kudos to her for not being a pickemeisha with no self-worth.

Remember that she wasn't just female guest but his girlfriend/lover.

UyaiIncomparabl:


You aren't serious. Why must the house be swept when I am around? It's rude, simple! A guest for that matter!

UyaiIncomparabl:


You aren't serious. Why must the house be swept when I am around? It's rude, simple! A guest for that matter!

Mcslize:


You are right. Most ladies that are above 30, I notice they always feel so vindictive and highly paranoid about men.

UyaiIncomparabl:


That test is shiit to me. Well, the tests can never work for me sha. I'll fail.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Reported!

assholemods:

Reporting what? And to who? Abeg shift...

Mcslize:


You are right. Most ladies that are above 30, I notice they always feel so vindictive and highly paranoid about men.

On what basis did you arrive at that submission?

UyaiIncomparabl:


Well, it can't be me.

NoToPile:

Mr crakkhaus

Where have you been.

UyaiIncomparabl:


What does subjecting someone to sweep a house has to do with this?

UyaiIncomparabl:


Her son will take over from her.

UyaiIncomparabl:
I saw this post on Facebook and it makes me question myself asking what "Nigerian men want". It irks me so bad.

Women have been debased to NOTHING that a chore has become a yardstick in choosing a wife. I keep asking myself if God did not make a mistake to have given the headship to them from the beginning.

And now, I'll reiterate this here. I also don't care about the reactions it brings. It's not my business how you feel but I must say this to men- DO NOT SET UNNECESSARY STANDARDS THAT YOU WON'T MEET. Read that again. Would he have washed the girl's father's or mother's clothes if turns were switched? NO. Many men here won't either. It degrades them after all. ONLY women should cower and wash g-pee tanks because they want to marry. Marriage only favours the women after all. It's the women who do these things I blame. You don't rate yourselves.

If you try this with me, I'll FAIL your test woefully. It is the audacity to make this a post for me. They make marriage seem so unpalatable and dramatic.

Manners should tell you that you do not sweep when a guest is around. It is ABSOLUTELY rude and that shows that you do not even respect me enough to have kept your abode neat before my arrival. And that to me, is a RED FLAG!

It also tells me that "I am not welcome in your abode". I am immensely glad that the girl in the story dodged a bullet. Good riddance.

Signed; Bitterleaf Feminist.

UyaiIncomparabl:


To the mods for a ban for using vulgar words against me.

asdfjklhaha:

I agree with you. Her behavior is so wrong I can't go at my aunt's place and see her sweeping and cross leg, I will help her out. We girls should stop defending foolishness, that girl is rude.

UyaiIncomparabl:


The duty of the girl? Are you so slow? Well, someone like me will never try that. Are chores what you use to grade a wife material?

UpInTheSky:


Yup, definitely nauseating to want somebody's daughter whose bride price he's yet to pay to be playing housewife for him. Men like him who expect women to bend over backwards to prove themselves usually have nothing to offer. If he were trained (clearly he isn't), he was supposed to take that broom and do the sweeping, not expect his female guest to.

Had this been a male friend of his, I wonder if he would've ended their friendship because of this. Obviously not. But apparently different rules apply to female guests, smh. He will clearly be one of those husbands who can't boil water because those values weren't instilled in him as a male child, and/or who expect his wife to do all the chores in the house because apparently that's her duty.

Kudos to her for not being a pickemeisha with no self-worth.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
While some Dumbos will say "if you ain't a virgin then you deserve no man" like WTF?
The Dumbo who made that statement is prolly a wh**re himself but deem it fit and cool to tell a woman what and what not to do..

Mcslize:


Mama don land.

kkins25:
So why wasn't the son sweeping? If truly what you say above is true, then the man should have collected the broom from his mother.
My mother taught me to collect broom from elders just like she taught me NOT TO GO TO SOMEONE's HOUSE TO SWEEP.
If the capability to do chores is what you black unthinking men use as criteria for selecting a spouse, no wonder you end up asking why your wife can't contribute to family affairs.

Karleb:
Has the world gone mad?
How were you raised?

When elders are doing a chore, are you not supposed to at least offer to help?

It's what guys do easily.

This is a type of conversation that needs to happen real life. Someone needs to slap you back to your senses.

asdfjklhaha:

I agree with you. Her behavior is so wrong I can't go at my aunt's place and see her sweeping and cross leg, I will help her out. We girls should stop defending foolishness, that girl is rude.

MadeMan01:


So you want to LovePeddler away your best years in the name of liberal woman and then expect a nice guy to come and marry the used and worn out body of such a girl when the body is saggy, lady bits stretched out? Hell no!!!!!!

Women have specs, men don't complain. When men set their specs, women complain. The reality is in the old days, if a man wanted a wife, he either married a woman ( NOTE married , not dated) or went to a prostitute in city centre. Now most modern girls offer what prostitutes offer and don't reserve anything a wife should for her husband. Feminism sold women a hoax of a lie. If you doubt me, name one thing you will offer your future husband that you did not give any of your ex boyfriends

Karleb:
Has the world gone mad?
How were you raised?

When elders are doing a chore, are you not supposed to at least offer to help?

It's what guys do easily.

This is a type of conversation that needs to happen real life. Someone needs to slap you back to your senses.