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nijaomegacode:
Step 1: Never marry a woman with Ex.

Divay22:
Abi if she vex she's the one..
A woman guide what she loves, she get jealous..
If she ever act nonchalant, Oga forget, you no matter to her or wetin you take save her name no matter too.

cliqtips:
This is very important but then....
Since we aren't following what the bible says about premarital sex neither are we following what they do in the olden days

Fairview1:
Lies. There's nothing like the right partner for you and how to know them when you see one..

Though I'm no master when it comes to relationships, but I feel I've enough experience to write this one.

I don't believe that someday you're going to meet the girl of your dreams and everything would fall in place by itself. I believe that every relationship requires hope and hard work.

Expecting to find the perfect partner is similar to preparing for only a few topics before the exams and hoping that all the questions would come from there itself. Rather I believe in hard work, preparing for any question that can come.

We gain experience from every relationship, now matter how much we failed in it. Losing someone you think is the best or perfect for you, might seem like there might never be another one. WRONG!

Have the will to hope and the will to work hard in your next relationship, hopefully not repeating the past mistakes. The benchmark your ex set was something that was several years of work in progress. Find someone who respects you for who you're, who's willing to work as hard and fearlessly as you want to.

I don't expect I'll just meet someone and in the next moment, I'll fall head over heels for her. Yes, I do admit I'd done some serious mistakes in the past. But I want to work hard in every one I find myself in. Relationship are not as utopic as are seen in the movies. If things don't work out, be happy for what you had and have the will to hope and work hard for next one.



In addition to that, I think the idea of soul-mates or perfect partner is destructive to one's psychology as it sets up unrealistic expectations with reality. The universe does not have a predetermined soul for your soul.

In reality, there are a finite number of personality types on this planet, so out of the 4 billion or so potential partners, you'll find many that compliment your personality very well. If you miss one, you'll get another, but to do that you have to believe that there is more than one out there.

SafariHunter:
VERY IMPORTANT: Only God can direct you towards a good partner (On God for everything) but you have to open your heart and listen.

1. It is very important to seek for "realness" in a woman, what is "realness"? , you supposed know by now......
( most of our ladies can't keep it real with a man, they always come with a certain fake vibe).

2. Men usually settle for women who remind them of their mothers. Ever heard that "men usually marry their mothers?" It is a subconscious thing but it is real as f##k. The bond between a mother and son is mad ghon.

3. A woman without "daddy issues" is a sure bet. A girl with daddy issues hardly understands men. ( Don't ask why).

4. A partner with a shared sense of purpose is usually a sure bet to.

5. No ONE is perfect,so don't expect an ideal partner to be.

6. It's a partner,not a subordinate,so unlearn that alpha male bullsh..t , I am a red piller but I dey apply rationality o.

7. Go to her neighborhoods both present and past to find out stuff about her that you need to know(I know a guy that this point saved, girl was a who're but repackaged in Abuja ). The past never sleeps. It helps to know if you can settle with her..

8. Don't be be a PU...SSY . Marriage is a man's responsibility while it's just a ride for a woman ( this is relative but largely true in Africa for now).

9. COMMUNICATION is paramount,if she can't communicate,she gotta go...It goes both ways but it's important...


Disclaimer: I never Marry, na just better girlfriend I get ,so no over reason am....

kennethfranc:
I believe that if you're in relationship with anyone, you should know where the relationship is leading to or the two parties are just deceiving themselves.

Klass99:
Lmao . I can see why you think monogamy is overrated. The other two won't lose interest if you keep the contact and communication alive.

What is it about the one you chose? As in, what makes her beat the competition to win your heart?

Realists:
The bitter truth is first prayers & secondly marry a very patience lady that won't be attributing her intolerance to Devil 99.99 times.

Holyness123:
if she fine cum get money...cum sabi cook

mally her

Freelane33:
You will know after some moments with her
My partner is peaceful and lovely
We are from different tribe but that doesn’t change anything . She’s a Christian . I’m a Muslim by faith .
I love her and she loves me
She’s from a good home and always free with me . She’s not the type that hide phone or chats
I can be with her phone from morning till night incase there is need to use hers .
I have access to every parts of her life ranging from accounts to everything .I teach her a lot of things because she likes learning . She reasons like a man at times as a result of the training I have given her . I’m presently studying psych as my second degree after a lot of years because I really love it though I’m in my thirties
She hates noise , my apartment is always quiet whenever she’s around and that shows she will be able to give my unborn kids a good parental upbringing .she’s hard working , she works for her money and things doesn’t freak her . I’m happy I stop cheating on her with some ladies that doesn’t match her in terms of energies and other. Though she’s not perfect and ain’t perfect too . We do fight and settle .
she force me to pray most times by laying my praying Mat and filling my kettle .
She’s happy that I’m practicing a religion because I wasn’t practicing none before
I pray we end up marrying each other
But if we don’t eventually end up together .
I pray God give her a responsible man

faithfull18:
Ladies, marry a virgin man, don't settle for second-hand men.

ELEYIofNigeria:
I need a woman but she must have Money

UyaiIncomparabl:
Compatibility is in sync.

You both share similar interests, values and visions.

iCauseTrouble:
Just marry your best friend

LeeSantos:
Most or if not all got an ex.
If we go by what you think then no one would probably get married cuz it same for men. "A Woman shouldn't marry man with ex

Freelane33:
May peace be upon you big brother
Stop holding on to the past . Without
Tasting the great pains one would never
Know the value of great happiness .
You actually need someone to complete yourself . Let’s forget about sex , household chores and other . There will be a time you will need someone , it may not be now but e fit be later . Most of us are always looking for happiness where there is no happiness . Trust me . There are still good women out there big brother . Search for it in the right place

Hahjascho:
By first trying to be a good partner.

Some people can never marry the version of their look alike.

Make clear the definitions and expectations of what a good partner means to you. Then follow suite.

Only Godly virtues can make you sensitive to the right partner.

Rexymania:
For me o, the right partner should be someone that always wants to see you happy no matter what

Caleycashh:
Everyone is looking for a fool, that'll worship and bow to them, especially women who have no attribute or contribution to the relationship, men are becoming woke, it will end in mayhem for everyone!

Fortune118005:
There is a saying that there is a man for every woman and a woman for every man. A lot of news about failed marriages is scaring some men to stay away from marriage.

It has been discovered through some research that 80% of a successful marriage is living together with a right partner. The question I want to ask is: How can you know your right partner?

Please push this to the front page for the matured men and women on this forum to answer this important question.

giftygirl1:
How come plenty people de this thread? Does it mean that you are not even sure if you are with the right partner

LaJoe2:
Let me quickly jump in on this one.
Marry the one with both the WHO and the WHAT qualities you personally desire in your ideal spouse;

THE WHO - The looks, the shape, the tribe, race, and religion if you want (Outlook)

THE WHAT - The character, attitude, behavior, values, beliefs, and principles (Mindset)

You'll be unfulfilled or dissatisfied without having both because when you've got The Who, you'll be wishing you also had The What, and when you've got the What, you'll be thinking of The Who.

Let this principle serve as your guide in choosing: For the known, go by what you see. For the unknown, go by your intuition.

womenareapezz:
in Nigeria you can't know your right partner because those female baboons called naija women have already sample different dicks
So what's left in there vagina is Just holes and nothing much

Try different countries for your right partner, because Nigeria is already close for renovation after end times

Fortune118005:
I learnt something here
You try
Thanks for the advice

Fortune118005:
There are still good ones out there.

tayo60:
Dey deceive yourself. U wan celibate for life?

Fortune118005:
not everyone though and not every women
I believe there are still good ones out there.

BluntCrazeMan:
There is no right partner anywhere..
HAPPY MARRIAGES OFTEN HAPPEN BETWEEN TWO FLEXIBLE AND DYNAMIC PARTNERS WHO UNDERSTOOD THEIR INDIVIDUAL SELVES VERY WELL, AND ARE READY TO FACE ANY TYPE OF INDIVIDUAL THEY END UP WITH, AND ARE ALSO READY TO UNDERGO SOME CHANGES AND ADAPTATIONS FOR THE SAKE OF THEIR PARTNER...
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In fact, the thinking that there is a right partner for EVERYONE is the actual reason why a lot of marriages are failing..
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How would you know your right partner when you have not even taken enough time to know yourself very well??
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Like now,, you don't even know your own likes and dislikes, you can't even predict yourself in some certain critical situations.. You don't even know your own weaknesses and strengths..
Then, how can you know who your right partner is supposed to be?? How would you know that you have seen the person that best fitted yourself that you don't even know anything about.??
I mean,, you don't know yourself,, and you are looking for “WHAT” exactly in another person??
In fact, na like-this like-this you will continue to fall in and out of relationships, searching for the right partner, and you will continue to get the wrong pretenders... and will never find the supposed right partner for yourself for a long eternity, and you will still everly settle for the wrong person finally..
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YESS. Just think about it..
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Meanwhile,, the 85% statistics,, I need to see the link to the research.
I want to read about it.