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victooman:
bro l am not holding her o,,l only gave her a sound and reasonable advice,, leaving me is not an assurance she will get a man who will pay her bride price in 2- 3 months ,, if she leaves and the man she meets disapoint her the circle continues,, in 3- 4yrs she will be 31 or latest 32 and we will settle down and at least have something to fend for our self and the kids,, the "woman time" is a lie orchestrated by the society and nothing more. women in their 40s and fifties are given birth talk more of a girl in her 20s and 30s,,if she decides to go and gamble l will wish her well,, l am just bothered because l love this girl and she is a very good person,, so l am not holding her back..

Louisfrank:
Depends on his plans, well based on his plans as he stated earlier within a year or two at most, and for a serious person a year is not too small to achieve something big

victooman:
bro the thing weak me,, all l am asking is for her to be patient,,

victooman:
Good day nairalanders,,
l met a beautiful and excellent girl during my Nysc, honestly she is everything l need in a woman,
We finish our service last year and started life in Abuja, she live with her sister and doing her own business while l live alone in the same town,, The problem now is that this girl mother is already pressurizing her for marriage,, she is 27 yrs and the mother is already making her looks like she is too old for marriage,, yesterday she came to my house looking all moody and worried,, when l enquired she told me her mom is asking her when the man she is dating will come home for introduction,, l took my time to explain things to her,we can't go into any marriage without been financially stable,l have a business l am running and l am looking at stability of that business in 3-4yrs time,,l told her l wont give you any specific date on when to come see her people ,,but l assured her if she stick with me God knows l wont think of any other woman during marriage,,, she told me her plan is to get married at 25yrs and l told her things dont always work out the way we plan them,, honestly l dont want to lose this girl and l also dont want to rush anything,, what do l do nairalanders...

osazsky:
I tire o..she will be 31 then..thereafter op will go for a younger woman as wife after 5 years when he is stable..let her go..allow someone who has a stable biz marry her..I dont know y girls date thier age mate at 27 your boyfriend should be 34 years

Pimine:
Dey there dey do calculations until you born pikin with Down's syndrome (God forbid).

My advise: read this book "One minute millionaire." You will learn that you can make it as soon as you want provided you're determined to. 3 - 4 years is too much and suggests to me that you're not even confident in that business of yours.

victooman:
Good day nairalanders,,
l met a beautiful and excellent girl during my Nysc, honestly she is everything l need in a woman,
We finish our service last year and started life in Abuja, she live with her sister and doing her own business while l live alone in the same town,, The problem now is that this girl mother is already pressurizing her for marriage,, she is 27 yrs and the mother is already making her looks like she is too old for marriage,, yesterday she came to my house looking all moody and worried,, when l enquired she told me her mom is asking her when the man she is dating will come home for introduction,, l took my time to explain things to her,we can't go into any marriage without been financially stable,l have a business l am running and l am looking at stability of that business in 3-4yrs time,,l told her l wont give you any specific date on when to come see her people ,,but l assured her if she stick with me God knows l wont think of any other woman during marriage,,, she told me her plan is to get married at 25yrs and l told her things dont always work out the way we plan them,, honestly l dont want to lose this girl and l also dont want to rush anything,, what do l do nairalanders...

victooman:
see talk abeg,, are u ready for her so l can give u her number?

victooman:
oga not few women abeg,,go and study the productive system of women, 90 if not 100 percent of women give birth in their 30s except on medical condition, we are not having more than 3 kids, so by the time she is 40 she is done with kids by God grace,, the main focus is her happiness and well being in the marriage,, if honestly she gets any man who is better and can give her more happiness l wish her well,, not all this married men she told me chasing her around.

Nyascobar1414:
A simp on the loose... Why pay bride price for someone you didn't meet a virgin.. Abi toto dey enter your nose.


Back to the qst.. Atleast apart from your mom, no female is special.. They all same.. Why are you afraid to loose her...

If she wanna go,let her go.. They are better women out there, just that you have not seen them..

You are the price, acts like one.

Extratyre01:
Give am Belle.. Na sure odd be that, she go wait

victooman:
Good day nairalanders,,
l met a beautiful and excellent girl during my Nysc, honestly she is everything l need in a woman,
We finish our service last year and started life in Abuja, she live with her sister and doing her own business while l live alone in the same town,, The problem now is that this girl mother is already pressurizing her for marriage,, she is 27 yrs and the mother is already making her looks like she is too old for marriage,, yesterday she came to my house looking all moody and worried,, when l enquired she told me her mom is asking her when the man she is dating will come home for introduction,, l took my time to explain things to her,we can't go into any marriage without been financially stable,l have a business l am running and l am looking at stability of that business in 3-4yrs time,,l told her l wont give you any specific date on when to come see her people ,,but l assured her if she stick with me God knows l wont think of any other woman during marriage,,, she told me her plan is to get married at 25yrs and l told her things dont always work out the way we plan them,, honestly l dont want to lose this girl and l also dont want to rush anything,, what do l do nairalanders...

victooman:
bro l am not holding her o,,l only gave her a sound and reasonable advice,, leaving me is not an assurance she will get a man who will pay her bride price in 2- 3 months ,, if she leaves and the man she meets disapoint her the circle continues,, in 3- 4yrs she will be 31 or latest 32 and we will settle down and at least have something to fend for our self and the kids,, the "woman time" is a lie orchestrated by the society and nothing more. women in their 40s and fifties are given birth talk more of a girl in her 20s and 30s,,if she decides to go and gamble l will wish her well,, l am just bothered because l love this girl and she is a very good person,, so l am not holding her back..

victooman:
Good day nairalanders,,
l met a beautiful and excellent girl during my Nysc, honestly she is everything l need in a woman,
We finish our service last year and started life in Abuja, she live with her sister and doing her own business while l live alone in the same town,, The problem now is that this girl mother is already pressurizing her for marriage,, she is 27 yrs and the mother is already making her looks like she is too old for marriage,, yesterday she came to my house looking all moody and worried,, when l enquired she told me her mom is asking her when the man she is dating will come home for introduction,, l took my time to explain things to her,we can't go into any marriage without been financially stable,l have a business l am running and l am looking at stability of that business in 3-4yrs time,,l told her l wont give you any specific date on when to come see her people ,,but l assured her if she stick with me God knows l wont think of any other woman during marriage,,, she told me her plan is to get married at 25yrs and l told her things dont always work out the way we plan them,, honestly l dont want to lose this girl and l also dont want to rush anything,, what do l do nairalanders...

victooman:
please give me the link to the book bro

victooman:
Good day nairalanders,,
l met a beautiful and excellent girl during my Nysc, honestly she is everything l need in a woman,
We finish our service last year and started life in Abuja, she live with her sister and doing her own business while l live alone in the same town,, The problem now is that this girl mother is already pressurizing her for marriage,, she is 27 yrs and the mother is already making her looks like she is too old for marriage,, yesterday she came to my house looking all moody and worried,, when l enquired she told me her mom is asking her when the man she is dating will come home for introduction,, l took my time to explain things to her,we can't go into any marriage without been financially stable,l have a business l am running and l am looking at stability of that business in 3-4yrs time,,l told her l wont give you any specific date on when to come see her people ,,but l assured her if she stick with me God knows l wont think of any other woman during marriage,,, she told me her plan is to get married at 25yrs and l told her things dont always work out the way we plan them,, honestly l dont want to lose this girl and l also dont want to rush anything,, what do l do nairalanders...

TrumpDonald2:
First of all, I want to know where you both come from. This is to enable me understand the culture.

Secondly, if you really want to marry her and your mind is made up on marrying her, I'll advice you go see her people. Just take the first step of introduction, and any little thing you can do now.

Then you can pause and continue with your business. That way the marriage is established though not completed. You have now properly engaged her and the pressure from the mum will stop.

Also, I'll advice you go see her mum, that way she knows that her daughter is actually in a good relationship and that her getting married anytime soon is sure.

OChimex:
You sound selfish and only thinks about yourself. She is a woman and you know that in 3 - 4 years time she will be 30 or 31, then now you might prefer 22 years old girl.

See mr, if you arent getting ready within a year of meeting a girl, dont delay someone else daughter.

Leave her to find love, marriage and have her own family, thats the dream of most girls same way men dream of making money.

Focus on your dream which is money, make she go find hers which might be marriage. When you don get money, there will be more beautiful women then, younger.

xseed:
Guy you are selfish. Allow her go get married and later when you're ready marry someone younger.

Extratyre01:
Give am Belle.. Na sure odd be that, she go wait

jerryforgood:
Marriage is a poverty alleviation scheme for women. They are coming into your life with liabilities. I bet you, if you can't establish your business before marrying this girl, this same girl will nag and complain that you're lazy. To women any man that doesn't have enough money to spend is lazy in their eyes.

Man don't allow this girl to put rope around your neck. You're a man and you shouldn't fall for that crap. She wants to tie you down. A desperate woman can never be a good wife, take it or leave it.

victooman:
bro l am not holding her o,,l only gave her a sound and reasonable advice,, leaving me is not an assurance she will get a man who will pay her bride price in 2- 3 months ,, if she leaves and the man she meets disapoint her the circle continues,, in 3- 4yrs she will be 31 or latest 32 and we will settle down and at least have something to fend for our self and the kids,, the "woman time" is a lie orchestrated by the society and nothing more. women in their 40s and fifties are given birth talk more of a girl in her 20s and 30s,,if she decides to go and gamble l will wish her well,, l am just bothered because l love this girl and she is a very good person,, so l am not holding her back..

zed7:
7k a day? Through betting? The girl deserves better. You are a low life. Marriage should be the last thing on your mind till you have a stable income.

My fear is that even when an income comes, you may still not have common sense. Imagine reporting your foolishness on a public space. Pathetic, spineless simp.

Your girl is looking for a way to dump you, she's just using marriage as an excuse. Who would want to marry a slowpoke anyway? Imagine this simp wants to keep a girl in poverty for years and be enjoying wifey benefits and when she has saggy breasts, you'll end up dumping her. She get sense pass you.

OneMillionBTC:
Face the reality guy, she doesn't have all the time as you do.

How sure are you that Your business will be stable as you want it in 3 years time. What about is the business needs more time for this stability you think you need?

I would advice you ask yourself some questions .

I was in similar situations when I married. Business was a year old and could only keep us afloat as a family. So, we decided on having only two kids, cut down on all extra expenses, and it worked. Beginning of the month, I will give her the money for the family upkeep from the profit made from the previous month. She would always encourage me to keep on because the future is brighter. She was so correct because thesame business 8 years later now makes over 500k as profit monthly with a staffing capital of 2h5 persons..... Just that she isn't here anymore to enjoy them with us as she passed on along the way to Cancer.

So, ask yourself if there is a way you can combine forces and start this process? If you can't see a way, allow her go. If both of you can pull together 100k monthly as family upkeep, it will suffice in most places in Nigeria.

You can cut down also on the marriage process expenses. I did mine in the registry. Collected the list in faith, met my family, showed it to them. They gave me money that covered 90% of the list.

One thing I love about my marriage was that it makes me focus more on my business.

So ask yourself again....can I find a way to marry this woman in say one year time? If yes, join hands together and make it work. Grow your home together.

If No, then tell her to leave you alone to focus and build your business.

Ibechris2:
Go and pay her dowry only...

Then both of u should plan your wedding in such a way that would not drain your finances.

I had my traditional wedding 7years ago.

Below is how it was done:

I had it in April of that year after which we drew a plan that enabled us to work and pay for everythin in advance including food,photographer,canopies chairs,cake name it.

U can do this also,only if u could draw up your plan and work towards it.

victooman:
Who is holding her? so 27 means she is getting old? l am writing this from a more point of concern than what l stand to benefit,, she had exes before we met, if marriage is that easy why didn't any of them take the step? things can work out even in less than a year and l will do the needful,, telling her she can go is a clear sign l wasn't even in love at the first place,, so if she love me she will wait,, if she want to continue gambling l wish her well,,