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Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by Roseey0(f): 4:43am On Jul 22, 2022 |
You have to let her go. Both plans do not tally. By her standards, she's 2 yrs late already. But you still need 3_4 years more. That will not be feasible. You just have yo let her find her own husband. Most people meet good people they wouldhave married but for other reasons, they couldn't. Don't over flog the issue. Just accept it. That's life. |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by MarxisGLABACK: 5:04am On Jul 22, 2022 |
victooman: DEY THERE DEY TRY TO LOOSE YA TROUSER, OTHERS DON FVCK FINISH GIVE THE GIRL BETTER BELLE . U GO SEE AM KOROKORO, SHE GO COME TELL U SAY , DAT TIME I TOLD U SHEBI U SAID U ARE NOT INTERSTED. E GO SHOCK UR BONE MARROW NA SO I TAKE ARRANGE ANGELA WEY DEY DIE 4ME CUS ME , 4MY GUY WHEN NEVER MARRY , DIS GUY GO FVCK UP ,ANOTHER NIGGER GIVE HER BELLE SHARPALLY SHE GO BORN TWINS BOY N GIRL. I WON KILL MY GUY ..... |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by Cromagnon: 5:48am On Jul 22, 2022 |
WatchYourSix: But he is the reason she's not married by 25 She needs to find a guy who can afford her Sad but real
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Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by kent2cky: 6:13am On Jul 22, 2022 |
Sometimes we think that getting married and building a business are two mutually exclusive things that can't be done simultaneously. Honestly, apart from the money you'd spend on the marriage ceremony itself, I think that marriage itself will help your business grow as it will help you get more focused and spend less time and money on frivolities. Think about it, when you get married both of you can save money on paying separate rents, feeding separately, flexing separately, etc. As for the kids, you can keep that off for the next 4 year instead of keeping the marriage off for that long and risk losing the girl (shebi you talk say you love am). Don't be selfish, who's to say that you would not end up leaving the girl after the said 4 years if she waits for you. Women's time actually tick and it's not a social construct like some people like to say. If you love that girl, organise a low-key marriage. Meet with her people, pay her bride price and make an honest woman of her. Instead of keeping her waiting for the next 4 years, keep the white wedding and the kids waiting for that time okay. That's my honest advice bro. God will help you in your business, in your marriage and in life generally. 2 Likes |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by PARAOUSIA94(m): 6:29am On Jul 22, 2022 |
Nigerians and their sexist advise sha |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by Nobody: 6:35am On Jul 22, 2022 |
If she's everytin u need in a woman: go straigit into partial introduction, hire a lawyer to write down your promise not to leave her and you guys could get married in 3yrs time or before it, unless she deceides to break the rules; cheating etc.. Its hard to find a peaceful and caring wife o! No go fumble and u go on to later marry wife wey u go de try to meet up wit her wants, that kinda lady always cheat in marital home. #advice |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by Jusphilip: 6:50am On Jul 22, 2022 |
victooman: My brother love is not always enough condition for marriage. There are many other conditions to be considered, am happy u mentioned one of them "finance". 3years is not long time. If it is will of God that the girl will be your wife inadvertently she will be, however if she can't wait let her go. There are many other good girls like her and better than her.. 1 Like |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by emecheboy2(m): 7:10am On Jul 22, 2022 |
Extratyre01:You took the words out of my mouth I swear. |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by WatchYourSix: 7:14am On Jul 22, 2022 |
Cromagnon: Sigh!! Women will easily manipulate people u... |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by davidadenrele: 7:24am On Jul 22, 2022 |
Hello, Of a truth its not easy being a man especially when it comes to a marriage decision, i will advised you both sit down and rub minds, have been married for 4yrs counting and i can you for tell you for a fact God has been faithful, it wasn't easy though but my wife has been of good luck and divine blessing to me since i married her,most thing i struggle to achieve when i was a bachelor have been accomplished by the grace of God, with the support of my darling wife, am not saying you should rushed into marriage obviously you've to be ready and you have to plan, all am saying is marriage has it own blessing if you truly love your girl and she complete what you want in a woman why not give marriage a second thought ? sit your girlfriend down open up to her on your finances and business plans, have a solid agreement on what you both can have afford from accommodation to food, and all other things with prayers and God on your side, you will successed take a step of faith!! with God all things are possible a good woman comes with lot of blessing your girlfriend could be your divine blessing to breakthrough you have been praying for. My little small boy advice though!! |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by WatchYourSix: 7:24am On Jul 22, 2022 |
Cromagnon: Sigh!! Women will easily manipulate people u... Go and read the guys chat....if marriage were that simple why isn't she married at 25 before he met the guy.....shes 27 now...with several.body count, now want to blame the guy she just met as if she has been turning down many rich men for him.... The truth is she never met any rich men or men that were ready....she has passed 25 before meeting the dude...how come It's the op that delayed her.....?? |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by Caseless: 7:45am On Jul 22, 2022 |
victooman:what if you marry her and the plan to stabilize your business or the financial stability you're looking for in 3 years to come, happens in 3 months? Marriage comes with its own blessing too. Pray for God's guidance and he'll guide you. Don't succumb to pressure. Be clear-headed and make them see your reasons before you can make a move. So, they don't accuse of marrying their daughter without being stable. |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by Thomasankara(m): 8:19am On Jul 22, 2022 |
WatchYourSix:so apt |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by val4sure(m): 9:02am On Jul 22, 2022 |
This is exactly my condition 3 years ago, pressure from everywhere on her, and my business never stand that period, we discussed about it and she stood by me for 3 years not withstanding the pressure, currently we are planning for our wedding, everything has been set, she is 31 now am almost 32. I also created a thread for it that period to seek advice like you did.. we had issues those period even didnt spoke for some times. But later everything worked out. My story and yours sound the same but might not work out the same, but you just have to try your best and leave the rest for God like I did, focus on your business for now that's very important, don't let pressure make you take drastic decisions. If you are 100% sure in your heart she is the one without no doubt in your mind, so as not to waste her time, If she is yours she will wait for you no matter the odds and don't disappoint her if she decide to wait.. I wish you well.. 1 Like |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by rumenase(m): 12:53pm On Jul 22, 2022 |
victooman:don’t get married if you’re not ready OP if she can’t wait let her go. |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by Lordedifice1: 1:36pm On Jul 22, 2022 |
Don't do anything with pressure you will surely regret it,do things at your comfortable time. |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by Cromagnon: 7:57pm On Jul 22, 2022 |
WatchYourSix: He is the reason I didn't say he is responsible English She chose him He is her reason |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by WatchYourSix: 9:03pm On Jul 22, 2022 |
Cromagnon: She has already passed 25 before meeting the guy.. how is he the reason she not yet married at the 25 she planned?? Look..ur thinking and my thinking is not the same..lets no dialogue abeg |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by Raalsalghul: 10:30pm On Jul 22, 2022 |
Ybaby: Same you will come and castrate him tomorrow if he falters in his primary duty of provision since that is your mantra on this forum. |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by Nobody: 11:31pm On Jul 22, 2022 |
victooman:God bless you for this , just let her see reasons to your decisions , I wish both of you good luck. 2 Likes |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by Cromagnon: 11:14pm On Jul 23, 2022 |
WatchYourSix:Nah You no Just Sabi English |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by WatchYourSix: 2:52am On Jul 24, 2022 |
Cromagnon: Thank you |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by OChimex: 2:30pm On Jul 24, 2022 |
victooman: You seem prideful, immature and naive. You seek advice, you were given advice, then you got annoyed by the advice because they didnt favour you. Do whatever you want you young man and stop asking people for advice since you cant take it. The truth is always bitter and not what we want to hear. Mind you, you are the one unreasonable for thinking, you probably know how the future will be. You are not ready to settle down and you cant for sure say when it will be because you arent God. You are inconsiderate to ask her to wait for the future you are not sure when it will be. Mark my words, when you get money, older, you will have a different choice of women. Peace |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by Ybaby: 5:13pm On Jul 24, 2022 |
Raalsalghul: If he marries her then he must provide. Will he let a good woman go or will he skill up and become a provider ?! The choice is his. |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by victooman: 5:27pm On Jul 24, 2022 |
OChimex:you are a blinking fool,, please next time when you see my thread avoid it,, that l ask for advice doesn't mean l am a daft who doesn't have an iota of what is right or wrong, millions will read this thread in years to come , so if we can't learn together and must take ur advice please hold it to ur self,, l dont know the future by asking her to wait for me, but you know the future by asking her to try another person,, oga l beg you in the name of God, take note of my name,, avoid my thread next time,, immaturity kill u there. |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by victooman: 5:36pm On Jul 24, 2022 |
iwatchandlisten:true bro , thanks,, |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by victooman: 5:47pm On Jul 24, 2022 |
fluffybaby:Thanks for the advice,, honestly, l have no desire for any woman ,,and at this stage have no doubt about her or our relationship,, we are both igbos and marriage rite in our place is not usually easy,, l stay in a room apartment for now, an our business is still at an infant stage, the truth is that the business is great and the 3-4yrs l stipulated above is a projection,, l am not God but honestly l know within that period the business will be stable as l want it to be, l am already planning on another branch before December this year,so l am very positive about my business and God,,l appreciate all the advice l wasn't expecting everyone to agree with my point of view,,but the idea that l will be wasting her time in those years and l wont find her attractive in her 30s is just bullshit,, why marry a woman l wont find attractive in her 30s? why asking her to go when most of this men blabbing their mouth here are not ready for marriage even those who are financially stable,, ? |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by victooman: 6:44pm On Jul 24, 2022 |
val4sure:God bless you bro,, thanks |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by Cromagnon: 3:44am On Jul 25, 2022 |
WatchYourSix:you're welcome |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by QueenVaji: 5:28pm On Jul 25, 2022 |
victooman: This man sef are u a mugu or what..from the start of this ur thread to now..uve just been quarreling everyone..everything uve written so far is just trash upon trash...why did u now put it up here since you know everything, instead of u to be diplomatic and wise with your responses ur just there showing how useless and annoying you are.. Thats one thing with enugu and ebonyi people...always behaving like half 1mbeci1e all the time..tueh |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by victooman: 10:08pm On Jul 25, 2022 |
QueenVaji:God punish your mother,, Enugu behave like slowpoke and you behave like who? that l open a thread doesn't give some of you an audacity to say trash,, some advice are plain stupid and l am allergic to nonsense,, l took this same issue to quora and the responses were smart and eloquent,,how l wish there is a delete button l would have deleted this thread since,, some of you reason with your anus,, just look at the accusations and constant assumptions simply because l ask a woman to wait for me,,,,morons,!!, all of of you are financially stable in nairaland and yet will que and open different thread begging for money,, even those who never smells 50k a month are here telling me trash,, please if you are going to come here and tell me l am wasting her time ,,you will receive the insult of your life,, that statement is stupid and was not even the reason why l open the thread,, |
Re: Should l Succumb To Pressure And Marry This Girl? by QueenVaji: 12:49am On Jul 28, 2022 |
victooman: M0R0N |
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