Lastborn0074:
Please I need honest suggestions. My wife has had several male platonic friends ever since we met. She became friends with others through me. I trusted her because she's a very sociable person, so I wasn't bothered because I know a lot of ladies that have male friends too. She's been open to me about them.

Recently, something happened. A close female friend of hers (also married) started keeping her at arm's length. My wife didn't know what the problem was until information got to her that this friend of hers was going about telling people that she could no longer be friends with her because she's sleeping around with men indiscriminately.

My wife confronted her with this information, for which she denied. But the informant, who was also invited, insisted that she actually said it. Before this time, my wife would always complain that each time she visits her friend, she would knock on the door but nobody would respond. This happened repeatedly until her tenant told my wife in confidence that his landlady was always around each time she visits.

Recently, I discovered that my wife was actually having amorous relationship with her male friends. I have access to her messeinger and I have seen those amorous chats. She would delete the ones that could implicate her. A male friend of hers even sent her adult videos and she told him to send more, that she was enjoying it. This man went further to send her his masturbation video.

I confronted my wife with these and what people told me, but she denied. After putting much pressure on her, she said she was about to do it, not that she actually did it. I asked her the reason and she said that it was because of the hardship we were facing. Since her business collapsed, it's been very difficult to survive with our four children. I'm the only one fending for the family. Even after confronting her, I discovered that she's still into the act.

Given the above scenario, what should I do? Please I want only healthy comments that will help me make my decision. Thanks.

I’ll suggest you encourage her to go into it since you don’t know what to do, things are tough for you so her way to help out is to sleep around, give her one room in your premises to use for her business, you can be her manager

Lastborn0074:


Very true. She has become very disrespectful.

Forget it she is cheating on you...Her friends aren't dumb to lay such accusations...They know just what they are saying, U fit wait till his kingdom come before you can ever catch her In the act.

frozen70:


This is very sensitive

She said is because of the hardship

Meaning what she gets from such outing is part of what she brings to the table

Well you are the only one that will prove that either she is assisting you in feeding the family and you never asked her the source of her money

Secondly, if you are very sure that you are the one providing for the family, the why is she saying that she is doing such because of hardship

I think you need to really find out exactly why she is being promiscuous because she is doing that either for pleasure or for hardship

Her response will make you to forgive her or not

But she needs to stop it because it brings badluck in marriage

No reason to justify her actions.... Food or no food.. let's call a spade a spade.

Ihatebuhariwith:
ABI make God kuku kill her..

if she doesn't want 2 repent

Lastborn0074:
Please I need honest suggestions. My wife has had several male platonic friends ever since we met. She became friends with others through me. I trusted her because she's a very sociable person, so I wasn't bothered because I know a lot of ladies that have male friends too. She's been open to me about them.

Recently, something happened. A close female friend of hers (also married) started keeping her at arm's length. My wife didn't know what the problem was until information got to her that this friend of hers was going about telling people that she could no longer be friends with her because she's sleeping around with men indiscriminately.

My wife confronted her with this information, for which she denied. But the informant, who was also invited, insisted that she actually said it. Before this time, my wife would always complain that each time she visits her friend, she would knock on the door but nobody would respond. This happened repeatedly until her tenant told my wife in confidence that his landlady was always around each time she visits.

Recently, I discovered that my wife was actually having amorous relationship with her male friends. I have access to her messeinger and I have seen those amorous chats. She would delete the ones that could implicate her. A male friend of hers even sent her adult videos and she told him to send more, that she was enjoying it. This man went further to send her his masturbation video.

I confronted my wife with these and what people told me, but she denied. After putting much pressure on her, she said she was about to do it, not that she actually did it. I asked her the reason and she said that it was because of the hardship we were facing. Since her business collapsed, it's been very difficult to survive with our four children. I'm the only one fending for the family. Even after confronting her, I discovered that she's still into the act.

Given the above scenario, what should I do? Please I want only healthy comments that will help me make my decision. Thanks.

Base on her claim about trying to be resourceful in the family pls Calm down and talk to her as a friend and offer to help then you can be sure of what happened, happening and going to happen at least you know her.

Lastborn0074:


There are some matters arising from this issue that are VERY risky and life threatening. She's gone spiritual to shut me up. You know how mean many women can be.

Marriage is a difficult journey...
No one here can give you the perfect answer...
Pls be calm... u gat kids with her....
Engage in serious prayers... Day & Nite
for wisdom and the next line of action..
Some things will shift when we pray !!!!

Is any among you afflicted? let him pray....James5 13

When a man have sex with another woman that is not his wife, no strings attached, he still loves his wife, but when a woman does the same, she with draws her love from the husband and can even kill the man, just to continue being close to the other man. Your children will still live, if you are dead, my brother make the wise choice here. Its only a man alive that thinks about children and marriage, a dead man does not.

Plz go and commit sucide

Lastborn0074:
Please I need honest suggestions. My wife has had several male platonic friends ever since we met. She became friends with others through me. I trusted her because she's a very sociable person, so I wasn't bothered because I know a lot of ladies that have male friends too. She's been open to me about them.

Recently, something happened. A close female friend of hers (also married) started keeping her at arm's length. My wife didn't know what the problem was until information got to her that this friend of hers was going about telling people that she could no longer be friends with her because she's sleeping around with men indiscriminately.

My wife confronted her with this information, for which she denied. But the informant, who was also invited, insisted that she actually said it. Before this time, my wife would always complain that each time she visits her friend, she would knock on the door but nobody would respond. This happened repeatedly until her tenant told my wife in confidence that his landlady was always around each time she visits.

Recently, I discovered that my wife was actually having amorous relationship with her male friends. I have access to her messeinger and I have seen those amorous chats. She would delete the ones that could implicate her. A male friend of hers even sent her adult videos and she told him to send more, that she was enjoying it. This man went further to send her his masturbation video.

I confronted my wife with these and what people told me, but she denied. After putting much pressure on her, she said she was about to do it, not that she actually did it. I asked her the reason and she said that it was because of the hardship we were facing. Since her business collapsed, it's been very difficult to survive with our four children. I'm the only one fending for the family. Even after confronting her, I discovered that she's still into the act.

Given the above scenario, what should I do? Please I want only healthy comments that will help me make my decision. Thanks.

Your wife is already fucking multiple dicks. It’s only a matter of time that she’ll infect you with disease or better still bring you a bastard.

Plus, the silly question you’re asking about how you’re gonna take care of your 4 kids. What if you die or your wife eventually ran away with another man, how would your kids be taken care of?

Your wife has displayed gross disloyalty, and only living under your roof, waiting for the right time to dump your sorry ass for one of those many dicks she’s riding.

Your eye go clear soon when she give you HIV. Ode man!

when the TRUST is gone, when DECEIT is creeping in, when DISRESPECFUL behaviors are the norm, then really, you need to ask yourself what are you in it for? this person you called your "wife" has no RESPECT for you nor the marriage you guys are in.

This is your answer. Man up and send her away. Don't bother about what people will say.

Divorce her

Lastborn0074:
Please I need honest suggestions. My wife has had several male platonic friends ever since we met. She became friends with others through me. I trusted her because she's a very sociable person, so I wasn't bothered because I know a lot of ladies that have male friends too. She's been open to me about them.

Recently, something happened. A close female friend of hers (also married) started keeping her at arm's length. My wife didn't know what the problem was until information got to her that this friend of hers was going about telling people that she could no longer be friends with her because she's sleeping around with men indiscriminately.

My wife confronted her with this information, for which she denied. But the informant, who was also invited, insisted that she actually said it. Before this time, my wife would always complain that each time she visits her friend, she would knock on the door but nobody would respond. This happened repeatedly until her tenant told my wife in confidence that his landlady was always around each time she visits.

Recently, I discovered that my wife was actually having amorous relationship with her male friends. I have access to her messeinger and I have seen those amorous chats. She would delete the ones that could implicate her. A male friend of hers even sent her adult videos and she told him to send more, that she was enjoying it. This man went further to send her his masturbation video.

I confronted my wife with these and what people told me, but she denied. After putting much pressure on her, she said she was about to do it, not that she actually did it. I asked her the reason and she said that it was because of the hardship we were facing. Since her business collapsed, it's been very difficult to survive with our four children. I'm the only one fending for the family. Even after confronting her, I discovered that she's still into the act.

Given the above scenario, what should I do? Please I want only healthy comments that will help me make my decision. Thanks.

The bitter truth is that; There is nothing you can do to make her not want to cheat, but there is something you can do to make her not cheat. Read that again.

If you like kneel and cry before her, she would still do it is she wants to.

She might promise you not to do it, and get more discreet about it.

And secondly, it's not because of hardship. Promiscuity is part of her, and she may want to do it for the fun of it. Possibly.

And if she starts, be rest assured that she may never stop.

What you have to do is to let her know the consequences she would face should you ever find out.

The Fear Factor is the only thing that can stop her, not even love.

Do not take it calmly, if she senses you are calm about it she would do it regardless.

Call her mom, father, and siblings tell them what she's planning to do, do not be ashamed and do not feel for her, I know you will be tempted to cover her, Do not.

The only way to keep a woman on check is to always let her know that's she's replaceable.

Tell her you would pay her back in a terrible way, make her fear in any way You can, you know your wife better.
Bro fear is the only thing women fear.

If her friend has already started avoiding her, that means she has even started having sex with them.

Lastly if you overlook this, she might end up bringing another man's child to your home.

Lastborn0074:
Please I need honest suggestions. My wife has had several male platonic friends ever since we met. She became friends with others through me. I trusted her because she's a very sociable person, so I wasn't bothered because I know a lot of ladies that have male friends too. She's been open to me about them.

Recently, something happened. A close female friend of hers (also married) started keeping her at arm's length. My wife didn't know what the problem was until information got to her that this friend of hers was going about telling people that she could no longer be friends with her because she's sleeping around with men indiscriminately.

My wife confronted her with this information, for which she denied. But the informant, who was also invited, insisted that she actually said it. Before this time, my wife would always complain that each time she visits her friend, she would knock on the door but nobody would respond. This happened repeatedly until her tenant told my wife in confidence that his landlady was always around each time she visits.

Recently, I discovered that my wife was actually having amorous relationship with her male friends. I have access to her messeinger and I have seen those amorous chats. She would delete the ones that could implicate her. A male friend of hers even sent her adult videos and she told him to send more, that she was enjoying it. This man went further to send her his masturbation video.

I confronted my wife with these and what people told me, but she denied. After putting much pressure on her, she said she was about to do it, not that she actually did it. I asked her the reason and she said that it was because of the hardship we were facing. Since her business collapsed, it's been very difficult to survive with our four children. I'm the only one fending for the family. Even after confronting her, I discovered that she's still into the act.

Given the above scenario, what should I do? Please I want only healthy comments that will help me make my decision. Thanks.

What does women want? Bro just let her go. There is nothing like people will be telling you be a matured man. Traditionally, these are one for the things that even cause family problem, a married woman furnicating up and down. This affects the man. Which tribe are you please and which tribe is she

Lastborn0074:

What about our four kids...all girls? How do I bring them up alone?

how do you know they're your children? She probably introduce them to prostitution business at tender age and still say is because of hard condition. You better kick out the hoe and stop being a pussy

Women will always ride on pussy men like you. You showed her that you're nothing but a pussy from the very time you agreed with her that's it's cool for her a married woman to flock herself with male friends, I believe you knew that they're fhuckin your hoe but you approved of it because you're weak. I know you can never be a Deltan or Niger Deltan or even igbo or hausa because men of these regions can't exhibit your level of idiocy and simping. Even after catching her with chats you still went ahead with her. God! I hate simps so much.

Some men sef! Why allow your wife have so many "male friends"?
Your wife is probably a flirt and it's very easy to sleep with such kind of women. Very easy!

I don't know how a woman will get married and still be keeping male friends everywhere!

Ok

Pinuc:
When a man have sex with another woman that is not his wife, no strings attached, he still loves his wife, but when a woman does the same, she with draws her love from the husband and can even kill the man, just to continue being close to the other man. Your children will still live, if you are dead, my brother make the wise choice here. Its only a man alive that thinks about children and marriage, a dead man does not.

This here is what I hate hearing/reading.....
Going by this analogy, no strings attached for men but what about the side chick attaching strings and doing anything possible to have the man to herself? Abi you think it can't happen?
The same way you guys think a cheating wife is going to think about doing all these to the husband, same way a cheating man's side chick is going to think of doing likewise to the home wife.

All I know is that a cheat(M or F) is exposing the other partner to danger.

Lastborn0074:

What about our four kids...all girls? How do I bring them up alone?

What if she's dead, won't u take their responsibilities?

Wait till u kill yourself or she kills you..

A promiscuous woman will either kill herself or her husband. Use your head

I still maintain that no man and woman can just be friends... It's not possible...

It's like you keeping yam in front of goat and u trusting nothing will happen between the goat and the yam...

Anyway it's nothing new, just don't do what will take u to prison...

Lastborn0074:
Please I need honest suggestions. My wife has had several male platonic friends ever since we met. She became friends with others through me. I trusted her because she's a very sociable person, so I wasn't bothered because I know a lot of ladies that have male friends too. She's been open to me about them.

Recently, something happened. A close female friend of hers (also married) started keeping her at arm's length. My wife didn't know what the problem was until information got to her that this friend of hers was going about telling people that she could no longer be friends with her because she's sleeping around with men indiscriminately.

My wife confronted her with this information, for which she denied. But the informant, who was also invited, insisted that she actually said it. Before this time, my wife would always complain that each time she visits her friend, she would knock on the door but nobody would respond. This happened repeatedly until her tenant told my wife in confidence that his landlady was always around each time she visits.

Recently, I discovered that my wife was actually having amorous relationship with her male friends. I have access to her messeinger and I have seen those amorous chats. She would delete the ones that could implicate her. A male friend of hers even sent her adult videos and she told him to send more, that she was enjoying it. This man went further to send her his masturbation video.

I confronted my wife with these and what people told me, but she denied. After putting much pressure on her, she said she was about to do it, not that she actually did it. I asked her the reason and she said that it was because of the hardship we were facing. Since her business collapsed, it's been very difficult to survive with our four children. I'm the only one fending for the family. Even after confronting her, I discovered that she's still into the act.

Given the above scenario, what should I do? Please I want only healthy comments that will help me make my decision. Thanks.

baba, the reason there is hardship in your family is because your wife has been cheating on you for long even before the days of smartphones where you can find evidence .



If I were you oo, I would send her away and anybody that tries to beg for her will forever be my enemy. In fact I will physically attack that person

Bigredmachine:
I still maintain that no man and woman can just be friends... It's not possible...

It's like you keeping yam in front of goat and u trusting nothing will happen between the goat and the yam...

Anyway it's nothing new, just don't do what will take u to prison...

the guy na idiot

nifemi25:
According to your story, you haven't caught her red handed.... you are only acting base on what you heard from your wife's friend.... I will only advice you calm yourself so as to catch her . Once you caught her , am sure you knows what to do if you don't want to die before your time..

I'm not sure whether you read and understood the write-up sha

Go and do DNA test for ur kids immediately, before more damages are done
Secondly chase her away with some disgrace

Strongdickfresh:
Pardon her and show more love than before. She will never cheat on you again. You are the cause of her cheating...

Most useless advise of the year

She's cheating already. Send her out of your house and cater for your kids. You can't be the one who goes thru economic stress to feed the home and still come home to face emotional stress. She's a conditional wife and that's not good for marriage. Marriage is for unconditional people. Meanwhile ensure you tell at least one person from her family all that's going on before you execute your plans finally

I advise you to contact a marriage counselor. You cannot get good counsel from young people who fill this platform.

There could be other reasons beyond your financial challenges why your wife is having affairs with other men which can only be discovered in counselling sessions.

For you also, your marital boundaries are too low and this further encouraged your wife to disregard it.

The solution to your challenge may not be a separation or divorce. There is no reason to assume that your marriage is beyond recovery unless this becomes obvious after seeing a qualified marriage counselor.

You can send me a mail for further guidance.

Lastborn0074:

But I said I have chat evidence, apart from her confessing that she was about to do it, which is a lie.

you need to move her to her parents for the time being. you complain of hardship,don't you know these her behavior is the cause of it all?. stay there and be asking of to do,you'll get to understand your action when you're crippled with illnesses or accident or whatever strange things. now that you know,stop sleeping with her or eating her food for the sake of your survival. keep deceiving yourself, not God and man,I pray you don't learn your lessons the hard way cos at the end,women don't get affected. it is either your children,if you are not aware or you,and now that you're aware,you'll surely be on the receiving end....

She complained of the hard times for her reasons. Invite God into the home ooo as quick as possible, I forseen destruction. Sexual immorality brings setbacks and delays. Please sit her down 4 kids nor be one oooh.
You need heart to heart talk. Take down all her social media account if she refused just know that she is deep into it. Married woman don't need male besties, Draw a line. The only friends she needs in her life is you and the kids.

On a joke level...your wife she is heavily endowed?

jeromestarks:
You should have married a virgin.
Divorce her and "find" a virgin.

LMAO
What difference does marrying a virgin make?
Anybody who wants to sleep around will do so without hindrance

abuwidad:


Congratulations

Guy easy Na!

You are giving the OP serious heart attack