nifemi25:
According to your story, you haven't caught her red handed.... you are only acting base on what you heard from your wife's friend.... I will only advice you calm yourself so as to catch her . Once you caught her , am sure you knows what to do if you don't want to die before your time..

Lastborn0074:


Maybe that was my undoing

UptownVibes:
Op its all your fault. You missed it right from your courtship days. Guys if you are dating and she is the lady you want to marry. Ensure during the courtship you form being broke for nothing less than six months. The useless ones can't stand it. A nice girl will stay and help you find a way out. I told my guy a month ago. He followed my advice.. His loving and caring girl don turn vampire now,e never reach 3weeks.. She started insulting him,not picking calls like before. He was telling me he wants to beat her. I told him no na.. He should be happy her real character came early. Relationship and marriage na wisdom..

Lastborn0074:


Very true. She has become very disrespectful.

realestate99:

I was just discussing this with a friend this morning, nobody despise an impending disgrace like a woman.

An innocent faced charming lady can kill just to cover her tracks, they bask in the euphoria of being a soft and tender gender, anything that might cause disgrace of any kind or taint that reputation is eliminated by all means.......that is why females do not own up to their misdeeds because of the high pedestal ( innocence) the society placed them

Wizywiz:
if you allow am bring u down to ur grave oga that will be easy passport to Congo shinning of ur madam from her male sharapovas ...if u kpai na u loose oooo...ur peace of mind is important if d center no fit hold make u free her to go...life no get duplicate........since I parted ways with my ex wife honestly u won't understand the peace of mind I now enjoy..(although my case is different from urs because she wasn't cheating but the wahala and lies too much) always remember u are the source of ur own happiness... marriage is not a do or die affair...Las Las ur pikins Dem go dey alright

Wizzified come in peace

realestate99:

I was just discussing this with a friend this morning, nobody despise an impending disgrace like a woman.

An innocent faced charming lady can kill just to cover her tracks, they bask in the euphoria of being a soft and tender gender, anything that might cause disgrace of any kind or taint that reputation is eliminated by all means.......that is why females do not own up to their misdeeds because of the high pedestal ( innocence) the society placed them

Lastborn0074:


I wish you explained exactly why I am the cause of her cheating. How would you know? Do you know what I have put into this marriage to make it work? A woman I have done practically everything for? I've established her in businesses, all of which she has failed. What else should I have done that I didn't do?

Lastborn0074:
Please I need honest suggestions. My wife has had several male platonic friends ever since we met. She became friends with others through me. I trusted her because she's a very sociable person, so I wasn't bothered because I know a lot of ladies that have male friends too. She's been open to me about them.

Recently, something happened. A close female friend of hers (also married) started keeping her at arm's length. My wife didn't know what the problem was until information got to her that this friend of hers was going about telling people that she could no longer be friends with her because she's sleeping around with men indiscriminately.

My wife confronted her with this information, for which she denied. But the informant, who was also invited, insisted that she actually said it. Before this time, my wife would always complain that each time she visits her friend, she would knock on the door but nobody would respond. This happened repeatedly until her tenant told my wife in confidence that his landlady was always around each time she visits.

Recently, I discovered that my wife was actually having amorous relationship with her male friends. I have access to her messeinger and I have seen those amorous chats. She would delete the ones that could implicate her. A male friend of hers even sent her adult videos and she told him to send more, that she was enjoying it. This man went further to send her his masturbation video.

I confronted my wife with these and what people told me, but she denied. After putting much pressure on her, she said she was about to do it, not that she actually did it. I asked her the reason and she said that it was because of the hardship we were facing. Since her business collapsed, it's been very difficult to survive with our four children. I'm the only one fending for the family. Even after confronting her, I discovered that she's still into the act.

Given the above scenario, what should I do? Please I want only healthy comments that will help me make my decision. Thanks.

pointblank247:
nobody catches an adultrouse wife red handed, they cover their tracks well enough,
The evidence he has is enormous already.

Lastborn0074:
Please I need honest suggestions. My wife has had several male platonic friends ever since we met. She became friends with others through me. I trusted her because she's a very sociable person, so I wasn't bothered because I know a lot of ladies that have male friends too. She's been open to me about them.

Recently, something happened. A close female friend of hers (also married) started keeping her at arm's length. My wife didn't know what the problem was until information got to her that this friend of hers was going about telling people that she could no longer be friends with her because she's sleeping around with men indiscriminately.

My wife confronted her with this information, for which she denied. But the informant, who was also invited, insisted that she actually said it. Before this time, my wife would always complain that each time she visits her friend, she would knock on the door but nobody would respond. This happened repeatedly until her tenant told my wife in confidence that his landlady was always around each time she visits.

Recently, I discovered that my wife was actually having amorous relationship with her male friends. I have access to her messeinger and I have seen those amorous chats. She would delete the ones that could implicate her. A male friend of hers even sent her adult videos and she told him to send more, that she was enjoying it. This man went further to send her his masturbation video.

I confronted my wife with these and what people told me, but she denied. After putting much pressure on her, she said she was about to do it, not that she actually did it. I asked her the reason and she said that it was because of the hardship we were facing. Since her business collapsed, it's been very difficult to survive with our four children. I'm the only one fending for the family. Even after confronting her, I discovered that she's still into the act.

Given the above scenario, what should I do? Please I want only healthy comments that will help me make my decision. Thanks.

Antimarraige:
Gosh what a simp... I'm happy for what you're going through, that way other simps will be having sense small small ... Don't worry very soon she will give you poison and you can go and rest pele

AgubataAkokwa:
You became vulnerable the moment you allowed her to still keep and make friends with other guys when you newly married her, social or not. You goofed big time here.
As for me, I'm sure she has cheated on you not even once but she used your docile attitude to her advantage to cover it up. Yes, you were very docile and dumb.
Now you are only left with the option of catching her red handed which she will never allow you to. She smart pass you because she knows you are very docile and dumb.
Pray make she no infect ya kids or bring in someone's baby.
You have successfully dug your grave by yourself. No
Social kii you and her dia

UjuJoan2:


Men cheat all the time, but somehow a woman cheating is now a muderer?

Quit being so dramatic.

nifemi25:
According to your story, you haven't caught her red handed.... you are only acting base on what you heard from your wife's friend.... I will only advice you calm yourself so as to catch her . Once you caught her , am sure you knows what to do if you don't want to die before your time..

Socratiz:
I advise you [s]to contact a marriage counselor. You cannot get good counsel from young people who fill this platform.

There could be other reasons beyond your financial challenges why your wife is having affairs with other men which can only be discovered in counselling sessions.

For you also, your marital boundaries are too low and this further encouraged your wife to disregard it.

The solution to your challenge may not be a separation or divorce. There is no reason to assume that your marriage is beyond recovery unless this becomes obvious after seeing a qualified marriage counselor.

You can send me a mail for further guidance[/s].

Pinuc:
When a man have sex with another woman that is not his wife, no strings attached, he still loves his wife, but when a woman does the same, she with draws her love from the husband and can even kill the man, just to continue being close to the other man. Your children will still live, if you are dead, my brother make the wise choice here. Its only a man alive that thinks about children and marriage, a dead man does not.

abuwidad:


Good question. Are you sure the kids are yours?

zeuss:
@Lastborn0074
sorry about your home....but are you providing all that is required to run d home? clothes for her and d kids?
if you r providing the she has no excuse.....if u are not then is is covering the void .....be objective in your judgement.

alyarmouk:
Keep the dialogue going...and try n focus on your financial prowess...if you boost financially n she still doesn't quit all those male bestie shih et Al ..send her home

onumadu:


Marriage is not tea party.
It is a DIFFICULT task.
Please calm down, talk to your wife and pray for your family.
She will come around.
Never consider divorce unless your life is in danger.
I repeat: Marriage is not easy, and that is why it is for ADULTS.