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Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by Karleb(m): 7:40am On Sep 07, 2022 |
ZIMDRILL: Do you know the meaning of depression? You people are claiming house wife work is harder than 9 - 5? Omo! 6 Likes |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by BusinessPlan22: 7:51am On Sep 07, 2022 |
cococandy: We don't predict our time... She needs help, the woman is worn out and he still needs sex... See he mouth like nack... It doesn't work that way. Woman work nor dey finish for house. He should help her. Or get a nanny |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by BusinessPlan22: 7:54am On Sep 07, 2022 |
Neptunium: Baba you lie, show me the single mother all by herself with 5kids, she will run mad. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by Acidosis(m): 7:54am On Sep 07, 2022 |
BusinessPlan22: How? 1 Like |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by Nobody: 8:25am On Sep 07, 2022 |
Karleb: I'm not even going to focus on the OP & his problems because Its not my business. But you know women are pushing this narrative about house wife being super hard than working a 9-5, I was arguing with a lady on this forum years ago & she wanted to die on that hill. I can tell you for sure that these types of statements are from either women who are lying or who don't have any tangible jobs that they do, there are a lot of redundant jobs like working as an "Admin" where employees just sit down, get bored, scroll on Instagram and chat all along till 5PM, then earn peanuts at the end of the month. That's what a lot of women call jobs. If you actually work in a Nigerian 9-5, doing something meaningful. Let's say you work in a bank, Customer Service department, you are attending to Customers from 9AM till 5PM, then come back home by 9PM looking tired & dejected, after 3 hours in Lagos traffic. I don't see any house wife job that is harder than this. Working in a Nigerian 9-5 is super rigorous, anybody that says being a house wife is harder than this should just quit with the lies. 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by lilioj: 8:25am On Sep 07, 2022 |
Karleb: Yes it is! Talking from experience 1 Like |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by cococandy(f): 8:31am On Sep 07, 2022 |
BusinessPlan22: True It’s a 24/7 job. He said he helps so I’ll give him that. But all in all I think he may not have a realistic grasp of how much time things take to get done. Like allocating 1 hour for cleaning in the morning. Lol 3 Likes |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by Nobody: 8:37am On Sep 07, 2022 |
See women supporting rubbish. The wife is a lazy woman why can't you people call a spade a spade. Making excuses for their gender. If it is not postpartum depression they say looking after a toddler is hard or house work is harder than 9 to 5. If you can't handle the heat stay the fck outta the kitchen, don't marry and don't have children. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by bukatyne(f): 8:45am On Sep 07, 2022 |
Klass99: I don't have a problem with the help if she wants it; she should however be responsible enough to ensure there is food as at when due and her husband gets the required rest. |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by NoToPile: 9:28am On Sep 07, 2022 |
efficiencie: Oshey Mr soldier, commando Nairalanders no go kill person with laugh. Lool at alarm loud as a siren. 1 Like |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by BusinessPlan22: 9:37am On Sep 07, 2022 |
cococandy: Lol |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by Ulunne777(f): 9:43am On Sep 07, 2022 |
That was how she was raised.go to their house and you won't be surprised .It stems from laziness and disorganized lifestyle,leave this mental health talk. My mom raised us with cooking dinner early,its a life I'm used to and also adopted.If i eat later than this time food becomes a baggage to me and do you know it even helps to curb bedwetting in chikdren.my kids eat by 6:30pm and I'm a working mom.On the days I may come home late,I precook so that once I'm home,food will be ready in less than 30mins and by 8:30 tops the kids are asleep. Ppl should stop enabling bad behavior,every time mental health mental health until this young man dies off early as a result of inadequate rest and bad eating habits .I'm even sure he will be served Eba and soup by 10pm like my neighbor does. 28 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by Klass99(f): 9:47am On Sep 07, 2022 |
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Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by Richy4(m): 9:53am On Sep 07, 2022 |
Karleb: It's not really easy to be a stay at home mum Bro... but that woman is the annoying type...She is a help mate and should make life a bit easier for the guy since the arrangement was for her to stay at home while he work...5:30pm sharp, abandon all u are doing and put pot on fire for your man because he will return and he will be hungry...it's not rocket science...she can't tell me that she did not have the time to eat her own meal through out the whole day because she is busy... Why running helter skelter when he's already back and hungry?...If he starts branching at Titi' s house to eat and returning home late or probably refusing the food she cooked because he's already well fed somewhere, she will start complaining on how men were the same... Anyways OP asked for female opinion, ours doesn't count...Let us watch it unfold.. 8 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by Klass99(f): 9:54am On Sep 07, 2022 |
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Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by Kajaard: 9:56am On Sep 07, 2022 |
Klass99: Nice write up. The only one I resonate with so far 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by crackhaus: 10:56am On Sep 07, 2022 |
Karleb:The things I read on NL ehn... 3 Likes |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by crackhaus: 11:04am On Sep 07, 2022 |
truthsayer009:Bro, na baby girl lifestyle dem just wan live as you dey see some of these women. Very entitled, lazy set of snowflakes. What they want is to be petted constantly, put on a pedestal, and to live their entire lives on nothing else but cruise and insha'Allah. Imagine someone saying that being a housewife is harder than working a 9–5? Is that not madness? 15 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by crackhaus: 11:09am On Sep 07, 2022 |
Ulunne777:Ahh, finally... All hope is not lost. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by Nobody: 11:09am On Sep 07, 2022 |
crackhaus: I was wondering too, because this isn't the first time I am hearing that in this Forum & all over in other places. As someone who grew up in a home where I had to act like an housewife, bathe kids, cook for kids, change diapers & clean the house daily for years. I still had time to watch Episodes of GOT & Merlin daily after the kids have gone to school. I will now compare it to the rigorous run around that i did in Lagos where I came home almost dejected after daily traffic. Honestly enough of the lies abeg. 7 Likes |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by Neptunium(m): 11:11am On Sep 07, 2022 |
BusinessPlan22:My friend's mom in Nigeria is a single mother. His father, a civil servant, was killed in a car accident when he was 14. He's the second oldest, his younger ones were little when the father was killed, the youngest, a girl was 1. His mom, a school principal, singlehandedly raised all of them. No househelp. Till now, she has never remarried. My aunt's husband is in the U.S working while she's in Naija taking care of their 3 kids. She's not a single mother however the point is her husband no dey around though he visits Naija from time to time. In another thread last month i talked about some FB groups I'm in where lots of single mothers in Naija plenty, as in single mothers looking for husbands. My point is there are single mothers raising kids by themselves, or mothers who get husband working abroad while they're in Naija with the kids or husbands working in another state in Naija while the wife is at home taking care of the kids. OP's wife no get excuse other than laziness. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by crackhaus: 11:14am On Sep 07, 2022 |
truthsayer009:Are you the oldest of your siblings? Many firstborns have this experience... 2 Likes |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by Nobody: 11:20am On Sep 07, 2022 |
crackhaus: No, I had to help my married Sis growing up with her. She didn't have a lot of financial resources to hire extra hands back then & we were running a business, & her hubby wasn't always around. That's why I laugh when I see all the takes from women regarding this issue. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by crackhaus: 11:24am On Sep 07, 2022 |
truthsayer009:Okay. Watch how someone is still going to try discounting your experience. 3 Likes |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by Nobody: 11:28am On Sep 07, 2022 |
crackhaus: They already did, the lady i argued with Hactor was asking me if I was the one backing babies or breastfeeding them, therefore i had no input. Like cleaning & doing all sorts daily doesn't count for anything. 2 Likes |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by cayorday89(m): 11:31am On Sep 07, 2022 |
Ulunne777:Beautiful and well written... Someone up there even said the OP was asking for too much, despite his effort and not minding the toll it is having on him regarding his output and efficiency at work. The only part I will not support the OP is asking for daily sex. 5 Likes |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by crackhaus: 11:33am On Sep 07, 2022 |
truthsayer009:Be like say I juss know sef... 1 Like |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by cayorday89(m): 11:37am On Sep 07, 2022 |
Neptunium:OP's wife is just lazy and she is the kind of person who does not consider the plight of her husband or see things from his pint of view, and she procrastinates(something many of us are guilty of) a lot, reason why she does things at the tail end of the day despite being home all day.. Yes children can be difficult at times but she is doing little to nothing to curb their excesses. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by crackhaus: 11:43am On Sep 07, 2022 |
cayorday89:Him thinking he can/should have sex everyday is probably because he has been starved of it so much. The hunger is making him overreach. Realistically, I don't know that he will still have the desire to have it every single day once he starts getting it more often (even if his wife were willing to indulge). 8 Likes |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by ZIMDRILL(m): 12:12pm On Sep 07, 2022 |
Karleb: do you know post natal depression ? Every job can be harder to someone hence you even some women gets maids |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by cayorday89(m): 12:25pm On Sep 07, 2022 |
crackhaus:So true sha, but what if it comes to him naturally to have it everyday without getting tired, we never can tell, he should just have it in mind that his wife might fail him in that aspect but on other things he complained about, his wife can adjust. |
Re: Mothers Please Advice A Frustrated Married Man. by Neptunium(m): 12:33pm On Sep 07, 2022 |
cayorday89:Exactly. She no dey respect or love her husband much as well. Much of her actions is from lack of respect and love. She know she get gentle man for husband, she can do anyhow 6 Likes 3 Shares |
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