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Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Helpout12345: 10:32pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
judeolokor: Of course, this type of woman can kill the husband. 1 Like |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by dannykares: 10:32pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
zigzagluv: My dear weda u satisfied or gv her money woman will still cheat on u unless such had fear of God 3 Likes |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by grafixdon: 10:32pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
Johnnyjohnnyman: Wow, sorry bro. Its well. Please where did you do the DNA and how much please? |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by ViktorCash: 10:33pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
I cant imagine that her colleague pounded her and c*m inside her,chai! Very painful 1 Like |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by PHIPEX(m): 10:33pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
Johnnyjohnnyman:This might not sound sweet but you are better off raising that child than tearing your family apart. If you don't thread with caution, you, your wife and the 4 kids will bear the brunt for life. Tearing your family apart will not undo the damage but will wreck every other life connected to you. While holding your family together will only cause you heart aches for a while but time heals all wounds. 2 Likes |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Freshgrace4life(f): 10:34pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
Hmmmm ! This is bad , I don't want to imagine things , people are really going through a lot , for the fact that you know your wife's side cork is something else , I do say it , this cheating of a thing ones it is in somebody's blood the person can't change except the power of God. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Slynation(m): 10:34pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
Sweetplum:And how is it a bad decision... Do you think it's easy to be seeing a product of cheating playing around with your legitimate kids?? Anyways, Johnnyjohnnyman the most annoying part is that at one point the dick slipped off but your wife inserted it saying harder... |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by od501: 10:34pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
Johnnyjohnnyman: Breakfast served |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Helpout12345: 10:35pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
Johnnyjohnnyman: Please go and do DNA tests on those 3 also. Don't be too certain until the test results come back. |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Chris2863(m): 10:35pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
Johnnyjohnnyman:then do that and stop disturbing us. No matter what people drop here, your mind is already made. Meanwhile, your love for the cheat still dey shack you shaa. Enjoy 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Goodbadbowy419: 10:36pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
MrBrownJay1:How ? Can you explain |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Emily22(m): 10:36pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
Johnnyjohnnyman: Bro, sorry for what happened, please where did you run the DNA, I need to run one asap May God help us 4 Likes |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by fof1: 10:37pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
Johnnyjohnnyman: Pls Dont Divorce her and do not Shame her Either...She nay Die with the Guilt...in her Heart already. Talk it over with her Quietly and at Midnight without Fracas. Both of u should Live with the Reality of the Truth...or Decide to return the Child to its Father or Adopt her. But ur Wife will Live in Perpetual Fear and Giluilt and may lose Weight... |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by silibaba: 10:38pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
staying in the marriage is an herculean ask. the demands are great. if it were me, i will walk you of the marriage. The wound will heal with time. my thoughts are with you. |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Elsueno: 10:38pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
Starz825: Dude, I have this strong hunch that u might be d father of that baby, d way u keep defending d cheating woman & trying to convince d op to care for d child....Just man up & go collect ur pickin 8 Likes |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Helpout12345: 10:39pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
Slynation: Hahahaha. Side guys knacking married women are most times reckless at it though. They have nothing to lose. So they drill the well with reckless abandon. 1 Like |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Nonexisting1: 10:40pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
To me now, all simps to themselves. I'm done crying on top of my voice for simps to get healed. My lips are now zipped. 6 Likes
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Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by GerogeI(m): 10:40pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
Johnnyjohnnyman: Let me tell you this. In Igbo culture, paternity is not by blood. Any child born under your house while a woman is still married to you is yours. Children are viewed as wealth. You should have left the dna thing since you know she cheated. However, now you know, if you know you cannot treat the child as you would your own, then let them go. But know its a win for the man she cheated with. He gets a child, gets your wife. You loose your wife, your children loose a home with both parents. But frankly, if you can, keep your child. The real father will see the child in your house, know its his, and can do absolutely nothing about it. That is your power, and you gain a child. Your children gets both parents. He will forever be peeping at you. Hoping on hope that your family breaks apart. Never discuss or agree that the child is not yours. Your wife will forever live in fear of your finding out. That is your power over that marriage, to control her and your home. Never discuss it with her as people suggest, but a few times hint light heartedly that the child does not look like anyone in your family. The bible says children are like arrows, Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. Make sure the child carries your name everywhere and in everything. Be more passionate about being her father, and show your are ready to fight anyone who suggests otherwise. 5 Likes |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by KINGinVAHALA: 10:41pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
Johnnyjohnnyman:My brother, look for every means possible and do DNA for the other children. You might ends up been shocked than you are now 1 Like |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Nonexisting1: 10:41pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
fof1:Odi egwu. 1 Like
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Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Hed0nist: 10:42pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
Nwatachoba1: The only solution is to divorce her and co - parent. He should not have to bear the blame of breaking or keeping the family. She made that decision repeatedly. When she kicked him as he was down then verbally assaulted him to the point of tears, after which she cheated on him (He tried once, he forgave her). As if that was not enough she brought another man’s child for him to raise. Then finally, she keeps lying even in the face of a DNA test result. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Bribri: 10:42pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
Really sad. Just follow your mind. But what's the use of a marriage without love and trust. That woman clearly has no iota of respect or regards for you. Na God dey give good wife. God help us. 1 Like |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by meeketta: 10:44pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
Jashub:bad counsel! |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by KINGinVAHALA: 10:45pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
GerogeI:Does the court of law recognizes tradition? And with the Igbo law you just mentioned, if with DNA evidence the forth child father’s approach a law court, who do you think the court of law will recognize as the real father of the 4th child? And according to Nigeria laws, which supersedes each other between tradition and the constitution? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Slynation(m): 10:46pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
Helpout12345:Naso naw...There is a big difference in the way you smash your girl from the way you smash others... Your girl : Slow and steady wins the race Other girls : Fast and Furious with aggression... |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Slynation(m): 10:47pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
KINGinVAHALA:Yes please, there are customary laws and would be treated according to the laws and customs of that particular tribe... |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Hed0nist: 10:47pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
OP should leave that person. She is a bad person and has shown it repeatedly. Such people never change. They just use the next opportunity. Divorce and Co-parent cordially for the sake of your “own” children. You don’t have to be friends. People who are saying he should adopt the child have no empathy. Maybe you don’t give a damn how he feels. Till he dies of a heart attack at 40 because he chose to be reminded daily by the child of this dark period in his life. She was the one that broke the family. |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by grandstar(m): 10:48pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
Johnnyjohnnyman You're in a tough place. I remember when I was still studying with the Jehovah's Witnesses. A brotherr duped me. I reported it to my conductor. He asked me if I could let it go. I said I could and that's what I did. I eventually became a baptized Jehovah's Witness while that fraudulent brother left Jehovah's organization. I will ask you a similar question: can you let go? Can you raise that child? Can you love her? I do feel sorry for you but many a time, our heart inclination may lead to only disaster and regret. Our solutions are worse than the problem we were planning to resolve. (Read Proverbs 14:12). Your being separate for 7 months for instance led to this unfortunate incident The typical solutions would be to beat hell out of the woman and chase the woman out of the home with her love child. That may wreck the lives of the 3 kids you have together. The "absence" of my mum in my life from my mid teens held me and my younger brother back. We both paid a big price. It's best you call you wife and be open about the matter. Try and find a solution. It's best you incorporate her into your family as one of yours. Shaq O'neill,the basketballer, was raised by his stepfather. He only realized he wasn't his real father when he was 11years. It was later in life after his step dad died he was advised by his mum to get to know his biological father better. You must also have an arrangement about his real father. He might for now be disinterested. Pls, next time you have arguments, endeavor to resolve them as quickly as possible (Read Eph 4:26). Also, long distance relationships are a no-no. It usually leads to adultery, affect the child's relationship with the patent, or worse, harm your relationship with God (Read Prov 27:12). It's never encouraged in our congregation and any couple engaged in such may lose several privileges until they are together as one. 2 Likes |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Nobody: 10:50pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
Slynation:I told him to return the child. Read my posts, understand them before quoting me. |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by justuschi50: 10:50pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
GerogeI:u must be stupid, I am igbo from Enugu state and I won't tolerate that first statement so any child born under my house is my. That is how u pple we keep destroying African culture 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Advision: 10:51pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
GerogeI: So you thimk the man she cheated with will take her? He was in for the benefits not the responsibilities..and if the guy wants a wife, I am sure he would not settle for one with 4 children even if he is the father of the 44th 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by gr8t1: 10:51pm On Sep 29, 2022 |
bro i believe u already made up ur mind on wt to do...bt i advice u, nt to do mistake after all no one is a saint not even u urself.....y leave ur home at first? 1 Like |
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