judeolokor:


true bro but to advice the brother it is pure wickedness to carry anoda man's child and kept mute over more Dan 9 months and you expect him to be blindly I love with someone who have such mind bros it's very risky call it parents together tell them the situation of things probably if you have money investigate the other babies and bros don't trust her

let me share this with you I have seen this kind of case the woman begged cried I even advice my friend against divorcing the wife after he did DNA test for his two girls if you see the way I beg my friend that the result was faked we all begged he accepted her back only for this woman to start giving him otapiapia for him to die slowly so dat no wan will suspect before we knew na kwashiorkor my friend turn to any woman that can cheat is very wicked and to carry anoda man's child to pin on uu is wicked pls run for ur life oooo


if the other children are urs pls take them away from her and train if not she will turn them against you

Of course, this type of woman can kill the husband.

zigzagluv:
if you look at it , there was no free flow of money and the wife cheated

My dear weda u satisfied or gv her money woman will still cheat on u unless such had fear of God

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good day all. I have posted exactly 2 months ago concerning my fourth child I went ahead with the DNA test unfortunately I am not her father.

Right now a lot of things have been going through my head i am shattered and depressed.

I don't know yet what is going to happen in my marriage I just don't know if the marriage will work or not.

I just wanted to keep you updated about the DNA.

Previous thread:

Wow, sorry bro. Its well. Please where did you do the DNA and how much please?

I cant imagine that her colleague pounded her and c*m inside her,chai! Very painful

Johnnyjohnnyman:



She can't return her to her father because she is only 1 year 3 months and she is still nursing her.
I can't never separate the innocent child from her mother to save my marriage. I would prefer that she leaves with the child and continue to take care of her outside of my house.

This might not sound sweet but you are better off raising that child than tearing your family apart. If you don't thread with caution, you, your wife and the 4 kids will bear the brunt for life.
Tearing your family apart will not undo the damage but will wreck every other life connected to you. While holding your family together will only cause you heart aches for a while but time heals all wounds.

Hmmmm ! This is bad , I don't want to imagine things , people are really going through a lot , for the fact that you know your wife's side cork is something else , I do say it , this cheating of a thing ones it is in somebody's blood the person can't change except the power of God.

Sweetplum:

Bad decision. Who ll take care of your other kids?
Broken home is one of the major causes of BD kids behaviour out there.
Return the child. Ask if she ll still be with you. Count your loss and appreciate the remaining.

And how is it a bad decision... Do you think it's easy to be seeing a product of cheating playing around with your legitimate kids??

Anyways, Johnnyjohnnyman the most annoying part is that at one point the dick slipped off but your wife inserted it saying harder...

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good day all. I have posted exactly 2 months ago concerning my fourth child I went ahead with the DNA test unfortunately I am not her father.

Right now a lot of things have been going through my head i am shattered and depressed.

I don't know yet what is going to happen in my marriage I just don't know if the marriage will work or not.

I just wanted to keep you updated about the DNA.

Previous thread:

Breakfast served

Johnnyjohnnyman:


I have no doubts about my other 3 children because they are mine 2 are my carbon copy and the other one is his mother carbon copy

Please go and do DNA tests on those 3 also. Don't be too certain until the test results come back.

Johnnyjohnnyman:



She can't return her to her father because she is only 1 year 3 months and she is still nursing her.
I can't never separate the innocent child from her mother to save my marriage. I would prefer that she leaves with the child and continue to take care of her outside of my house.

then do that and stop disturbing us. No matter what people drop here, your mind is already made. Meanwhile, your love for the cheat still dey shack you shaa. Enjoy

MrBrownJay1:
how can such a deceitful/disrespectful/unfaithful/dishonest marriage ever work?! you can still be a great father to your kids without being married to this woman.

How ? Can you explain

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good day all. I have posted exactly 2 months ago concerning my fourth child I went ahead with the DNA test unfortunately I am not her father.

Right now a lot of things have been going through my head i am shattered and depressed.

I don't know yet what is going to happen in my marriage I just don't know if the marriage will work or not.

I just wanted to keep you updated about the DNA.

Previous thread:

Bro, sorry for what happened, please where did you run the DNA, I need to run one asap

May God help us

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good day all. I have posted exactly 2 months ago concerning my fourth child I went ahead with the DNA test unfortunately I am not her father.

Right now a lot of things have been going through my head i am shattered and depressed.

I don't know yet what is going to happen in my marriage I just don't know if the marriage will work or not.

I just wanted to keep you updated about the DNA.

Previous thread:

Pls Dont Divorce her and do not Shame her Either...She nay Die with the Guilt...in her Heart already. Talk it over with her Quietly and at Midnight without Fracas. Both of u should Live with the Reality of the Truth...or Decide to return the Child to its Father or Adopt her. But ur Wife will Live in Perpetual Fear and Giluilt and may lose Weight...

staying in the marriage is an herculean ask. the demands are great. if it were me, i will walk you of the marriage. The wound will heal with time.

my thoughts are with you.

Starz825:

Since he doesn't want divorce...he will have to treat the baby as his own..
He doesn't want to be a single father in the life of his children...so he needs their mother to be there for them....and there is no way you can seperate the mother of his children away from her own last born child..
It's complicated for him....

Everything no be vawulence

Dude, I have this strong hunch that u might be d father of that baby, d way u keep defending d cheating woman & trying to convince d op to care for d child....Just man up & go collect ur pickin

Slynation:
And how is it a bad decision... Do you think it's easy to be seeing a product of cheating playing around with your legitimate kids??

Anyways, Johnnyjohnnyman the most annoying part is that at one point the dick slipped off but your wife inserted it saying harder...

Hahahaha. Side guys knacking married women are most times reckless at it though.

They have nothing to lose. So they drill the well with reckless abandon.

To me now, all simps to themselves. I'm done crying on top of my voice for simps to get healed. My lips are now zipped.

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good day all. I have posted exactly 2 months ago concerning my fourth child I went ahead with the DNA test unfortunately I am not her father.

Right now a lot of things have been going through my head i am shattered and depressed.

I don't know yet what is going to happen in my marriage I just don't know if the marriage will work or not.

I just wanted to keep you updated about the DNA.

Previous thread:

Let me tell you this. In Igbo culture, paternity is not by blood. Any child born under your house while a woman is still married to you is yours. Children are viewed as wealth. You should have left the dna thing since you know she cheated.

However, now you know, if you know you cannot treat the child as you would your own, then let them go.

But know its a win for the man she cheated with. He gets a child, gets your wife. You loose your wife, your children loose a home with both parents.

But frankly, if you can, keep your child. The real father will see the child in your house, know its his, and can do absolutely nothing about it. That is your power, and you gain a child. Your children gets both parents. He will forever be peeping at you. Hoping on hope that your family breaks apart. Never discuss or agree that the child is not yours. Your wife will forever live in fear of your finding out. That is your power over that marriage, to control her and your home.

Never discuss it with her as people suggest, but a few times hint light heartedly that the child does not look like anyone in your family. The bible says children are like arrows, Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. Make sure the child carries your name everywhere and in everything. Be more passionate about being her father, and show your are ready to fight anyone who suggests otherwise.

Johnnyjohnnyman:



She can't return her to her father because she is only 1 year 3 months and she is still nursing her.
I can't never separate the innocent child from her mother to save my marriage. I would prefer that she leaves with the child and continue to take care of her outside of my house.

My brother, look for every means possible and do DNA for the other children. You might ends up been shocked than you are now

fof1:



Pls Dont Divorce her and do not Shame her Either...She nay Die with the Guilt...in her Heart already. Talk it over with her Quietly and at Midnight without Fracas. Both of u should Live with the Reality of the Truth...or Decide to return the Child to its Father or Adopt her. But ur Wife will Live in Perpetual Fear and Giluilt and may lose Weight...

Odi egwu.

Nwatachoba1:
Well

My own advice be say

1.. if you can truly live with the woman irrespective of what you know now,den put all behind you

2... call a meeting and tell them "this is what I found out,but I'm not going to divorce my wife,but let her inform the father of the child about it, if he wants his baby,fine and if he doesn't, you will take care of her yourself


That way, your wife won't feel she's wise and trust me, she will respect you all the days of her life knowing you won't throw her out cus of the predicament

Calling your families is because, in future there are witnesses when the need arise

Papa will definitely come for his child or child will dedication come for the father

The only solution is to divorce her and co - parent. He should not have to bear the blame of breaking or keeping the family. She made that decision repeatedly. When she kicked him as he was down then verbally assaulted him to the point of tears, after which she cheated on him (He tried once, he forgave her). As if that was not enough she brought another man’s child for him to raise. Then finally, she keeps lying even in the face of a DNA test result.

Really sad. Just follow your mind. But what's the use of a marriage without love and trust. That woman clearly has no iota of respect or regards for you. Na God dey give good wife. God help us.

Jashub:
My brother, the deed has been done and for the sake of your sanity and mental health, I suggest you start making plans to relocate and leave that harlot you call wife.

As for those bastards dwelling with you, kindly tell them to go and ask their mother to show them where their father is living . Once you can do this , you will know peace

bad counsel!

GerogeI:


Let me tell you this. In Igbo culture, patrrnity is not by birth. Any child born under your house while a woman is still married to you is yours. Children are viewed as wealth. You should have left the dna thing since you know she cheated.

However, now you know, if you know you cannot treat the child as you would your own, then let them go.

But know its a win for the man she cheated with. He gets a child, gets your wife. You loose your wife, your children loose a home with both parents.

But ftankly, if you can, keep your child. The real father will see the child in your house, know its his, and can do absolutely nothing about it. That is your power, and you gain a child. Your children get both parents. He will forever be peeping at you. Hoping on hope that your family breaks apart.

Does the court of law recognizes tradition?
And with the Igbo law you just mentioned, if with DNA evidence the forth child father’s approach a law court, who do you think the court of law will recognize as the real father of the 4th child?

And according to Nigeria laws, which supersedes each other between tradition and the constitution?

Helpout12345:


Hahahaha. Side guys knacking married women are most times reckless at it though.

They have nothing to lose. So they drill the well with reckless abandon.

Naso naw...There is a big difference in the way you smash your girl from the way you smash others...

Your girl : Slow and steady wins the race
Other girls : Fast and Furious with aggression...

KINGinVAHALA:

Does the court of law recognizes tradition?
And with the Igbo law you just mentioned, if with DNA evidence the forth child father’s approach a law court, who do you think the court of law will recognize as the real father of the 4th child?

And according to Nigeria laws, which supersedes each other between tradition and the constitution?

Yes please, there are customary laws and would be treated according to the laws and customs of that particular tribe...

OP should leave that person. She is a bad person and has shown it repeatedly. Such people never change. They just use the next opportunity.

Divorce and Co-parent cordially for the sake of your “own” children. You don’t have to be friends.

People who are saying he should adopt the child have no empathy. Maybe you don’t give a damn how he feels. Till he dies of a heart attack at 40 because he chose to be reminded daily by the child of this dark period in his life. She was the one that broke the family.

Johnnyjohnnyman

You're in a tough place.

I remember when I was still studying with the Jehovah's Witnesses. A brotherr duped me. I reported it to my conductor. He asked me if I could let it go. I said I could and that's what I did. I eventually became a baptized Jehovah's Witness while that fraudulent brother left Jehovah's organization.

I will ask you a similar question: can you let go? Can you raise that child? Can you love her?

I do feel sorry for you but many a time, our heart inclination may lead to only disaster and regret. Our solutions are worse than the problem we were planning to resolve. (Read Proverbs 14:12). Your being separate for 7 months for instance led to this unfortunate incident

The typical solutions would be to beat hell out of the woman and chase the woman out of the home with her love child. That may wreck the lives of the 3 kids you have together. The "absence" of my mum in my life from my mid teens held me and my younger brother back. We both paid a big price.

It's best you call you wife and be open about the matter. Try and find a solution. It's best you incorporate her into your family as one of yours. Shaq O'neill,the basketballer, was raised by his stepfather. He only realized he wasn't his real father when he was 11years. It was later in life after his step dad died he was advised by his mum to get to know his biological father better.

You must also have an arrangement about his real father. He might for now be disinterested.

Pls, next time you have arguments, endeavor to resolve them as quickly as possible (Read Eph 4:26). Also, long distance relationships are a no-no. It usually leads to adultery, affect the child's relationship with the patent, or worse, harm your relationship with God (Read Prov 27:12). It's never encouraged in our congregation and any couple engaged in such may lose several privileges until they are together as one.

Slynation:
And how is it a bad decision... Do you think it's easy to be seeing a product of cheating playing around with your legitimate kids??

Anyways, Johnnyjohnnyman the most annoying part is that at one point the dick slipped off but your wife inserted it saying harder...

I told him to return the child. Read my posts, understand them before quoting me.

GerogeI:


Let me tell you this. In Igbo culture, patrrnity is not by birth. Any child born under your house while a woman is still married to you is yours. Children are viewed as wealth. You should have left the dna thing since you know she cheated.

However, now you know, if you know you cannot treat the child as you would your own, then let them go.

But know its a win for the man she cheated with. He gets a child, gets your wife. You loose your wife, your children loose a home with both parents.

But frankly, if you can, keep your child. The real father will see the child in your house, know its his, and can do absolutely nothing about it. That is your power, and you gain a child. Your children gets both parents. He will forever be peeping at you. Hoping on hope that your family breaks apart. Never discuss or agree that the child is not yours. Your wife will forever live in fear of your finding out. That is your power over that marriage, to control her and your home.

Never discuss it with her as people suggest, but a few times hint light heartedly that the child does not look like anyone in your family. The bible says children are live arrows, Blessed is the msn whose quiver is full of them. Make sure the child carries your name everywhere and in everything.

u must be stupid, I am igbo from Enugu state and I won't tolerate that first statement so any child born under my house is my. That is how u pple we keep destroying African culture

GerogeI:


Let me tell you this. In Igbo culture, patrrnity is not by birth. Any child born under your house while a woman is still married to you is yours. Children are viewed as wealth. You should have left the dna thing since you know she cheated.

However, now you know, if you know you cannot treat the child as you would your own, then let them go.

But know its a win for the man she cheated with. He gets a child, gets your wife. You loose your wife, your children loose a home with both parents.

But frankly, if you can, keep your child. The real father will see the child in your house, know its his, and can do absolutely nothing about it. That is your power, and you gain a child. Your children gets both parents. He will forever be peeping at you. Hoping on hope that your family breaks apart. Never discuss or agree that the child is not yours. Your wife will forever live in fear of your finding out. That is your power over that marriage, to control her and your home.

Never discuss it with her as people suggest, but a few times hint light heartedly that the child does not look like anyone in your family. The bible says children are live arrows, Blessed is the msn whose quiver is full of them. Make sure the child carries your name everywhere and in everything.

So you thimk the man she cheated with will take her? He was in for the benefits not the responsibilities..and if the guy wants a wife, I am sure he would not settle for one with 4 children even if he is the father of the 44th

bro i believe u already made up ur mind on wt to do...bt i advice u, nt to do mistake after all no one is a saint not even u urself.....y leave ur home at first?