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Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by delpee(f): 4:29pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
Well, I have a friend who adopted a girl. No regrets. Joke Sylva is also an adopted child. 3 Likes |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by ObalendeCMS: 4:45pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
maasoap: Fnck off!!! Are you in my family or do see what I see. Drop your fncking opinion & move on. |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by fxx2: 5:02pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
STEVE JOBS WAS AN ADOPTED SON and THE PARENTS NEVER REGRETTED HAVING HIM. We have IPHONE~62 TODAY, Courtesy of STEVE. The problems regarding adoption in Nigeria is based on bad system. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by Truthshotcrazy: 5:04pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
PoliteActivist: Unlike Blood genotype And straight genetical inheritable Genes like Dwarfism , Eye color, Sickle cell that you can easily draw dominant and recessive crossbreeds charts for,, There is no single gene that causes madness ! Madness is not a genetic disorder like blood group that one can pass from mother to Child. That is why Madness is a “genetical predisposition/ genetical Susceptability” Madness is never a genetic disorder but a genetic predisposition or genetic susceptibility!!! Scientifically, this genetic predisposition is pegged at about 6.5% for humans who have a first degree mad relative, and pegged at 13% for humans who have one mad parent. It is even greater for an identical twin of a mad identical sibling twin!!! That a person has a genetic predisposition to a trait doesn't mean that, that trait will ALWAYS find expression undecided... For example... diabetics can also be caused by genetics? That is to say, there is a genetic predisposition to diabetes.... However, not everyone who has this genetic predisposition to diabetes end up having diabetes, you know why? That's because once they discover that they have a genetic predisposition to diabetes (usually from family history), they take measures to put it at Bay, avoid negative stressors that trigger diabetes and as such, they can live their lives without ever having diabetes although they have a genetic predisposition/vulnerability to it. People with no family history of diabetes can develop diabetes if no measures are taken to avoid or Limit effects of negative stressors/curtail the negative stressors known to trigger diabetes. Such as any overweight obesed person not exercising, simultaneously not cutting down on junk, etc There is no single gene that causes madness/psychosis. A combination of genetic and Environmental factors causes madness. A combination of Negative Environmental factors are needed to trigger genetic predisposition. Negative Stressors include Hard drugs, Somatic diseases, Brain injuries (craniocerebral trauma), Undue stress during pregnancy, Malignant neoplasms (tumors both primarily in the brain and as metastases) Infections (meningitis), etc. [color=#006600] l know a neighbor who ran mad immediately after taking exactly same quantity of “hard drugs” that others were taking. His tolerance level for the hard drug was lower as a result of genetic predispositions. Someone else with a higher tolerance might need to take 4times or 10 times the quantity he took to be overdrugged intoxicated /even completely run mad!. Another person with a greater risk /genetic predisposition to something else could take exactly same quantity he took and suffer liver or kidney or organ damage!!! Women generally are at a higher risk of the condition after giving birth. Doctors call such pregnancy/child birth stress triggered madness, “ postpartum psychosis”, characterized by a severe postnatal mood disorder. A 2021 study revealed that 1 – 2 out of 1000 births result in this type of mental disorder. The condition usually develops during adolescence or early adulthood, with the average age of onset being 24 years. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schizophrenia
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Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by omoharry(f): 5:09pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
I wish to adopt a baby girl .. How long does it take to process adoption and is it very expensive? 3 Likes |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by omonnakoda: 5:18pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
Yes Joseph in the Bible made a mistake to adopt Jesus of unknown father. When he grew up he started doing magic upandan and eventually he was convicted and exectuted for his crimes Children who are raised by their biological parents never steal or do anything bad 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by wirinet(m): 5:21pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
PoliteActivist: Poor examples. In all these examples, the family lineage was known. You could trace grand parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. Adopting from an orphanage with no family history whatsoever. If you understand how energies interact, you will know that behaviours, allergies, addictions and other subtle features can be inherited. |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by PoliteActivist: 5:33pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
Truthshotcrazy: See why it is good to also rely on centuries of human observation instead of just science. It is not everything that science has discovered. Even our ignorant forefathers KNEW from centuries of OBSERVATION that madness runs in families |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by bukatyne(f): 5:33pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
AfroKnight: True. |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by nedekid: 5:37pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
JackDaAlienz:You hit the nail on the head. Herein is the dilemma, a cousin of mine supposedly had drug issues, went kolo, was on the streets till news came that she got pregnant and gave birth. My folks took this baby from birth till date 15 years ago. At birth 2 nannies were employed to tend this boy. He started showing signs when he will pop and call them to wipe his arse. He will flush food or newspaper in the loo, then shit on it, mess up the whole place and then instruct the helps to clean it up, calling then mere house helps. Nothing that has not been done for him. He has followed the family in trips to Dubai etc, infact because of him a nanny was flown along just to tend to this boys needs. In the plane he kept on shouting just to cause embarrassment. This boy at 12, stole his aunties hubby's Rolex wristwatch the man had for over 30years just to flex in school, ofcouse it got missing. He broke into the man's office through the roof last year and stole $500. Me nko, he stole me card holder with my debit cards, drivers license and $200. Infact he had to be sent to boarding school, after attending over 8 schools at this young age of 15. Once this boy is back eg on break, everyone locks up their doors. See the latest oh, he says he is not going back to boarding school. They took him to the drop off zone, nigger escaped and found his way back home. He says he wants to do "online business". ₦500k that has been paid as school fees is wasting as schools have resumed for over 2 weeks. We warned our aged parents then not to take this boy, now they are regretting. Few nights ago, someone heard him around 3 am midnight saying "I have told you to leave me alone, pls leave me alone" (meanwhile only him de room ohh in darkness.) The boy is growing into a monster. |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by PoliteActivist: 5:40pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
wirinet: True adoption is when a child is totally raised by a non-biological parent. Even so, the following highly successful people never knew their parents
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Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by TheRealOwner(m): 5:41pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
I can't believe this is the quality of things making Front page on Nairaland these days. Hasty and fallacious conclusions from a myopic fellow using 1 family as the source of his findings I am truly disappointed 2 Likes |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by Obi1kenobi(m): 5:43pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
This entire thread, especially the buffoon that created it, is yet another reason why black people have the lowest IQs in the world and why black people will continue to occupy the bottom of every single society they inhabit. We just can't help it. It's in our nature as products of low IQs. Best thing the black race can do for the advancement of humanity is just to stop breeding, but being the low IQ people we are, we'll continue to breed like rats. It's wrong to adopt kids because "I know one family that adopted kids and the kids are bad". Someone actually made this imbecilic argument and really thinks he made an intelligent argument. Odikwa egwu... 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by Truthshotcrazy: 5:43pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
PoliteActivist:That is why your ignorant forefathers will remain forever ignorance. Not like your ignorant forefathers have established any mental health psychiatric facility to heal mad patients with psychotic disorders. Science has trained certified mad psychiatric specialized medical doctors and has helped several Mad patients with scientific psychotic drugs, to adjust to normal life in society unlike your ignorant forefathers peddling ignorance. Madness is only a genetic predisposition pegged at 6.5% for humans with first degree mad relative and pegged at 13% for humans with one mad parent. https://www.rethink.org/advice-and-information/carers-hub/does-mental-illness-run-in-families/ 1 Like
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Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by PoliteActivist: 5:44pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
omonnakoda: Propht Muhammad too - BIG mistake! |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by wirinet(m): 5:47pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
PoliteActivist: We are not talking about the adopted persons knowing their parents. We are talking about various diseases and dispositions inherited by the adopted child. I have a late cousin in which schizophrenia runs in her lineage. She ran mad, most of her children has one form of mental issue or the other. |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by kazyhm(m): 5:53pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
PoliteActivist: You don't need Google on this topic.....if you know why incest is bad in the first place.... Humanity advocate taking motherless children off the street..... adoption solves a bit of that but nature can't be cheated. Siblings exhibits different kind of attitude yet there will still be some similarities.......looks, structures, containance, skin color and type, complexion etc If you adopt an indian, Lebanese, Fulani, Japanese, Chinese child......she/he will definitely portray some traits similar to his/her original race.........in other words, aggression, oppression, anger, mischievousness, calmness can be in a blood lines... Those opinions that the man failed as a father are not sensible, they invariably concluded that the man taught these adopted kid how to beat him ? |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by wirinet(m): 5:54pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
Truthshotcrazy: Sorry to say, but speaking from personal experience, my great aunt was schizophrenic. Her first daughter died of madness and her first son died of madness. I was very close to both of them. I know 2 more of her children that suffer various degrees of mental illness. All of them were never able to keep a family. Only a daughter that I know that is stable and doing very well. |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by PoliteActivist: 5:59pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
wirinet: Your great aunt? Sooo, why are you not mad?? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by BIDOO(m): 6:02pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
JackDaAlienz:Well you've a great assertion here but the fact remains that environment play a major roles in human behavior! Do some findings on Nature and nurture, if you still find it difficult to swallow, let me paint a perfect picture for you as regards your assertion! Even though they have the gene of hardened criminal, human being are mostly move by what they see! At that tender age, you've what it takes to rewire their brain processors into whatever new behavior you want them to exhibit! I hate anything alcoholic yet my dad was a chronic drunkard but he never exhibited that behavior around me until my mid-twenty! Thank God he's now a teetotaler like me, don't tell me I don't have that gene in me, what actually killed it was the fact that he raised me in an environment that's devoid of alcoholic style of living. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by VenumX: 6:04pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
JackDaAlienz: What is this one saying? You are using Jesus Christ and Moses as an example. Was Jesus Christ not fathered by his adopted earthly father Joseph? Even people knew him as the 'carpenter's son'. Are you saying it would have been better for Moses adopted mother to abandon him in the river when Egyptians were busy murdering sons of the Israelites? Yes, most adopted kids turn out to be ingrates but it's not enough to promote wickedness. |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by wirinet(m): 6:08pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
PoliteActivist:Because the relationship is quite far. She was actually my dad's first cousin. |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by Mohammed5525: 6:13pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
Just becos it did'nt work for uncle does'nt mean it is not worth it, maybe he is at fault in giving them proper home training |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by wirinet(m): 6:13pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
VenumX: Moses is a poor example. Didn't Moses betray his adopted mother and her family who laboured to nurture and raise him, only to go back to his original family. The adopted family later became his arch enemy. |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by VenumX: 6:19pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
wirinet: False. He fled when an Israelite with a loose mouth threatened him over killing an Egyptian whom he wasn't even related to. To the second statement, read where God sent him back to egypt. When Moses expressed fear over them identifying him and killing him, God told him not to worry because all the people who knew him were dead. |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by PoliteActivist: 6:20pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
wirinet: Not true. You said that in all examples I gave, that the family lineages were known, which I've shown not to be true. First aknowledge you were wrong. Yahoo, cultism, etc are social vices and aren't genetic but environmental (how they were raised and their interactions growing up) Even clearly genetic traits are not guaranteed to manifest - they are only dispositions that the right conditions will cause NOT to manifest. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by zumbigbo(m): 6:23pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
[quote author=JackDaAlienz post=117154598]I remember early 2000, my dad was planning to adopt a kid Into our family. Later I found out that my father's friend adopted 2 boys. My uncle warned my dad not yo try it. I even remember going to orphanage with him to see how it goes. For some reason he didn't adopt again. Bros, you spoke your truth. Don't let anyone dissuade you. |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by wirinet(m): 6:34pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
PoliteActivist: Not exactly accurate. Yes traditional medicine has not been able to link our lifestyles, behaviours and habits to genetics, Spiritual science has. Please read "The Dancing Wu Li Masters" by Gary Zukav. It explains that each of our actions is imprinted on our DNA on the quantum level, and so such behaviours and habits are inheritable. Ever wonder how birds are able to build nests without studying architecture. The behaviour is imprinted in its DNA. There have been instances of twins separated from birth having the same habits and behaviours. These things operate on the quantum level. 1 Like |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by DollarSigns(m): 6:39pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
JackDaAlienz: For listing yahoo as a vice; I think that you’re a very disrespectful fellow Why do you downgrade what you dunno Do you know the only thing that can give a young boy of a humble beginning, great hope & prospects that he can drive Range Rover and be the leader of tomorrow he sang as a nursery rhymes? 1 Like |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by Prettychild(f): 6:45pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
JackDaAlienz:Tony Elumelu adopted kids too and we have not heard any negative news. The bottom line is to pray before taking any decision so that God can direct your path 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by Shikena(m): 7:00pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
PoliteActivist:He is but his own madness level is very low. 1 Like |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by phyl123: 7:04pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
JackDaAlienz: Why are you concentrating on only the negatives. There are millions of adoption success stories. Your dad’s friend could have given birth to those kids and they still could have turned out that way. There’s nothing wrong with adoption. |
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